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ok lets see im 15 yrs old.my nationality is greek and i've been boxin for about 2 years now(temporarily stopped but im going back)... my two passions are giving people advice and writing poetry...i dont discriminate against anyone and i will always be open with a ear to listen and a hand to guide as much as i possibly can...if ever anyone needs to a ask a question no matter what it is you can always ask me...i hope my advice is helpful to everyone and i hope everybody feel free to keep it real and write what they wanna write(evrybody has they own opinions so if yall dont like my advice yall can be real about it cause i'll only better myself by takin others criticism)so get at your greek princess...
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I have a friend who's been trying different ways to kill herself and nothing has worked for her and now she's stopped eating but she's already really skinny and I've never once heard her say she was fat and she's never had any interest in becoming anorexic until her brother died and she tried to OD and it didn't work. Do people ever become anorexic as a form of suicide or is it always because they want to be skinny?
Becoming anorexic can be caused by many different things not just because one wants to be skinny or thinks they are fat but this disorder can come from being overly stressed or depressed...saying that becoming anorexic would not be a form of suicide but just a symptom that could alert someone that the individual is stressed and needs help... when one is overly stressed or sad about a situation they tend to let themselves go and stop caring about things and the affect of that for some is they get fat because they turn to food for comfort and for others they turn away from food because they feel as though its something or the only thing they may have control of in their life...in any case your friend probably has just turned away from food because she is going through ruff times and does not know how to handle the situatuion which means she needs help or she might end up truly hurting herself...all in all your friend is not, not eating to get skinny but only cause she doesnt know what to do and i hope she can get help before something happens to her...hope my advice helped
ok, i have a friend who has been getting beat by her parents since she could walk maybe even before that but because of it she's been doing drugs, cutting, she doesn't eat, she can't sleep, she drinks and smokes she just does anything to get away from it she's been in and out of hospitals her whole life because she's hurt herself or because her dad has hurt her I think he's even raped her. I call her all the time to make sure she's ok and i called her one time and she was either drunk or high i don't know which one but she was out of it and when she's like that it's the only time she's open about how she feels and she tells me everything that's going on i feel bad and i try to stop her from saying too much but i think it's better that she tells me rather than someone else but anyways i've convinced her to try and get helped and she went to the cops and DSS and the school and everyone but no one will help her because she's done some stupid things so they believe her father over her. She's given up completely she's stopped trying all together it's like she doesn't care anymore she always says she's fine and doesn't want help but she needs help i'm afraid she's really going to hurt herself or he's going to end up killing her but no one will help her. who could i talk to to get her help and how do i keep her from hurting herself until i can find her some real help?...i'm sorry it's so long but i'm really worried about her
I am so glad you care enough about your friend to try and help her and im even happier you came to me for advice...now this is a serious issue as you can see and its really complex to. this issue needs alot of attention and if its not taken care of your friend might seriously hurt herself or her parents might hurt her and that is an experience no one should have to indure...so my advice to you is incourage your friend to talk to you about this issue because she needs to know someone is their for her even if she denies that anything is wrong with her still let her know your there continiously because deep down inside for her thats exactly what she needs even if she does not show it...next i found a couple of hotlines you can call but since i was not sure where you lived i wasnt able to find numbers that might be in your area so what you can do is call each place and tell them what area you live in and most likley they can redirect you to a place nearest your area:
_ABUSE HOTLINES_
ABUSED WOMENS HOTLINE---215-885-5020
CHILD ABUSE PREVENTION---215-831-8877
DOMESTIC ABUSE PROJECT OF DELAWARE COUNTY--610-565-6272
YOUTH CRISIT--1-800-448-4663
also if your friend has a drinking or drug proble i though you might want to get her help for that to so i found you a number:
RELATIVES AND FRIENDS OF ADDICTED LOVED ONES--800-678-4989
your friend is not alone in what shes going through but i know she feels as though she is i can understand why she just gave up because the struggle she has gone through has been hard enough for her and people turning her away just made her loose all hope so she figures that she'll just go about her life living it how she's been living it and i know she denies it because for one she does not know how to express what shes going through and two she probably figures that if she doesnt talk about it her problem might eventually go away...now when you talk to your friend about this issue the worst thing you can do is tell her that the things shes doing is wrong, instead of telling her shes wrong in how she goes about handeling her situation explain to her other things she could do instead of what shes doing because telling someone that they are wrong for what they do only makes them feel as though you dont understand them, explain to your friend the consequenses or outcome of what will happen to her if she keeps doing what shes doing but dont make her feel as though she is wrong cause that will only make her feel worse,explain to her that she has alot to live for even if she doesnt realize it now.also what you wanna tell your friend is that you are there for her even if you told her before she needs to hear it more than once. another thing you should keep in mind is when shes expressing herself never cut her short or try to say anything wait till she is done talking to try and give her advice because sometimes all people want and need is someone to listen to them and if you cut her off before shes done that might make her shut done and thats not good.so all in all, all you can do for your friend is try and get her help from others and lend a ear to listen and a helping hand as much as you have the ability to, shes lucky she has a friend like you and believe me she needs you to stay strong and to keep her strong. theres only so much you can do but keep your head up and incourage your friend not to give up. it might be a long road but things will eventually get better even though they might not seem as though they are(you cant let one bad experience make you give up or quit cause if you do then you'll loose in this world...things are always gonna be hard but that doesnt mean you cant suceed)hope my advice helped!!!
