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Im Melanie. 16 Years old. Junior at My High School. Im good at giving advice. Very good! I will help you out, and tell you all I know, Im not always right, no one is. But ill tell you what I think, and the truth. I wont put it in nice terms ill say it as it is...........
So about me Some more-
I love to laugh, and I think laughing makes everything better. I like helping people, and seeing them smile.Im very opinated. I love shopping. Im very Blunt. I text a little to much. I am like the worst at spelling. I like to be tan all year long. I wont go anywhare without my sunglasses. Im all Italian! There so much more you can find out about me, so just ask and I'll tell you.

advice

first i put clean face:
1) Clean& Clear-Blackhead clearing[scrub]
2) Neutrogena-Deep Clean[oli free]
3)Olay-age defying
4) sometime Dove[white]

is that good to use it all same time or one?
and also i have Clearasil-acen control[Pore Cleansing Pads] SOMETIME.

yea, is it good? or pick one!

my face is pimple, oncely acen, and OILY the most, and also after i washed them all then my face goes DRY which lotion or whatever help me less dry?
help thank

Don't use them all in one day. Clean & Clear works well thou! Try using noxzema, it deffently works too. Also you should put hot water on your face, like in the shower or get a cloth. Not real Hot but pretty hot, because the hot water opens your pores up and cleans the dirt right out. Then after that use cold water to close your pores up!

hope this helps you!

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I always have this one dream when something very important is going to happen to me. Whenever it happens it means something will happen, A death, A relationship, Anything life changing.It scares me because I know something is gonna happen and theres nothing I can do about it. Im in my moms old truck and its completely empty, its rolling toward the ocean, I look out the window and i see myself with the girl I love, usually it is flashbacks of my life, Im laying there with the girl i love and i wave to myself, the truck hits the ocean water and i drowned, then i wake up. Every time i have this dream i understand it more, it hasnt seemed like it was gonna end till now. I dont know what that means, am i gonna die or will i help myself from the sinking truck?

My dreams come true alot of the times, Like i get warnings if bad things are going to happen, SOme peopple don't believe me, but other sware im Physic. Like I have dreams that reapeat and I have dreams whare people who pasted away will come visit me. Its scary. If your able to this, when you go to sleep and concintrate on dreaming that dream. Talk to your self in the dream and ask yourself what it means. Im able to talk to myself in dreams and thats it. Also I think you should buy a dream book they tell you what your dreams mean. I have one, but you need to tell me your full dream in like loads of details and I can tell you what the book says.
I hope this helped you at all.
If you don't get a chance to get the book
just email me.

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Ok i went to the mall with some of my friends and some of these girls from the school i go to (cause i went to one school and had to switch) saw me and were pointing and laughing at me and my friends and i didnt know why and my friends were yelling at them and telling them to stop and stuff but yeah does anyone know why they might have been doing this and by the way i've never talked to any of these girls before but i do have some classes with them

All girls tend to be bitches at times, but then you have the ones, that have there own little clicks and they feel there better then everyone else and they walk around makeing fun of people and laughing. And thats it, there bitches.Can't do anything about it. Let them talk shit, just Don't let it bother you. But I would for sure confront all of them and be like do you have a problem with me, just to show them your not afriad, that way they wont start saying, how you cant stick up for yourself and stuff..


Hope this helped

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OK me and my sister have been talking to my parents and asking them about doing home school wll it's this virtual academy and so i want to do it beause i'm more of a hands on person and i cant learn that well when all teachers do is lecture you and i'm sick of people at my school making fun of me and stuff i know that probably sounds really childish or stupid or whatever but i'm sick of it and i'm jsut really unhappy at school and i've given my parents a million reasons why we should be home schooled and they havent given me one good reason or any reason for that matter why we shouldnt and i've asked them to look at the website and take a look at eveyrthing on there but they havent and everytime i ask them they just say no and i ssay give me one good reason and tehy say they dotn need a reason cause there my parents and anyway they wont even look at the website or listen to me how can i get them to see that i'm so unhappy and dont say tell them this cause i have

