Hey Guys!
My Name is Dan, i'm 23 from Australia!
I'm a passionate gamer! Love watching The Walking Dead!
Always happy to help you guys!
Feel free to ask me anything :)
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Why do guy friend writes a million of kisses end of the text? Been friends for year. Good joking lad. He winds me a lot. He can be flirty but I can't tell whether he's being flirty or joking around. We don't text much but then we work together. Any suggestions, guys?!
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Just continue to see how it goes for now. If he's not made anything obvious then don't question it yet. Just be yourself and pay attention to how he acts around you.
:)
Hope this helps somehow!
-DanSkittles13
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I work with this guy I like once a week and he seems to like me too. He's always teasing me about liking this other guy I talk to at work, poking me and looking at me. Even my boss pointed it out that he thinks he likes me. Long story short but he has a girlfriend that moved to the states and she called him today while he was at work and I felt stupid because we've been flirting a lot lately at work and I put a little effort into my appearance every Wednesday. Should I just give up? or should I just go with the flow and see what happens?
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It's a tricky one.
I mean he shouldn't be leading you on when he has a girlfriend already. But also love starts in some tricky situations, if you both decide at zome stage that you want to give it a try then honestly as long as he is willing to face up to his current girlfriend and be honest with her. Then maybe there could be something. But if hes going to keep you a secret and still string along his current girlfriend then that's where you will need to put your foot down.
All in all, just go with the flow and be yourself.
Don't over dress to impress him (unless you really want to) but he should like you the way you are :)
Hope this helps in some way!
-DanSkittles13
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I'm 15, almost 16, female in 10th grade. I want to be in a relationship really bad, but I keep seeming to have problems with this. I had 1 boyfriend in the past but broke up with him in a week, I was scared to commit. Every time I get close to a guy (not physically) I suddenly freak out and avoid them. I always seem to find flaws in every guy as if it helps convince me why I shouldn't date them. I want to be in a relationship but I'm scared to commit and I think I'm scared to fall in love. How do I stop that? (link)
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Hey there!
Don't be afraid to fall in love. It's only natural to feel certain ways about relationships, none of us would be human if we didn't have any reactions to things, just take it slow. Sometimes love & commitment can take time to adjust. Just be patient you're young and still experiencing different feelings growing up.
I'm not saying that you're not ready, but soon you'll feel more confident in how you feel about love and commitment. It took me a while too. It's natural. Don't stress about it.
I hope this helps!
Don't hesitate to ask for more advice!
-Danskittles13.
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Hi Dan,
Remember me? I sent you a couple questions last week about being lonely and disconnected and a whole lot of other issues I've been having......
Anyways, I thought I would introduce myself...my online name is evm987 (I don't think you see that when I ask a question...) and my actual name is Esther. My online name doesn't really say much about me...e for Esther, vm are my other initials, 98 stands for 1998, my birth year, and 7 just happens to be my favourite number (cliche I know, but it's been my favourite since I was six, so...)
Wow...your story about trust issues is really complex and sad...my issues don't really have a story behind them...honestly I don't really have any idea why I have trust issues...actually I have an idea...I think there is a possibility I might have social anxiety, because I have read about it and the symptoms, and a lot of it sounds like me...
other than that, I have no explanation for trust issues. I have had them for as long as I can remember. Although there was one time I tried to get past them. I was on a church Youth Retreat, in a small group and we were having a pretty deep discussion. I looked around the group, considering whether or not I trusted the people there enough to say what was on my mind, and I decided it was safe enough to say something kind of personal. Not twenty minutes later, I was in a room with a bigger group, and the person from my small group I trusted the most started telling the people about what I had revealed, making fun of me and obviously unaware that I was in the room. That incident really hurt me, and I'm pretty sure it didn't help me in getting over trust issues at all. It's not like what I said was so personal that people knowing was so bad, but the issue was that I chose to trust him and then he went and made fun of me "behind my back" even though I was right there! This is about a year ago now, and I am still sort of kind of friends with the guy, but it took a really long time after that incident before I could talk to him normally again....