I'm in a long distance relationship and am only 18. I believe deep in my heart that this person is my future husband, but how do I keep it strong with being so far apart? We really love eachother however, things are just getting difficult between work and school. Any suggestions?
long distance relationships are always hard but in a way they can be a really good thing...now a long distance relationship will allow you to see and find out things that you never might have knew before saying this what i mean is the distance between you and your boyfriend tests your love if your love for each other is strong enough then it will surpass any hardships that you and your boyfriend may go through...now even if your love for each other it true that still wont exclude your relationship from its problems because believe me there will still be times that you may get frusturated and feel as though you dont know how your relationship is gonna hold on but all that can really be said is that if it was meant to be it will last all you gotta do is hold strong and stay true and eventually fate will take its coarse weither it be for the best or worst there is no possible way you can know but live in the present and dont worry about the future cause if you do then you'll spend your days sad instead of truly being happy...you have the will power to make what you want happen if you truly want this relationship to work then strive for what you want and dont give up when you feel as though its hopeless keep going and in the end no matter what ends up happening you'll know that it was meant to be... so keep your head up i hope my advice helped
Hello im caroline! I'm 14 years of age and i have really bad acne! I keep picking it and it just wont go away its so ugly and annoying how do i get rid of it! All the boys say i have a fanny rash on my face :S or spot the dog how do i make it go away! please help!!
Caroline 14
girl believe me when i was like 13 i had bad acne to and it got on my nerves so much i was so embarrased of it and i would always pick at it which is like the worst thing to do cause it can leave scars if you pick at it..anyway i went to the doctors and the prescription they gave me was bullshit with a capital B all it did was make my face dry and it annoyed my skin so my mom got me this product called proactive and i though it was going to be bullshit to but after a while i realized its like the best product out there in a couple of months your acne will clear up totally now for the whole pack of proactive it does cost $40 but its worth it and you can buy it at QVC or you can go on the internet to look were else you can buy it...now if you cant afford proactive i suggest you use facial masks every night and wash your face continously...also so you know it is not good to touch your face because your finger tips have oil in them which will only make your acne worse...so dont sweat what people say and hang in there alot of people go through this..hope i helped
im 15/f. ok, please dont judge me but i seriously need help! my boyfriend went away for a week and i was at home bored. but then one of my mates was having a party so i went. but i had a lot of stuff going on in my life so i started drinking to forget them. i know i shouldnt have but i did and i got really drunk. i dont really remember much but i do remember sleeping with a lad at the party. i dont think he used a condom either because he was really drunk too. should i tell my boyfriend or not? do you think he will forgive me because i really do love him? it was just a mistake!
