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I think I'm a very loving person. I like helping and teaching people. I'm 13, my name is Elaine. N' thts it

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i got my tongue pierced saturday on vacation. the swelling has pretty much completely gone down and i'm pretty anxious to get the long bar out. the guy that pierced me said if i try to change the bar myself, wait about a month bc its hard for some ppl to find the hole to put a new bar in, but that if i go somewhere to get it changed i only have to wait 1-2 weeks. i think i'd be fine to change it sometime next week but is it really difficult to change it yourself the first time? would i be better off to go to a pro to do it for me? if i do it myself, is it easier to go in through the top or bottom? any advice would be great!

ok well i have 1 n i think its easier to do it yourself but wen you take the 1 you already have out make sure tht w/ 2 fingers u hold the hole in between so you can find it later.n its easier to start from the top. k. hope this helps

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i need good songs for my ipod.
i like good rap, rock, some country & alternative

i'm looking for good songs to jam out to haha.
& they can be old, i just forgot about all of the songs that were really good but i haven't heard in awhile so i forgott!

any good ones?

i really like tokio hotel so...

... monsoon by tokio hotel
dont jump by tokio hotel
by your side by tokio hotel
1000 oceans by tokio hotel
Break away by tokio hotel
black by tokio hotel
ready,set, go! by tokio hotel


grim goodbye by the red jumpsuit apparatus
in fate hands by trja
seventeen aint so sweet by trja

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So .. I'm 18 graduated this yeaar yada yada. I've had my period since sixth grade.

My cycle is so screwed up it's from like 30 - 45 days sometimes. My last period was 6/20 and I still haven't gotten it.

I'm not pregnant or anything, and I'm not taking birth control because I dont want to (I'm not having sex right now anyways)

Thats not my point -- I'm just wondering why my cycle is so long and always changes so drastically?

I dont have that much stress or anything either, so it's just confusing I guess.

Well. thts not normal but tht also happened to me and then I went to the doctor and then they said I had 2 choices I could either be on birth control or they would give me a shot on my thigh every 6 months I chose the shot it wasnt tht bad and now i get tht shot every 6 months dnt worry tht happens to every 1 in 10 girls. ur not the only 1

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I was always teased about my weight.
I've lost a lot of weight ever since but I still need to loose some and I'm tired of being FAT! r kinda fat! LOL

idk wat to say am i suppose to be answering my own ?

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hey i need your help.this is going to be kind of long.but here i go:
So i met this girl, emily, ok at a picnic, our parents are family friends. Emily is 2 years older than me but we became friends right away.
She also has a brother, Adam, who is in the same grade as me, 9th. Soo i got her number and adams email on the day of the picnic.Soo me and emily talked on the phone everday and we were so close. I also talked to Adam online every once in a while. We were so bored online one day when he asked me to call him. So i agreed and i did.We saved each others numbers and text meseged each other and over time we became pretty good friends.Emily did not know about any of this; especially because she would be soo angry because in the picnic, when i would talk to him, she would be pissed.Soooo time went by and i saw her a lot, and i saw him occasionally when i'd go over her house. Last week he called me, and he asked me out. I told him i wasnt sure and id think about it. I thought about it for a few days and i called him back. I told him we can try it, but if it doesnt work we would just be best friends again. Soo about 2 days after that he traveled with his family on vacation. We email each other occasionally but im going there in 2 days so i will be able to see them. But here is my problem: today, i was talking to emily online, and she was being very mean and cold. When i told her i mssed her she'd say things like: oh is that why you dont send me messages and you send mssgs to other people?. I was soo scared..that she had found out something about me and adam. She kept asking me if i wanted to tel her something..and i kept saying no.
I mean she would be really angry if she found out. But, i mean me and adam arent officially going out, soo i can keep playing stupid and in the end when she tells me ill just say that were just friends..is that ok u think? plz give me good advice im really scared rigth now, and if you were in my position wat would you do.thanks soooo much hun

if emily was really your frend then she would totally understand but tht was something you should have told her like way in the biggening but now you jst made everything more difficult o well you have to tell her as soon as possible because if you dont then the problem will jst keep growing

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ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now. but there have been people telling me he cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend. and i do know that his ex-girlfriend still really likes him. what do you think i should do?




