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Q: 19/f
My bf says 'i love you' to me all the time which is so lovely.
The only thing is is he tells me he loves me while we are having sex. Do you think he tells me that to make sure I know he loves me no matter what we do or he just loves the sex?
He tells me all the time anyway and it makes me feel a bit odd when he tells me while we're having sex.
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Since he tells you all the time then I think he means it altogether. Whether you're having sex with him or not =]
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Q: Hey, today I just got a boyfriend! Im really hapy! But, also I didnt want this to happen... He's moving away on Thursday. People say that if your 13 you dont know what love is, or you cant be in love.. But I really think im in love. Ive liked alot of boys(never had a boyfriend though! Just had a crush!) and I liked them, But this guy... He just gets into my thoughts!! Im trying to be strong, Im trying not to show that im sad, so that it wont make it any harder on him... Its so hard. Im really trying.. I really am. Please help me! I need advice!
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I don't think its love. It could develop into love, but on the 1st day? If he's moving away, you can show him that your sad. Nothing wrong with emotions. Life goes on, and what has to happen will happen. Stay strong no matter what. Another boy will always come along and give you butterflies you've never felt before.
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Q:
My boyfriend got me a very special giftm so i promised him I would get one too. When i couldn't find something great enough, I lied and said "it's too awesome to not give it to you in person, it's a very personal gift" (because I was on vacation at the time) I don't know why I lied, and yes I regret it. I would tell him the truth, because I know it doesn't matter much to him, but it just seems so silly, I'd rather just find him a darn gift.. you know?
But I've really talked this gift up now, and I even made him promise me that he'd love it and hint at the fact that it's something that could affect our relationship (as in maybe make us closer, or more serious?)
What could I get him? If I was a guy Id get him a promise ring or something like that.. but it would be lame since I'm a girl (and I really wouldnt be brave enough to make a promise at this point) so HELP!!
Thank you so much! I hate that I always get myself into these situations!
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I think a promise ring would be the only option. Its not lame if you make it sweet. Like give him a card along with it stating the type of promise the ring makes. It could be anything from marriage to taking the relationship to another level. It could just show your promise to take him seriously and to always care for him. It could mean anything you know? It doesn't have to be something drastic. Just make sure the ring is his style and something he would ADORE. ;)
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Q: I'm a cheerleader so I'm always conscious of my body. My measurements are 33 inches-Breasts, 25 inches- waist, and 36 inches- hips/butt. Do guys find this attractive? I personally find myself too small chested and fat everywere else. Also I'm only 62 inches tall.
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Most definitely attractive =] Guys wouldn't know the inches you are anyway. I'm sure if I was to ask my boyfriend right now.. he'd be like "UGHHH?" Yeah, but those measurements are to die for! You're athletic so don't worry, you'll stay in shape since your always active. As you mature, your chest grows so that's not a problem. But you are NOT fat at all.
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Q: I need help. Homecoming is a month away for me and everyone is freaking out about dates. Well, only the freshman. But, there's this guy who I heard wants to ask me. And I'm so sure he's going to ask me but he hasn't yet. I mean, I like him and all but our plan was to go as a group with my best friend and his best friend. Should I accept or decline? Would it really make a difference if I declined since we are going as a group? How do I accept/decline when he asks?
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Ok, if he asks you. Accept! You can explain to him that you guys are gonna go as a group but your all his when your at homecoming... with the dancing and things like that. You know? Another way to handle the situation is to ask your best friend if she wants to go with his best friend or go as a group.. so you could kinda get her input on it as well. But it does matter even though you are altogether because he probably wants YOU as his date, so just let him know that you guys are going together.. but in a group form. Like I explained above. =]
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Q: i was at a party and got slightly tipsy. there was this guy, whom i met for the 1st time at the party, who clung on to me during the whole time i was at the party, practically looking after me *like not allowing me to drink anymore, and kept talking to me the whole night*. then after that he hung out at my living room the whole night til morning while my roommates were around. the whole night he kept teasing me, and frequently forwarding his head towards me when i got bemused, and hugging me softly. he even put me to sit on his lap while we were watching movie. *i know, it is weird because we've really just met* well, i've never even been kissed so i ddnt know if he was trying to kiss me. he never made a move on me or something. and when morning came, he silently went bk home so my roommates wont think it weird of us spending all night on the couch.
question 1) does he sound like he's interested in me? because it has been 2 days since that night and he never called. *i ddnt call him too*
question 2) well, we're in the same university. so if i happen to stumble into him, how am i supposed to react?
i kinda like him and would like to spend time with him again.
im an 18-yr old asian studying in the states. and the guy's american.
