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There is this guy that I like at school. He is really nice and really funny. But my friends don't like him they have even said mean and hurtful things about him. They judge him and they don't even know him. Maybe if they knew him things would be different but they don't even try to know him. It's almost as if they could care less and would rather just go on not knowing him and just judging him. I really hate to fight and I don't want to, i just need to know how to make them see what a really good person he is. How ddo I approach the subject without damaging our friendship?
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Dear In need of help,
You should always listen to what your friends have to say - BUT , you also have to follow your own heart. If this guy is really special to you, then do what you want. However, you need to also realize, that your friends only have your best interest at heart. I'm sure they wouldn't want you to get hurt, or go out with some guy that doesn't deserve YOU.
Maybe you should let them know how you feel, and if they still won't relent, then try not to bring your crush into the conversation so much. It is obvious that you will talk about him sometimes, but don't go on and on - because then your friends will feel like you don't care about their warnings.
This is a hard situation, but there is one thing you should ALWAYS remember:
Boys come and go, but TRUE friends, won't leave when the going gets tough.
If these are true friends, they will care about how you feel, and will respect you. They will stop talking about your crush when you ask them to. If they don't, then maybe you should reconsider this friendship. However, always TRY to listen to what they have said already, because sometimes love blinds people. You might just be surprised at what you find.
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