-kelly

never ever ever break up with sum1 based on a rumor tht you heard about always tlk things out first then based on wat you find out its always your decisiion

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to make things easier the guy i like will be - j and his friends will be a

my two friends met last year at a party i had. i told her that i liked j and i kinda liked a so she walked up the j and was like hey want to make out. and they made out and i cried. i am still friends with her but still mad at her because she knew i liked him. and just last week i told her i like him. and that friday she made out with him again) i have a right to be extremely mad at her right? should i trust her agian?

xoxo thanks xoxo

if i were you i wouldnt be tht persons frend because if they went tht low to hurt me then they arent my real frend and they deserve to rott in hell for wat they did

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how do you know if a girl like you?

well it all depends but mainly if she seems like she doesnt like you then she really likes you.

if the tries to stay as far away from you as possible she might like you

or if she ever avoids you at any cost she might like you.

it all depends on the kind of person she is

if shes a shy quiet person she would do those up there
if shes more dramatic and self confident then she'll be more like the 1 tht "CUX" is saying

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I'm 13 and a girl. Okay so this guy asked me out and I like him a lot. But I said no because I don't want a boyfriend. (i'm dumb) But now he's going out with this other girl and I can't flirt with him anymore.. And i like hugging people A LOT. But I can't hug him anymore either! And i always tell people that I love them.. but now I can't do that, either! They're always together and it makes me so sad because HE DOESN'T EVEN LIKE HER! he said he loves me but he wants a girlfriend. I'm making him sound like a jerk but he is awesome and fantastic! At his birthday party, I WENT THERE TO SEE HIM! but I didn't get to talk to him because he seemed to try to avoid me (i guess he thought he might flirt and get into trouble)


What do I do?

Signed,
Confused

well you should tell him or its probably jst better to right a note r sumthing or email. n tell him tht u were stupid n u would really like to be going out w/ him. then if he really likes you over tht other girl then things should fall into place

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kay so theres this girl, i thought she was my bff.........but then i think she kinda changed over the summer. and then she tells me stuff, and i believed her, and then she says shes lieing. but now i dont know if its true or not and im scared about her now

sorry for asking for more personal ?s but wat excacly did she tell you. sorry n if you dont wanna answer my ? then thts ok but u can trust me

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My whole life, so far anyways, has been one, big, miserable hell. I'm going to be 19 in September and I don't feel like I can trust anybody. I've been told I'm pretty even beautiful, but I am not popular. Everybody makes fun of me, all throughout school they've made fun of me. My friends make fun of me, my family makes fun of me, and they do it in front of people who just met me which gives them a bad impression of me. I feel like everyone hates me because of some of the stuff they say. Everyone talks down to me when I say how I feel and I just hate it! Everyone seems to want to know how you feel and then when you tell them, they yell at you! I hate my life, and I hate being alive. No one would miss me if I was dead, so why does God keep me alive?

I understand I'm only 13 n i unerstand but in my point of view everyone is alive for a reason so dont say tht.
I'll pray for you n please dont loose faith or trust in yourself
, Elaine

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are tampons suppose to hurt alot when you take them out? i use tampax pearl and i used a light one and i took it out after like 5 or 6 hours and it hurt to get out. it did have blood on it but how do you know when you're positive its fully absorbed?

