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Ever since I was little , these group of guys have been bullying me , and it came to a conclusion they disgraced my family , friends , they paintballed my house , they egged it , tried to throw stuff at it , and this was 2-3 years and still going on. Ever since an indicent happened at school because me and my friend got suspended because my friend was drunk and I tried to help her and so every day they go up to us and its all the guys in our grade and call us sluts alcholics and so on , today I went on a walk with my friend and there was a car and they said sluts so i go over to the car again and i tell them to shut the fack up and mature a bit and not hide and first you go and call us and then hide and they kept calling us greasy dirty fat ugly hors sluts skanks hoes black something and they stopped and they reversed like they wanted to run us over and i was like i will call the cops on you hes like go ahead and they drove off and the guy is like shut the fck up your ugly and this happens constantly
i really want this to end i know i shouldn't ave said it again , but i really dont know what to do i want it to stop , can i charge them? do i tell someone? (link)
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This is serious, and you need to tell someone. You can press charges, and you need to as soon as possible. These guys need to stop, and charging them might be the only way to stop it.
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OK so I have a situation here. I have 2 friends. One used to be really nice and used to treat me and another friend equally, but now she seems to only like the other person and not me. She almost got me in serious trouble once,she dosen't hang out with me any more and it's irritating! I Want to have them both be my frinds again but I dont know what to say! I really dont know what I'm going to do when the weekend is over, so I would appreciate any help. Thank You! (link)
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You're friend actually has just simply changed, but maybe not in a good way. You should try to talk this through with your friend that has changed, but make sure not to blame it on your other friend. Remember to listen to what she has to say, and don't get all worked up at her for nothing. Listen to her reasoning, and make sure she listens to yours. Make sure to let her know you miss her, and let her know you hope to reconnect your frienship with her. Or you could always talk to both friends which is probably the better choice. But be careful not to blame them for anything. Remind them both of all the good memories you guys have shared, and ask them,mostly the one who changed, what has happened? I would prefer this more though because it's good to release your feelings to both friends, and not just one. This should make you guys have a stronger realationship than ever before. We hope everything works out:)))
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Acting is something I've loved for a long time. I took private lessons for a while, but it got to be much too expensive, over $200 a month. My mom doesn't want me to quit altogether, and neither do I. She said I can continue acting lessons, just not private ones. But there's a problem with that, I get shy acting in front of people I don't really know. Over time, I'm sure I will get more comfortable in front of other people. But how can I get over that initial nervousness? Any advice will be appreciated. I just don't want to have to stop acting for a while. I actually plan on doing something with it.
Thanks. (link)
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Our best advice is to just forget about everyone int he crowd. I, myself am pretty nervous because I have an upcoming play, but what works best for me is to just imagine everyone in the audience or watching in their underwear. Just don't laugh:)
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I met a wonderful widow with 3 children, 12, 14 & 16. Her husband died from cancer a year ago. We've been dating for almost 9 months. I asked her to marry me after 5 months, she said yes. I found out that I have cancer 1 month after. It appears that this cancer I have is not a very treatable kind. I can prolong my life several yrs., but not much longer, unless I am the one in a million miracle. We have not told the children. It was very hard on them watching there father take 2 yrs to pass. I don't want to hurt them again. She said we will hide it until it's obvious. I'm not sure if I want to put 3 kids into another tragic relationship so soon to their past one. I've grown to love them. Should I break it off with her?, should I break it off with them?, I don't want to be the cause of tempering these wonderful people any further than they are. (link)
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I'm very sorry for everything that's going on right now. But the answer is no you shouldn't break things off with them, that would just be hurting them more. Think about it, they already lost their father, and if you just go and leave without telling them anything, it's going to break their hearts. I think you should just be honest and tell them, they'll respect you for that a lot. That way you can have everyone supporting you, and not be all alone. I hope a miracle happens, and I wish you and all of your family well. And remember don't leave them, that'll be telling them you don't care. They already lost one father, I bet they don't want to loose another. I wish you guys the best:)
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Hi, fifteen, female. There is this boy and he has been my best friend since third grade, he's the best. When I'm down, he knows and he asks me to tell him about it and everything or he'll play his guitar for me because he knows I like when he does. My mom is absolutely in love with him, she thinks we are going to grow up and get married, like most best friends do. I'm totally honest when I say I don't know my feelings for him, I thought he was just my friend but I kinda can see him as a boyfriend now. He holds open doors for me and all the gentleman-esque things. But, I look at other girls he has liked in the past and I am NOTHING like them. In class we were talking about a leader of Germany and my teacher said that the leader reminded him of Regina from mean girls. My friend mumbled something to himself but the person he sits next to heard him and asked if he liked her, he answered her and they started laughing then he turned around and quick looked at me. Everybody in my school always makes fun of us because apparently we're in "love" and we need to get together ASAP. I ask my friends why they think he likes me and they said the way he looks at me, it isn't like how he looks at other girls and how he smiles when we talk but I just looked at that as 7 years of friendship. His brother, in collage, makes fun of us too. My friend is a great guy and I trust him with my life. Both of us play instruments and one day I gave him food because he was hungry and he loved what I gave him to eat so now he asks me for them all the time, just something we share, between me and him, ya know. I guess my question is -> do you think my best friend likes me as more than his friend and if so how do I approach this situation without messing up an amazing friendship?
