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Our friendship is deteriorating.
So last year in an extracurricular, I met this girl named Paige. We instantly became best friends. We shared everything and her family accepted me like one of their own daughters.
This year, Paige has a boyfriend, Joey. Joey and I don't get along...at all. She, more and more, has chosen him over me. Like, at lunch, I'll go to talk to her and she'll be talking to him, and then won't talk to me.
I am realtively popular, so I have other friends, but this is the first person that I talked about boys with. The first person I really met in high school. (We're sophomores now, both 15.)
I basically told her all of this, and we had a conversation last night about not making enemies and why I won't be mean to her enemies (They aren't my problem and I don't want drama.), and she told her boyfriend everything. I assumed that everything that I've told her was in confidence, and it had been until now.
She has changed. I am taking her on vacation with me this weekend to San Diego, and since she won't be with her boyfriend, I assume that we will get along well, but I don't know if I should just leave her alone and wait for them to break up, (though they've been dating a year this August) or put extra effort into this friendship.
I made her a notebook and it's gorgeous and it's for us to write notes in, and I've written to her, and she hasn't been writing back.
I generally get along with people's parents, and I talk to her mom now instead of her on AIM and stuff. It's going to be awkward tonight.
Is she trying to hint that she doesn't want to be friends anymore? Am I overreacting?
Thanks.
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I can relate to this a whole lot because I was in the same situation, You need to relize something, a FRIEND is someone who will always be there for you no matter what, yeah, you will fight but in the end its all good. If she is your bestfriend she will always be there for you, Maby not right now but you will see, it will be like old times. She is wrong to put a boy befor your friendship, because guys come and go, but friendships can last life times. Your not overreacting at all she just curious she may love him now.. and not see you for a while but one day she is going to sit there and say(what have I done) she not pushing you away, she just dosent relize it, she needs you to be there for her, sit her down explain how you feel, a girl always need another girl to talk to, if you tryed talking to her about it a couple of times and it hasent worked out, then let it go. You will move on, it will be hard at first and you will miss her and you will laugh at all your memories but its not your job to make sure you guys stays friends forever, its just not ment, she will come around one day, and relize her mistake and what she did was wrong. just dont worry about it. I hope my advice help you out.
-----Melanie
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no shes not trying to hint that she doestn wanna be friends or anythign like that , taking a wild guess but i guess one she hasnt had a lot of b/f's and 2 this is her longest one , bc she doesnt no how to balance friendships and boyfriends , bc shes chosing him over you because she doenst want to lose him , and shes afraid taht if she talks to you and not him they'll break up , so dont worry about it , it'll get better in time she'll learn how to balance the two , just talk to her more about this and dont give up on her.
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