Anyways that's not what I was here for...I am still just so lonely. It is starting to bother me a lot. The thing is, I'm not lonely all the time. During the day I'm fine. Well not quite fine, but I am mostly functional and I can talk to people and do my everyday tasks. I still feel like I am in a cloud of emotions, and I find it very difficult to get any homework done. To any onlookers, I am fine. But in the evening, pretty regularly, the loneliness (I don't even know if it is actually loneliness or just a wave of emotion that my brain doesn't know how to handle) hits me hard. I start crying, often with no real trigger, and I can't really function. This means that again my homework can't get done. I will cry for quite a while, but every time someone comes into the room, I stop and wipe my face so they won't notice, and the instant they leave I will start crying again because they didn't notice.
I don't know what is going on with me there is just so much in my head and I feel like I could talk for hours and not get out everything that I want to say.
Last night the loneliness hit so hard, but on Sundays I am not allowed to use the computer, so I tried to use my kobo ereader( which has internet capabilities) in my bedroom to send you a message, but it wasn't working, and so after a couple tries I gave up, and I was so frustrated! I felt like I wanted to bite something! Not like an apple...but you know how dogs have toys that they can just clamp their jaws around? that's what I wanted....but the only things meant to go in human mouths are food, and clamping my jaws around food would mean taking a bite out of it, which was not what I wanted, so I ended up biting my arm...that sounds really bad...it wasn't that bad...I didn't break the skin or anything, its just that the feeling of clamping my jaw felt so good....But I don't understand where that urge came from! It was the most random thing! and if I had let myself, I could have caused some damage to my skin....
I am just so lonely, and during the day I don't think about the feelings that hit at night. I don't want to talk to anyone during the day because I forget how bad it can hit in the evening. In the evening I sometimes write emails to my friend, but I rarely send them for a couple reasons...1) I don't want to bother her, 2)when I write them they rarely make any sense, and she would probably be confused, and 3)I feel really weird facing her the next day, when I am feeling fine, but she is thinking about the email I sent at night and assuming I will still feel the way I described to her
I don't know how much sense I am making...it is evening and I am starting to feel it again...that's why I am here writing to you and not working on homework like I really should be...
Anyway, anything you say is appreciated...I am really enjoying the chance to share things about myself and get to know someone else a little bit...
Oh one more thing...I saw the guy that I (used to?) have a crush on today with his girlfriend...and I almost started crying in the hallway again. I need this to stop, because I can't cry at school! and I want to be happy for him and his girlfriend because I know logically they make a great couple, but my heart tells me no and every time I see them I get a little upset, and I am jealous of her even though I don't want to be, and I can't talk to him ....
actually the two of them came up to me and my friend the other day and asked me a question and I kind of froze and thankfully my friend(the one who I have confided in before) noticed and took over the conversation and I could turn around to my locker to keep myself from crying until they walked away...but I don't want that to happen! I want to be able to talk to both of them, because they are probably the two people outside of my small friend group that I was most comfortable talking to...but not anymore.....
okay enough of that...I'm going to try to do homework now...
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Hi Esther!
Wow.. I can't believe they did that.
That's a bit bellow the belt..
You say this happened a while ago. But just remember. It's what's happening now that counts.
You'll soon learn which people are worth trusting.
I really hope you don't let that memory bring you down anymore. I'd hate to see that happen.
Did you think about telling your friend about the problems you're feeling? You mentioned you felt more comfortable with a certain friend.
It quite upsets me to hear what happens at night time.
I wished there was something I could do for you to help you to stop with the crying.
Everyone deserves to be happy. That includes you.
You're no different. You matter just as much as everyone else. You seem quite mature for your age also.
Hey my story isn't important. I got through it.
This is you we need to through all about. If there is any help you need from me. I check my account through all everyday so please don't hesitate to message me.
I will be setting up an email address just for advicenators. I will let you know when this has been done.
Also dont let your exes get you down. I know it can be hard when you see them with someone else.
Keep smiling mate!
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Please why is my virgina too tiny that no finger can penetrate into it? (link)
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Adviceman49 I totally agree with him.
