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I am a 16/m and I have a girlfriend who is 21 and we have been going out for 5 months. I just recently lost my virginity to her. After that, we have been having sex, but there is one problem. I don't get aroused enough. I feel horrible about this. I want to have sex with her so bad when I am not with her but then when I am there and we are foreplaying or she is on top of me I do not get fully aroused. What should I do so I can be fully aroused because I really want to enjoy it?

don't listen to those other people! she can't just randomly get arrested for having sex with you.. she could only get arrested if your parents disagreed with it!.. but i'm sure they know your dating.. and they don't have a problem with that so the sex thing they shouldnt have a problem with them either!.. but about your problem.. just tell her what you want! and what you want her to do to help you you can't just kinda expect her to know what feels good for you and stuff because you don't know what feels good to her do you? well its the same way with you just tell her what you think yall could try to help you out! good luck

xoXo*-Katie

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On New Years Eve im going to my boyfriends house. I'm a virgin but that night i think i want to lose my virginity with him. I'm 14 almost 15 i know i'm young but i'm tired of being a virgin. We've only been going out for a week today but we went out for 7 months a while back. Please don't reply if your just going to call me a hoe or yell at me because i don't need that. Would i be making the wrong choice if i do? I already know about the whole getting pregnant thing im not stupid..but other than that am i making the right choice? thanks..

no one knows if your making the right choice except for you!, if you feel that your completely ready and you love this guy.. then go for it.. but you just need to make sure you aren't going to regret it later.. and also know that he LOVES you back and isn't just with you for sex! good luck!

xoXo*-Katie

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im a 15/f see its like this all of my friends are all really fast i mean to tell the truth i kind of am fast too but i mean i havent lost my virginity yet but most of them have so yeah i dont know what to do like they kind of like leave me out of conversations and stuff and i think that i am ready to do it but i dont know what age you should be??

theres not a certain "age" you should be to have sex.. you should find a person that you love and trust! thats where people go wrong they put a age on things and say okay i'm 16 now i can have sex with whoever.. but im sure theres 15 y/os out there that have sex with someone because they LOVE them and not because they just wanna have sex!!

xoXo*-Katie

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i have had the worsest day EVER my boy friend that got me preg(im about 9months)....was cheating on me and it was liek one of my bestest friends....and today is the day my dad died....and my mom is really mad at me..i dont no why tho...and when i found out that my b.f was cheating on me i told him that its over i have better things to do instead of crying and he hit me in my stomach...i dont no if my babies o0k im going to the doctors 2marow to check and my my ex said that he dont wnat to be the father of my child and that umm he dont wnat to marry me no more...i didnt want to marry that loser anways but umm....now this guy friend i met hes my brothers friend and he has liek me for a LONG TIME and i tihnk hes only 21 and i am 19 adn he has been helping me out alot now i mean he got me a car (hes rich to cause he is rich cause his parents are dead and hes an only child and they left everything to them and his dad was a Arectect nad his my was a phycologist how every you spell them and i liek him alot and stuff but he has a g.f and she is realyl sweet and i dont no if she nows that her b.f helps me out.... and he bout me alot of stuff for me and my child....and i want to go out with him and i want him to be my baby's daddi not some loser and i dont wnat to have this baby no more...but i kinda do cause i always wanted to be a mother.....and i dont no what to do help me please...
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yea.. definately go to the doctor to check the baby! about the other guy.. ask him how he feels because he might just be wanting to help you out since everythings not going great for you but you shouldn't ruin him and his g/fs relationship you just need to talk to him about it all

xoXo*-Katie

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I have bumps on my pubic area. Not alot but alittle.
when i pop them puss comes out is this normal is something wrong with me.

no nothing is wrong with them.. its probably because you shave?.. if thats the case then its perfectly normal.. if you don't shave i'm not sure.. but if you shave trying shaving with conditioner not shaving cream and shave with little slow strokes not fast long ones!

xoXo*-Katie

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What are the signs that let you know that you ARE ready to have sex for the first time?

you have to LOVE and trust the person your going to have sex with.. with everything you have.. everyone has diff. "signs".. no one is the same but you need to make sure that you know that the person loves you back as well and that you feel like if you have sex you wont regret is afterwards!!

xoXo*-Katie

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No rude comments like the last time, but heres my situation. my bf had to get tested for a sperm count and it turns out that he has a low sperm count or is possibly infertile. We had sex a few days ago and while we were, his condom broke. He didnt cum yet though and he pulled right out and put on a new one. My question is, after hearing about everything related to this. Do you think theres a chance I could be pregnant? All info would help or anyone ever being in the 'broken condom' situation. Thanx.

thats ALWAYS that chance there.. but since he did cum yet.. then the chance is less than if he would have.. but there is still also pre-cum.. and he may not even know that it was there.. take a pregnancy test the day your supposed to have your period.. but don't worry too much because that will make your period late so just try not to worry about it.. and take a preg. test when you can! good luck!!

xoXo*-Katie

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hey um this is kind of awkward, but i'm 14 going on 15 in a couple of months, and i belive i have met "the one" i've know him sience i was 2 1/2 and he wants to um finger me, and i am totally comfortable with it, but my parents arn't. should i do it behing my parents back, or listen to my parents and not do it at all, but my mom is the one whos conserned my dad doesn't care. i've haven't talked to them about it they kinda listen in my phone conversations with one of my good friends, have you ever got fingered or done it to someone? if not then how old were you when you did it, please.... im so CONFUSED! i'll rate!

