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Q: alrite..i`m gonna be gettin my braces off soon, and i really don't want yellowish teeth with white spots, so im gonna use whitening stuff. But i dont kno what works the best, does anybody use some that works really good?

Try the crest whitening strips....they work for sure

Q: how do u no if a guy really likes u?

If a guy likes you then he will talk to you or show he is interested by giving you compliments and stuff.

Q: Hey, I have this problem...see, I look kinda old for my age and a lot of guys think I'm older and cute and all. One of them, though, has caught my eye. He's really sweet and smart, and totally hot but there's one problem...he's 7 years older! Now, I'm in high school, so my parents would hear nothing of me going out with someone that old. I would really like to get to know him better, but how can I do it without my parents finding out? Do you think there's ever a chance for us??

Hi Beth, I say screw age, if he is hot then that is all that matters.

Q: Hey (f/15), i've dated the same boy for the past 2 years. It's been on and off though. He kept breaking up with me and i kept letting him back, thinking he'd change. our last break up was at the begining of summer and we havent talked since. He called me the other night and we talked for 3 hours. We've never talked like that before, we actually talked about things that matter, and now he is calling me every night. We talk about why our relationships never worked in the past, and how he was an awful boyfriend to me, but now he tells me that that he wants a girlfriend like me. My question is I might be feeling somthing for him again. Should i just keep it quite or should i tell him since we are friends now?
-Confused Friends

Dump Him!!!!! You are still young and there are so many better guys out there. Even if he did change (which im doubting b/c guys rarly ever change) he put you through so much. You deserve better, so dont ever think you should settle for less. Hope I helped....feel free to visit my column if you have any other ?'s.

Q: Okay I have a guy friend tyler who is really cool to hang out with but i would never date him. but my boyfriend andrew doesnt like him. so i like to hang out with tyler and my boyfriend kind of minds but he is my friend. i hang out with his friends and i am nice to his friends even though there are some that i don't like! well my friend chris knew that tyler was like obsessed with me and he told me but i didnt say anything to my boyfriend because i didnt want him to get mad and like tell me i cant hang out with him or something. so here i am at chris' house with andrew and chris blurts it out well andrew starts to yell at me and say no wounder you didnt tell me and crap and then he tried to come up to me and kiss me but i wouldnt so then then him and chris started saying dont talk to me then so i was liek whatever and cussed chris out. what the heck do i do?!?!?!?!?!

I recommend you stop seeing Tyler b/c that could mean losing your boyfriend. Not only that but you may be leading Tyler on some how. It seems he really likes you and he may eventually want more then a friendship....that could get messy. As for your boyfriend getting jealous - I can agree with him....how would you feel if he hung out with some girl. Just think about it. Hope I helped. Feel free to visit my column with any other ?'s.

Q: okay so i was goin steady with this boy lets call him tom well me and tom were perfect and i really liked him alot and he was crazy about me. well then at the end of the school year i dumped tom cuz i didn't want a bf over the summer and i was kinda getting sick of him. but now that we've been broken up for like 2 months now i really relized how much i miss him and need him. i really want to talk to him and tell him but i think he still has hard feelings about the break up. even tho i talked to him a few days after and he told me he was over it and he was cool about it now. well im gonna c him tomorow and i don't knoe how to act around him should i talk to him and tell him i still like him? i knoe thats wut you guys r all gonna say i should do but im really shy when it comes to that kinda stuff. shoud i have a friend tell him? or is that dumb? or should i just act cool and flirt with him? idk please help me
sorry this is long
please help asap

Dont let him go!!!! If you are shy maybe you should write him a note or email him. Just let him know how you really feel. He may say he is over you but I bet he isnt. Hope I helped. Feel free to visit my column if you have anyother ?'s.

Q: ok there is a guy i used to like a whole lot. and i dont realli like him much ne more. but i still feel like crap, he broke mi heart pretty much. and now i dont even talk to him. cuz like he alwayz blocks me. itz soo annoying and it hurts cuz he used 2 like me and now he iz such a jerk. but when we r like inperson with each other he is nice and stuff. and it almost looks like he still likes me. but like tha same day online, he blocks me. i hate this!! aargh plz help me!! how do i stop feeling thiz way?

