|
is this friendship worth it?
This may be long, so in advance, thank you for reading. :)
17/f
My best friend Sam has been my best friend for about 4 or 5 years. We've known eachother longer, but we weren't always best friends, but yeah.. I'm very close with her. A few months ago, she did something so unforgivable, I guranteeeeeeee you can't even imagine it. It was very shocking, to know that she turned on me & another close friend. Anyway, being the forgiving person I was and not into causing drama, I quickly forgave her, and never told her how I felt. I'm not very good at expressing how I feel. So, I just tried to move on. Well, that happened a few months ago, and just about in the middle of June I was over it. My biggest problem with her, is she is a huge liar. She doesn't have many friends. Actually, she has two. Me and one other girl. (who i can't stand!) Anyway, before that huge unforgivable thing she did, she was lying to me a lot before that too, like I knew it, but I was never positive so I couldn't call her out on it.. you know what I mean? So, after she did that really bad thing, I did tell her, if you continue to lie to me, then we can't be friends. Well, things seem to get a little better, she still told an occasional lie, but it got a lot better. So, then in the beginning of june, she called me like nonstop, wanted to hang out 24/7 and I was surprised because she isn't usually like that. Well, I found out she was being like that because her other friend was away on vacation. That didn't necessarily make me feel good.. she never hardly calls me, inless I ask her too or something, or sometimes she will.. we text a lot but, I don't know. If i want to have a conversation with her, I have to text her. Then when I saw her somewhere the other day, she pretty much ignored me. I don't know why shes doing this to me, when she was wrong before (even though i don't hold that big mistake against her so much anymore..) and she is still being a bad friend! I have a ton of more friends, and I can't even include her anymore because they all hate her. It's really irritating! And the people she does hang out with, are her sisters friends, who are going to college next year, they are not even her friends! And then yesterday, after this big party, I had some things i wanted to tell her, and i was like oh call me, and she was like, oh ok well i'm actually going to bed right now, I'm so tired. So I went up to this place where everyone is hanging out it seems, and THERE SHE WAS. her lying is getting so annoying! & then whenever she comes over, she leaves at 9:00, she won't ever sleep over or anything. its really weird. & its not like i'm boring or something, she never wants to do what i suggest! & i ask her what she wants to do, and she'll be like "i don't know"
is this friendship even worth the time? should i just end it? she is my best friend, not just a friend.. so that makes it harder. i really don't know what to do.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
My ex friend was the exact same way no one liked her so she would hang with me and i really didnt mind then i learned she was talking about me behind my back to my best friend about how i couldnt keep a secret which i can! That pushed me over board so i am not her friend anymore. I suggest you do the same thing because she isnt a true friend you have a lot of others friends so dont worry. Maybe she will even learn how to treat a friend. Without my other friend i am happier. I hope this helps!
]
Well, I totally understand wat you're going through but you really should end tht relationship because tht happened to me once too. and i was really hurt afterfarwd our situation is very diffrent but also very similar tht realtionship will bring you no good adn im sure in the long run you're going to be hurt. Sorry!
]
More Questions: |