Help me please!
damn girl your in a really hard position now look heres what the deal is...everyone makes mistakes its human nature...some make small mistakes and some make big mistakes now the mistake you made is big but as they say two wrongs dont make a right so what you have to do is tell your boyfriend... now believe me i know its not gonna be easy to tell him this and you might not get the response that you were hoping for from him but honesty is the best policy even if sometimes it doesnt seem that way it is...just think what if you didnt tell him and somehow he found out on his own it would make the situation a million times worse then its already gonna be...also put yourself in his shoes if he did something like that to you wouldnt you wanna find out from him instead of having to hear it from someone else...being honest to someone shows them you care even when its not good news you have to say(not to say they wont be upset or mad with you)...now when you tell him this i suggest before telling him anything you explain to him exactly how you feel about him because if you dont do that first you might not get the chance to do it later...then if i were you i would tell hi exactly what happened leaving nothing out...now he might feel as though you betrayed him and trust me he will be really upset with you but if everything was ment to work out between you and him then fate will take its coarse and in the end everything will be fine...so hold your head up be a real women about your mistake and do what you gotta do...i hope my advice helped
Can u help me? i'm a writer but i cant seem to get a poem out (yeah aka writer block)...i was wondering if u could help me by writing a poem for me plz?
i wanna tell my friend, that he can sometimes be fun and crazy and how he isnt always on the sweet and caring side and sometimes can be a complete idiot at some points, without saying that..I also want to get to the point that i may like him as well. Can you help me whip up a poem plz?- THX
aight here is a quick one for you:
sitting here thinking what i should write i got words in my head but they dont sound right so i guess i should just right about you and all the crazy things you do you been my friend for a long enough time that sometimes you just be on my mind it could be for silly things like what you say or it could be cause your stuck up sometimes needless to say but all in all are friendship is priceless you see i wouldnt trade it for nothing cause its perfect to me so in conclusion i just wanna let you know i hold you close to my heart even if it dont show...
i hope my poem helped you out i tried to write something quick casue i know how frusturated i get when i get writers block...
aight im with this girl we've been together for 5 months. I really love her and care a lot about her.The last 5 months have been the best. she goes on spring break. She tells me on the phone one night while she was on spring break that she meet this girl and 2 guys. She told me that they hang out all week and they want out to eat one night and had some drinks. she told me she didn't cheat on me that these guys are just friends. She comes home and shows me pics and i see pics of her and just one guy. their were other pics of the other ppl but she was in pics huggin this guy. She told me again that they were just friends. But this guy calls her every night. Yea they live far apart but it bothers me really bad. I told her that it bothered me and she said she wouldn't talk to him anymore becasue i was more important but they next day she did. then she lied to me and tried to say it was sombody else. then i finally looked up the area code to show she was liein to me. I was hurt that she lied to me so i told her we need a break. we ended up gettin back togheter and she told me again she wouldn't answer his phone calls. but she did and she called me and told me she talked to him. But she says that im bein controling which im try not to be. I finally told her she can talk to him and do what she wants. But it bothers me and i don't know what to do.
man i understand that ,that must be hard but really theres only three things you can do one is leave her alone and dont talk to her no more which i dont think you would want to do..the other is just put up with it and keep your feelings in which isnt good either...and the third which i think is the best is to tell her straight up exactly how you feel about the situation and why you feel that way it might be hard but if she really feels as strongly as you feel about her she'll understand and stop what she's doing...if she doesnt stop what shes doing after you explain all that to her then to tell you the truth you can do better because if she really loved you the last thing she would want to do is hurt you..now you might not want to do these things but if you dont shes gonna keep playin you like a fool because she feels as though you'll keep taking her bullshit..i hope i helped
Ok this is a real question i really want to know why do most girls think all guys want is sex it drives me mental because i actually flipped out on someone who asked a question and said anyways dont all guys just want to get laid it drives me mental and i just want to know why they think this cause i know when i get a g/f i actually want a relationship.
alright let me break it down for you...just like in r kelly's song this has the same meaning...one man can make a woman hate all men(or not trust all men)...it really sucks but thats how shit goes...that doesnt mean that you cant change it though...if you really want a real relationship after you find mrs.right all you gotta do is prove to her that sex is not all you want...you might be wondering how to prove it to her but really all you gotta do is be yourself and eventually she'll trust you if your really commited to making it work...and since im a female if i were you i would take my advice cause believe me i know best...hope i helped
I went out with this guy on April 20th, 2003 and we went out for about 9 months. He stopped talking to me all of a sudden, had his friends lie to me and tell me he was in jail..and all this other crap. I soon figure out he had 3 other girlfriends ! Anyway, it look a long time but I got over him. It's been over a year and when I think about him, I dont cry or anything. But latley I've been kinda depressed because pretty soon its going to be April 20th and I think about the good times and just....how do I forget about this guy? I dont want to be 30 and still remembering April 20th as the day I met him! I want to forget him!