Guys can be ridiculous sometimes (i know trust me). This kid seems to be a real jerk. If I were you I would just ignore him. I know it will be hard but it the best way....as for the emotional pain - well that doesnt go away as fast...only time can heal that. I say move on b/c there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Hope I helped. If you have any other ?'s feel free to visit my column.

Q: i saw the question on crabs....what is it exactly??

Crabs are formally known as Public Lice. Pubic Lice is a sexually transmitted disease. If you or someone you know has this S.T.D. go to the doctors immidiatly. It can be treated with antibiotics so there are no major health risks. Hope I helped....if you have any other ?'s feel free to visit my column.

Q: id like to be a writer when i grow ^ maybe for the miami herald. like i wunna be maybe even the advice columnist. anything in the miami herald would be awesome. i dk wut should i do to practice 4 the future? i really want to be a writer!! does it pay alot?!?! p.s. i kno writers spell everything right its just im 13!! lol. and i like spelling stuff wrong unless its for school like a project, homework, or an assignment!! lol!! im going to 8th grade.

I think it is wonderful that you are so passionate about writing. You are young and its great that you know what you want to do. If I were you I would maybe see if you could do somekind of volunteer work at your local newspaper or enter some sort of writing contest. And as a suggestion, I recommed that you do a lot of reading (novels and such)....this is a really good way to increase your vocabulary thus improving your writing skills. If you have any other ?'s just visit my column....hope I helped (let me know)

Q: Alright, I've been inlove once before. I try my hardest to move on. I know that I'm not still "inlove", but those feelings will always remain. Every time I like someone, when they offically ask me out, I start to run and stop liking them? When I actually have hard feelings for someone and I could see myself not wanting to break up with them, things always go wrong. Once I even told someone not to ask me out I didn't like him anymore and I LOVED EVERYTHING ABOUT HIM!!!! Now I watch one of my bestfriends have him, and him and I could have been dating for over a year by now. What do I do? Why do I run or things get destroyed?

I think you are just afaid of rejection. We all have that fear but you need to get over it. Take some risks, put yourself out there or you will never know. Dont be a what if kinda person. Do what you feel is right in your heart.

Q: my girlfriend cramps my personality. i want to be bad but because of her, i cant be one. what should i do?

Dump her....some girls are just uptight and if you cant be yourself of what you want to be around her than thats a problem. Dont let her bring you down.

Q: Hi my name my name is jessica im 11 yrs old and im going out wit this boy that i think likes me but i dont know if i like him its hard cause i dumped him before so its just i have a feeling im not ready for a b/f and i tried to call him but he never answers what should i do?

You are young and you should keep your options open. If you really wanted to be with him you wouldnt be questioning it.

Q: Okay I am really into rock/hard rock and some classic rock. I have a lot of CD's already but I am looking for all the suggestions I can get cuz I really need some more for this upcoming road trip I have. If you could please just leave a few bands names and their CD's names that fit into the rock/hard rock/classic rock column. Thanks a lot!

Metallica (Black Album)
Led Zeppelin
Queen (Greatest hits)
311 (Greatest Hits)
Ac/Dc (Back In Black)

Q: I RATE
hey, im gunna be startin high skool on august 9th

can sum ppl tell me sum do's and don'ts

i kno that ill have friends goin to my high skool,and im pretty outgoin, so i know that ill make new friends too, but i was woderin wut r sum good ways to make friends, and wut r Do's and Don'ts when it comes to high skool and peer pressure
I RATE!!!(i don't like to rate unless answers are terrible or great, but sumtimes thats the only way to get people to answer..see how deperate i am¿?!)

o by the was 14/f/nc

DONTS:
dont get involved with drugs...in high school drugs are everywhere. Be yourself and dont lose your values to please people who dont really care about you. Stay away from the bad crowds and you will be fine.

Q: im the jelous type and my bf and i got mad at this one girl for the same reasons and we both used to be best friends with her, but now hes not really mad at her. he says hes just happy to ignore her. but i have a feeling that they're going to be friends again because they go to the same school and i dont. i trust him...but also i think im going to lose him. he told me he checks out other girls and all and then he wonders why i think im going to lose him. i love him so much and i just cant help being jelous, but i dont know if i should talk to him about it or not.