Contact your local doctor and make an appointment to talk to them.
I hope you get some answers!
-DanSkittles13
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My friend told my crush that I like him. What should i do? (link)
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Just act natural, don't be nervous or embarrassed, he knows now, that's great, at least there's no secrets.
Try talking to him, but talk normally like you did before he knew you liked him.
That's great news!
Let me know if he need more advice!
-DanSkittles13
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I am a student of a renowned university. my first year to be precise.. after a short period, I met a guy in his 3rd year.. to cut the long story short, we started dating..
Later I noticed that he comes to my hostel only on Friday nights, or Saturday.. Anytime we see each other in public, he does like he doesn't know me.. I don't know wat to do because I feel like he is just using me. anytime he comes to my hostel, late at night, he wakes me up while kissing me allover, we make our till dawn at times.. i
he has never acknowledged me as his girlfriend. we do talk at times, but lately it has been about us making out and I don't like it... what can I do to stop all this.. because I don't want my emotions to be toyed with
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Talk to him, tell him that you've noticed he's a bit secretive of you and that nobody wants to feel like a secret.
Ask him if he see's you as his girlfriend, tell him that you want to feel more involved and not just a stranger in public.
I understand this is a hard situation, just make sure you are calm about it or he may feel that you want it to be over.
If he cares for you he will stay in it for the long-run.
But just from what I've read I feel that he likes the intimacy between you guys a bit too much,
that;s where you need to be careful in drawing the line between caring about you and being in a relationship or being used for fun.
I hope this helps!
And let me know if you need more advice!
-DanSkittles13
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Thank you very much for your thoughtful answer. I really appreciate it, and I would like to tell you more...
I didn't mention in my question that I am also a very shy person, and I sort of have trust issues. It takes a lot for me to be able to talk to someone, even someone I know very well, about anything personal.
On that note, I don't really have anyone in my family I can talk to. I've got two younger brothers who just wouldn't understand, I can't really talk to my dad about anything personal, and I don't feel like I would be able to bring it up with my mom. That's probably mostly because of my shyness...which even to me seems kind of silly cuz she's my mom but...I would never be able to talk to her.
Also, I'm not great with words. I find it very difficult to find the right words to express myself in, so talking to anyone is difficult.
I do have a great, supportive group of friends, but part of the issue is that we are all very busy at this point. We are all in gr 12, finishing up high school, with a lot of things going on in our lives. Again, with my friends even I have trust issues, and I am kind of scared to talk to them. There is one (of my group of 4) friend who I have recently talked to(actually about the crush I had who started dating someone...), and she is the only one who I have been able to talk to about any of this emotional stuff I've been going through, and that was just about the crush...I would like to tell her about some more of the stuff that I described here, but there are two things holding me back. 1) I don't want to bother her; I don't want her to feel like I am just unloading all kinds of emotional baggage on her. and 2) I feel kind of bad to talk only to her, because in our group we are all best friends, so to confide in one and not the others kind of feels like I am making her my favourite if you know what I mean. It's just that it is really hard for me to talk about personal stuff, and I find it easier (although still very difficult) if I can talk to just one person....
I have a couple of hobbies. I love reading, but I have tons of homework, so I don't have a lot of time to read, and also I have basically run of books I want to read. I read way faster than my friends, so most of the good books they have read I have also already finished. I am sick of reading books that aren't very good, but I can't seem to find any good ones. I also love listening to music, but I don't have my own phone/laptop/Ipod/anything, and I am not allowed to listen to popular music or the radio(which doesn't even always have songs I want to hear)...I listen to the radio with headphones when I am in my room, and I get CDs from the library, but I rarely have time to spend in my room, so I don't get the chance to listen to music very often.
I have definitely tried writing stuff down. Sometimes it helps sometimes it doesn't...sometimes I don't even understand whatI am feeling, so I can't write it down because I can't describe it, or I just sit and think that I should write stuff down but I don't actually do it. Other times I have so many thoughts in my head that I try to write it down, but there is too much and I start but I don't nearly finish when my hand gets sore and I am starting to fall asleep.....
