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Gah im finally updating this thingy....well everybody should know theres only one thing i wanna say.....

i LOVE YOU DREWSiE!!!!



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Ok so heres some backround:

Theres this boy and hes 14 and im 13/f. Our moms are best friends. We see eachother like every 3 months or even less. I like him...but i doubt he likes me. His personality is amazing and everything...its young love

omg that sounds just the same as me and this other girl...Drewsie of course...but...

we would say each other occasionally...i think like around 1 or 2 months...and wen we meet....we have the most greatest times...but theres this guy...that she met when she was four...and they were closer then anything...they went out for a long time...then he breaks up with her and it breaks her heart very badly...and she thinks that he will never like her but she is the most perfect person in the world to me!! And all that im doing is being here with her no matter what and i will always love her...and we have the greatest times...even "Danced in the Rain"...i just love her!! and She is also the first person i have EVER loved..aw it just fascinates me..but sorry this is not what you wanna hear....it just seems similar...

We love each other but she just cant get him out of her mind..and i dont mind...so if you meet someone else...and he is still on your mind...if he's a person like me...he wont care..he'll still love you just as much...but if hes not...he may not be worth it

Some things...you just have to take for granted...the universe unfolds as it should...


But...it also unfolds as you call him some days...i kno you dont want to...but you have to tell him or let him think that your interested...


Other than this...i wish you the best of luck and i hope ive helped!!
Sethie;)

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Hi,
My name is Allison& I'm 16..you don't know me but i was just browsing through advicenators and i was wondering if you could help me with something..I'm having insecurites when guys say that celebrties are attractive,i know they'll never date them..but it still really bothers me..
what do i do?Not to sound cocky,but I've never thought of myself as ugly or anything&i've always been a very confident person.(if that helps)
Thanks for ur help
Allison

wow....a lot of guys think that celebrities or hott...or else they wouldnt be a celebrity!!!

I mean how many ugly celebrities that are girls do you know?? not tryin to be smart but just askin....


I would just think that its common among us boys..if we think there hott...and theyre not afraid to say it aloud...then they know its not gon happen...and you dont have to worry about him breaking up with you...unless he has been a player recently....


But if i have to be honest honest...im not saying its the best answer...but it may be that your jealous...but dont worry...you dont need to be


I hope this helps and works out!!

Sethie;)

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My best friend's birthday is in nine days. But my problem is that i have absolutley no idea what to get her! She has everything ! I need some ideas. Please help =)

wow this is tough!! Maybe Send her a certain amount of money so she can get what she wants...she may save it since she has everything!! If you dont know what to get her...then send her like 20$ or something...or a cute teddy bear!!lol


Hope this helps
Sethie ;)

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There is this boy that I really like i mean i have liked him every since 6th grade.I asked him out last year and he said no becaus he said i went with him at the beginning of the year but i didnt.I meane i would kno if i did.then just a few days ago i asked him out again and he said because of that same reason.I have been really depressed since then and i cant get him off of my mind.What could i do to get him off my mind?Should i keep on trying to get him to go with me or should i just move on and give up?

P.S. PLEASE give me some helpful advice i mean my life is going down the drain.

I would move on and try to find someone else because he is just making and excuse to not go with you!!

But if you keep trying to get him to go out...and he eventually does....dont keep your hopes high
because he will usually use you as his back up.

Hope this helps
Sethie ;)

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i have been goin out wit this guy for like one month and i really fell for him but now he broke up with me and dont know if he wants me back are not.what should i do? i love him soo much and i care about him alot and i just want him to give me one more chance but i dont think thats going to happen.Please help me out
desperate for help

Why did he break up with you??

You make it sound like you caused it to happen..

But alot of boys do that...they always just leave the person that will always love them tha most.....im pretty much the only boy I kno that wouldnt do this

Sorry to bring it to you...but theres nothing you can do...unless its his decision

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Well I have this really good friend and me and her have been inseprable for 3 years! One time her boyfriend told her it was over and then caled her back to tell her he was jus playin and it turns out thatshe had been caling my number and he even knew who she called. But newayz that aint tha point! well when i went down her house i went with her neighbor and she went with her same boyfriend who lives rite besde my bf.then her boyfriend went up his friends house and stuff. well then my bf invited one of his friends over there and he ept hittin me so finally i hit him back and my bf said that i was flirtin so he started flirtin with my best friend and then i broke up with him. well now my best friend is lying to me to get off the phone to talk to him and......i just dont know what to do nemores!

Well...it sounds like its not worth it to be with him!!
If your bestfriend's bf kept hittin you...he must have a crush on you...so you hit him back and your ex bf tried to give an excuse saying you were flirting with him.

So i think you shouldnt love him nemore...he's not worth it!!

Now your friend.