-sorry for such a long question-
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If this happened to me, I'd totally think the guy was interested in me. But as I tell myself very often- "you should never jump to conclusions". Being realistic, its only been two days... when females get a guy's number they usually have this "day countdown" before they call them. Maybe he doesn't wanna seem too desperate? If you happen to stumble over him.. act normal! There's nothing weirder than a girl acting all jittery around a guy. However you were before with him, act the same way. To be honest, if you were one of my girlfriends I'd practically push the phone towards your ear and tell you to call him =] It doesn't have to be an "I like you" typa call. You should definitely call him and say something to lighten up the mood between you two.. Something funny like "Ummm, thanks for taking care of me when I was wasted". Just to get a laugh out of the whole situation and see where it goes from there.
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Q: Anybody know of some good books? I'm seventeen and a girl and I like romance books and stuff like that but I hate books about popularity and stuff like that.
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The whole Twilight saga =] Definitely not a popularity book. So its Twilight.. New Moon.. Eclipse .. and Breaking Dawn by Stephenie Meyer. In my opinion, the movie sucked but the books are fantastic. White Oleander by Janet Fitch, it starts out a little slow but its a great book. The Hollow by Jessica Verday. Nailed by Jennifer Laurens. You've Got Blackmail by Rachel Wright. Another suggestion is to go on amazon.com and type in "romance for teens" and a bunch of selections will come up for you.
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Q: I've been dating this guy for a while and i really like him, but there is a downfall, he makes a lot of really perverted jokes, like my best friend will yell at him for it he'll quit for a few days and start again.... What do i do?
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Tell him that its bothering you. If he doesn't like you enough to quit or try to quit.. dump that jerk! Maybe he hasn't stopped because your best friend isn't YOU. He's probably thinking if her best friend has a problem with it who cares? I'm not dating her best friend.. I'm dating her. So maybe if it comes from your mouth he'd just stop altogether.
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Q: For my sport, we have this thing called "secret sisters" where you give someone on your team a little goody-bag before a game. under 5 dollars a bag. Anyway the person Im giving to is allegic to celery, carrots, peaches, plums, cherries, and soy. Its easy to avoid the veggies and fruits but what are some snack foods that have no soy in them? We can give candy too, but we also have to be nutritional. She wrote down cheese-its are her favorite snack...but dont gold fish have soy in them? Im confused. Thanks!
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I'm allergic to soy as well. And yes, goldfish does have soy in it. Cheez-its also have soy in them as well. Do you know UTZ all natural potato chips in the red and white bag? She can eat that.. there is nothing she's allergic too in that snack. There are the dollar bags and the quarter bags. You can also buy her cotton candy. No soy in there whatsoever. Soda?.. orange juice in those small boxes? Oh yeah and Humpty Dumpty chips are soy free as well. Gummy bears and gummy worms are soy free too. That's pretty much all I can think of right now...
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Q: Hi,my name is jennifer and I am 23 years old. My husband n I just got temp custody of his neice which is a month old we have had her now for one week. His sister had dhs called on her so we took the baby. They have only been here one time to see her for like 20 or 30 min brought her some things. They are not showin any effort to get there child back. I dont want to take the baby from them for good but they are not compilyin with what the judge said to do. They are just takin there time. We have a three year old and a one year old of our own. We love the baby so much. they had her just so mest up like tryin to feed her chettos. They feed her so much rice that now she has a hernia in her belly button from tryin to go to the bath room and not being able to. What should I do try to contiue to help them or just stop tryin???? Any adive will be apperciated
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I think you should continue taking care of her. Is it possible that you and your husband could have full custody of your niece? If they won't listen to the judge's orders.. I'd suggest that you confront them about it and see what they have to say. And if that doesn't work... SUE THEM. Sue them for neglecting the needs of the child.. and not cooperating with the judge's orders. I wish you the best of luck.