I don't even know what my purpose is in sending this to you. I guess I would appreciate more advice in where to go from here, because I really don't know. Your answer was helpful and made me think, but I would love it if you would be willing to give me more? I don't know what I am doing. Partly I am just procrastinating in sending you this because I should be working on homework but I really don't want to, so I thought I would respond to your response.
Please know that I am very grateful for the advice you gave me. It was very thoughtful and I appreciate you taking the time to write it. (link)
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Okay well firstly I didn't introduce myself.
My online name is DanSkittles13, so what you could probably get from that is my real name is Dan and I love skittles! (No. 13 being a favorite).
What is your name?
Just before I start I want you to know that you do not have to feel nervous/embarrassed or any bad feelings with me, i'm not here to judge and I am here for any support needed and any advice you need also.
I'm glad to hear you have a good group of friends that you can rely on, I understand that you mentioned you feel close with a certain one out of your 4 friends in your group. That's natural, it doesn't mean you like them any less as a friend, it just means you can warm to them easier and they've made a positive effect on you, and in saying that I'm not saying that your other friends are not positive, I'm just saying that you feel more comfortable with that one person.
I get the whole trust issues part as well,
Me and my family moved to Australia in 2007 after growing up in England for 14 years, we lived in a 3 bedroom town-house, after a few years my mother and father had drinking problems, and dad was seeing another woman and then left my mother. Mum went even further down-hill and my sister dealt with a lot of the backlash.
Mum then decided to move back to England, my sister wanted to go because she broke it off with her partner of 4 years and my brother was too young to be able to make his own decision, so he had to go also.
After mum left she never kept in contact and promised me on several occasions she'd call me.
I was left waiting by the phone every-time.
After that, I couldn't trust anyone because I thought they'd leave.
I went through a lot after they left, but I never turned to drugs and alcohol. Had to see psychologist's and take medicine for epilepsy I had developed from the traumatic experience.
I relied on so many people to help me, my friends and family..
Things are better now though, I've moved on from it and it taught me a huge lesson.
There are two kinds of secrets. The ones we keep from others and the ones we keep from ourselves.
So you don't need to hide everything, there are people that care about you, and want to help, including me, and I can more than guarantee that your friend will feel the same, if you want to tell her that you don't want to drag her down and feel like your dumping all of your problems onto her then I'm sure she will turn to you and say, "Don't be sorry, it's what I'm here for"
Radio these days is nice (mostly overplayed stuff) but still not bad, i'm not much of a ready myself but it's good you have a hobby you enjoy.
please feel free to contact me again, anything I can do to help just name it!
You do not need to keep thanking me also..
It's what im here for :)
Also don't feel that you're talking to someone who doesn't care, because I do.
Sometimes, the biggest secrets you can only tell a stranger.
-DanSkittles13
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(17, f)
I've been feeling disconnected from people and lonely for a while; even a little bit numb. It's not numb like I don't feel emotions, its more like I'm living in a cloud of emotions and everything else doesn't seem to matter. School, sleep, chores; I just can't make myself care. But relationship wise, I care a whole lot.
It has just been this way for a couple of weeks and I want it to stop!
I know that I need to care about school because I need to get good grades, but I just can't make myself care because I am floating in this cloud of emotion.
And I find myself delaying going to sleep, not because I'm not tired, but because I'm lonely. Almost every evening, generally sometime between 8 and 9:30, I get super lonely to the point that I cry, and I'll sit in front of the computer hoping that one of my friends will email me or that one of them will be available to chat, but they rarely are and then I just cry and I don't stop or go to bed until past 11. And I know that the next day I will be exhausted, but in the moment, I just don't think about going to bed.
I feel disconnected from my friends and I don't understand why...I am interacting with them now just as much as I ever have, but it suddenly doesn't feel like enough.
These feelings of floating in a cloud of emotion do have a specific beginning...I can pinpoint the exact moment. It was when my friend told me that my crush(which she didn't know about) of 3+ years was dating someone else. Ever since then I feel like I'm in a cloud....
I don't know how to fix it and I want to because I know this state isn't good for me...