Honey, you can never change the ways of men. They will always check out other girls. It sucks I know but its in their genes. But just because they do that, doesnt mean they are going to act on it. You need to learn to trust him and trust that he will do the right thing.

Q: I have been talkin to my best friends ex boyfriend a lot lately. and i think i like him. when we were talkin online he asked for my email address and eh emailed me a picture of himself. (hes cute too!) well when i was tlakin to my friend she was like "you don't liek him do you cuz that is a nono!" and i told ehr i didn't because i ddn twant her to get mead. but i really do like this kid any idea what i shoudl do??? I'll rate if your answer helps at all!!

I say dont do it. I can relate to your friend and its just kinda weird when there is a situation like that. Especially when you might want to talk to her about your relationship with him. If you really like this guy then talk to your friend and tell her the whole truth. If she understands and accepts it than good. If not than you may have to choose one or the other. And remember guys will always come and go but a true friend is hard to find. Good luck!

Q: me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while now almost 5 months but lately we've been fighting alot and i dont like it..like everyday something new to fight about comes up..we hang out like everyday so people say its because we need to hang out less..he brought up taking a "break" or time apart..im scared..=(..what should i do..and does it seem like its gonna work out in the end?
xO ManDiiE =)

Sometimes people just need their space. Fighting is never good in a relationship...especially when its only been 5 months. I recommend that you guys split for a while and if it is meant to be than you will find eachother again.

Q: Hey i have a few questions. ok 1st of all lately alot of people have been telling me it seems like i have a low self esteem and im just now seeing that i do when it comes down because i always care about what people are going to think or what there going to say about me.I dont know this just started and i wanted to know if you could help me stop being like this.and 2nd of all i had this one best friend i mean we were always together and did everything and everyone even thinks were sisters but i messed up her friendship by doing something with her boyfriend and now she hates me and calls me a hoe and all this other stuff and i dont know what i can do to make her forgive me cause were going into high skewl this year and i dont know what im going to do i know i should have thought about that before i did that with her boyfriend.but i just wanted to know what you would do if you were me.?.Ok and now my last one. i had sex when i was 13 with the guy i have been with for 15 months now and i really do love him. but ever since i had sex people call me a hoe and all that but i dont think i am and i know im not cause isnt a hoe someone that does it with everyone? cause hes the only person i have done it with so i dont see how im a hoe. i mean yeah i kissed other guys and get finger but i still dont see myself as a hoe.So i dont know what to do.Please help me!!! I also wanted to know how far other 14 year olds have gone.so please write me back.Thanks!

Since you are going to be starting high school I recommend that you use it to your advantage. Start all over. I do think you had sex way too early but whats done is done. People in school will always talk and there isnt much you can do about that. The only thing I suggest is to lie low and dont tell them anything about your sex life. And for the whole situation with your friend....we all make mistakes and by the looks of it she doesnt want to forgive you. You can only apoligize so much so I say move on. You will make plenty of new friends in high school.

Q: Im a 15 yr old girl and there was this guy that I dated for four months last year and I never totally got over him. I am currently dating his best friend and I really like him. Last night my ex told me that he wanted a second chance, and that he changed. I think I want to give him one, and I like both guys. Theyre best gfrirnds and I don't want them to stop being that just because of me. What should I do?

You need to decide who you want to be with more. Which one are you always thinking about more? Maybe you should make a pros and cons list for both guys.

Q: See me and this guy have been dating for some time. And we see eachother like everyday! But last week I had to go home to my fathers because I hadn't seen him in a while and since then I have only seen him once. But for some reason i think I am chasing him away by being with him all the time. and I don't like calling his house anymore because his mother thinks I call to much which I think i really don't but some days I might! But I really think I love him and I don't know how he feels about me it's just so confusing. Like when he is with certain people he wont want to bother with me or even talk to me on the phone. I don't think some of his family and friends really aprove of me so much either. I just don't know what to do. Beacuse He seems to hind things from me. And I don't know if he is using me or not, but some people seem to think he is. what should I do?

signed Confused Person!