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Scared of Love
I'm 15, almost 16, female in 10th grade. I want to be in a relationship really bad, but I keep seeming to have problems with this. I had 1 boyfriend in the past but broke up with him in a week, I was scared to commit. Every time I get close to a guy (not physically) I suddenly freak out and avoid them. I always seem to find flaws in every guy as if it helps convince me why I shouldn't date them. I want to be in a relationship but I'm scared to commit and I think I'm scared to fall in love. How do I stop that?
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Look, it is totally normal for you to feel this way. Once you get hurt, you feel like everybody is going to hurt you just like he did. My advice to you is to you is mainly to give them a chance because they might just surprise you. Everyone's different and you might get your heart a little broken before you find what your looking for.
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I was this way too in high school but it was because there REALLY wasnt any guys that i liked!! their were ones that were attractive but dumb, or smart and ugly, or just wanted to get into my pants without any commitment! i was having none of it as a teen and ended up not dating but still was open enough to have guy friends. What this did for me was enable me to speak to guys truthfully and honestly and allow me to not be afraid to communicate what i really thought because we were just friends! it was actually REALLY beneficial for me in the long run because i didnt see them "like that" see what im getting at?
not every guy has to be a potential date. Being friends with guys can help you understand how different types of guys operate (and they can be surprisingly simple creatures) ; )
If a guy asks you out and you dont know him that well then ask if you can be friends first and get to know each other. This will show you what their intentions are, you can get to know the REAL them and over time decide if they are dateable and then go from there!
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Hey there!
Don't be afraid to fall in love. It's only natural to feel certain ways about relationships, none of us would be human if we didn't have any reactions to things, just take it slow. Sometimes love & commitment can take time to adjust. Just be patient you're young and still experiencing different feelings growing up.
I'm not saying that you're not ready, but soon you'll feel more confident in how you feel about love and commitment. It took me a while too. It's natural. Don't stress about it.
I hope this helps!
Don't hesitate to ask for more advice!
-Danskittles13.
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