Um...if anyone wants more information to answer the question, feel free to email me at 8pinkclouds98@gmail.com ...given my current state of mind, emails from anyone that are actually interested in me at all are very exciting to receive...so yeah.... (link)
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Hi there!
After reading this I can't help but feel really upset for you.
I can honestly say I have been in this same position. I've dealt with a lot of heartbreak over the years (i'm 23 yrs old) and it caused a lot of questionable behavior, I used to always separate myself from my friends and family, and I wished I could take the time back to fix it, it got me really down and I felt like I was slowly getting worse. I quit my job, moved out, put on a fake smile everyday.
But I had to get myself out of that, because life's too short to waste it being upset about things like this. I'm not saying out stories are the same because they're not. I don't want to see you go down the same path that I did.
Have you got any family members you feel really close to? Or someone you can trust with your life?
I feel it would be good to see a doctor also.
I got out of my rut from the support of my family. The helped me to see that life isn't all about letting things get you down and out for the count.
Do you have a certain hobby or interest?
My interest is music. I LOVE music, I'm defined by the music I love. That is another thing that got me out. My favorite bands made music that made so much sense, and I owe a lot to them.
Have you also tried writing stuff down?
Like a personal diary? To get your feelings and emotions down and let them out.
Take care and I hope to hear from you again, feel free to message me whenever!
-DanSkittles13
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I am a red head with blue eyes and was wondering why us gingers are turn offs for guys? All of my friends tell me I am pretty but guys seem to think different. Why??? (link)
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Don't be so hard on yourself, that's just some idiots opinion, you are not a turn off.
Just be more confident in yourself.
I'm sure you are beautiful :)
Hope this helps!
-Danksittles13
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Alright, I'm in my 20's and I'm having an extremely hard time meeting guys. Everytime I meet a guy I have an interest in, they shove me away and will never give me a chance, plus they turn out to be complete jerks. It's rather frustrating. On the other hand when guys approach me they end up stalking me on social media or harass me non-stop up to the point where I am completely suffocated. This may sound whiny, but SERIOUSLY what's going on? I meet jerk after jerk or extremely desperate ones. I'm extremely casual around guys because of all the nonsense I've dealt with. How does everyone meet guys? I've tried some sites and have gone out but don't seem to be meeting healthy men. Advice. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Where do you meet a caliber kind of guy? Thanks in advance.
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I guess there is no way to meet guys, it's all natural stuff. It all works like magic really (not trying to sound corny).
I do feel for you, but trust me, you will meet a few idiots before you meet the right guy, just remember.. You are only 20.. There's no rush :)
Just be yourself, be confident in yourself. You're worth a lot more than the jerks you get :)
I hope I could help in some way, feel free to get back to me!
-DanSkittles13
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I have never gotten along with my family. My dad died recently and I don't miss him or feel sad about it at all whatsoever. My mom is being crazy and is manipulating and threatening me in all different ways and I finally feel like I need to cut her out of my life completely. I am away at grad school. I know every family has its issues, but I don't know anyone my own age who doesn't have at least one parent in their life. I feel very alone. (link)
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Hey there,
I felt this was a perfect question for me to answer for you.
See my mother lives in the UK whilst I reside in Australia, she left when I was 17, to fend for myself. I don't talk to her anymore as it causes too much pain. I don't like keeping her out of my life but it's best for now.
She had a drinking problem, still does from what i've been told.
I haven't seen/heard from my old man in at least 7 years, could be dead. i'm not sure.
Have you tried confronting your mother?
Telling her that her behavior is very reckless?
She needs support, she could be acting out about the death of your father.
You're never alone, you can always talk to someone, even if its me, i;m always an open ear.
I hope you find this useful.
Get in touch!
-DanSkittles13
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Hi! Thank you for replying to my pervious question "should I tell her that I have a crush on her?"
I told her a few days ago that I have a crush on her...
I sent her message on Facebook
I feel like I can tell you anything, you're like my best friend! I want to tell you I have a crush on you.
She replied: Well I'm glad you've been honest. Who knows what happens in the future?!
And we still continue to talk everyday...