15/f/I rate
sweetie its gonna take you a while to forget him and there is nothing you can really do about it...i know that you probably wanna forget about him and never be reminded of him again but you just cant make things go away it takes time for you to mend and thats natural.. i wish i could tell you something to make you forget about him but it really just takes time and eventually even though it might not seem like it to you, you will forget about him i promise and when i say this i am speaking from experience...i hope my advice helped to ease your mind i wish i could give you more advice on what to do but what i told you is really all there is that you can do...
i know this is a stupid question, and i know most people will answer it smartly and rude, but i have never tounge kissed a guy before. I am sorta scared because i dont know how to do it. Do both of yall put your tounge in each others mouth or does only 1 person put their tounge in the other ones mouth? And .. how do you know whos tounge goes on the top and whos goes on the bottom? PLEASE ANSWER!!!
alright its alright dont be afraid to ask questions... if you are afraid to ask questions you'll never find the answer you want...really there is no right way to tounge kiss..honestly you just have to learn from your own experiences cause everyone kisses in different ways so if i told you a certain way it might not be the exact way somone else kisses...just go with the flow when you kissin someone and dont be nervous casue they'll be able to sense your nervousness and it will just make the kiss really bad...hope i helped if you have anymore questions you can always ask...
Theres a girl at my school (not my friend but i talk to her) and her boyfriend recently broke up with her. She's heart broken and feels that she isn't good enough. Now she wont eat..shes refusing to eat and its scaring everyone. She is dropping pounds by the second and is always depressed. I really want to help her, but I don't know her family personally enough to tell them. Should I let her suffer? i would feel wrong not telling anyone.
listen this is a serious problem that your friend is going through...i am so glad that you are trying to help her dont let her just suffer because no girl deserve to suffer like that over some stupid ass, selfish, uncaring, no good for nothing little ass boy..now sice you dont know her parents that we'll thats not a help but i dont think it would be a good idea to tell her parents anyway..you need to have a long talk with her matter of fact i care so much about this cause it hits close to home for me so email me at danumba1brat@msn.com and we can talk about it more cause it might not be enough for you to just tell her since she might think you dont understand cause trust me she might not listen to you... but all in all just talk to her about it and let her know that that your there for her..let her know she can do better...and let her know that even though shes hurting now and she might not think its gonna be ok tell her that it is..tell her that there is people that care about her and dont wanna see her going through this...i hope i helped
ok me and my ex just broke up a little while a go and im fine with it becuase i later found out that he was cheating on me but i still feel like i love him so what should i do.................
alright the best advice i can give you is to tell you that you need to get over him i know just saying you need to get over him is easy to say but hard to do cause trust me i been through it and it hurts more than people can imagine but you dont wanna be the fool in this game cause if he finds out you still have feelings for him he'll just use you and hurt you over and over again... he'll know hes got you right where he wants you...you gotta be strong and realize that you dont need him...hes obviously got over you so stop stressin over him...why are you gonna spend all your time showin love and affection to someone who's not gonna show it back...let him live his life with his new girl and just remember that he's obviously not on your level yet cause if he was he would be a man and admit his mistake that he had made when yall was together...remember only little boys have to cheat because their insecure about their own selves.. a man is what you need but dont think its easy to find cause its not...your gonna come across a lot of little boys in your life tryin to play big boy games so keep your guard up and even if things look bad right now cause trust me they will for a while hang in there and you'll eventually be cool...just let him do him and forget about him you can do beter sweetie i know you can...so go about your business and dont shed no tears...hope i helped
Hey.. i got this thing with my parents, my moms ok.. i guess were all not so close.. but we still talk you know. well see my parents useally just argue.. alot.. but its becoming more violent. my dad hit me once before.. then slammed me into the tv shelf thingy. and sometimes into the walls. everytime i tell them to stop up my dad would tell.. you keep your mouth shut or i`ll shut it for you.. i dunno whats gunna happen after like.. 1 day thats over.. then they argue over somehting else thats really stupid. my problem is.. i have a hard time telling my friends. I got this one friend.. cause she knows how it feels and all.. and im bi i have a girl friend.. (ima girl to) and i have a hard time talking to her bout it.. whats a good way to open up.. sorry this is long...
