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Is suicide the only way out? Please, no one word answers. (link)
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I'll be honest with you and say yes and no. Suicide may be the immediate end to your life but it is not the way out. If there is something troubling you that greatly then you need to seek help. Suicide is the end to it all and is completely unnecessary. People think that their life is so bad the only way to fix their problems is to kill themselves and that is the selfish way out. They don't think of those around them who will continue to suffer because they chose to take their own lives. Their family is left with the guilt of thinking they could have possibly prevented it if ... (fill in the blanks with what if questions)
Like I said, Suicide definitely is the ultimate way out. You will no longer exist on earth and depending on what you believe, will go on to whatever step is next.
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so my boyfriend and i were laying down and i was laying ontop of him, and we were making out and we both had jeans on.. i had underwear on too (so i was fully clothed and so was he) i think he cummed, and there was a wet spot on his pants, it was little i think. but the very next day, i had my period.. could i be AT ALL anyway pregnant????! (im not going to a doctor or getting a pregnancy test or the morning after pill.) im just kind of freaking out since im literally a really good girl. pregnancy can NOT be an option.
thank you in advance!! (link)
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There is no way you are pregnant. You have nothing to fret about. As long as you had on clothing then there is no way for the sperm to impregnate you.
Just remember, the only way to get pregnant is for the sperm to fertilize the egg. In order for that to happen, he has to come inside you. I guess its possible for you to get pregnant if he cums on you (near your area), but its not that likely.
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I'm a 17 year old girl and my boyfriend's also 17.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months (4 when we first had sex). We were going to wait to have sex until we were 18 (for practicality but also for privacy reasons), but that didn't work out so well, lol. We had sex once (we were each other's firsts) and were completely safe about it. We both agreed it was amazing and a week later when we were alone again, we had sex for the second time and it was even better. I didn't see him the next week because he went on a family trip so, you know, I missed him a lot! When he got home this past weekend, we started getting really intimate. Right when we were about to have sex, he announced that he didn't want to have sex anymore and that he wanted to wait until we graduated. I thought this was really weird, but he wouldn't say anything more about it. The week has gone on and he's been the same old guy. He's sweet, and thoughtful, and amazing... and guys, I really love him. He just won't talk to me about it. To tell you the truth, I really like sex. I don't want to wait a year. However, he mans a lot to me and I don't want to ruin this. Any advice on why he's doing this or how to get him to talk? Thanks so much! (link)
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I would actually be happy he wants to wait. A lot of guys run off after you have sex with them. He might have just thought that maybe it would be better for the both of you to not risk your futures by having sex. Of course you enjoy it (who doesn't?) but maybe it is better to wait.
If you really want to sit down and talk with him, your going to have to be completely honest with him. Tell him that you really enjoyed your time together and that you've noticed some things have changed. Ask him if there is a specific reason he does not want to continue having sex with you. He may not be willing to talk, but you have to try if you want to know whats going on. Don't pressure him into talking, be understanding. If he ignores the question, tell him you feel like there is something going on and you would like for him to talk to you about it. If he tells you he would rather not talk about it, be respectful and drop the subject for now. He will talk to you when he's ready
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so my boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 months. Our relationship has been really great and I love him so much.... But I seem to have lost interest. I never feel like having sex anymore and find my self feeling jealous of single people. What's wrong with me, or is it just something I'll get over. (link)
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I don't believe that five months is really enough to say you are actually in love with someone. It sounds to me like you were in love with the idea of being with him and its more of a friendship type of love than a romantic love. Try taking a break from each other and see how you feel about things then. You might feel better single or you might realize that you do want to stay with him. Be honest with him and let him know how you are feeling; he could feel the same way. I have been with my boyfriend four years now and I still envy my single friends even though I have never been happier with someone else. You just need to get settled into your life and remember that you are still young (as am i) and there are many options out there and you may come to realize he isn't the one for you (or at least not right now anyways) you never know what the future can bring to you
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hiya i am having trouble understanding my menstrual cycle and my head is a bit baffled as i think i could be pregnant...my period started approx 10th december....and lasted for apporx five days..when it had finished 2 days later i had sex ...i am just wondering when should i take a test ? (link)
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I recommend waiting until about a week or so after your period last ended. A pregnancy test is most effective in the morning and if you wait until your period is actually late then it will save you the money of not having to buy a pregnancy test. Sometimes your period just has a mind of its own and it comes a little off schedule. Don't stress about it yet, that can make it come even later or not at all. If your period is usually regular then wait until you are supposed to have it to worry much. A lot of girls get worked up over thinking they are pregnant when in fact they have nothing at all to worry about (i've been there)
Best of luck to you!