Inseprable for three yrs! Well...it is right to talk to her bf because he might think that she doesnt like him for not answerin the phone wen he calls. Give her your blessing and stay her friend if its been three years.
But move on away from your ex bf because if you try to get him back, then your friend will get mad at you!!

Hope this helps!!
Hott Dork
(AKA Sethie)

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ok.. ive never made out before.. until recently.. with this kid i rly like.. and he, himself has only made out with one other girl a few YEARS ago.. so i was nervous as ever when it went on, although i tried to remember to relax. after, i felt like something went wrong. i have no one else to compare him to but i honestly dont think it was me, but him that was a bad kisser! he was all over my face. kind of 'too much' if u get that. and as that being my first.. it kind of freaks me out a little. but please help out my situation and if you have any tipppsss on how to make out! please help:) thank you

well one thing here went right. at least you tried to relax.
and you think you did well in the kissing part but it doesnt seem that he done his part.

ok
it has been your first...and it may be that he wuz a bad kisser or it wuz first time. i havent made out before either but alot of things i kno like movies and stuff...for some reason i understand.but anyhow, that it was your first time, you may not have expected what it was.

but its ok...i say from there make out again now that youve done it before and it may be less stressful because you kno what is coming. This will be when you make out the second time

That takes out your first kiss.

him being a bad kisser. not alot you can do
if your confident enough, before he gets all over your face, you get all over his face. but only if your confident enough.What you mean by 'too much', just dont let him get too much then it will be easier for you to relax.

Or you can just stop making out with him but you dont wanna do that i kno

The only tip I can really think about is just relaxing like you was trying and things will go great because as people say it seems involuntary which means it goes by itself so once your start to kiss him you will just go with the situation.
just relax and youll do fine

hope this helps!
Seth:)

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Okay...i need a little advice on something. I go with somebody and i have liked him for a while but there is a little problem. My youth minister at church gave me a book on dating a couple weeks ago called "I Kissed Dating Goodbye". It talks about your relationships with God should come before dating and ppl now days date for the wrong things such as sex and they don't want to make a commitment. Well i'm not all sure i still want to date this guy now because of the book. I kinda just wanna take a break from dating and just form friendships, but i don't know how to tell this guy. I don't want to hurt him in anyway. Please help me decide what to do! Should i dump him and if so how should i tell him?THANKS!

this is difficult...

Your relationships with god are veery important but its how you feel about it...and it looks like the book was published by an author that is single and his or her experience with dating. That may be just a thing of dating she had.

But if your wanting to just form friendships it may be hard to let the person you love go.
So
heres where i would go from here.
you can tell him that your not comfortable with dating because your young and they didnt have that at school wen my dad wuz in school. they jus had friends. you can do that.

Or you can forget the book and pretend it wuz never brought to you but im sure that wont happen

U can just not have sex and go with him until the end. If you date by not the wrong things then its ok because there isnt any other reason to not be dating. but this is continuing the date not formin a friendship.

the best way to not hurt his feelings is be his closest friend and tell him your not comfortable with dating. what i mean by closest friend is that you can still hold hands if you want, hug him if you want, or even kiss him if you want.
U can tell him just to not be technically dating just being boyfriend and girlfriend until its ok.

But the book seems ok. The things about god is true but the author doesnt seem to like the date he or she was on.

I thought of the most possible ways good things can happen so i hope this helps!!

Seth:)

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ok.. so my best friend and i were in this chat with our other friend. and the other friend and my best friend have like a really funny joke together.. inside joke. so they were talkin about their joke and i just left cuz i didnt wanna be in the middle of it. then they started bein real mean to me, so i ignored them and blocked them. since then, my best friend wont forgive me when she should be the one sayin sorry. what should i do?

well it is bad that you jus ditched them but i kno where your coming from

Just tell them that you didnt want to be in the middle of tha joke and plz dont be mad at you.
your sorry you had to leave cause you was very tired and didnt feel like being in a chat

But the part about them bein mean to you.
It may never happen again just dont worry about it. Cause you are friends with them and they shouldnt be mean to you at all so them being mean jus dont worry about it.

Hope this helps
Seth:)

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Okay me n my boyfriend has been dating for almost 4 months and everything has been going good we have a couple of disagreements but who doesnt.. well a couple of weeks ago he got me a cell phone but i payed for it but its in his name and everyday he goes through it. people tell him that im messing around with other guys but how could i when im with him 24/7 well last nite my bestfriend who is a girl texted me stuff she didnt want anyone else knowing and he went to go through my phone and i took it from him. i knwo it looked as if i was hiding something but im not. now he thinks that im hiding stuff and im cheating so he doesnt want to tell me he loves me anymore intill i can change and get my priorities straight or however u spell it. and he doesnt knwo right now if we are gonna work things out he just always tells me i dont know i dont know.Please help me try to get my boyfriend not to break up with me im sorry its long.

ok.
if i was you i would tell him the truth. Tell him you snatched the phone away because your friend text you stuff she didnt want anybody to see but you like personal stuff. and say he can even ask your friend because he should believe you.