i`ll rate.. please help.
thanks everyone!
ok let me start off by saying i completley understand what your going through and it is really hard to open up to people when your going through a situation like that..you probably feel as though if you keep it in it will all be alright but thats not good you have to let how you feel out or else it will just bottle up inside you and get worse and worse...i've been through similar situations in where i didnt know how to express myself but the best policy is to just say it how ever it comes out and i know your probably thinking it might sound stupid if you just do what i said but trust me it wont if you need to express your feelings you shouldnt try to express them perfectly cause then it will never truly come out how the situation really is...so heres what you do if you really wanna express the way you feel just express it ,it doesnt matter how you say it just say it and completley explain yourself if the person you are telling truly loves you or cares for you they will understand where your coming from even if you dont say it perfectly...i hope you take my advice to the heart and it helps
ok my friend called me up and told me theres this party like right up the road from me!! it starts at like 8..but im not going to ask my mom if i can go..cuz how would i word it? if you have a good idea on how to word it ..thats an automatic 5 for you guys. I was thinkin..if not to just sneak out later on. (my dad works the night shift and my mom is usually asleep by 10:30)
What would you guys do? I've never really been to a wild party..usually i jus go to small parties or sweet 16's ..that stuff. My parents would want to know if someone is home..and who knows if they would actually want to talk to the parents being that the party is right up the road from me.
well the only thing i can tell you is their is going to be consequences to whatever decision you make and you need to be ready to accept any consequences that might come along for your actions but if you are really set on going to this party there is alot of ways you can go about it..first you can be totally honest with your parents but that probably wouldnt work...next you can sneak out but your taking big risk of getting caught that way...also you can lie to them and tell them your going to the movies but if you do that they might ask to see your movie stub so thats not good..what i would probably do is find one of my girlfriends that is going to the party and ask them if you can sleep over that night then after you ask ,ask your mom if you can sleep over your friends house and if your mom wants to talk to her mom or dad thats no problem cause its not like your not gonna sleep over her house(they can drop you off at her house and never have to know about the party)thats what i would do except if its on a school night then your screwed.....hope i helped
Ok, i used to talk to this guy david and we seemed to hit it off pretty well. but then he accused me of "having something" with his friend John. But it was total bull. So we stopped talking. then, a couple of weeks ago he called me after i texted his cell. we talked for about an hour and then he had to go. We have been talking since. He told me he still liked me because he knew/knows i still have feelings for him. we made plans to meet at a dance club and hang out. seems good right? wrong. his girlfriend showed up so i got ditched. he barely talked to me all night. i was devastated that he would do that to me. but we got over it. now we are talking again and he is calling me and continuing to make plans to hang out. But he still has a girlfriend. and i dont know what to do because i really do like this kid. please help. i rate high.
~Confused (15/f)
look sweetie you need to reealize that you can do better than some dude who's gonna play games...your probably gonna come across alot of boys that play games like that and you dont need them...even though you might have strong feelings for him you need to understand that he going to continue to play games with your head and obviously he doesnt care because if he did he would take your feelings into consideration i would tell you to tell him straight up how you feel and what you think but you probably wouldnt like the response you might get back from him so my advice to you is to just be cool with him and if you have to many feeling for him then just leave him alone all together it might be hard but im telling you unless you wanna keep being the fool in this game you need to get over him..he knows hes got you right where he wants you and you need to show him that hes not the one thats in control of your feeling you are..trust me everything will work out for the best if you listen to me even if you dont think it will...when i tell you this im speaking from experience...hope i was helpful to you be strong and do what you need to do
What should I do if I get bullied a lot by kids at school? I go to a catholic school, too and its still happening. Junior High can definitly be tough. I get picked on by 7th graders and kids my age. What should I do? My parents and I have tried and tried but nothing has worked! I've gotten nasty emails and instant messengers, and rude and harassing phone calls. can you help me?