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what are the possible things i can expect to happen the first time i have sex, as far as physical feelings and emotional ? i mostly want to know how it will feel physically. or the things i can do so it will feel better. (link)
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Males and females tend to respond to things like this differently than each other so a clarification of your gender would be helpful but I will still do my best to give you some guidance.
There are a lot of physical and emotional risks you are taking by having sex. I would first like to say that if you are questioning yourself then DO NOT go through with it. I know it is overrated to say that it is best to wait until your wedding night but I wish that I had at least waited until I found the guy I wanted to be with. He saved himself for the girl of his dreams and I wish I would have done the same for him.
Physically sex is going to be pleasureful and possibly painful. If you are a female and this is your first time, expect some pain. It shouldn't be unbearable pain but it will be somewhat painful. Men, well I am not completely sure about that. I am not a male so I really could not tell you what sex feels like physically for a male.
Emotionally, there are a lot of things. You could be happy it happened but then later on regret the decision you made (very common) or you may not even care that it happened and go on with your life like it was nothing. Everyone reacts differently to losing their virginity. Just remember that with every pleasure there is a pain. You may not think about it now, but there is a good chance you will regret it later in life if you jump into it too fast.
Please be sure you are ready to handle the physical and emotional consequences that may come with having sex. Be safe and use protection. There is nothing worse for a young teen than to have one night of fun (sex, partying etc.) and then to find out 6 weeks later they are expecting a child; or to find out they have contracted something from their partner that may or may not be curable.
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this might sound like a weird question, and i know that it's different for everyone but i was just wondering where you put your legs on the guy when having sex? i heard some wrap their legs around his waist, but i'm not really about that. but you have to spread them right? so what are different ways girls do that! thank you!! (link)
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Well.. there are a TON of ways.
Legs:
around his neck
over his shoulders
around his waist
just feet flat on the bed and legs spread
laying completely flat
lay on your side, legs somewhat spread, him in between
and the list just goes on
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what are you suppose to do after sex? i know it might sound weird asking but i just dont know. so you have sex and when your done what do you do? just get dressed? and just be like okay well it's done...? i know it's different for many people but i was just wondering what people do after they're done having sex with their boy!! also is it going to hurt AFTER having sex, and if so how long will that pain last? thanks!! (link)
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Well, first off. It does depend on the people. Some will cuddle up and go to sleep. My boyfriend and I like to cuddle for a while and then i go home. Sometimes you just get dressed and its over. It really does depend solely on the situation.
As for does it hurt. It does. Especially at first. It also depends on your body as to how long and how much it hurts. It's something most people get over or get used to. It can be really bad at times and others its not painful at all.
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so i had sex with this guy anthony but it was less than a minute literally he didnt come or anything like that but he wasnt wearing a condom.. then i had sex with this guy eric we used a condom he has a alot of precum but he didnt come we stopped before that cause it wasnt really workin but he stuck it in with out a condom but i just moved up and down like twice then i stop cuz i was scared to get pregnant.. now my boobs are big they hurt and my aunt had a dream i was knocked up now all these weird things are happening like shit i see on tv im really freaking out all these people are pregnant and im just trippin... what do you think? i had sex with eric like a week ago so if i was it would probably be anthony's right i had sex with anthony like 3 weeks ago so do you think im just trippin is it too soon to tell if i am cause im suposed to get my period soon. (link)
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Well. I wouldn't worry about it too much yet. Stressing out is just going to cause you more problems. I have been in that situation where you think you may be pregnant, and i found out stress can cause your period to come late. Give it a little bit then start to worry. If you don't have your period about a week after schedule, then take a pregnancy test and go from there. You can always find a free clinic nearby and have them check it out. They also offer cheap or even free birth control methods to help relieve the worries of sex. Be careful.