Thanks! (link)
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It sounds like you guys have a great relationship together, and if I'm right, if the friendship is strong enough, you guys will be able to survive through everything. Including, revealing your secret to him. Just pull him aside one day and talk to him about it...I'm sure he feels the same:) Good luck and you guys can survive through everything, just remember that. And also remember that if you secide to keep it from him, you're going to regret it so much later in your life when you realize that you ahd your chance, but you lost it. If yuo do ask him,a and even if he doesn't feel the same at least you'll know that you tried which is all you can do. So instead of regretting it later on in life for never knowing if he felt the same way, and wanting to die of anxiety becasue you never even asked or got an answer, you should just go up and ask him, face to face!
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hey,
this guy i really like has told me he likes me to my face but then he goes and tells his friends he doesnt..but they think he does. so my xboyfriend always tells him bad things about me and after a while hes starting to believe him. so i got very fed up with this and i just asked the kid out for myself and he said he had to think about it, hes been thinking about it for like 4 days now and everyday i ask him are u done thinking? n hes like i promise ill tell u tomorrow but he never does, i just dont know what to do...
-sincerely,
confused (link)
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So it's obviously that he has been falling for you a lot if he actually admittd it. He might be shy for a certain reason so maybe that's why he wants to keep it a secret. If he's still thinking about it, that might mean he's unsure about the rumors he heard from your ex still, deciding if they're true or not. So maybe pull him aside one day, and talk to him about the whole situation, and how they aren't true. If he still is unsure or doesn't believe you then he isn't worth your time or just simply you. That must mean you deserve better if he doesn't have trust in you, always remember that, because every guy who doesn't trust one of us, a girl, then why give them a chance, because we're all special in different ways.
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should i believe my bestfriend or my friend? because my friend said that my best friend was talking crap about my freiend and my best friend said she was not talking about her so who do i believe?
from california,13 ,female
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Well, it all depends. It's all about who's more loal and trustworthy. The one you've know for longer or has never lied to you is the one that you should trust. So I think that would be your best friend, but who knows it could be just your friend. But your friend might be jealous, of your best friend so she might be lying to replace her. I think it would be best though, to keep both of your friends, and not loose one of them. So try to invite both of them over,a nd talk to them both, and how much youc care about them, and how you wish you guys could all get throught this, and leave it behind. If they both still hate each other, and are still uo to it, try to leave them alone for awhile for them to realize how small the problem, and how big they made it. They should eventually come back, and apologize, but if they don't that means they probably don't care that your friendship with them is dissaperaing. That means they were never probably serious about your friendship witht them, but if you don't want to give up on them, then you can try tallking to them both again, or pick a side which I wouldn't recommend, bcause that maks everything worse.
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ok. well there is this one *boy*. i really like him. i know he doesnt like me near as much as i do to him. we had a fling but it soon ended. but since then i CANNOT get over him. no matter what i do. everytime i think im over him, i somehow find a way to fall madly in love with him again. all it takes is me hearing his name or seeing him. but liking him consumes so much of me, and its beginning to become draining. he actually at times is mean to me, but i brush it off and like him still. but sometimes he acts like hes into me again, and im on cloud nine. but then were back to normal, which is him not giving me the time of day. i know that i need to get over him, but i need extreme help and tips on how to do this. not normal "get over him" but something that will rid of the boy that consumes so much of my life. (link)
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Simply avoid him at all costs, delete his phone number, and try to find another sweet guy. After all of that, if you still can't get your mind off of him then that must mean you really are into him. So if this continues, maybe pull him aside and talk to him about it. Or if you don't want to try that, which I wouldn't recommend, then try watching comedies or revenge movies with your friends, maybe with some ice cream, but only if you feel totally heartbroken. I honestly wouldn't want you to reach to that though so if you're serious about forgetting about him then do our first steps we gave out.
