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a crush since forever
I am a girl, currently in Grade 12, and I have had a crush on this one guy in my grade since halfway through first semester grade 9.
He is really cute, and he loves singing and history. He is really funny, but can also be quite serious. He tends to be quite loud in class(he is in no way shy), but he is so sweet and kind and honest that the teachers rarely get mad at him.
I am quite(extremely...) shy when in a group setting, but one on one I tend to open up a bit. However, I only ever see this guy in class, in choir, and when our two friend groups (occasionally) hang out together. I never have enough courage to go up to him...I'm so shy and I feel awkward in social settings
He is always hanging around with this one group of girls, but he would never date any of them, so I know that's not an issue. The problem is that he's always with them. I get along well with all of them, a couple are even sort of my friends, but it would be awkward for me to just join their group when they are talking or whatever. I have in the past, like if they are in my class and my regular friends aren't but its just a little awkward...anyways yeah I feel too awkward to get closer to him that way.
He jokes around a lot, and when we are in a small group of people together, he sometimes/often teases me more than the other people in the group. In class the other day, he came over to talk to me, and he asked me about why I had been late for class that morning. He has done similar things a number of times in the past.
Also, just to point out, he is straight. I know this for sure. The girls he hangs out with have been his friends for years, they are like sisters to him...
Another problem- I am scared to tell my friends I like him. I told them a couple years ago, but they laughed and told me we would make a really awkward couple (probably because I'm 5'9", and at the time he was super skinny and like 5'3", but he's grown since then). I would love to have their support, but we don't really talk about guys much, and I feel like I've been lying to them for years about this guy..not that I ever lied...I just didn't speak up...
Also, casual out-of-school meetings are difficult because he lives in a different city than I do, although we go to the same school (it's a private school). I can't just casually invite him to do something with me like randomly on a Saturday because he lives like a 45 minute drive away..
I guess what I want to know is: do I have any chance with him? and how do I got about getting that chance?
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Well, this all makes sense, I see your issue!
Obviously you've heard the saying always be yourself, so just do that, you can never be wrong for who you are inside. We are all wired the same way, we all have feelings, we all laugh, smile, love, dislike and hurt. Nobody is perfect, nobody is a loser despite what people may say. I guess the point i'm trying to make is everyone is equal so you shouldn't worry about people being better or out of your league. We are all shy about something, especially when we meet someone new for the first time. I can be very shy at times! I'm 23 and still suffer the occasional shyness, so sometimes you ever grow out of it. Have you thought about hanging out after school if he lives so far away? That way he's in the same area that he has to get home from but just at a later time. Don't worry about what your friends say, if they laugh at you then clearly they don't understand what real feelings are, (please don't take offense to that).
I believe you have a chance, if you're honest to yourself about how you feel then you should totally believe in yourself :)! Just talk to him, be yourself around him, find common interest', music, games, whatever you're into. Good Luck! DanSkittles13, 23, AU
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