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My name is Liz, I am 16 and I have a boyfriend named Dalton. I am in love with him so much and I'm positive he loves me too. I'm really serios I am full fledge in love with this guy. Last night we were at his house and he brought up the idea of sex. I didn't know what to say so I told him I wasn't ready. But now I think I am so should I go for it? I know I love him so please don't say that I am too young or its not worth it. (link)
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I can't say your too young to do it, but make sure you know you're ready. You don't want to do this then regret it later on. If you are for sure ready, then you what you please. Just make sure you're both ready for this and have no doubts whatsoever. The worst thing you can do is have sex when you arent for sure ready.
I regret my first time though I try to live life with no regrets. I wasn't ready and I just let him pressure me into it. I loved him, but I just wasn't ready at the time.
If you do have sex, be careful and know your risks. Use a condom please. Most guys don't like them, but they are completely worth it.
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I don't really understand threesomes.. I mean I know that it's three people having sex, but like what do you do?
If it's two girls and a guy, does the guy go on top and stick it in one girl and then move onto the other?
I just don't get it..
and my boyfriend keeps talking about it so I don't want to be awkward at it! (link)
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Every threesome is different from what I hear and from what i've seen. (and have been in one) The threesome I was in was when two of us were drunk so I don't remember all the details, but my friend that was with me filled me in on what happened. He basically just went back and forth having sex and doing stuff to the both of us girls (keep in mind this was my best friend and a guy she liked) Us girls didn't do anything to each other, but sometimes the girls do. He would do stuff to me for a while, then go do stuff to her for a while and keep going back and forth. It was fun (mostly because I was drunk and anything was good at the time)
In some movies i've seen, the girls will do stuff to each other, like finger each other for perform oral while the guy watches and gets turned on. Then the guy does stuff to a girl while one girl is watching. Sometimes all three of them do something to each other. Like one girl will perform oral on the guy while the other girl is making out with him or something. I've also seen where the guy is playing with one girls boobs while the girls are playing with each other. You can do it however is comfortable to you. Though threesomes can be sort of awkward.
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well ok i was wondering like what happens in a handjob. ok i know like what you do and what not but like what if you don't go any further and the guy 'explodes' like do you just let it come out or do they go to like the bathroom. and after you have sex i know the guy isn't supposed to cum in you so what's he do with it if you don't give him head? (link)
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If he cums while your giving a handjob, you can either let him just cum and then clean it up, or Some girls let them cum like on their chests or something like that then just wipe it off after. And as for sex, you can use a condom and he just cums in it then you take it off and dispose of it, or you can do the same.. have him finish it off and cum on you or just cum and wipe himself off.
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can i hear your story? do you regret it? thoughts/feeling now? still in a relationship with that guy? or was it a one night stand? I'm just curiouss pleasee && thank you for readingg and respondingg =] (link)
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Well .. I had just turned 14 about a month before I has sex for the first time. He was 18 and we had been together for like .. a month. I had always said I wanted to wait until I was old enough to take responsibility for my actions, but I gave in to his pressure. Before that night, I had NEVER done anything sexual with a guy outside of making out. I really regret having sex at such a young age. I would sneak out of my house just to be with him. We were together a few months after that and then he moved out of state and his best friend said he had been cheating on me the whole time. We continued being friends and talking on the phone and such. Then he moved back about 6 months later, and I had slept with his best friend. I was stupid enough to get back with this guy, though we had a HORRIBLE relationship (we wont get into details please)
I got the reputation of being a slut after people started finding out. Even though I had been with 2 guys at that time, I was still called a slut. I really wish that I would have waited just a few more years. Now I'm in a great relationship with an older guy (i always date older guys) And I really wish I would have waited until I was ready to have sex. I was the first girl my current boyfriend had ever slept with and I really wish he was my first too, since he is my first true love.