But from the looks of it he doesnt trust you but its ok. It all takes time and everything.
Just remember that nothin is a coincedence because everything happens for a reason.

Hope this helps
Seth:)

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okay so theres this boy that i really like and i mean like i would die just to be with him and he always says i love you and everything to me and then im like i love you more and i realize im right and that hurts alot..but thats not my point i mean now his friend is telling me he doesnt like me and i feel like im gonna kill myself and like the person i like.. well i went out with him before and he must really be the hottest guy in my city and everyone knows him...and we looked so cute together..so what do i do about it?

Hope you can help thanks

just one thing....Dont kill yourself.lol.

Ive seen many people break up and go bak with eachother and stuff so I would think he still likes you.If he always says he loves you and you love him, how bout you ask him back out.
This may seem stupid, but this is meaning dont believe your friend because she may have a crush on him. But shes never said that.

where I would go from here.
Ask the person you love out
or at least say if you were to ask him out would he say yes. He may say he doesnt kno but that mostly means yes. i know. ive done it a million of times.

Or you can believe your friend and forget about him but that may haunt you for the rest of your life so you may not want to go this way for sure unless you dont love him
but you do of course

hope this helps
Seth:)

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well see last year i had a HUGE crush on this guy and then i stopped liking him because i thought i could nva happen. Then at the end of the school year he started walked with me to my math class everyday and i started and still do talk to him online for hours and we talk about everything. then the other night he sleptover in my brothers room and right in front of my brother we were fliritng iwth each other unitl 3 in the morning then the next moring he tried to wake me up by thrwoing things at me and we chilled until his mom came to pick him up. but the problem is hes one of my brothers best firends..do you think he likes me? or that anything would happen between the two of becausehes my brothers friend?

o gosh...this is difficult.My bruthers friend met someone on vacation that lived in new york...yeah he went with us on vacation to floirda and stuff. But anyway he met this nice girl from new york with her brother throwin a football in tha pool at the disney world resort
well anyways they start likin each other and flirted with each other alot..and when the gurls bruther realized they were flirting with each other, he goes 'stop ive seen it enough stop.'
But they still flirted. The very next day we came bak from vacation. The moral of that is that the brother was over protective...BUT..i jus wanted you to hear my experience. Well then bak to you.
from the sounds of it he likes you.alot to be flirting with you right in front of your brother.

Every part of this is important.
First, i would say ask the person you have a crush on out unless you dont want to
instead
Tell him that you realized that you two wuz flirtin with each other alot. That may be a good way to start off if you dont want him to ask him out. Then start askin him stuff about if he thinks your brother was mad because he saw you two flirtin for a long time. But he might not think that it wusnt flirtin. Im pretty sure he'll admit it that it was.

This is your time to ask him out.. but if your nervous then you dont have to.
U can even say if he was to go out with you would he think your bruther would get mad because hes your brothers friend. It sounds like he likes you alot from flirting alllll night. And the thing of him wakin you up by throwin pillows and stuff at you also sounds like it. If he wasnt interested in you.. he probably wouldnt have woke you up.
So this is pretty much it.
If you ask him out then best of luck to ya

Seth:)

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I h8 my family my sister is a fish and my and she is 14 years old my mum always belives her and it so anonnoying she never harly believes lke when my sis woz smoking on da top of da waterfall and i told my mum and she asked laura and she denied it i need 2 calm down any ways and help lines coz i am so stressed.
HELP!!!!!!!!!
KIRSTY PS.MY DAD IS NOT ANONNING NEITHER IS MY BROTHER JUST MY SIS AND MUM

i can see this happenin to me now where my mom or my brother wont stop gettin on my nerves
i say tell your dad about all of this. tell him about your sister smokin and stuff but your mom wont believe you and its annoyin u very badly. im sure he'll do sumthin about it...or you can even talk to your brother if you trust him enough and he might feel the same way which makes it to even u and your brother can confront your mom about it. tell your dad or you can ask your mom why shes never believing you but she believes your sister all tha time. That will get it off your chest and she mite not get mad.