I'm nervous...I never had a girl that we both were interested in each other at the same time...
All I want to do is send her love lettters by mail! lol
What should I do from here?
This is new to me...I never had a serious relationship ...only been in love with my ex friend for 16 years...unrequited love. (link)
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Sorry! Got off for a while..
Well just keep talking to her as usual.
Don't tell her again and again, you don't want her to think you're needy.
Have some confidence in yourself.
If she likes you then that's a great sign.
I'm very pleased you was honest!
It takes a lot of guts to be honest about these things.
Keep it up and feel free to ask me any more questions :)
Good Luck!
- DanSkittles13
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I am a girl, currently in Grade 12, and I have had a crush on this one guy in my grade since halfway through first semester grade 9.
He is really cute, and he loves singing and history. He is really funny, but can also be quite serious. He tends to be quite loud in class(he is in no way shy), but he is so sweet and kind and honest that the teachers rarely get mad at him.
I am quite(extremely...) shy when in a group setting, but one on one I tend to open up a bit. However, I only ever see this guy in class, in choir, and when our two friend groups (occasionally) hang out together. I never have enough courage to go up to him...I'm so shy and I feel awkward in social settings
He is always hanging around with this one group of girls, but he would never date any of them, so I know that's not an issue. The problem is that he's always with them. I get along well with all of them, a couple are even sort of my friends, but it would be awkward for me to just join their group when they are talking or whatever. I have in the past, like if they are in my class and my regular friends aren't but its just a little awkward...anyways yeah I feel too awkward to get closer to him that way.
He jokes around a lot, and when we are in a small group of people together, he sometimes/often teases me more than the other people in the group. In class the other day, he came over to talk to me, and he asked me about why I had been late for class that morning. He has done similar things a number of times in the past.
Also, just to point out, he is straight. I know this for sure. The girls he hangs out with have been his friends for years, they are like sisters to him...
Another problem- I am scared to tell my friends I like him. I told them a couple years ago, but they laughed and told me we would make a really awkward couple (probably because I'm 5'9", and at the time he was super skinny and like 5'3", but he's grown since then). I would love to have their support, but we don't really talk about guys much, and I feel like I've been lying to them for years about this guy..not that I ever lied...I just didn't speak up...
Also, casual out-of-school meetings are difficult because he lives in a different city than I do, although we go to the same school (it's a private school). I can't just casually invite him to do something with me like randomly on a Saturday because he lives like a 45 minute drive away..
I guess what I want to know is: do I have any chance with him? and how do I got about getting that chance? (link)
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Well, this all makes sense, I see your issue!
Obviously you've heard the saying always be yourself, so just do that, you can never be wrong for who you are inside. We are all wired the same way, we all have feelings, we all laugh, smile, love, dislike and hurt. Nobody is perfect, nobody is a loser despite what people may say. I guess the point i'm trying to make is everyone is equal so you shouldn't worry about people being better or out of your league. We are all shy about something, especially when we meet someone new for the first time. I can be very shy at times! I'm 23 and still suffer the occasional shyness, so sometimes you ever grow out of it. Have you thought about hanging out after school if he lives so far away? That way he's in the same area that he has to get home from but just at a later time. Don't worry about what your friends say, if they laugh at you then clearly they don't understand what real feelings are, (please don't take offense to that).
