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Problems in my Past affecting my future.
Ok, I think we have all been here, but I've been really thinking about my past lately. Mostly my love life. My problem is this: my first girlfriend really had a vicelock on my life. We went out for a little over a year. We nearly got back together last summer, but someone I thought was a friend severly knocked that for a tailspin. Me and "C" ended on very bad terms. A nuclear bomb coulda done less damage. But I look back, and I realize, I cant escape the fact that I am NOT over her. I can't tell if I just feel guilty, cause it IS my fault, Im big enough to admit that, or if I do still care about her. I want to write her a letter to apoligize, but I wonder if it will fall on deaf ears. What should I do?
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All I'm gonna say is that "ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THEN WORD"
Show her how much she means to you and then when you are on your own then tell her.
you can but try mate..... what eber happens go by our family motto...."whatever will be, will be!"
TC and I REALLY hope it works out for you and this time you appreciate her for what she is.... the girl you love....
TC
Mel
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First step will be to test your hypothesis is correct: without this "a priori" grounding, your angst will be almost as empty as your mind.
1. Get a nuclear bomb.
2. Detonate it.
If it did less damage than Madame C, come back, and I will have much to teach you.
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Really think about you feelings, and then decide whether it is worth the risk or not. You also need to accept the fact that it IS your fault, and you should let her know this regardless of whether you still like her or not, or you write her the letter or not.
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hey...what i would do is call her and talk to her for a long time until all your feelings are layed out and most are fixed near the end of the convo you should no wether its guilt (if it is it will be gone) or if its love (it will still be there) if its love let her no and just say i have like you since that summer and tell her bout how great she is and stuff
Hope I helped!
DntTurNMeAway
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i see what you mean...ive felt like this before but i moved along. i didnt fell guilty because there was a girl that met sumbody sumwhere and i heard she wuz cheatin on me so i said thas it i aint gon have any gf until im old enough because girls are picky...but i wuz wrooong big time
so it doesnt look like you want to move on. so i would suggest send the letter but if it falls on deaf ears like you say, you can also call her. tell her you miss her and say your sorry about everything youve done bad to her or what she didnt like of you and you will change everything for her. ask her out and everything if you want because it never hurts to try. but if she never answers the call or doesnt reply to the letter and you want her veeery badly, then keep tryin. but if she doesnt feel the same way then i guess the only thing you can do left is move along but i kno it will be hard because ive experienced it.
hope this helps
seth:)
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alright.I'm girl and i definatly know how to get her attention!all you have to do is give her the note and if she accepts it then good for you but if she denies it then all you have to do is go on like nothing happend!thats how i do it!after a while she will notice that your okay and shell wanna be with you again!works everytime!garantied!would you mind answering my questoin?
-kat-hope i helped you
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i think you should write this letter.. maybe read it a couple times and decide how YOU think she'll react.. then decide if you should give it too her.. which if you feel really guilty i think you should give it to her because it'll probably help get that off your shoulders.. maybe she'll even write you back or call you.. ♥ Dez
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aaawww, thats so sweet. hopefully she might think that too. writing a letter is a good idea you can say exactley what you want to say and how you feel. if the worse comes to the worse and your letter falls on deaf ears then you will know where you stand and you can try and move on. best of luck xxx
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Okay I'll call you "J" :). Since I know the situation very well, I unlike everyone else that responded to this think that it would be best for you to NOT write "C". I think the only reason is just right now miss having some one to be in a relationship with so you have convinced and forced yourself to still think you have feelings for her. I really think that she has moved on and you need to also. You are now going to start a whole new adventure. So take advantage of that. I know this isn't what you want to here, but yah. Just move on. :)
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I think it is a great idea. You can say what you feel without being sidetracked by interruption. If it doesn't get the response you are hoping for at least you tried. Maybe then you'll be able to move past it...if necessary. Best of luck with it. :)
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Oh. My. God. That is the cutest thing I've ever heard of. Please please please write a big wonderful letter to her (in your own handwriting, no computer!) and maybe even stick in a cute little poem (that you wrote yourself!). There are few guys left in this world like you.. you have to get your love baaaaaack!
Hope I helped.. fill me in on what happens!
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