Well I was in the same situatiion as you. I hated school, hated the kids. I always thought people were talking about me, Sometimes they really were. I tryed to act like it didnt bother me.but it did. And I kept telling myself im here in school to get a education not to make friends. But it didnt work. I was never able to learn, because there were so many distrations, and I told my parents I just don't want to go, and they were like no your going. And the guidence counsler was like you and every other kid dont want to be here. deal with it. She was knoe help either. Then I started to fail. And said I was going to drop out, and the school said we can put me on homeboud. Its different from home schooling. Your still part of your school, and A teacher comes out after school for only a hour once a week and its one on one you take test and everything. And the school pays for it. I don't knoe if your school has it. But that is someting to tell your parents about and see if your school will let you go one home bound. I failed while I was in school. On Homebound I fet A's

Hoped this helped you

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My friend moved this year to a big new school far away. Now we feel like we are losing her. She's changed. She tells me how shes been getting drunk and stuff. She always brags about her friends. She's listnening to bad music. We were on her top friends list on myspace for the first day now we are at the bottom. Now, when we talk it's like two sentences and we stop talking. Shes 14. What can we do to get our relationship going again?btw 13/f

Your friend could be getting drunk and listening to bad music, just to fit in. To be accepted. To be cool. People do some crazy things, just so others will like them.
Its hard when you move and you need to start all over by making friends. yeah she had you as a friend, and still does. But the fact that she lives and go to school somewhare else and socializes with different people plays a big part in this whole thing. It will take time for her to relize what she is doing and how she is acting.
Just talk to her and be like, I just don't want you to forget whare you came from. And who your true friends are. Tell her that you feel you guys arent as close as you were before. And your willing to accept the fact that she changed but your not willing to accept the fact that she's slowy pushing you away. Tell her about all the good times you guys had together and all the great memories you share. She will come around don't worry. Tell her your always going to be her friend, no matter what. You gotta give it time. Just talk it out. Things will get better.

Hope I helped you

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this is from: wait you didnt answer this.

back up plan?

is that right to be with someone who thinks you are a back up plan? i mean yes its true i do like her no matter what, but is it right to do, to be her back up? i think no and i should walk away. so i did but she seems to always drag me back, draws my attention to her and i know or maybe she does too, know that if i dont do it i will lose her. should i tell her "do you think i'm your back up plan? do you like me or what?"
whats the deal......

That sounds good tell her how u feel mabi it will all work out if not its just not ment to be

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This is from:Was this girl talk?

okay i dont really think she is using me for that, i never thought of it in that way but she told me last month that she told Bobby no that she wont go out with him. 3 days ago we all hang out together and the whole time she was giving me the addention and ignor bob as bob was trying to show his likings to her. the whole time she was holding on to me once in a while. but i dont know. she might be using me? i just never thought of it in that way.
but you didnt answer this question, why would she call me? when right after she got off the phone with him?

She dosent want to let you go, she called you after him because she still wants you to like her, and if someone like you likes someone for a while they wont stop at nothing to get that person, she knows you like her so much that ur not gonna stop. but she also knows that she can talk to other people and you will still like her, thats whare she has you.. Its kinda hard for me to explain but Im trying my best...she calls him..talks and watever.. then thinks ohh that girl likes me too, im gonna call her and see what she has to say....

to sum it all up------ur her back up plan..she called you after him because she know you will be there and you still have feeling for her, so you wont lose interest in her!! okay I think you just need to seat her down and straighten things out....this is a very tough situation---but i hope it all works goood--
------melanie

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(i like my friend more than a friend and she knows cause i told her about it two years ago.)
last month she called me and told me that our friend Bobby called her and ask her out. i ask if she likes him back and she said "well i do love him as a brother and care for him..." i told her "well if you like him more than a friend you wouldnt call me." she said "good point"
i told her the differents of liking someone more as a friend and as a friend.
she understood, but i dont understand why would she call me and ask or say what to do.
i mean if a guy or girl ask you out and you dont like them you will tell them right? i mean yeah you can think about if you do but why call your friend and ask for advice?
i told her that it is up to her of what she wants, but i know she does like him more than a friend. she and i care for him well but i dont see them together and i told her that. i even told her that i was jealous about it when he ask her. she didnt say much but she began to flirt to me. and still does.
was it girl talk?
or
whay would she call me?
FYI: I'm 20/f who is bi.

