about

Hello, I am 13 years old, and I go to middle school in Arizona. Don't let my age fool you, though- I have been through a lot, and can help with a lot of issues and problems. Since I will probably get to know you, you should probably know a little about myself:

I LOVE to sing! I am an intermediate singer, as of right now, in my middle school choir.

I am writing a book- California Sunsets- due to be published SOMETIME this year, or next.

I can play the piano and flute.

I am a really positive person- and like to help anyone and everyone!

That's all the important things I can think of right now! Enjoy my website, and feel free to ask me for advice!


ALL ABOUT ME

Name: Brittany (or Bri)
State: Arizona
Age: 13
Favorite color: Baby Blue
Favorite movie: Pay It Forward
Favorite novel/book: The Da Vinci Code by Dan Brown
Favorite food: Mint Chocolate Chip Ice Cream
Boyfriend: None as of right now
School: Middle/Junior High School
Hair color: Strawberry blonde
Eye color- blue
Skin tone- Peach


advice

There is this guy that I like at school. He is really nice and really funny. But my friends don't like him they have even said mean and hurtful things about him. They judge him and they don't even know him. Maybe if they knew him things would be different but they don't even try to know him. It's almost as if they could care less and would rather just go on not knowing him and just judging him. I really hate to fight and I don't want to, i just need to know how to make them see what a really good person he is. How ddo I approach the subject without damaging our friendship?
In need of help

Dear In need of help,

You should always listen to what your friends have to say - BUT , you also have to follow your own heart. If this guy is really special to you, then do what you want. However, you need to also realize, that your friends only have your best interest at heart. I'm sure they wouldn't want you to get hurt, or go out with some guy that doesn't deserve YOU.
Maybe you should let them know how you feel, and if they still won't relent, then try not to bring your crush into the conversation so much. It is obvious that you will talk about him sometimes, but don't go on and on - because then your friends will feel like you don't care about their warnings.
This is a hard situation, but there is one thing you should ALWAYS remember:
Boys come and go, but TRUE friends, won't leave when the going gets tough.
If these are true friends, they will care about how you feel, and will respect you. They will stop talking about your crush when you ask them to. If they don't, then maybe you should reconsider this friendship. However, always TRY to listen to what they have said already, because sometimes love blinds people. You might just be surprised at what you find.

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I'm almost 13and I'm a girl. I like this guy at school and he sends all of these signs to me! All of my friends can see them too, so it's not just me dreaming. But I recently found out that he likes this other chick. This is actually first love and I mean LOVE!!!! In the past, every guy that I like is friends then I tell him then they hate me. Should I risk a friendship and tell him that I like him?

Well, before you go jumping in, and telling this guy how you feel, there are a few steps you can go through to see how he feels. Here they are:

1. There is nothing strange about you- this is a highly common problem - tons of relationships start off as friendships.
2. You need to "play your hand" cautiously- and even then there are no guarantees. If you don't want to ask this guy out straightforwardly about his feelings toward you, then maybe you should try a few pseudodates - you know, long drives together, walks at the beach, some carefully chosen flicks. Keep the conversation light and unthreatening. And whatever you do - don't stalk him at school!
3. If you feel like taking a bigger risk, get a friend of yours to tell a bud of his about your feelings and see what comes back to you. If your guy doesn't seem interested - slack off, and the damage to your friendship should be minimal.
4. Remember, if you want a pretty quick answer, body language sometimes speaks volumes. The next time you're deep in conversation with your crush, touch him on the arm, the shoulder, or if you're feeling brave - the face. If he flinches and draws back, the feeling is almost definitely not mutual, but if he smiles at you- or better yet, reciprocates - you've got him!

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Ok there is this guy and he is 25 and i am 14 we were together for a while but then we had to break up because my mom called the police on him.. we still talk but last weekend I lied to him and he started yelling at me about how I can't stop lying to him... I have written him emails saying I am sorry.. But in an email he sent back to me he said he didnt want ne thing to do with me.. he wrote me back saying that maybe he would be with me.. but not for a while.. should I just give up on him or should I still be friends????

What would a 25 year old and a 14 year old possibly have in common?
The reasons why I think you should let him go:

A) Your relationship would be illegal (if you ever got back together)
B) His intentions are not sounding true to me
C) you should listen to your mother.

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im in between the ages of 12-16 right and i really like this guy lets say his name is "randy" ok welll randy and i really like eachother and were thinking about going all the way were gonna used a condom and be safe but im still scared

I would say NO. Why? Because evn when using a condom, with perfect use, it is still only 85% effective - that means there is AT LEAST 15% chance you'll get pregnant. Also, condoms and birth control do not prevent STDs such as AIDs and "Crabs". I would definately say wait.

Hope all goes well

~Britt

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ummm okay well i went out with this one guy for about 7 months and we had a really great relationship and everything but our break up was really hard as soon as we broke up we stopped tlking and stopped being friends but ever since the beginnign of the school year we've been best friends and thats cool in all but we both want to be more than friends but here's the catch i have a boyfriend that im absolutly in love with but alot of the time he treats me like crap and i cant stand it but right after that he'll do something really sweet and i fall back in love with him and i really like both guys but my ex-boyfriend and i have messed around when im with my boyfriend i know its bad but im still in love with him
please help me out
Caught in the middle

Well, that's a very sticky predicament!!
Based on better judgment, though - i'd say that you should go back to your old boyfriend - and NOT because you're starting to like him again - because that isn't a good enough reason to break up with a guy. The reasons (i have 2) that you should go back to your ex, is that you cheated on your boyfriend, and he doesn't deserve that... and also because he doesn't treat you right!! Just because he tries to make it up to you, doesn't mean he isn't going to hurt you again (either emotionally or physically).