well.. your parents are just being parents and doing there job.. trying to keep you safe.. so don't get mad that they care... but if you really feel that way.. then do whatever you want.. i'm sure there gonna disagree with any kind of sexual intercourse just because there parents..

xoXo*-Katie

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help....my name is lola and i strip in a strip club. ive been in porn movies and different clubs. i have a hard time finding a guy who can just accept my job and love me for who i am. if i ever do find a guy they turn out to be real asses or just treat me like im a nobody. Just b/c i show my body doesnt mean i dont have feelings. idk it just seems like something needs to happen. porn is the first job i ever had and ive been making good money. should i quit my job and start over or just follow along with porn. if i start over again it would be rlly hard and it would be a long time before i make money again. i dont know what to do anymore i need help...

you just have to think about which is more important.. your job & money.. or finding someone!.. me.. i would start over and try and get my life on the right path because.. you could really get hurt doing both of those jobs

xoXo*-Katie

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ok so i have had my period for almost three years now and the first two were regular. But i had surgery in the begining of july and i had my period at the end of july. But after that i havent had it, its been 5 months and i know tis sounds crazy but i want it. It sso annoying not noing wen ur gonna get it. Is this normal after having surgery? if it is then y did i get it in july and not after?

um.. the surgery thing i don't think that should have anything to do with it.. maybe you should just call the doctor about it.. and ask them

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okay. im still a virgin. but i think im ready to lose my virginity to my boyfriend of a year and 2 months. we have done nothing BUT kissing. and im so happy hes patient with me and doesnt push me to do anything i choose not too. but now i am ready BUT i want to go on birth conrol and use a condom just to be on the safe side. the thing is im not on the pill so what would be the best way to ask my parents to put me on the pill without them thinking imma have sex.? cuz they know im still a virgin and think imma stay one till marriage. which i was planning on doing, but i think im ready to lose it..and i've found that special one to lose it to

you just have to talk to your mom about ur period.. and say that you have bad cramps or what not... just say you have period problems and your irregular and you've heard birth control can fix that!

xoXo*-Katie

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'i'm being sexually harrassed by this guy i know, and so is every other girl in myclass except for two. His sexual harrassment is getting me in troubel with some of my teachers. It's cometothe point that i'm afarid to be alone with him because i'm afaird of what he'll do to me. He's grabbed by breast slappmy ass, rubbed on my crotch and other things. he's messedwith other girls in my class but he seems to dothst tome the most.Lately he's stop but i'm afarid he might start up and do it again. I tell him what he's doingis wrong but he doesn't care.Iused to think of himas my friend untill it all started.Now i don'tknow what to do.

you NEED to tell a teacher or principal! tell SOMEONE this guy could get in serious trouble! u need to tell someone soon before things get worse

xoXo*-Katie

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Alright .. so im 13 .. and i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend last night .. meaning i was a virgin until last night .. well i heard your supposed to bleed your first time .. and i didnt .. it hurt like SUPER SUPER bad .. but i didnt bleed .. and i was just wondering if thats normal or not . Thanks :)

every girl is different.. despite what you've heard.. u don't ALWAYS bleed your first time.. but it does hurt most girls unless they are "loose" as sum people say.. things will get better for u!

-xoXo!*Katie

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how do you get rid of back cramps when your in your period???

you can take midol.. or pamprin for ur back and cramps and also heating pads work very well.. also if none of it helps u should talk to ur mom about taking u to the doctor and they can perscribe a pill for back pain and cramps.. i had to go about it yesterday and my cousin takes it and nothin else helps her so i guess it must work pretty well :)

-xoXo!*Katie

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I am no stranger to the behaviour of most guys. Very sexual, like the jokes about sex but I have a slight problem, I don't know how to react. I have a few guys that are bothering me at this time I will explain. Well this boy called karl right he's 17 and i'm 14, well basically he wants sex and he keeps pestering me he tried to touch me up and I don't know what to do. Some boys just fancy me and I can take that. There's this other boy called Steve who's 16 but he thinks i'm going to go out with him and tries to get me to cheat on my boyfriend and his girlfriend which gets me in trouble with his girlfriend. Another boy I don't see but he's really nice, prob is he calls me all these names and keeps asking me out. A little younger boy who's a few months younger than me is asking me to strip i don't know how to answer these there a no but how do I say that assertively?

just tell them you aren't interested in them.. but be blunt about it.. you don't have to be nice if u don't like the things they are doing to u or calling u.. make sure they know how u feel

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i hope you can help because everythings really weird and i cant figure out what to do. ok there's this guy and i met him about to years ago over the summer. we went out for about a year all together (it was an off and on relationship & he had other girls and i dated other guys) but i cant shake the fact that im in love with this kid... even though its been about 3 months since the last break-up and hes had 3 other girls. i like too other guys and the both like me. ones older ones my age (im 15 - if it helps any) the older one i like more ... alot more and hes always there but he wants sex. the one my age we hang out and always have fun but im not quite sure if hes on the same page as me... please help!! soon

well.. i'll just tell u this.. ur not "in love" with the guy u meant 2 years ago over the summer.. if u were.. u wouldn't be considering any other guys.. sorry to sound kind of harsh... but its not love.. u should just decide of which of the guys treats u better.. and hate to break it to u but EVERY guy wants SEX!.. thats just how they work.. but the right guy will respect your feelings on it and not try anything until u are ready to

xoXo-*Katie

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