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Q: okay this girl is talking about me behind my back and steeling my friends and all of that crap.
i need some good ideas for revenge. like stuff thats not obviouse that i did it. im already going to get a bunch of my friends from another school to send some hatemail over myspace and im thinking about creamcheese deoderant stuff.
any more ideas?
kaythanks

First of all, you're the biggest HYPOCRITE EVER. You're getting all pissy because this girl is messing with you, yet you want to plot to do it yourself? How mature. If she is "steeling" [stealing, smartie] your friends, then they weren't really your friends after all, were they? This is so dumb. I can't believe I'm actually answering this.
You need to check yourself, hun. Is this girl worth your time? If she's spreading rumors, then NO. If you know they're not true, why do you care? Your friends weren't really your true friends if they run away scared because of some things a lying bitch said. Who the hell CARES what she says? Plotting revenge and doing something dumb is just going to make people think you're an asshole.

Q: Alright. So for whoever actually goes on advicenators, KEEP READING. Seriously, I REALLY need advice and I don't know who to talk to about it. I WILL RATE 5's for anybody who actually like tries to give a good- like really good answer. Okay this might be long but please. So, I need advice on a couple things, one of which is like at school, people call me a lezbo- WHICH I AM TOTALLY NOT. Like people (even popular) say it sometimes to my face, behind my back, or like say something kinda like "So make out with any hot girls lately" or something like "Yeah, you would look really good with all your hair chopped off- like a dyke", pretty much something like that in a really wise ass way. And I know from reading this you probably think I'm a total nerd, but I'm actually average. People are usually nice to my face but still, it really bugs me thats everyone once in a while people I don't even know, or do, talk about me and say stuff that they don't even know is true. I really would like for someone to help me GET OVER THIS and GET THIS TO STOP. It started last year so I really really want this to stop. I mean I would rather be known as a slut then a lezbo (no offense to anyone). I know I shouldn't care, but it's not something you can really not care about. I don't know maybe its because I never had a boyfriend (not like i don't want one, but that anyone who ever asks me out I don't want to go out with because either i don't know them, or they are one of my best friends) PLEASE! I really need advice, I get so upset about it. One more is, I really need help making new friends. Like I have about only three friends that I actually hang out with outside of school and act like myself around and then the other people are either from other towns or we only hang out once. I have like friends in school, but not the kind that you want to talk to on the computer or call or hang out with. I know its kind of pathetic, but I really do need to make new friends. I'm kid of shy at school and I know if I just acted like how I do around my normal friends (funny and like loud and around guys a total flirt) that I most likely could be in with the "popular kids". ha. yeah so all I want to do is have those rumors stop, and make a WHOLE new bunch of friends. One of my best friends,Casey, ALWAYS hangs out with me and kinda sorta follows me. Im pretty much her only friend because she NEVER talks in school. I really need to kinda of pull away from here because I'm spending all my time with her and not focusing on meeting new people&makin new friends.
Please help.!!!!

Hm. I read this question, and at first, I kind of felt bad for you, but now I totally don't after what you said about Casey.

First of all: The one major thing you need to change is YOUR SELF ESTEEM. If you honestly care if someone calls you a lesbian when you KNOW YOU'RE NOT, why does it matter? Seriously. You don't know them, you don't care about them, do their opinions truly matter? No. You need to look yourself straight in the mirror and REALIZE that PEOPLE ARE ASSHOLES. Straight up. You're never going to make everyone like you, and you're never going to just "make a bunch of friends."

2nd: Why are you so obsessed with being popular? Why can't you just be yourself? Why would you want friends who only like you because of how you want them to see you? If you're yourself, and people don't like you, then that's their problem. You shouldn't alter yourself to make people like you more. That's NOT cool.

Casey: What a shitty, shitty thing to do. If all these people are saying horrible things about you and she STILL talks to you, be fricken happy! You complain about not having many friends, but you have her! Maybe you should thank her for being such an awesome friend to you? "Pushing away from her" what does that mean? Ditch her when you suddenly become "instantly popular" like you think? What a crummy friend. If people realize that you ditch her to be popular, they're not going to want a friend like that. I know I wouldn't.

However; I have been in this situation before. People at my school think I'm a lesbian but I know I'm not so it doesn't bother me. Of course, it used to. I cried a lot. I didn't want people to be saying mean things about me. As soon as I hit senior year [this year] I ended caring about what people said about me. IT'S NOT WORTH getting mad and sad about when you're not going to make them change their minds. I've had a boyfriend for six months, and I'm still called a lesbian. If you think "fake, popular" friends are going to make you happy, then that's on you.

Personally, if you want to meet more people. BE FRIENDLY. Accept EVERYBODY no matter what "social class". People will respect you for that. If you're shy, try joining a sport or academic club. I'm in Forensics [competitve acting/speech] and I've met SO MANY people. Seriously. If you're serious about meeting new people, why not try for some after school activity. If you're a religious person, maybe you could go to a youth-group at your church, or if your church doesn't have one, start one. Try out for the talent show, do the morning announcments, do something to get noticed as long as it's the REAL you.

I know I may seem harsh, but it's truly only to help you. I know it's cliche, but all you need is to be yourself. If people can't accept that, then oh well. They DON'T DESERVE YOUR FRIENDSHIP.

Megii

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Hi! :)
My name is Megan, I'm seventeen and I just love helping people. I'm a senior in high school and I love it. I love acting and sing, too. At school, I've been the captain of the Forensics Team [Competitve Acting/Speech]for the past two years. It's tough work, but a blast! I can pretty much give you advice about anything. I'm very open minded, but blunt. I don't mind hurting your feelings if you NEED to know the truth. I've also been dating this guy Andrew for about... 6 months, and yes, that is him in the picture. I love him so, so much, and we've been SO many ups and downs, but we're so strong. :) So, I think I'm good with relationship questions! Feel free!