I would say tell your dad if its ok if you can or why your mom is acting that way about your sister.
or you can talk to your brother about it to relieve stress. But most of all if you talk to your brother first, your dad second, then confront your mom, it will relieve all of tha stress that you have about all of this because youll finally tell your mom whats wrong.

hope this helps
Seth:)

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Ok, I think we have all been here, but I've been really thinking about my past lately. Mostly my love life. My problem is this: my first girlfriend really had a vicelock on my life. We went out for a little over a year. We nearly got back together last summer, but someone I thought was a friend severly knocked that for a tailspin. Me and "C" ended on very bad terms. A nuclear bomb coulda done less damage. But I look back, and I realize, I cant escape the fact that I am NOT over her. I can't tell if I just feel guilty, cause it IS my fault, Im big enough to admit that, or if I do still care about her. I want to write her a letter to apoligize, but I wonder if it will fall on deaf ears. What should I do?

i see what you mean...ive felt like this before but i moved along. i didnt fell guilty because there was a girl that met sumbody sumwhere and i heard she wuz cheatin on me so i said thas it i aint gon have any gf until im old enough because girls are picky...but i wuz wrooong big time

so it doesnt look like you want to move on. so i would suggest send the letter but if it falls on deaf ears like you say, you can also call her. tell her you miss her and say your sorry about everything youve done bad to her or what she didnt like of you and you will change everything for her. ask her out and everything if you want because it never hurts to try. but if she never answers the call or doesnt reply to the letter and you want her veeery badly, then keep tryin. but if she doesnt feel the same way then i guess the only thing you can do left is move along but i kno it will be hard because ive experienced it.

hope this helps
seth:)

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I made the cheerleading squad this year and i love it.. but our coach said any girls that argued or talked about each other behind their baQs or caused drama were going to be kicked off the squad.. and there is a girl on the squad that is so mean to me.. she makes fun of me but says she is just pickin but it bothers me and she says rude stuff that makes me mad.. but i havent said anything to her about it because i'm afraid it will make her mad and start a fight but i'm rele tired of being treated like that... wut should i do?!?

from the sound of it, the coach never said to tell him wat is happening.

ok. you can call him or just meet him during cheerleading practice and tell him these words....
you kno he said about no backtalks or argues is allowed and you have to talk to him about this one person thats treating you badly...Tell him everything you want him to kno and see what he does from there because its not good telling him at all and u get treated like that from someone on tha squad.
Or
Tell your parents about this that your getting treated like this and tell them to do sumthing about it like talk to your coach and that you couldnt tell him about it because you cant cause drama or anything like that

hope this helps
Seth:)

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hi, one of the friends i hang round with is really moody. my other friend lashed out at her because she was like moody all the time. what can i do to stop her being moody all the time?!

theres not ALOT you can do
1.just let her be moody and still be her friend but your other friend might think your crazy!!
2.just tell her how you feel about her moody self that needs to stop cause its annoying.
3.just forget about her and ignore her and get new friends...but this mite be too mean
4. just try your best to ignore her mood but if she gets too moody and u cant take it then four is out of tha question.

hope this helps
Seth:)

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seth,
seth i need your help i go with this boy that i do not love and there is this other guy that i love and i do not want hurt this guys feelings and tell him i love some one else i need help seth will you help me



SAM

it will be hard not to hurt his feelings but for every choice, theres a consequence.
you can tell him that it isnt working out between you two and like the other person...the only problem in that situation is does the other person you love like you.Other than that its str8

or you can just ignore him for a while until he just doesnt like you anymore and it wont hurt his feelings as bad

or the worst is cheating on the one that u dont love but i think your smart enough to not do that

hope this helps
Seth:)

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i really wanna get into a good relationship with a guy but so far all of my relationships have just been flops. not a serious sexual relationship, thats not what i want im too young 4 that. but just the kissing and holding hands and cuddling. but so far nothing. im not ugly or anything im actually pretty popular and pretty. i know i might just have to wait for a relationship like i want to come along but its really hard. please give me good advice i can rate high thx 13/f

you seem desperate enough
ask sumone you love out and see what happens but you have to make sure you kno him
i would start off at this
meet sumone get really good friends or enough to where you can trust him... and ask him out and im pretty sure that if your popular and pretty like you say you are, then im sure he'll say yes.

but if u want to kiss and holds hands and cuddle,
then make sure u dont get someone thats shy because i use to be shy and it didnt work at all!

Hope this helps
Seth:)

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i kinda have a crush on two guys and both of them like me.. and i hang out with both of thema nd flirt with them. and my friends tld them both i like them and i feel like i'm leading them both on. they're two entirely different people too, but i'm attracted to both of them,eve though i don't realy know them. what should i do?

it sounds like u need to get to kno them better
1. u can rule out one of them and go with the other
2. just keep flirtin with them going along with it and see which one cares the most
3.just forget abt them and move along

3 isnt gon happen i kno
hope this helps
Seth:)

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I'm like a hugeeee tomboy. Like I wear long shorts and football jerseys. Im 14 and going into highschool, never had a boyfriend. Will i ever get a boyfriend. I mean, i dont wear makeup, and im big bulky and muscular. I want a bf, but i think maybe they are intimidated by me. Changing the way i am is NOT an option, i like who i am. PLEASE HELP.

its just how boys feel abt u and dont worry because everyone finds that one special person when they get senior in high school or when u get to college


Seth:)

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