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Q: I asked this already but It happened again. for the fouth time Ive bled when my boyfriend fingered me. seriously can I pop my cherry four times. it soaks through my underpants onto my jeans too. it just bleeds right after. its really annoying and I dont think he is just breaking my hymen again and again. he did it one time but not for very long and not as intense and it didnt bleed. I just wanna know if it will stop or if its abnormal

maybe his fingers are just too long or too big. anytime i use to use a toy it'd bleed. it's honestly nothing to worry about, just wear stuff you can get the blood out of easy if you're going to mess around. and if you get a chance talk to your doctor.

Q: so yesterday i had sex with my boyfriend for the first time, he was a virgin i wasnt.. but we went threw 3 condoms and everyone of them broke but as soon as they broke he put a new one on though but still why did they all brake we used one trojan and 2 durex.. ? and he also didnt cum it was so weird.. he kept almost going soft? what was wrong?

the condoms breaking - more than likley, they were too small, or you put them on the wrong way. and the twisted pleasure ones always break for me. so if you used that it might be why.

the not getting off thing - probably the stopping and starting, once someone gets close to getting off, then just stops, its usually hard to get back to that point

the pretty much going soft thing - that's probably because of the starting and stopping thing too. for the same reasons actually. when it happens, try playing with him a little big.

and the best condoms i've found so far are MAGNUMS. i think trojan makes them. they have large size. and maybe you guys need lube, friction can make them break too.

Q: what about your vagina or inside of your vagina changes after you've had sex?

my bf also was fingering me the other day and felt like a little ball? then he said it went away. what is that? he said he felt it at first one of the first times he fingered me..idk

it was probably your cervics dear. if it's too low sex will hurt, well regardless it will probably hurt your first time, but it's nothing to worry about, it's just a general part of your body.

Q: the only time i orgasm is when i masturbate with a shower head. is there any other way i can achieve an orgasm without sex? and what are some things you use to masturbate that i can find around the house?

cucumber, electric toothbrush, cigar case, pretty much anything that is generally in the penis shape, but make sure you put a condom on ANYTHING you use. it's a lot safer that way so you don't get an infection. and usually when i mess with my clit (do you know what that is?) it works. i've never gotten off from a shower head, not quit sure how that would work cuz i can't put mine inside me lol. but just make sure you put a condom on anything you use.

Q: Okay i am a 16/m And me and my girlfriend have been having sex for quit a while now we have been together for a little over a year. But a few months ago she got pregnant but she had a miscarriage and at that time we was wanting her to be but then we got worried because her parents are kinda mean and would probably start a lot of trouble and her dad has a bad temper. But my question is. We have used a condom but we neather one like them. So we dont use them anymore. I pull it out before i actually "Cum" but is it possible for her to get pregnant from just pre cum?.. Please answer ASAP.

birth control, the shot, pulling out, condoms, all of that is NOT promised to work. birth control is very iffy on when it works or not, and precum can get a girl pregnant just as easy. oh and that whole can't get pregnant on your period thing? ...a lie. so be VERY careful, and make sure that if she gets pregnant again, you're prepared to handle her parents. if you have to, practice from now till it happens on how you're gonna tell them. 16 is WAY to young to have a kid in my opinion, i'm 17 and i'm too young as well. just be careful ok?

Q: Tips?
Uh..
How do you give a good one?

Yup..

Cool.

swirl your tounge around it. the faster you suck the better, move your head up and down. or in and out depending on the position you're in. just pretend it's a popsicle i guess. but make sure you don't bite...that would HURT lol.

Q: 16/f
What's the best way to ask my mom if I can go on birth control ? It's not because I have sex, but because my cramps unbarable. I brought it up to her once before, and she said I was to young & how my older sister didn't go on it until she was 18. Any ideas on how to bring it up to her and/or how to get her to say yes ? Anything helps. Thanks :)

explain to her about how it helps your cramps, and how it regulates your period. the kinda i have has 4 colors and when i get to the green ones, i start my period. it's very helpful. i used to be doubled over in pain from cramps and i'd spend a whole day crying everytime i got one...now i rarely feel them. when she says your sister didn't go on it till she was 18 tell her that you arn't her and you need them now because it hurts so bad. and if she still won't listen...when you get cramps...cry. show her how bad it hurts and she will eventually get you on it.

