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Hello Darlings,

My name is Fran... I would love to help you out with your dramas.

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k, i've had my industrial since July, and i was wondering if I could take it out, and if so, how long? its a 14g and i was wondering if i did take it out, if i could put regular 18g earrings to fill the holes? please help, i'll rate (link)
No.


okay, i dont like my friend that much any more and she is really sensitive... i dont want to be friends with her any more and she ALWAYS hangs around me. What do i do? Signed rebekah. (link)
Tell her to go get stuffed.


okay ive been dieting for the past like 3 dayz...ive been eating about 3 healthy meals a day and stop eating around 6. but today i dunno if i ruined it. I have an orange, an apple and a banana for breakfast, then for lunch i had a portion of turkey and a turkey sandwich with wheat bread, and then for dinner i had a bowl of chicken soup..But inbetween the meals i had another orange, a boiled egg, another apple, and another banana, and a bite of a pickle... it sounds like alot but it was through out the whole day..is this gunna affect my diet because i kinda over did eating the fruits?? thanks! (link)
If you didn't have that bite of a pickle you'd be fine, but now you are totally stuffed. Start again.


ok... i dye my hair blonde. my natural color is a dark blonde-light brown. But when you dye your hair it grows back darker. Now my roots come back really dark so it's hard to get them to match the rest of my hair which is light blonde. I've been to hair places but it usually has a tint of orange to it. does anyone else dye their hair and know what im talking about? what do you do about it? what should i do about it? (link)
You need to accept the fact that you will never be a natural blonde, and therefore, will never LOOK like a natural blonde.


any quick tips for getting my dogs to go to the bathroom outside?? or is it true, you cant teach an old dog new tricks? (link)
Leave your dogs outside.


my garbage cans do not fit under my sink in the kitchen, so we leave them to the side. What are some good things tht I can do to them to 'hide' them, because they look really ugly just standing out in the open. I want to make them look nicer. Thanks! (link)
Buy a bin that looks nice, or leave your bin outside, and when you need to put rubbish in it you can get some excersise by going outside.


I am a 14 year old boy who will get a caniche toy poodle in less than two months and I am very, very happy about it but there is a problem. Waiting is killing me. Those two months seem like eternity for me. What do I do to make me feel like the time is going faster. Hope you know what I mean.
Any advice will be appreciated. (link)
I have a caniche toy poodle, want me to send it to you? Then you won't have to wait so long.


I am having my 17th birthday party in like a week or so and I was wondering if anyone had any good ideas for games, thing to do, etc. Here are something that might help I want the party theme to be pink and silver and the guys can wear red and grey, I have a pool table, big living room. Any ideas will help or you can tell me something about one of your good partys and I can get an idea from that? thanks and there is another problem how can I tell my mom to stay upstairs since guys are going to be there I don't know if she will trust me and I don't want her to be there cause I mean I am going to be 17 she should be able to trust me and I know that everyone will feel really uncomfortable if my mom keeps watching or checking up on us so what can I say to her ? Help and if u have any other idea, anything for a good party tell me please thanks again. (link)
Don't have your party at your house. Go to a park or a deserted building and get drunk.


I've been having these visions in my sleep that it's going to become the end of the world by next Friday. I wake up in a cold sweat and see pink gay bunnys everywhere. Then all the sudden the damn rabbits start making out with my pillow. Then the frisky lil things take out bb guns and start shooting my TV. My house then catches on fire, causing the next house to burn up too (some how, i don't know how, though). ...and so on. Then the whole US is on fire. Our president, bush, thinks we're getting bombed by iraq so we go to another deadly war. Then china launches a gigantic nuclear fusion for the hell of it, and the world blows up.
But some how I manage to survive bc/ i can breathe in outter space. Then, I rule the universe! Muhahahaha



What should I do about these dreadful nightmares?


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I had the same dream.


I'm very overshadowed by my best friend. She's a very flirtatious, outgoing, redheaded vixen and everyone wants to be friends with her. Now, I don't mind it so much, I'm happy that she is well liked by people, but it's the fact that I seem to be getting less and less attention from her every time she meets somebody new. Especially guys. Every guy she meets has had a crush on her. (Except, thankfully, my CURRENT boyfriend...note that I said CURRENT..ex-boyfriends are another story) And often times she has crushes on them, but she still has to complain about them liking her. She seems to treat me like a child and she's the "All-knowing-one", especially when it comes to relationships, and it's really starting to piss me off! She steals my jokes and claims them as her own OFTEN and she says that I'm a bad friend because I once decided to stay with my boyfriend instead of going to hang out with her, while she has ditched me many a time to hang out with guys. (I can think of two instances from just last week.) I'm really bothered by her, yet I remain her friend and most of the time I really don't know why. And I want to talk to her about this, but I've tried before and she always apologizes and then forgets about it two days later.

And when it's just her and I things are fine! We have a great time and everyone's happy and once again I've become the comedian between the two of us, (material she later steals from me to use in front of her flirting victims), but when it comes to boys I'm completly ignored and she's off in the corner creating some sort of drama. It's weird for me, because before I befriended her I was always the center of attention among the group. I was the loud, funny, loving one who everyone wanted to give hugs because I would gladly dish them out. And now it seems like nobody has any time for me because they all want to be with her. Like she's taken all of my friends, but still claims that I'm her best one.

What should I do? I know the most logical thing would be to stop being friends with her, but we've been together for so long and we have most of our friends in common with each other, so there really would be no way to avoid hanging out with her. (link)
You need to find some ugly friends so that you will get the attention and they won't.