If it hurts every time wen you take it out.I start wondering if you've had sex recently because you could be pregnant

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My tampon is stuck.
and i put another one up there.
and now it hurts.
what should i do.

you need to go to the doctor immediatley to get it removed dont wait any longer tht could get all infected n stuff

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So I have a small mouth but The guy I'm planning on giving a blow job to has a HUGE penis Have any advice on how to give a goood blow job with my little mouth ! ?
helllllllp ;)

I would consider practricing tht usually increases the mouth size

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Im 18/f and my boyfriend is 21/m we have been dating for about 6 months are up until recently it never hurt when we had sex. I've been noticing if we have sex more than like twice a day its like a burning sensation and i tense up and we have to stop because it hurts so bad. This has never happened before. Is it possible that each time we have sex he's tearing something? The burning sensation is like at the bottom of the "hole" is there something wrong with me? Why all of a sudden is it happening now? Hes not very big either, so i have no idea what it could be :( (We were both tested and clean)

Thanks a bunch
I rate high!

if you are having sex more than 1 time a day thts probably the problem. you should also be testing for pregnancy very often because tht could also be it.

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Just out of curiosity: is anal sex supposed to be pleasurable for girls? or is it more something you do to make the guy happy?

Most couples dont like it but its usually more pleasureable for the guy than the girl.

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what are some rockish punk bands like sum41,blink 182,and the offspring? they can be old or new, thanks !

tokio hotel
the red jumpsuit apparatus
escape the fate
those r pretty good

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This may be long, so in advance, thank you for reading. :)

17/f

My best friend Sam has been my best friend for about 4 or 5 years. We've known eachother longer, but we weren't always best friends, but yeah.. I'm very close with her. A few months ago, she did something so unforgivable, I guranteeeeeeee you can't even imagine it. It was very shocking, to know that she turned on me & another close friend. Anyway, being the forgiving person I was and not into causing drama, I quickly forgave her, and never told her how I felt. I'm not very good at expressing how I feel. So, I just tried to move on. Well, that happened a few months ago, and just about in the middle of June I was over it. My biggest problem with her, is she is a huge liar. She doesn't have many friends. Actually, she has two. Me and one other girl. (who i can't stand!) Anyway, before that huge unforgivable thing she did, she was lying to me a lot before that too, like I knew it, but I was never positive so I couldn't call her out on it.. you know what I mean? So, after she did that really bad thing, I did tell her, if you continue to lie to me, then we can't be friends. Well, things seem to get a little better, she still told an occasional lie, but it got a lot better. So, then in the beginning of june, she called me like nonstop, wanted to hang out 24/7 and I was surprised because she isn't usually like that. Well, I found out she was being like that because her other friend was away on vacation. That didn't necessarily make me feel good.. she never hardly calls me, inless I ask her too or something, or sometimes she will.. we text a lot but, I don't know. If i want to have a conversation with her, I have to text her. Then when I saw her somewhere the other day, she pretty much ignored me. I don't know why shes doing this to me, when she was wrong before (even though i don't hold that big mistake against her so much anymore..) and she is still being a bad friend! I have a ton of more friends, and I can't even include her anymore because they all hate her. It's really irritating! And the people she does hang out with, are her sisters friends, who are going to college next year, they are not even her friends! And then yesterday, after this big party, I had some things i wanted to tell her, and i was like oh call me, and she was like, oh ok well i'm actually going to bed right now, I'm so tired. So I went up to this place where everyone is hanging out it seems, and THERE SHE WAS. her lying is getting so annoying! & then whenever she comes over, she leaves at 9:00, she won't ever sleep over or anything. its really weird. & its not like i'm boring or something, she never wants to do what i suggest! & i ask her what she wants to do, and she'll be like "i don't know"

is this friendship even worth the time? should i just end it? she is my best friend, not just a friend.. so that makes it harder. i really don't know what to do.

Well, I totally understand wat you're going through but you really should end tht relationship because tht happened to me once too. and i was really hurt afterfarwd our situation is very diffrent but also very similar tht realtionship will bring you no good adn im sure in the long run you're going to be hurt. Sorry!

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