Deceivingxheart
hey girl look i totally understand how you must be feeling and you know what the people who do that are just mean and cruel...somethin you might not know is people who bully others only do it because they are insucure about them selves so they pick on others because they feel like it gives them control or power over other people which they need...what you need to do is stop feeling bad about people bullying you and stand up for yourself seriously the only reason they bully you is because they feel as though your easy prey because you wont say nothing back well prove them wrong....and when people do say things about you remember that your stronger then them in all reality because you dont have to bully others to feel good about yourself so in all reality the people who bully you are weak and they only get their power from getting satisfaction out of bulling others...so hang in there girl you'll be alright trus me just dont take people bull no more...i hope i helped
My(used to be)best friend meghan who now I don't like anymore is flirting with my other friend Alex (who I used to go out with but now he's a really big crush)and she knows I like him alot and if I talked to her about it she would just take it he wrong way like she did last time I tried and I don't know how to get her to stop cuz it really upsets me and I think she knows why I'm mad at her but she just i/ms me asking why I'm mad and pretends like she doesn't know and I think her and my friend Julie were talking about it and meghan asked her to ask me what was wrong and that made me mad too! And I don't wanna be meghan's friend for so many reasons but I just can't deal with her flirting with Alex then denying she likes him and saying she likes this other kid. What should I do?
ok look if shes really your friend she wouldnt lie to you and also if she knew what she was doing was making you feel some type of way she would stop...so what you need to do is tell her straight up that even if she doesnt like him she always flirts with and that makes you feel some type of way and if shes your true friend she will take into consideration what you tell her and she'll stop it really doesnt matter what she says to you after you tell her it just matters that you tell her everything you have to say and then go from there...if shes your true friend everything will eventually work out just fine if she's not your true friend and doesnt take your feelings into consideration then forget her...hope i helped
i was lead on by a guy. i liked this guy he told me how he felt but in the end when i finally got the courage to ask him out he said no (i asked him out the nest day online) and he said because he still likes his ex what should i do? he told that he loved me and all this other stuff and in the end i get turned down. plz help me.
signed
disappointed.
sweetie that is a typical guy for you dont even sweat it... you need a man not a little boy cause all they do is play little kid games... you deserve a man that wants you and only you if a guy is pressed about another girl then let him be pressed about her and leave him alone because you dont want no dude that wants someone else other than you ,you want someone that is all about you...so as hard as it may be forget about him you dont need no guy to cap your head up and lie to you. you need honesty and obviously he was bullshittin with you from you start so walk away and know that your the better one and obviously hes not on your level yet hes still playing little kid games because its only the people who are not mature that feel they need to cap up peoples heads and lie to others..look at it this way why would you wanna waste all your time and love on someone who would not give you there time and love back... so remember that you stronger and smarter than you think..you have the strenght to overcome your feelings...i hope my advice helped!!
One of my teachers is always making fun of the students. I know it is just in good fun but 2 girls started crying over this. Should i tell someone or just let him go on making fun of everyone?
Please i need help!
what you should do is adress the teacher personally and let him know your feelings and also let him know that his comments are affectin people ..im sure that if he knew he was hurting people he would slow his roll and check himself.. most likley he's not doin it intentionally and his fault is that he is not taking other peoples feeling into consideration thats were you need to step in and let him know after letting him know if his behavior does not stop then you should inform someone else because what is fun and jokes to one person can scar another person for life...i hope you take my advice to the heart i am speaking from experience
I was having a semi-asthma attack on the phone with my boyfriend, and if you've ever had an asthma attack you aren't able to talk without hurting yourself. My boyfriend was asking over and over if I could breathe, well obviously not? I wouldn't answer because it hurt for me to talk and I finally answered with "No!" Then he takes it all defensivly and was like "Sorry! I was just trying to help, but you keep shutting me out." I wasn't shutting him out was I? I was just trying to be able to breathe... Any Advice?
if he really loves you he'll understand just explain to him what you just explained in your question and he'll understand...let him know that you appreciate his concern and you didnt mean to act ignorant or unappreciative but the circumstances you were under at that moment made you not be able to control your response..just explain to him and everything will be just fine...hope my comments are useful to you