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Q: I have this guy friend that I've had a crush on for forever. I finally told him two or three weeks ago and he handled it surprisingly well. I figured that we would get past it and nothing more would really be said about it since he wasn't interested in me back like that.
Well, the end of last week got really weird. He has been calling me a little more lately but last week he started to sound more and more, well, sexual to me. I mean, he started making comments to me about my body and how I take care of my figure. He even went as far as to say how he had...er...dreams of me sometimes.
I didn't want him to not be my friend any more so I just shrugged the comments off like they didn't effect me at all. Today though was a different story and I can't really just ignore it. I see that my harmless, "I have a huge crush on you!" confession is being taken as a hook-up request.
Today he calls and says he's been thinking and that we could really be great in a friends with benefits type of relationship. He started to tell me how I would be really happy and fulfilled and he would be happy to please me. It got really creepy and I just kind of lied and said my mom needed me and to call me later and I hung up.
How do I tell him that I just don't want to be friends with benefits? I'm not that type of girl. Yes, I like him but I don't want to be used, you know? I feel like I made a huge mistake and have ruined what a great friendship we had simply because I told him I had a crush on him. What do I do? Can my friendship be salvaged? Do I just tell him to lay off with the sexual stuff because I am not interested in that? Ugh, I feel so stupid...
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You shouldn't feel stupid =] You told the truth and he's turning it into a weird scenario. The only way to tell him.. is to be direct.. not harsh but let him know your morals. When your talking to him and the conversation comes up again just say "Wow, you think I'm that kinda girl, I'd never do the friends with benefits thing.. that's not my style." Find anther dude who's gonna want you for you and who's gonna want to be in a LONG lasting relationship.
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Q: Would it be wierd for a fourteen year old girl to date a sixteen year old boy. Its only a grade apart, (so like freshman/sophomore)but its still like a two year diference, what do you guys think?
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No, I don't think its particularly weird. Just be careful..
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Q: hi im havin a prob with this gurl in 8th grade well i like her but she dont know and my friend does and she likes him and she wants him to ask her out or else shes gunna end up goin out with this other kid in my grade thats also my friend and she dont know that i like her and i want to ask her out but i know she will say no and i dont want her to go out with my friend but its like i have no choice but to deal with it so wat should i do???????
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Basically, would you rather ask her to really KNOW if she was gonna say no.. or regret it for the rest of your life. Its your choice.. you choose.
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Q: Hi. Im 15.
So i have a friend problem.
I've been friends with this girl for about 2 years now and i consider her to be one of my best friend out of like 4. But the thing is, theres many many times where she has made me upset, and kind of screwed me over for someone else, and did bad stuff and said bad stuff. and everytime we get in a fight im always the one to say sorry first.
but i keep giving her chances because when she doesn't act all bitchy shess one of the most FUNNEST BEST people i can ever be around.
And i feel like i should stop being friends with her but its not what i really want. I keep letting it get in the way. I dont know why i still wanna be best friends with her but i do because i love her as my best friend.
And we get into fights or arguments not that much but often. And im always there for her.
But shes never really there for me when im crying or anything.
I know, your probabaly thinking why are you still friends with her?
And i have no idea!
I still love her as a friend.
And i want a better friendship with her.
But she thinks she never does anything wrong when she does and she never beleives me or agrees with me when i tell her this.
But shes still my best friend.
I'm so confused.
What should i do? HELP?!
Love Confused Girl.
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I think you've already made your decision =[. You love her and still want her as a best friend. But who would want a best friend that doesn't stick around and comfort you whenever needed. A best friend is a person who would cry when you're crying just so you won't feel awkward and embarrassed. it doesn't sound like she'll be doing that for you any time soon. You sound like your a good person, don't let somebody screw you over. I'm not saying don't be friends with her. Just know how she is in your head. And know what she's about. I wouldn't consider her a best friend by what you're saying.
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Q: Okay, so there is this one guy and he likes me and I like him back and I heard he was going to ask me out! I'm really excited about it, but i don't know if i want to say yes because I think he only wants to use me for his pleasure! What should I do?
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Never sell yourself short for anyone. I'd advise you to say yes.. you stated that you "think" he wants you for pleasure. How about you find out for real! When your with him you'll [know] for sure. And if that's the case. Dump that jerk because you deserve better! But if he's caring... then see where it takes you.
