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talking to my mom about being on birth control
My boyfriend and I are thinking about having sex in the near future, and we want to be as safe as possible. We would use a condom, but I'd like to be on the pill too.
My mom asked awhile ago if I thought that this relationship was more intimate...At the time I didn't think it would be and she said "Well I hope you could come to me, because I would want you to be safe, but your not allowed to have sex until you are 18."
I'm confused by what she meant. If I did decide to have sex does this mean she would be okay with it? Or does it mean she would like me to wait until I'm 18 but if I don't she wants to know?
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I think she means that if you go to oral and stuff like that then she wants you to be able to come to her about it but she doesn't want you to have sex till your 18. but i think you should tell her about wanting to be on the pill and make sure you really love this kid cuz you don't wanna make the mistake i did and lose it to someone that you arn't really sure you are in love with. but yea, if you don't want to tell her about having sex just tell her your periods are going crazy and your cramps hurt really bad.
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what she means is that she "WANTS" you to wait but if you decide not to go to her
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I'm guessing she wants you to be safe if it does happen, but at the same time she's saying you're not allowed to before 18 because she doesn't want you assuming you can go ahead & do it since she seems "fine" with it. That probably didn't make too much sense. Either way, I think in you're situation you should go to her & discuss getting you on the pill. It'll show you're mature, you're taking responsibility, & you're being honest. Explain your situation [wanting to use two forms of protection] & I'm sure she'll more likely be comfortable with the idea knowing you have the intention of being safe. If she's like most mothers, she might not be too thrilled about her daughter having sex. But I'm sure she'll trust you a lot more if you had the nerve to come up to her & be honest instead of doing it behind her back.
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I think what she means is that if you really cant help the erge and feel like youre ready...let her know...but if youre using a condom and are on birth control...you are being very safe. and not to mention SMART!
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My mom said the same. I of course didn't listen and got pregnant when I was 17. :)
My guess is she wants you getting the message that she thinks you should wait. However, if you don't she would rather you be safe than risk getting pregnant. I don't know her so as I said I am just guessing. That would be my thoughts if you were my daughter.
I think asking her about it and discussing the possibility with her would be a good thing. :)
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