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i like a boy and he likes me but his sister says i am a priss and im totally the opposite what should i do to get her to like me?

natalie kidman
age:13

Dear Natalie,

I will first explain to you that you can NEVER just "get' someone to like you. That isn't how it works, unfortunately.
First off, you need to ask yourself a question. Why would you want this girl's approval in the first place? If she isn't willing to accept you, then that is her problem. Her brother should realize that.
Some steps her TRY to get her approval - be yourself. Prove to her that you are in no way a "priss". Try to be openly kind to her, etc.

I hope everything works out!!

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Do diet pills really work? I know there not healthy or anything. But i was thinking that if I went to my doctor they could perscribe me some healthy diet pills. Has anyone ever took them or a family/friend? And did it actually work. And yes I DO need to lose weight. Not a little about 100 pounds or so by next september or december. --And im also talking about the diet pills you can by in the stores. Thanks!

I know one that works wonders!! It is healthy (it gives you vitamins while taking away extra fat). It is called Apple Cider Vinegar.. and the best place to buy them at is..

www.macasource.com
or
www.herbalnurse.com

You can get the same brand at these two websites!!
Lots of luck to you!

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Does anyone have a tattoo on there lower back? I really want to get one when im 18. Or does anyone have one on their ankle. If so can you tell me how bad it hurt ect. Thanks.

About the lower back tattoo- I wouldn't reccommend getting one on your lower back- it hurts pretty bad, because there are many nerve ending and sensitive skin on your back.. also.. your lower back is one of the places that gets wrinked (just by bending over wrinkles the skin quickly) and then the tattoo will look really disgusting!

Ankle- Again, I would not suggest getting a tattoo on your ankle. My mother did- and it is very hard to be professional when you have one in such an open area. You always have to wear socks to work (or else you might not beconsidered very serious) and it does hurt a lot- especially when adding color. Try getting a tattoo (if you have to) on your upper back.. to reduce wrinkles.. which is also a place that doesn't get a lot of exposure (unless you have a backless gown.. the two wouldn't work well together =/ )

Just wait until you know exactly what you want.

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which works better to lose weight
yoga
pilates
aerobics
running


thanks!!

I would say Pilates and Aerobics work the MOST. But all of those things you mentioned help a lot. Yoga is good for stretching your muscles, and building endurance. Pilates is good for toning muscle. Aerobics is good for building and strengthening muscles. Running is good for cardio endurance. All things work- especially when used together...

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Alright, I asked a question here.and most answers came out that i might have an infection. I am soooooooooo scared to ask my mosther if she knows anything about my prob. Can sumone help?

My ratings are as good as the answer

You need to talk to your mom. Period. She has been through everything you have, and she will know what to do to get you help. You shouldn't be afraid to talk to her- she is your mother, and as you get older, you will have to talk to her about more difficult things. You better get used to it
= )

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I'm really into writing Dark Poems, REALLY dark poems. But the weird thing is, I'm a REALLY happy person who leads a good life with a loving family and lots of friends. o.o; I don't have any depression or anything and I'm not going through Teen Angst. Is something wrong with me? o___O;

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. What it sounds to me like you're doing, is getting through any built up depression (under the surface)- through your poems. This might result in you being so happy.

Just remember to keep doing what you love to do. Never let anyone tell you differently

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Hey yall! Peroxide doesn't help make your black arm hair turn blonde I tried it over and over again and it doesn't work...what else do yall think will work, anything around the house? if not what can I go buy, where can I get it, how much does it cost, and in what cities do they have it in??? Plz and thx I appreciate yalls help! And I will rate yall! l8er!

If I were you, I would mix a half cup of bleach, with a half cup of water (the water will loosen the effect of the bleach- so that you won't bleach your actual ARM white!) Then, dip an oldrag, or paper towel in the solution, and dab it lightly on your arm. You should see effects in about 5- 10 minutes.
Reminder- this doesn't work for everyone. If you have REALLY dark hairs- it will only lighten the color a little- not make it blonde!

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i have this best friend and i like him and i think its wrong to because he is my best friend, and it could ruin our relationship so does that mean anything and he doesnt even like me! what do i do?

It isn't wrong at all. you cannot control your feelings. You just need to talk to him about it. Even if he doesn't like you, it is better to explain your feelings, than to bottle them inside. Try to remain friends, but- it will be hard. Just do your best in the situation, and what you feel is right.

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Ok, i am between the ages of 10-15. I know i should be concerned but i am. i really want bigger boobs and i dont know y. can anyone tell me y i want bigger boobs right now.

~really ashamed~

It is completely normal to be unhappy with your chest size in your pre-teen/teenage years. You have to understand, though, that you are still maturing- and that you might have a growth spurt soon.
You really don't need to worry about your chest size, though. Nobody is ever completely happy with their bodies- so just realize that you shouldn't bother yourself with that, unless you have to.

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He just admitted that he likes me, and I sort of like him.. But he has a girlfriend. Ever since he started dating "Ashley", he's been acting really sad & distant. He used to come over to my house all the time & hang out, but now I'm lucky if I SEE him once a week! I've asked him why he's so sad, but he says that nothing's wrong. I know something's up, but I just don't know what. Any advice?

I think you should casually ask him if anything is wrong. Don't bother him too much, you don't want to seem nosy. If he doesn't directly mention what the problem is, then don't talk about his problems for awhile. He might just be going through a hard time.
As for the whole girlfriend thing- you shouldn't make any moves or anything until he breaks up with his girlfriend.

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