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self esteem
Hey i have a few questions. ok 1st of all lately alot of people have been telling me it seems like i have a low self esteem and im just now seeing that i do when it comes down because i always care about what people are going to think or what there going to say about me.I dont know this just started and i wanted to know if you could help me stop being like this.and 2nd of all i had this one best friend i mean we were always together and did everything and everyone even thinks were sisters but i messed up her friendship by doing something with her boyfriend and now she hates me and calls me a hoe and all this other stuff and i dont know what i can do to make her forgive me cause were going into high skewl this year and i dont know what im going to do i know i should have thought about that before i did that with her boyfriend.but i just wanted to know what you would do if you were me.?.Ok and now my last one. i had sex when i was 13 with the guy i have been with for 15 months now and i really do love him. but ever since i had sex people call me a hoe and all that but i dont think i am and i know im not cause isnt a hoe someone that does it with everyone? cause hes the only person i have done it with so i dont see how im a hoe. i mean yeah i kissed other guys and get finger but i still dont see myself as a hoe.So i dont know what to do.Please help me!!! I also wanted to know how far other 14 year olds have gone.so please write me back.Thanks!
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My best guess is that your low self esteem is coming from people calling you a hoe... and just being totally rude to you! Just stay positive! Maybe find some new friends that'll keep you positive. When i was 14 I was only making out. I know some people at the age of 14 they've had sex... actually I know a lot of people! So believe me your not the only one! :) Hope things get better.
-holly-
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I know many girls who have had sex. Most of them didn't start until they were 15 or 16 but some of them made a lot stupider decisions that a boyfriend of over a year. When I was 14 I had only fingered a girl, but now im 15 and im not a virgin, I've only had sex once, and I regret it an incredible amount. I do know another girl who had sex at 13 though. Its such a young age to be doing that. Anyways. I personally don't think anybody is a ho just beacause they've had sex. A ho is someone who can have sex without even caring about their partner, before and after. As long as you care about the person your doing it from your heart and not just for the pleasure of doing it.
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ok wow thats a lot of questions!
self esteem- i rly dont know wat i would tell u except to believe in urself!
ok im going through the exact same thing with my best friend. i love this grl soo much(in a totally BEST FRIEND kinda way lol)but we kinda started going seperate ways. I now hang out with most grls that r older than me and idn if she got jealous or wat happened but she thinks ive totally changed and she doesnt like wat ive changed into. She wont talk to me and its so hard bcuz i relied on her for EVERYTHING! this grl knew me better than i knew myself! as for u... i think it would b good to try to talk to her urself and see wat she says! although if u rly cared about her y would u do something wit her boyfriend?? sry but she has a right to hate u! just try to talk to her
ok if ur only 13 and u had sex...idn thats rly young! the same thing happend to a grl at my school and she lost a lot of friends and her reputation even tho she only did it once. just let time heal it i guess.. just dont go and have sex with any1 anytime soon... u have ur whole life ahead of u!
idn i go to southlake carroll and we're rllly fast ppl! so like idn ppl do everything but sex but in my opinion i dont think thats wat should b going on i mean we;re soooo YOUNG! haha wow i sound like my mom! well idn do wat u feel comfortable with and dont let any1 pressure u!
anyways i hope that helped!
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Since you are going to be starting high school I recommend that you use it to your advantage. Start all over. I do think you had sex way too early but whats done is done. People in school will always talk and there isnt much you can do about that. The only thing I suggest is to lie low and dont tell them anything about your sex life. And for the whole situation with your friend....we all make mistakes and by the looks of it she doesnt want to forgive you. You can only apoligize so much so I say move on. You will make plenty of new friends in high school.
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when you start to feel worried about what people think about you just look in the mirror and tellyourself that you are who you are and you are who you want to be and not everybody is going to like you but there are lots of people who will look at you and love you for who you are and just think your a great person. wow thats not good to do stuff with your best friends boyfriend...most girls dont ever get over that. Tell her that you would never do anything to hurt her and that at the time you werent thinking. we are all human and we all make mistakes..ask her for a second chance and sware to her that you will never do that again!!! and honey peopel are just jealous of other people who have gone farther in their love life then they have so they use names and yellin and cussin as a way to express their jealousy..dont let it get to you...they wish they had the kind of relationship you two have!!!! just shake those hataz off!!! lol
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