My boyfriend and I have been together since the summer, I'm 15 and he's 16. He has mentioned the holidays coming up and he really wants to get me something. I never even thought about it because I didn't even know we got to the stage in our relationship where we buy eachother things. Now, I have no idea what to get him. We haven't been together for that long and I'm worried whatever I get him he won't like. How do I make something sentimental, without looking cheap or stupid and how do I buy something for a 16 year old boy? (link)
Get him a CD.


ok well ive been going out with this guy for a while..(im 15 and hes 17). weve talked about sex and we both really want to do it. any advice on how to prepare or anything else? thank you! (link)
You are too young to be doing that sort of thing. It's illegal you know.


ok i have this friend... and she and used to have looads of fun together and she was someone i could act silly with ya know? but on halloween i asked her if she wanted to hang out and she said she couldnt because she had to "pass out candy" then later i found out that AFTER i asked her, her other friend asked her to hang out and she said yes... hmm a little suspicious? so i got over that but then last tuesday (the tuesday b4 thanxgiving) i asked her if she wanted to go see a movie on wednesday at like 2:30ish.. and she said that her dad couldnt take us or pick us up and neither could her mom... so i was like ok whatever i didnt really care.. but then the next day (wednesday) she said she was going bowling at 2:30! so i was lke well how are you getting there? and shes like oo my dads taking me and then my moms bringing me home at 4... whats up with that??? yea i forgave her once (is that correct grammar?) and now she ditches me again?? i dont think so... what should i do? is she a real friend?? and dont say "well try talking to her" because i tried that and she made up all these stupid excuses... i mean i want to be her friend but not if she treats me like this... any suggestions?
-help! (link)
Maybe she doesn't like you.


Ok I want to get a cellphone and I can get one for 20 dollers ( a flip phone ) but thats not the problem the service is. Like its expensive and crap. And we have to pay rent and bills so I dont know how we're or I am gunna be pay for the bill. Do you guys have any suggestions or any servies like cingular or something that has cheap plans. Thanks. (link)
Go pre-paid, you can pay like $15 a month


ok im not quite sure if i have an eating disorder or not, or if im in the first stages of it. My friends are constantly telling me how im too skinny and need to eat more, but my mom tells me its fine if i diet and w/e. i hate eating, especially around other people, and when i do eat then it makes me feel sick and fat. but sometimes i just go on these binges and eat a ton. is it normal, or could i be in the early stages of an eating disorder? (link)
Hot girls eat burgers. Eat a burger. If you can't because it makes you feel sick, go to the doctor.


heyy, i started guitar a few months ago and im havin sum truble gettin the really fast, like quarter knotes and 1/2 quarter knotes down i just cant get my hand to go that fast! lol any1 hav any addvice?? (link)
It's called practicing.


I have this big problem with friends. I can make them easily but I just can't stick with them. I don't even know if my current friends consider me their friends.

I thought in junior high I'd start over and make new friends.Well, it turns out I made a lot of friends. I don't know if they still think of me as their friends anymore though. I hang out with them and talk to them a lot the first few weeks. Then, after awhile they start talking about people from their old schools. I never know what to say so I just say a few words. After awhile, I stop saying stuff to them and just stop hanging out with them. Then I start hanging out with them again. They don't talk to me anymore. It's like I'm just a tag-a-long. There's this thing called lunch club. All the people with D's or F's go there at lunchtime Wednesday through Friday. This makes it so I can't hang out with any of my friends. Now I sort of wish I were in lunch club. Err. I had to have a change of schedule. Well, I had made some friends in those classes. Now I'm in classes where I hate everyone and they hate me too so I just act mean to them. I just started to hang out in the library at lunch so that nobody could hang out with me. It's not like anyone cares about me anyways. It sucks. That's why I hate school now.

Also, I had a problem like this in elementary when the kids started ignoring me. My old friends from elementary go to a different school and I haven't talked to them in a long time. I don't know if I should start talking to them or what. They'll probably be in my school in high school though....

Could someone help me? (link)
Maybe the ignore you because you let yourself be ignored, just go crazy and make everyone look at you. Wear a cat suit.


Yeah, I think everyone knows about Daniel, and I have a question bout him...how do i deal with it? I mean I like him a lot, but how do i get to know him better? Like, I try to talk to him, but he doesn't carry on a conversation with me or anything. I dunno...what should i do? (link)
Who the hell is Daniel?


Ok I'm addicted to rice!! All I eat is rice, I don't know how to get out of this rut! I won't eat all day long and then come home from school and pig out of a huge bowl of rice! It's to the point where I just eat it all and barely taste it, I want to get out of this habit! Any tips?? I have tried to cut it out cold turkey I will last about a week and then cave and pig out. (link)
Be thankful you have any rice. A lot of people are starving and can't even get to a bowl of rice.


Darrel, this guy I like, likes me back. Except...he's black, and I'm white. And my mom has already told me that she wouldn't support me if I were to date a black guy. Not because she's racist, but because of the "problems" it causes, and everyone will look at you differently. But she isn't going to forbid me from doing it, because she knows that I have to do what's right for me, not for her. And anyway, I think that the things that go along with dating a black person kind of are problems - other black guys will look at you and think, oh, she's into black guys, and other white people will look at you differently, and if they don't know Darrel they won't know what a sweet, funny, smart guy he is, and how he wouldn't ever get mixed up in the wrong crowd. But I think I might really like him. And it's wrong not to date someone just because they're black - that's racism! I guess what I'm trying to say is, I need some comfort and someone telling me what the right thing to do is, lol! Sorry about the long story, but I rate! (Oh, and I'm 14/f, by the way.) (link)
Your mum is totally a racist, and so are you. If you didn't care about him being black you'd already be dating him. Racists.




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