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Hey.. i got this thing with my parents, my moms ok.. i guess were all not so close.. but we still talk you know. well see my parents useally just argue.. alot.. but its becoming more violent. my dad hit me once before.. then slammed me into the tv shelf thingy. and sometimes into the walls. everytime i tell them to stop up my dad would tell.. you keep your mouth shut or i`ll shut it for you.. i dunno whats gunna happen after like.. 1 day thats over.. then they argue over somehting else thats really stupid. my problem is.. i have a hard time telling my friends. I got this one friend.. cause she knows how it feels and all.. and im bi i have a girl friend.. (ima girl to) and i have a hard time talking to her bout it.. whats a good way to open up.. sorry this is long...
i`ll rate.. please help.
thanks everyone!
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I would tell the NSPCC about your dad hitting and threatening you, apart from that, you should open up to your girlfriend, because assuming that you love her, and she loves you, she should understand and try to help you.
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If i was in your position, i would start the converstaion of will, i trust you with everything and now i know i need your trust more than ever.... and then take it from there, maybe she can help you ferther.
Lovely.
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Okay, first off. You NEED to talk to an ADULT that you trust! Maybe your history teacher or civil rights leader. A guidance counselor or call up an aunt or older cousin. ANYONE! Don't worry about the threats that come from your dad. If you tell someone you trust what is going on and say that you don't want to be in your home for a while then I'm sure they will do something about it ASAP! jsut tell someone everything! don't worry about feeling ashamed or like it's your fault just get yourself out of the situation! you dont deserve to be treated like that! no one does!
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Dont open up to your friends. You need to get a gun and open up on your dad if hes hitting you. When he throws a punch at you block it and stare at him grab his arm twist over so his elbow is face up. After that land your arm forcfully down on his elbow inverting and breaking it. Kick him in the knees from the front 3 pounds of force will break them, this makes him useless in a fight allowing you to call 911 and have them take your idiot father away.
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ok let me start off by saying i completley understand what your going through and it is really hard to open up to people when your going through a situation like that..you probably feel as though if you keep it in it will all be alright but thats not good you have to let how you feel out or else it will just bottle up inside you and get worse and worse...i've been through similar situations in where i didnt know how to express myself but the best policy is to just say it how ever it comes out and i know your probably thinking it might sound stupid if you just do what i said but trust me it wont if you need to express your feelings you shouldnt try to express them perfectly cause then it will never truly come out how the situation really is...so heres what you do if you really wanna express the way you feel just express it ,it doesnt matter how you say it just say it and completley explain yourself if the person you are telling truly loves you or cares for you they will understand where your coming from even if you dont say it perfectly...i hope you take my advice to the heart and it helps
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opening up is hard to do..and when your ready it will be easy for you. Dont force yourself, because this is a tender situation. Im sure your gf will support you and comfort you when you tell her. Maybe set a serious mood. If you guys are watching tv on the couch..and your in private..bring up the serious issue about your family. Maybe ask about hers first..then when its your turn..tell her about it.
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I know it hurts. It should hurt, and your father is a creep. He is a miserable human being and he is taking it out on his family. I feel very bad for you. Your mom too. She is probably too weak to leave him. It is not ok, it is never ok for him to hit you or slam you against walls and stuff. Nor is it ok for him to his your mom. My family had a lot of secrets too when I was your age. And I also didn't think it was ok to talk about it. Because we were raised to believe that what goes on in the house stays in the house. Well that was a mistake. I felt different from everyone else in school. And I did not know how to talk about the abuse. But today it is much more acceptable. You won't be judged for it. you did not do anything. It will help to talk about it really. I did finally get some help but not until I was in my thirties. That;s when I found out that my parents were crazy not me. Don't wait that long to find out that it is not you. Nothing you could do would make someone that angry. He (your father) is angry at the world. It doesn't matter what you or your mother does. I wish she would find the strength to get out of that relationship. But now, you want to know how to open up to your friend. You could start by bringing up the subjectof parents, and then ask, Does your dad (or mom) ever get real mad at you? So mad it scares you? And then see what she says. No matter what her answer, she will certainly ask you the same question. Then start small and work your way up to the truth. She may have a way to help you. SHe may know someone who can help you. If nothing else it does help to have a friend that sympathises with you. So you'll grow up knowing that you are not crazy. One day you will be an adult and you can leave. And please do so as soon as you can. And I am not surprised that you like girls, since your first impression of men is from your father.
This much I know....girls are supposed to be treated like a princess by their father. But you did not get that, and I didn't either. It is not right, but it is reality. Don't let it affect your whole life. And don't become like him. You have to learn to handle dissapoint ment and not take it out on your family. He's a jerk. Unfortunately the are to many like him.
I hope this helps.
Michele
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I know how that is but it will be over and your parents will stop. My parents fought before and after a lil while they relized that they were wrong and they made up. It will go away. Talk to a friend you trust and they will understand. And also talk to your girlfriend she will be able to help you through this. x0
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