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Q: okay so there is this guy who is a year older than me who i've never talked to on my facebook. he commented on two of my posts and then one day i saw him at aa bus stop i didnt say hi or anything because i wasnt sure he would know who i was. then the next day on facebook i'm like "hey i saw you at the bus stop. i was the girl in the green shirt" and he was like " that was you i was totally checking you out." then i replied and after that he's like do you want to hang out. i got alittle uncomfortable because i dont know anything about this guy so i told him i had to work. now his facebook status is like "i'm falling for someone i hope" i kind of feel like ugh i kind have hung out with him but i missed my chance. but i guess my question is did i do the right thing?
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I'd do the same thing you did. Its cool to meet new people or whatever.. but this guy could be anybody. Kidnapper, rapist, molester.. you name it! (you're probably thinking I'm going over board) But in a world where anything can happen.. why not take precautions? You made the right decision in my opinion.
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Q: Ok, so my dad called me yesterday and told me he proposed to his girlfriend of a year and I think most kids would be happy but I'm not. This is his FIFTH wife. I think she's cool and all but I know he's gonna end up cheating on her and divorcing her and putting all his kids through this stuff again. What should I do? I tried talking to him about my feelings but he just got mad. Please help me!
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I would tell you to be optimistic and see how it goes. But I'd rather you take the realistic approach. If you already tried talking to him and he doesn't listen.. its obvious that he's gonna do what he wants. Have you gone in depth with the situation.. like asking him if he's afraid of being/dying alone without someone to love? Because it could be an insecurity. Or try another approach when talking to him. Don't tell him that you think he's gonna get divorced again or something of that sort. Tell him how you feel... tell him your not happy and you just want him to wait a little while before he settles down again. If that doesn't work, live with it.. and when you get kids make sure not to do the same thing to them!
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Q: i'm 19 years old, female. my cousin is 17.
me and him are really close. we hang out all the time and just always have a good time together. the dumb thing is that people think that we are dating! uhm hellooo? he is my COUSIN. people keep telling me, "you need to stop hanging out with him, people are starting to think you two are dating" and tonight my uncle was like youre not dating him are you? and i started laughing because how rediculous is that? and he was like see you cant even look at me and say youre not! i was like honestly, do you think i would ever ever EVER do that? its not like we flirt with each other, thats disgusting. we're just always together. whats so wrong with that? apparently there is something....
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Who cares?! You guys are best friends, of course you'll be together constantly. So basically people are inferring that you two are going out and you're FAMILY! (Ew) Since when was it a crime to be best friends with a relative... NEVER! As long as you know in your heart your not doing anything wrong. Forget about everything and everyone else. You are always going to find somebody judging you in one way or another. Don't bother with it... let them talk and just live your life to the fullest with no regrets =]
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Q: hello my name is debbie im 16 and im from washington i have this friend steven hes my x we dated in his 7th and my 8th grade year it was amazing im totaly head over heels in love id kill my self for him well in the middle of the year i moved so we broke up then we stoped talking for a long time well this summer we started talking again we ended up dating for 2 days but hes no alowed to date till hes 16 hes 14 im 16 and he doesnt want to lie to his parents by dating me. well hes going to fort and im going to bay (highschool) so well never get to see eachother plus i just found ou that he loves someone else and he wants to be with her but i want to be with him so much to see him with her would kill me. but i want him to be happy because i love him and all i want is to make him happy.and he keeps saying that some day well be but it seems like everytime we have a little bit of a chance something happends and the more we try to make it happen the more it doesnt and i dont want to wait till hes 16 cause ill be 18 he'll probably meet someone else help pleeze!!!!!
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If he wants to wait, let him wait! Somebody else will come along and scoop you right off your feet. He's 14? You're 16? Did you know that's statutory rape? You could go to jail for that. You're over age. Just let it go. Plus, if he loves someone else, doesn't that say something about his feelings towards you? Never love someone completely and wait around for them unless they'll thoroughly do the same for you. And in this case, it doesn't seem as if that'll happen any time soon. Be yourself and you'll find somebody who loves you and WON'T love someone else while loving you!
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Gender: Female Member Since: September 7, 2009 Answers: 19 Last Update: September 9, 2009 Visitors: 1630
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