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hi,can you still have sex if the condom dose not fit..cause i got some to day and its my first time puting one on..so can you have sex if it dose not fit??thanks

You can but that is not the best idea. It is just a call for it to fall off and then lead to things that I think for sure you aren't ready for. So you should just not have sex at all or buy new ones that do fit.

Okay.. so there is this guy that i honestly for real love. i don't think he loves me back. but we have been on and off for about 2 years now, and the last time we were together we did some stuff.. not sex. but other stuff.. and then he ended it with me, and prom was coming around, and im a soph. and at our school it is junior prom. so it was no big deal that i didn't go. but instead he goes with someone.. who is kinda my friend.. fine.. didn't care.. well i kinda did. but i got over it. and now i hear that he likes her, and she doesn't like him. don't care about that either.. but we just started talking again, and he told me that we should party this weekend, and i said alright.. and we kinda have jus this fun little bet going, that he thinks ill have sex with him, because he thinks i want it that bad. and i say i won't. and thats all u need to know about that. but see the thing is. i don't know if he jus using me.. again ((well kinda again)) cause he jus wants to have sex or w/e, or if he really does like me again. and another thing is i am a virgin. so this would be my first, and i know that if i do do it with him it'll mean something to me.. i jus don't know about him. so i jus need help on this whole situation!! if i could have a few ppl help me.. that would be great! so PLEASE HELP! Thanks*

Sorry it was so long! :)

I think you should tell him this part, "he jus wants to have sex or w/e, or if he really does like me again. and another thing is i am a virgin. so this would be my first, and i know that if i do do it with him it'll mean something to me." YOu should tell him that and ask him what he thinks. But in my opinion I think he is trying to use you. So look out and I'm not saying this is going to happen, but like watch what you drink or eat, because you never know what is in it.

ok so people are alyways talking about first base second base third base and home i know what home is but what are the other three?

this is for me:

first base-hugging
second base-kissing
third base-"ohter stuff"
home-sex(which i haven never done lol)

well you see whenever i make out w/ my boyfriend i get a sore throat is this normal?

It probably that your immune system isn't used to other peoples DNA and stuff like that. Another possible cause is mono, if he has kissed a lot of other people he might have it. But it's probably because he might have been sick or your body isn't used to other peoples germs

i heard that this guy i gave head to got a std like HPV from his ex girlfriend.. and i gave head to him after this.. can i get HPV?

you might have. i am in 8th grade but right now we are doing the program about sex and stuff. from what i read hpv can lead to cervical cancer. also hpv is a viral std which cannot be cured, this is also the most common viral std. it is contracted by skin to skin contact of the genitals. if left untreated you can become unfertile. get it checked out right away!!

okay...umm yesterday was the 1st day of my period, and my boyfriend and i made out later on that night. well he ended up taking his clothes off, and he asked me to take my pants off...i explained to him that i was on my period and how i felt that it was gross because i didnt want to get blood anywhere. he didnt believe me at first so he asked, "did it jus come on today?" i responded and said, "yea!" and he said, "well it's alright baby just take em' off it's okay if u get blood anywhere" i blabbered on for like 5min about how disgusting it was. then he got on top of me, kissed me, then took my pants off. i laughed and asked him if he liked my "granny panties." okay anwayz, we made out for like 15min then i eventually got on top of him and grinded on his penis, i think he ejaculated b/c when i stopped it felt wet/moist. im too afraid to ask him if he really did, but the sametime im afraid that i might be a "pregnant virgin." Is it possible, how do i tell without asking if he ejaculated? and although i had on a pad + underwear could i possibly be pregnant?

Don't be afraid to ask him. Just joke around a little but say it in private or something. I am almost sure that you are not pregnant cause sperm cannot live that long out of the body. But if you do hvae this gut feeling then buy a home pregnancy test or go to the doctor. But don't be afriad to ask him.

f/16

i have a prblem cause i really want to shave my pubes but the thing is that i have an allergic reaction to those cremes that take off the hair for you, and i'm really timid about shaving, as werid as this sounds, but how do you guys do it? in the shower, sink, etc

All girls have there choice. Some stay natural, some bikini wax, some was it all, some shave the top, some shave all of it. But one problem with shaving with a razor is when the hair grows back it itches. But this is how i do it. At wal mart or target or any department store for that have at least one of these and for women and are usally 9.99 http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5293207 that works good and you don't have to worry about getting cut and having it itch down there. I just usally do it over the sink or the toilet cause you can do this dry

what is douching?

O rdid you mean this http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=douch?

i've had sex maybe three times and once i shaved my pubes and then i got these red bumps that are too big to look like razor burns where i shaved...there aren't any of these bumps near the inside of my vagina but i have three red bumps towards the top part of where the pubic hair is...
i'm scared that they're herpes or some other untreatable infection. they don't itch and i'm scared to go to my doctor...would i have to a specialist?
any idea what it is and what i can get to treat it like creams and what not?
please help...

You should go to a doctor. If you don't think it is that serious, go to like wal-mart, or walgreens, or cvs and talk to the pharmisist and ask about any creams, and ask if they ever had someone ask about something like this. Although it doesn't itch that may be a sign that it is something worse. You best bet is the doctor.

okay, well first off i shave down there and it gets irritated very easily, is there any other methods i can do rather than shaving?
i wanna try waxing but i would never be able to pull the strip off myself, so if i went to a salon or w.e-- would they do the whole downstairs?
or just the 'bikini' part, like the sides of thighs.