You probly already knoe this but dont relize you do because you are in the situation. Girls love when other people love them and are always there no matter what. and she probly see's you as a friend who likes her and because you liked her so long she knows you will be there no matter what.. she is holding on to you, you understand what im saying. if she goes out with this guy and something happens and they break up, she knows you will be there still. NO MAtter What, she will flirt with you, so you dont lose interest. N i hate saying this but, from what you told me in the question, I think she using you as a back up plan. When all fails she has you, n i hate saying that but that what it seems like, but don't be her back up plan. Tell her how you feel, say ok I like you, do you like me. If not don't hold on to me anymore, let me go, don't flirt with if you dont want to be serious. Thats all you have to do, and then move on with your life and still stay friends.. I hope I helped you
-------Melanie

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A long time ago my friend went out with a guy and she broke up with him because she didn't like him anymore. A few months later he and I started hanging out and we kissed. I didn't know how to tell my friend so I didn't because I didn't think it was going to turn into much. Then it got kind of serious and we were seeing each other heaps going out to dinner and sleeping at each others houses and I ended up losing my virginity to him, and the whole thing is still unbeknown to my friend. I found out that after late nights out and stuff when she had no where to stay she would stay at his house and they would hook up but claimed it meant nothing more than a place to stay. I know it means more to him...I guess the whole reason to this question is I don't know what to do and I feel like such a whore for letting him have sex with me! any help would be appreciated

So He isant your boyfriend? He is your benficial friend, Don't feel like a whore because your not your not sleeping around with a bunch of different guys, so your fine. Tell your friend, she wont be mad she has nothing to be mad about because thats not her boyfriend anymore. Tell him how you feel about the whole sistuation and tell him its weird and mabey he will stop, if not for get him, you could do so much better, don't let him bring you down and don't let him use you. Your probly saying ( i dont) but you may not even relize you are letting him take advantage of you. If he really wants to be with you for are not what you do with him, he will be. So I hope I helped you out
----Melanie

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Well me and my fiance have been together for 2 years. When we first dated we went through some hard times. Well he cheated on me twice and since then we got back together and have been together for a year and a half since those incidents. But now that we took the relationship to the next level and are getting married, I am having the hardest time letting go of the past and what he did. I constantly bring it up and cry about it almost everyday. And it has been over a year! It is affecting our relationship alot, emotionally and sexually. Please help! What can I do to get over this?

Its all on you, if you believe people change then you should be fine and not worry about it. Now me on the other hand I belive once a cheater always a cheater, if he loved you so much he wouldnt of did it in the first place, and I would never take someone back if they cheated on me... but it your opinion, and Im just here trying to help--Hope I did
----Melanie

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Okay so about a month & a half ago this guy asked me out & I said "Yes." but he was one of my best friends but i kinda liked him, so I was so confused, so i finally thought abuot it and made a decision about a week aftr i broke up with him because it felt so ockward to be making out with my best friend.
About three days after i broke up with him he started going out with my best friend, at first I was okay with it but after i saw them making out and holding hands I got sad & really jealous & I realized how much of a mistake that I made. Now they have been going out for almost a month & everyday at lunch they sit with us & they always cuddle up, get really close, hold hands, whisper in each others ears & I have to leave the table or else I get angry & yell or get sad & cry. There are other guys that want to go out with me but the only one I want is the one my best friend is going out with. I just REALLY need to know how to get over this, jealousy & what to do when I see them acting that way & what to when he flirts with me because yesterday he took my hand on the bus & held it. :/
I just really need help. I get so angry I want to et back with him so bad ! !
Personally I don't think they'll ever break up. :((

&&by the way I'm thriteen.
Thanks.
-Ashley.