I believe you have a chance, if you're honest to yourself about how you feel then you should totally believe in yourself :)! Just talk to him, be yourself around him, find common interest', music, games, whatever you're into. Good Luck! DanSkittles13, 23, AU
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So I'm 19/f and I have an amazing boyfriend. He is literally so amazing to me and loves me and I love him too. But throughout our relationship, which has lasted for almost a year now, I think about this other guy I used to like. He's been my friend for a few years now and a little over a year ago I started to like him. He was negative sometimes, and he did somethings that I didnt like but I still felt that there was this light in him and I thought about him all the time and just liked him so much. But I always thought that it wouldnt work out cause I didnt want to ruin my friendship with him and I didnt feel he was mature enough to be in a relationship. Then I met my now boyfriend and hes just been so amazing and surpasses my friend tenfold in everything. But there are times that I miss him so damn much. And that ive thought about being with him and how i just want to hangout with him again and talk to him more. Even tho we didnt even talk a whole lot even before I got with my boyfriend. I dont think he even likes me in that way at all. But sometimes I just cant shake thinking about him and missing him. I barely talk to him anymore now that im in a relationship cause my bf wouldnt feel comfortable with it and I dont think itd be right of me considering I still have feelings for him. But I do talk to him sometimes still on holidays and birthdays. Anyways I just feel bad, I cant tell my boyfriend at all. Not at all. But I have these feelings and I just dont know what to do. Im not going to leave my bf and im not going to tell him either. Ive lied to him too when hes asked me if ive ever had thoughts about another guy or if I ever feel unhappy in our relationship. And I just idk Im not sure what im asking. Maybe I just want to get this off my chest and have someone tell me what to do or something. I dont want to give up talking to my friend, i dont want to break up with my bf and I deff do not want to tell him. Am I a horrible person? I love my bf and I dont have these feelings all the time but sometimes I do and I just dont know what to to! Anyway sorry for the babbling, and thank you to whoever took the time to read this. Please help me! Tell me something, give me some advice! Thank you! (link)
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Hey there!
Im a newcomer to this website, so I hope I can help!
That's a sticky situation!
Firstly, before I start giving advice the first think I would like to say is do not blame yourself, do not be angry at yourself, we're all human, and we can't control out feelings, neither can we choose who we fall for.
If you feel this way, you should sit down with your boyfriend and talk to him, you should hold his hands and explain to him that you never want to hurt him and he means a lot to you, it wont be easy of course, but it's not fair on either of you to keep this going if you don't have feelings for him. It's kind of lying to him about your relationship.
Tell him how you've been feeling, and that its not his fault, you still care about him, and you're really sorry.
Or I could be wrong, these feelings could pass, if you are sure about your feelings and you love your boyfriend then you will make it work, you will work hard to follow your heart on how much he means to you, like I said you're not a bad person, you just need to work out how you feel, I understand that you need advice with this, it's a tricky situation. But nobody can tell you what to do. Its a decision that you need to make. I will be more than happy to listen to you and give you as much advice as possible. I hope in some way i've helped.
DanSkittles13, 23, AU.
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I 'm confused about my situation... I don't know what to think and I'll like to ask for someones opinion. I have a online crush...We've met on a support website, she was my listener on 7 cups of tea.com an anxiety and depression site. At the time I met her I was going through a break up and I needed someone to talk to. She was very helpful and a good adviser with my situation. Few weeks later we exchanged our Instagram and then later our facebook. One day I told my crush:
I am grateful that I've meet you. You understood me from the beginning and knew exactly what to say. I like that! Lol I love to talk...about anything! And if someone can keep up with my Gemini side it is a major plus! It is nice to share many things with someone who would listen and communicate. If we lived near each other I would totally ask you out lol
Her reply:
Me too. Haha well I am always here to talk, to share things, even when things aren't going so well.. I'm always here haha!! Well it's a shame I'm on the other side of the world!!
She lives in the UK...
When she sent me her reply I had to ask her what is her sexuality...
she said "Well, so far I've been In two relationships with guys. But I haven't met anyone who I know I want a future with. And I wouldn't mind if it was a guy or a girl, as long as they made me happy. Does that make sense?"
Although, she doesn't lable herself and she is finding more about herself...
We've been talking everyday since I sent her that complement. I asked her that we should video chat sometime and she was willing to face time asap.
She and I face time twice, I called her first and the next day she called me. There were alot of shy smiles and laughing. Giving each other complements and being kind to one another. We clicked very well, talked about anything that was on our mind. As of now we've been talking everyday.
I have no clue what are her intentions with me, as far as I know now we are just friends.
I really like her but I don't know what to think of this...
It's a shame that she lives in the UK. And btw she is 18.... i
I'm 28 year old lesbian moving on from my first love and ex best friend.
And my crush is aware of my past heart breaks...because I vented to her before we befriended on facebook.
