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birth control
16/f
What's the best way to ask my mom if I can go on birth control ? It's not because I have sex, but because my cramps unbarable. I brought it up to her once before, and she said I was to young & how my older sister didn't go on it until she was 18. Any ideas on how to bring it up to her and/or how to get her to say yes ? Anything helps. Thanks :)
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Talk to her privatley and just ask. Don't dance around the question cuz my mom hates that. And if she brings up how ur sister got on it when she was 18 be like well im not her.. and that your doing it because your cramps suck and ask for her to st up an apointment to see a doctor. My mom insisted i start it when I was 12 why no idea but its a really big commitment so be straight forward and see waht she says
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i had this same problem. My period had been at all different times and it was really bothering me cause i couldnt keep track of it. So i told my mom i needed birth control so i could know when i got my period. Cause esp. during the summer it sucks not knowing when your period is coming so i told her that, and she got me on it right away :]
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you don't have to get your parents permission to get on birthcontrol they don't have to know but if you want to ask your mom about it then tell her about how bad the cramps are and how one of your friends had the same problem and the birth control thing worked for her so i think it would help me alot say something like that
hope i helped
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explain to her about how it helps your cramps, and how it regulates your period. the kinda i have has 4 colors and when i get to the green ones, i start my period. it's very helpful. i used to be doubled over in pain from cramps and i'd spend a whole day crying everytime i got one...now i rarely feel them. when she says your sister didn't go on it till she was 18 tell her that you arn't her and you need them now because it hurts so bad. and if she still won't listen...when you get cramps...cry. show her how bad it hurts and she will eventually get you on it.
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When is the next time you can see a gyanecologist (preferably) or a family doctor? What you should do is tell your mother that you are booking an appointment to talk to them about severe menstrual cramps and would like her to accompany you.
When she's out of the room talk to the doctor about birth control, your mother's concerns and that you're not interested in sex yet but want the pain to go away. See if they think this is the best option for you. Then ask him to bring your mother in and have him tell her what he/she recommends.
You could also talk to an aunt, grandmother, friend's mother etc. that your mom trusts the opinion of and they can tell her that you've mentioned the cramps to them and tha birthcontrol is not such a big deal. This especially helps if you know a friend who went on birthcontrol over this and her mother.
You could also have a female teacher (gym, health etc) or guidance counselor call your mother and tell her that the cramps are affecting your performance in school and making it difficult to do work or participate in some activities.
While you may not like this idea the bottom line is you need an other adult whose authority and views she trusts to talk to your mom for you.
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