Ashley, you will be fine, I understand that you are upset I would be too, But when you broke up with him, he was most likely upset and did what he had to do, Go out with your friend to make you jelous and want him back. But sumtimes when guys do that they end up likeing the other person(your friend) you will be upset for a little while but you will get over it. There are plenty of guys out there for you, maby he wasent the right one, and you were just ment to only stay friends. You look at your friend and him together and you miss the confort he gave you, and now you probly think you messed up big time, but you didnt. Date other guys, don't show him your jelous, (that the worst thing you can do!)--And everything should work out fine. I hope I helped you out
-------Melanie

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I need to know the phobia names of the following:

-being afraid of like, being watched. like if i was sitting in my room, and i looked out my window, and saw this guy that was watching me. also, i sleep with my back towards everything & like my face towards the wall, so no one (if anyone) can see my face.

-being afraid of deep, dark water NEXT TO TALL THINGS. like, if there was some big piece of metal in the water, or a huge rock, or something.

-being afraid of like a huge mess forming, so you let the mess build up, but then you freak out when you realize it will become bad.

Being afraid that people are watching you is social phobia also know as social anxiety, also sleeping towards the wall, its all anxiety, your afriad peolple will judge you so its hard, I understand completly.. Yeah the other 2 im not sure but the first one im postive on

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My mom and I are looking for things for me to enroll this summer and she found a singing workshop. We called today and they said that they couldn't accept any more applicants since it already started but because my mom begged and begged, my mom made a deal: that I'd have to sing in front of them and be judged. And it's TOMORROW! Now I have to practice, vocalize and everything. I'm not even sure what song to sing! Tips? Suggestions? Advice? Anything?? Please help


Tara
13/f

Sing whatever song you can so the best, always smile, and have great confindence. Be friendly and very polite. And when you sing....Sing your heart out, sing like you never sung befor and they will be sure to accept you -----Goood Luck!!!!
-----Melanie

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my friend Leo has a huged crush on Ana, but she doesnt like him in that way. she loves him as a brother and so do i. the whole time he was getting all hot and bothered because he told me that he was getting that way cause he was looking at Ana (all she was is staying in line, at the book store) i dont know why he was getting all hot about it. Ana notice it and she was getting grossed out about it. i understood it but what is his deal. does he want her sex and/or minnd? i know men can have feelings for a girl but they can live it in his pants. honstley what is his deal?!
he even told me he likes me too. he never changed he was like this ever sents i knew him.

Maybe he does really like you both, and now is going to show you how strong his feeling ours, explain that you guys are just friends and you only see him as a brother to you, nothing more. He should understand, but if you do try to make it work with him between you or your friend, just rember to tell him that whatever happens you still wanna be as close to him as you were befor going out, you know remaining friends. Well I hope this helped
-----Melanie

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My girl's parents have kept her away from me, for like, one week. She wrote me a letter yesterday, assuring me she still loves me, but every few glimpses i get of her(we live in the same neighbourhood) tells a different story. How will i know if she still loves me?

Find time to talk to her when her parents arent around, talk about the situation and if you two will ever be able to hang out and her parents will allow it. See why they are keeping her away from you and then make things better.. if you can
hope everything works out
---Melanie

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I found out my best friend and my boyfriend have been hanging out one-on-one. It upset me, I really love him, but I know how my best friend is with guys and that just worries me.
My boyfriend and I got into a big fight about it, and my best friend promised it wouldn't happen again. But then, they hung out again tonight. I'm not sure what else to do, they know it bothers me. They're aren't doing anything, I mean she has a boyfriend, but I'm uncomfortable with them hanging out without me there.