Q: When I am teasing a guy like through his pants, his penis will like "throb" up and down, is that normal?

lol yes dear, that's normal. my boyfriend's penis does it too. i'm guessing it's because it feels good on the muscles in there, kinda like if a guy fingers you, you usually move your legs, well, i do at least, i guess it's just showing it feels good.

Q: okay. so i want to masturbate but i need to get horny. how would i do that? i have two younger sibs her at the house with me so nothing too inappropriate in case they walk in on me. or websites. they don't come over to the computer while i am on so i don't care how inappropriate. and when i am horny are there any house hold items i could use to masturbate? i have nothing that vibrates. imediate answers appreciated. and so are a lot of answers. thank you. oh yeah... 14/female. thx.

um, you could use an electric tooth brush, put a condom over it. (and anything you use for that matter, or it could really hurt you) those cigar cases that hold like, one cigar and kinda look like sex toys would be good. i've got one. take the sticker off of it and ALL the adhesive..or just put a condom on over it. sitting in your closet to do it would probably be a good idea so they don't see you. if you can unscrew a handle off of a pan that MIGHT work, idk i've never tried that. just remember, condom over everything!

for the sites, don't go to porn sites because they put a LOT of viruses in your computer. trust me. lol. but anything with passionate kissing sessions usually works well, like go on myspace and search the videos for "passionate kissing" or "hot makeout session" or something like that.

Q: I had sex with this guy that i really really like. It was my first time. And I hated it. It hurt so badly. And I was bleeding a whole lot. Why did it hurt? And why was I bleeding? I am 14/f

When you have sex you "pop your cherry" and it bleeds and hurts because it rips a little piece of skin inside you, it also might be because at 14 you're still very small and that hole isn't very big and to be shoving something into it, makes it stretch and rip and it's gonna hurt really bad. considering you probably won't stop having sex i should warn you that the next few times WILL still hurt, till you get used to the pain. then you'll be fine. make sure he uses a condom and you get on birth control FAST... you don't want babies at your age. and imagine if your parents found out. yikes!

Q: Guys,

When fingering a girl, would you rather her shave 'down there' or just trim?

most guys would rather the girl shave.

Q: is it a turn off if lets say you are fingering a girl and she is "wet"? or if she is hairy?

lol hun. it's a turn ON for guys if the girl is "wet" cuz thats what they are trying to do. it just means that you are horny which is what the guy wants. and for most guys the girl being hairy IS a turn off. some guys don't care. but most guys don't like it. but yea, the wet thing, they love that lol.

Q: My boyfriend and I are thinking about having sex in the near future, and we want to be as safe as possible. We would use a condom, but I'd like to be on the pill too.

My mom asked awhile ago if I thought that this relationship was more intimate...At the time I didn't think it would be and she said "Well I hope you could come to me, because I would want you to be safe, but your not allowed to have sex until you are 18."

I'm confused by what she meant. If I did decide to have sex does this mean she would be okay with it? Or does it mean she would like me to wait until I'm 18 but if I don't she wants to know?

I think she means that if you go to oral and stuff like that then she wants you to be able to come to her about it but she doesn't want you to have sex till your 18. but i think you should tell her about wanting to be on the pill and make sure you really love this kid cuz you don't wanna make the mistake i did and lose it to someone that you arn't really sure you are in love with. but yea, if you don't want to tell her about having sex just tell her your periods are going crazy and your cramps hurt really bad.