Should I tell her that I like her or is she just being a kind friend?
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Hey there!
Be patient with me, i'm new to this!
I'm sorry about your past experiences, break-ups are always hard even if they are for the best.
I'm glad you seeked advice and help with your anxiety! Nobody should have to deal with that alone.
From her response to your message, she seems pretty happy with what you said about her and wishing she was close to you, and obviously noting that she would be happy with a male or female that could make her happy. She sounds pretty interested in my opinion, obviously the time difference sucks, my family live back in the UK, I live in AU.
And a long distance relationship can be hard, but if you are committed then you will make it work together.
Seeing people face to face is a great way of getting to read people, it sounds to me that it went well, if you're still talking to them then that's and amazing result. Be confident, she knows a lot of your past, if she didn't care she wouldn't still be here.
I hope I could help.
DanSkittles13, 23, AU.
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I'm 13 and I have a friend. She is really nice and I enjoy spending time with her, but she is completely obsessed with me. She follows me around everywhere and is constantly texting me. She is nice and all, but I need my space. Me and my best friend are trying to have a conversation, and she feels the need to know exactly what we are talking about, and in detail. She can't not know something about me and its starting to creep me out. She is always texting me. I know its quite mean, but sometimes I say that I have to go just to get away from her. I want to still be friends, but not that close that she basically stalks me. What should I do? She is also always touching me. She will grab onto my arm or hug me or whatever. This seems so weird to me. It may just be that I have bad personal space issues, but it really bugs me. (link)
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Hey!
I understand your issue, sometimes when a person finds a friend and they feel close to them they start obsessing, they learn about you and start making your interest' theirs too. So they like the same music as you, same food, same games etc.
If they follow you around a lot and feel like they're hanging off you should talk to them, avoid using words like, obsessive and clingy, you don't want them to feel like you're against them, try telling them that you feel that they are spending a lot of time with you and you don't want to start getting angry at each other because you see each other so much. Make sure you tell her you still want to be friends but she needs to know that you also need time for yourself.
I hope this helps in some way!
- DanSkittles, 23, AU.
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I met this guy at few months ago and the next morning he texted me, saying that he wanted to get dinner. So the next friday I invited him to my house which was empty because the rest of my family was out of town. After that we kept talking and hung out at my house one night and we did homework. However, he began being very unresponsive in texts so I assumed he was't interested in me, but he'll occasionally message me saying he wants to hang out soon, but never really making any plans. Like he'll text me late at night saying he's free then and I don't know what to do because I do kind of like him but I don't want to be lead off if he isn't actually interested. From your point of view does it seem like he actually likes me or is he just messing around. Because I think if he was completely uninterested then he wouldn't message me at all. (link)
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From what I've read it could be one of 2 things, and I dont want you to feel disheartened.
1. He is interested and he is really shy, if he wants to hang around with you then clearly there's something there.
Or
2.He doesn't know how he feels, I mean we've all been there right? We've all had feelings for someone and tomorrow it might feel different because we're unsure.
Just because he's unresponsive, doesn't mean hes not interested, he might just be shy or doesn't want to say the wrong thing, just don't feel like you're doing something wrong.
I hope in someway this helped, im a first timer and really want to help people.
I hope it works out!
- DanSkittles13, 23, AU.
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Ok me and my friends were talking about this cute guy when all of sudden a couple of boys come up to me and they say the boy over there thinks I'm cute and he likes me. So I walk over I didn't say anything because I was scared he didn't say anything either but he said I don't like her and he tried to run away but his friends wouldn't let him they keep saying that he liked me one of them said he had a girlfriend but I don't know. Do you think he likes me or nah? Or do you think they were messing with me? (link)
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Well, they would be pretty immature to be messing with you. Sometimes these things are pretty easy to tell from body language, and attitude. Or he could've actually said something about liking you, but you know young boys these days, I was the same, if I like a girl my friends would go tell her and make fun of me, and I would deny it. If he had a girlfriend then he should be being faithful to her.
Don't let it dishearten you though, there's someone out there for everyone :)
- DanSkittles, 23, AU.
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