All girls have there choice. Some stay natural, some bikini wax, some was it all, some shave the top, some shave all of it. But one problem with shaving with a razor is when the hair grows back it itches. But this is how i do it. At wal mart or target or any department store for that have at least one of these and for women and are usally 9.99 http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5293207 that works good and you don't have to worry about getting cut and having it itch down there.

i know its kinda wierd but whatever. i wanted to start shaving my pubes and i did but the hair kept extending out. i tried waxing but it hurts a lot. is there anything else i should try? if i use hair removing cream, will it keep extending or not? help thanks

All girls have there choice. Some stay natural, some bikini wax, some was it all, some shave the top, some shave all of it. But one problem with shaving with a razor is when the hair grows back it itches. But this is how i do it. At wal mart or target or any department store for that have at least one of these and for women and are usally 9.99 http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5293207 that works good and you don't have to worry about getting cut and having it itch down there.

15/f
You know how when you get "turned on" your vag gets wet, well literally everytime I am with my boyfriend, that happens. And to the point where it's like i can feel it with just moving, its kind of strange. I'm just wondering if this is normal? is there something wrong or am i just really turned on by him? haha. and if he goes to finger me will he be weirded out or will it be a turn on for him???

thanks.

it is normal. some women just have alot of natuaral lube, be happy because some women have to get it out of a bottle. ANd must men think it's a turn on and that they are causing this to happen. So dont' worry

So i want to be on some sort of birth control because i don't like condoms much but i smoke and don't really feel like quitting that anytime soon. So that kind of stops me from taking the pill/patch right? but what other birh control things can i use? i know of the shot and the ring and the diaphram (sp) but the other thing is im pretty forgetful, and when me and my boyfriend are together things just tend to lead to another pretty quickly. anybody have any other ideas?

well you and your boyfriend still need to use condoms, even if you take birth control. This site shows you options http://www.4woman.gov/faq/birthcont.htm

how can i find my girls G-spot, what's like a usal place to find it.

It is very hard to find, so when you do you better remember how to get there again!
go here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot

-briana

Alright well this is an embarassing topic I chose to ask about but here goes....

Alright so I heard about people shaving their pubes and I thought I looked unattractive down there with pubic hair. So I shaved a little and within a few days I shaved almost all of it. I used a shaving cream that could be used for it. Now, all I feel is pain and irritation. It stings constantly where the hair used to be. However, I manage to sometimes discover temporary relief from this antagonizing agony such as a hot bath, or a hot water bottle. Any tips on what to avoid and what to use to help? After you shave repeatedly does it hurt less? Should I come to the conclusion I shouldn't shave there, and only trim? Please help me! How long will this pain last?

All girls have there choice. Some stay natural, some bikini wax, some was it all, some shave the top, some shave all of it. But one problem with shaving with a razor is when the hair grows back it itches. But this is how i do it. At wal mart or target or any department store for that have at least one of these and for women and are usally 9.99 http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5293207 that works good and you don't have to worry about getting cut and having it itch down there.

merry christmas and a happy new year
Briana

I see a lot of questions on this site about SEX. I think the weirdest part for me is that the age of the girls asking is like 12 and 13! Im 15 and I havent thought about sex yet..Im just not ready. I think Im MORE mature for it. I dont do it because I dont want to become pregnant. But Im also scared of it, am I immature or more mature than these 12 year olds having sex? Someone just explain to me how they can have sex without any second thoughts. When I was 12 I was like playing with barbies...Im really confused.

i tottally agree with you. im 13 but i look around me at all my friends and hear them talking about how they had sex and i see them all sad becuase some of them get pregnant to 18 year old guys and some contract std's. its just wild! i mean i know that i don't want to have sex and im set on that. i tell my self over and over again "no matter what anyone else says im not having sex" i think that it is just weird these 12 and 13 year old having sex when its like rape. i think you are more mature because you know what you want to do. that's how i feel im going to be more mature than the next girl and make something out of my life instead getting pregnant before you even get out of middle school

just thought id say something lol
briana

okay, some of my friends shave the pussy and i want to know if this is normul, thts you ARE sapose to shave. becauce i donno if you are or not...

All girls have there choice. Some stay natural, some bikini wax, some was it all, some shave the top, some shave all of it. But one problem with shaving with a razor is when the hair grows back it itches. But this is how i do it. At wal mart or target or any department store for that have at least one of these and for women and are usally 9.99 http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5293207 that works good and you don't have to worry about getting cut and having it itch down there. It's not a metter if you are supposed to it's a matter if you want to.

Hope this helped!
Briana

Ok so I'm young, and naive. How do women usually get rid of their hair down there? It seems like waxing would hurt.

you can use those hair remover thingies lol. you may have seen commercails on them look go here: http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5293207 but you can usally find the one for women too, and where i live it's about 9.99

okay i am a virgin, so i haven't had experience with guys pleasing me "down there". i am getting married next month and i know it is something that will come up soon, so i want to know how i could make sure that it is fresh. so it doesn't smell or taste nasty. thank you:)

use summers eve products designed for "down there" you can find them in the pads and tampons section at walmart or target

is there some sort of std that you can also get on your mouth? Its like a huge amount really small whitish spots down there - not so many on the mouth though.

thanx

Yes you can here is more info at this site:
http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/std/oral/

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