Wait until your sure your ready to have sex, its worth the wait. :)
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how exactly do you give a really good blow job? any special techniques? (link)
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Um.
-Definitely avoid griding your teeth.. its sometime unavoidable, but try your best!
-Suck! Don't unly just do the regular up and down motions,but do some actual sucking when you do it.
-His balls-- Sounds gross..i know-- but don't avoid them. You can lick them or play with them to give him extra pleasure
-Deep throat. Just get it as deep as you can without gagging. It's a huge turn-on for most guys
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alright boys..when your making out with your girlfriends, what are some things she does that drives you wild!? (in a good way) i need to know because my boyfriend has been to second base with me and we french kiss and stuff..but what are some things other than runnin my hands through his hair and kissing him to make him really like it??? (link)
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Umm.. my boyfriend LOVE me kissing his neck. I don't know if your good at that.. some girls aren't, but you might try it. And just nibble his ear occasionally while your doing it, and breathe deeply as you nibble his ear. Most guys are turned on by that. Also, he loves it when i straddle him while we're kissing and stuff.. it gives him more control over your movements.
Good luck
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Ok...so im not a virgin but everytime ive had sex i told the guy to keep my bra on. My reasoning for that is my boobs look bigger in my bra and i dont want it to be a disappointment when it comes off. I really hate it because my boobs look like they are like an A when my bras off. What should i do about that? And my other problem is you know how people have hair on there stomach? Well since im full italian mine is like dark so it kind of grosses me out what can i do about that cuz that also bothers me? (link)
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Don't worry about it. I have the same hair problem.. just shave it. Sounds bad.. but to be honest, it doesn't grow back as fast as you would think.
As for the boobs, i'm the same way. My bra size is a D.. but my boobs seriously look like a B outside my bra. No worries. The guy will be way to preoccupied to notice the difference. As long as you have a little something there and don't stuff.. your fine. Its not a big deal at all.
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When i reach a orgasm i feel sick is this normal? (link)
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I'm not sure, but I think it's normal. I have that problem sometimes too
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whats the bikini line?.. im kind of confused about that.. i have an idea but im not sure. also the hair left with only shaving the bikini line.. do i keep it short or what? i know this is very personal and sorry about that.. but thanks for trying to help in the first place. (link)
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Your bikini line is the area where the insides of your thighs meet your vaginal area. It's like the area where your legs meet your pelvic bone. You can either shave the bikini line and leave the rest natural or keep it short. It's completely personal preference. Some girls just shave it all off. Others leave just a small patch. It all depends on what you personally feel like taking care of.
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okay.. well i was just wondering.. its a wierd question accually but i was just wondering.. when a guy fingers you.. what will he be expecting? hair.. cut hair.. not a lot of hair.. none at all.. im very confused about this.. people tell me it differs.. i guess im just asking whats the norm? (link)
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Honestly, guys shouldn't really expect anything. Every girl is different. Some shave "down there" completely and some shave part way. Others keep it natural and just shave the bikini line.
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Yeah, anyone have any tips to get rid of them faster?
oh and, didn't know where to place this Q under, I figured this category would be fine.
thanks tons xo (link)
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Get some yellow colored concealer with a reddish coverup.(wal*mart has it for really cheap) Then just apply your regular liquid or powder foundation on top of that. It makes them almost completely invisible. At most they look like a shadow on your neck.
As for getting rid of them faster. They are kind of like a bruise, so i like to take a spoon and put it in the freezer then put it on the hickey. A spoon is just about the right size and fits onto the small area instead of freezing your whole neck.
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