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I am having such a difficult time in my life right now. Mainly I am just sick of having to deal with the problems I have with my mom. And I feel like all men wants to do to me in sexualize me. Right now it really pisses me off that my mom acts like she wants to be distant from me and when she knows I am too upset she say things like I love you when the way she acts is far from that. I keep remembering what happened to us last year during new years eve that she does not care about me anymore at all . And wanted to leave me for ever . But then I am not working right now nor was I then. Cause the main reason is that I am a foreigner and I just came into this country 12 years ago. And that makes it hard for me to find employment since the only person that could fix my citizenship status to get a job is my mom. So I feel that its the only reason that I am still with her. And this feeling disgust me it just seems like all this feeling is coming from a negative place. Every time a subject comes up about my family I have to really watch what I have to say. I feel like this issue to me is so serious and I dont know where else to find help in las vegas, nv . I told her I go online for problems like this and she does not approve of it. (link)
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Hi, we think you just need to take a deep breath and breathe. In all honesty, we know how it feels when eveything seems to be in pieces, but you just got to keep moving. We know it seems as if it's the end of the world, but it's not. All of, humans, tend to make things worser than it is. The problem can be so small, but we make it so big. So to fix this before it gets even worser, is to sit down and have a honest talk with your mom, no lies, but just honesty. And your mom loves you a lot even though she may not act like it, and this is because she's growing older. She may feel as if her whole life has past by so fast, and she just may feel like a failure even in life, or it might be just stress or deprssion. And jobs have been very hard to find lately, so just keep on trying, and talk to your mom about fixing your citizenship status. Just keep on moving, and rember everyday is a new start, a new beginning...
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THIS IS NOT NORMAL HIGH SCHOOL DRAMA. I'M BEGGING YOU TO READ THE WHOLE THING. PLEASE.
16/F
There's this guy at my school that has been literally obsessed with me for like two years.
He texts me constantly, and I used to text him back and we'd have these really cool intense conversations.
But then it got a little scary. About two months ago, he began to text me every single day like once every thirty minutes until I answered him back. And I'd have to answer him back, because if I didn't, he'd come up to me the next day at school and corner me at my locker and ask me to explain why I didn't answer him back. And he just would have this puppy dog look in his eyes, so he looked non-threatening, but he'd also be blocking my way out with his arms.
He's constantly leaving notes in my locker and on my desk in homeroom about how we're going to spend the rest of our lives together and have a bunch of kids. We are not dating.
I've told one of my friends about it, but it's embarrassing because I don't know what to do. Plus, he keeps telling me in every note not to tell anyone because they'll make fun of our "love" and he doesn't like it when people make fun of him.
This note thing has been going on for almost a month. And if he sees me flirting with a guy in the hall, he just gives me this look and then he'll corner me after school again. I'm allowed to flirt though, aren't I?? Well I can't anymore and I've stopped.
The puppy dog look has left his eyes by now.
And the reason why I've finally gotten up the courage to write this is because I'm all out of ideas. My friend that I told doesn't know what to do about it and she isn't really taking it seriously. And I'm too scared to go tell the guidance counselor about it because I'm pretty sure he'd find out somehow. (He tends to follow me around school). But the thing is that sent me over the edge is that he called me last night after school (today is Saturday), and his speech was slurred so I'm guessing he'd been drinking, but he said that he was planning on killing himself soon unless I:
1) stop flirting with other guys
2) stop talking to other people when he's around
3) have sex with him soon
He's crazy, right? What to I do? I was so scared last night that he was going to come over my house. I locked all the doors and I slept in my brother's room.
I don't want him to kill himself, obviously, but I also want him to leave me alone. I'm scared also too that with everything else that's going on (the notes about how we're going to be together forever) that if he does choose to kill himself, he's going to take me with him.
Please help, I'm so scared right now. (link)
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I see that this is a serious problem and you're scared to death! No matter how scared you are, you HAVE to tell someone. This guy has taken everything from you, but don't don't let him take your courage,self confidence, and self esteem down with him. You MUST be a very strong person to have made it this far, and I know you're strong enough to step up to the plate, and tell someone. That's a must, so you can finally be just you again, and not have him int he back of your mind every single second of yoour life, afraid that he's going to do something crazy!!!
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so im a sophomore. this year i have been good friends with this guy. i have one calss with him and ive known him before this year but this year we actually talk, well we used to talk everyday all the time, then our seats were moved and i relized that i liked him more than a friend. after class he will wait for me and we will walk to his locker which is down the hall, we dont talk a whole lot outside of that class. well i invited him to a church event but he couldnt make it, i wrote my number in his planner. but he hasnt texted me and its been 2 nights. my friends thinks that he is flirting with me when we walk out of calss together but i cant tell since we are friends. and does that mean that he doesnt like me since he hasnt texted me? also what are other flirting signs? (link)
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we understand your situation and the answer is yes he might just like you too. Guys tend to be scared of getting sensitive and getting commited into a relationship. So he might just be scared of the fact that he's found someone he's really liked, so try to call him or text him oonce and a while. If he never admits that he likes you though after a while, then you need to take the first step and tell him how you feel. Hope everything turns out well, which I know it will:)
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would it be weird if i dated one of my taekwondo instructors? he is 18 im 16, were both interested in eachother he even called me beautiful last class (link)
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We honestly think that that is no where near weird. You guys are only 2 years apart frome each other, and if you're falling for him just as much as he's fallin for you than it must be written in the stars for you guys have had to met each other. Just follow your heart,and you'll never go wrong.
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