She is your best friend the last thing she wants to do is hurt you, talk to her again, explain that is bothers you and then you will see she will stop. You also neeed to talk to your boyfriend again and tell him your uncofortable about the whole situation.. if he loves you he will stop... and if you talk to both of them and neither will stop seeing each other one on one then just totaly for get the whole thing because you do not need to be stressed over this..But I hope things work out with you 3
-----Melanie

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every year my family goes on vacation somewhere. summer's coming up soon, but we still have no clue where to go.
what we're looking for-
not too hot, not too cold lol
beautiful scenery
fun things to do
not a really long flight and not having to get a passport.

i wanna either go to the carribean or florida, but they dont want to :\ where should we gooo!

I think you should go to myrtle beach, south carolina its so beatiful there, and the people are so friendly. I fly down there in sumer almost every other weekend, and it depends on whare you are comming from if the flight will be long. Im from South jersey so it takes like an hour sometimes less its pretty quick, but you will love it down there especially in the summer, go to the stip and its all stores and clubs and there are some amusment parks, its great down there

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How can I get tan and not get burnt?

Use a tanning oil that has sunscreen in it, but be careful because if you have really light skin you will get burnt. Also you can use a sunblock that isant really strong,and it should get you tanner. Hope I helped
-----Melanie

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Ok so this is a little bit complicated!!!
Currently i am on the swim team a a state college...i am on a very high scholarship but i didnt preform very well this year...i dislike my coach and i am getting very depressed doign this...i would quit ina second excpet that i need a scholarship to keep going to school here becuase i am an international student and it is way to expensive to just be a student.
I am a good runner and i think i would be able to make the cross country team... should i tranfer?? can i even tranfers?? i dont know all the rules!!

There alot of people in life you wont like, but you can't let them hold you back, yeah you might dislike your coach, but if being on the swim team keeps you at that school that dont quit. You should to your advisor at school to see if you can transfer and see if you can get a scholarship for cross country. Hope I helped
-----Melanie

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So last year in an extracurricular, I met this girl named Paige. We instantly became best friends. We shared everything and her family accepted me like one of their own daughters.

This year, Paige has a boyfriend, Joey. Joey and I don't get along...at all. She, more and more, has chosen him over me. Like, at lunch, I'll go to talk to her and she'll be talking to him, and then won't talk to me.

I am realtively popular, so I have other friends, but this is the first person that I talked about boys with. The first person I really met in high school. (We're sophomores now, both 15.)

I basically told her all of this, and we had a conversation last night about not making enemies and why I won't be mean to her enemies (They aren't my problem and I don't want drama.), and she told her boyfriend everything. I assumed that everything that I've told her was in confidence, and it had been until now.

She has changed. I am taking her on vacation with me this weekend to San Diego, and since she won't be with her boyfriend, I assume that we will get along well, but I don't know if I should just leave her alone and wait for them to break up, (though they've been dating a year this August) or put extra effort into this friendship.

I made her a notebook and it's gorgeous and it's for us to write notes in, and I've written to her, and she hasn't been writing back.

I generally get along with people's parents, and I talk to her mom now instead of her on AIM and stuff. It's going to be awkward tonight.

Is she trying to hint that she doesn't want to be friends anymore? Am I overreacting?

Thanks.

I can relate to this a whole lot because I was in the same situation, You need to relize something, a FRIEND is someone who will always be there for you no matter what, yeah, you will fight but in the end its all good. If she is your bestfriend she will always be there for you, Maby not right now but you will see, it will be like old times. She is wrong to put a boy befor your friendship, because guys come and go, but friendships can last life times. Your not overreacting at all she just curious she may love him now.. and not see you for a while but one day she is going to sit there and say(what have I done) she not pushing you away, she just dosent relize it, she needs you to be there for her, sit her down explain how you feel, a girl always need another girl to talk to, if you tryed talking to her about it a couple of times and it hasent worked out, then let it go. You will move on, it will be hard at first and you will miss her and you will laugh at all your memories but its not your job to make sure you guys stays friends forever, its just not ment, she will come around one day, and relize her mistake and what she did was wrong. just dont worry about it. I hope my advice help you out.
-----Melanie

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