Q: this is probably the wrong category. again. but oh well.

i've been asking lots of questions lately so sorry.

okay. this is goingn to sound dumb but whatever. when i get horny i masturbate, and blahblah. but once i climax, i'm done, and i'm just like, "okay. whatever. how could i not resist doing that?" i don't know why, and it's kind of annoying. maybe i should just stop doing it so much and then my 'orgasm' if that's even what it is, would last longer.

i also feel kind of guilty afterwards, because i'm already paranoid of having something happen to my family or pets, and though i'm not really, really religious i do believe in god, and i pray occasionally, so i'm worried that he's going to punish me for masturbating, even though i'm not hurting anyone or thinking of anyone when i do it.

sorry my questions are all kind of messed up but i don't want to ask people in real life. haha.

thank you.

Ok god isn't gonna do anything bad to your family because you masterbate.. and how do you even get turned on to do that if you don't think of anyone lol. but anyway.. go to your doctor and ask him (or her) how you can make them last longer. it may seem wierd but it will help.

Q: well my boyfriend and i have been having sex, he wa smy first. and its fine and everything but whenever he wants me to give him head or a handjob.. i cannot do t.. he says im really not that bad.. but i can tell i am.. it takes forever giving him head and i dont know... i try hard but i cant.. any tips or websites i could check out? thanksss

http://www.sex-project.com/handjobs.shtml thats a good site to learn how to give a handjob. thats where i learned, i havn't done it yet...and im not sure if i will. but thats got all kinds of tips and tecniques to use.

Q: when is the easiest time to get pregnant? okay i know this is going to sound really wrong but i really really really want a baby and my boyfriend have sex frequently without a condom but he pulls out because he hates kids, is there any way to make it easier to get pregnant? and i kno alot of people are going to think what im saying is really messed up so plase only comment back with advice not ridicule, im not expecting him to marry me or even take part in this i just am wondering...thanks

maybe you should find someone else then. Someone who wants kids. Someone who will stay with you and help you or at least someone with a high enough sperm count to get you pregnant. don't use condoms, have lots of sex, and find someone new cuz he obviously can't get the job done right on getting you pregnant. but i mean if you love him and stuff then just wait and it will evenutally happen. it did with my aunt.

Q: my boyfriend is always pressuring me to have sex. i'm not a virgin, which i told him, but i dont think i am ready to have sex with him. i mean we have been going out for 4 months, but i really dont think i am ready for that kind of commitment. the last and first guy i had sex with was my first love we had known each other since we were 3. me and him are still friends and my boyfriend always gets jealous of me talkin to him. he also cussed me out various times in person and on the phone. i really dont know what to do about this and i KNOW i cant ask my mom cuz she would go and cuss him out. 17/f/ga

break up with the jerk off.....hes pressuring you into something you dont wanna do, he cusses u out all the time. he gets jealous over something really stupid.....you deserve better

Q: One of my best friend in the whole word really needs help. lets call her 'Katy'

Ill start from the beggining:

He mother commited suicide when she was a baby and she now lives with her stepmum and dad. Her stepmum is so horrible she doesnt let Katy out of the house she throws away all her make up, mobile and other stuff, she beats her up and everything. ( the dad stays out of it and if he has to takes the stepmothers side.)Katy is so lovely but shes getting into drugs and shes tryed to kill herself loadz of times - she came into school with big slits on her wrists on Friday. She has social workers, councilers and the school are involved (but none of them no about the drugs and the suicid attemps) but they dont seem to do ANYTHING to help her.

What should i do i treally worries about her!?

Maybe you should take the next step and do something. Go to the police. If you let this go on you could lose her forever. Or go to your parents and tell them whats going on but get help fast because she needs to and you might lose her.
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Q: I went to this party and I'm 15 and I drank but I only had one beer and than I woke up the next morning in my bed. After that for the next couple of weeks I got sick daily, I started to get worried and had my friend buy a pregnancy test for me and it turned out that I was pregnant. I don't know how that's possible because I'm a virgin. But I can't remember what happened that night at the party. I don't know what to tell my parents.
~Pregnant?~

i bet you had more than one drink. or someone put something in your drink and then took advantage of you. or the one drink was to strong. and your obviously not a virgin anymore.

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