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no guy has ever really seen my boobs, even though many have asked. i'm afraid guys will think 'ew that girl has ugly boobs' or something. i dont know-i'm very self concious. like is therea a certain way boobs should look? thanks. (link)
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Boobs are boobs. Most girls don't have issues with them being mis-shapen or having one that's conciderably larger than the other, but there are a few that do. All boobs look very similar, so there's really nothing to worry about there. If you don't feel comfortable letting guys see you topless, DON'T. It's your choice and you shouldn't do it just to make them happy. It's your body, be proud of it.
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I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and i want to have sex with him but then i dont because i feel like i'll be betraying my mother and disrespecting her house i know im only 17 soon to be 18 in just 11 months.but i really love him and we want to but im scared i don't know what to do. So could someone out there please help me? (link)
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When it comes to having sex, you should do it if it feels like the right decision to you. Don't jump into anything that you are not feeling ready for. Even though you've been with your current boyfriend for quite awhile now, that won't necessarily make it an easy decision.
If you aren't wanting to do it because it feels like betraying your mother, you probably aren't ready to "take the plunge".
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Iam 17 and I think I may be pregnant and my parents said if I get pregnant before I finish highschool they will kick me out and I have no where else to go besides my parents what should I do?please help me! (link)
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First of all, you need to find out for sure if you are pregnant. Take a home pregnancy test. I would reccomend getting a box of them that has more than one. Sometimes the tests can give a false positive, but there is no false negative if you use the test right. Make sure you read the directions that come in the box very carefully to avoid doing anything wrong. A good brand that is reliable but inexpensive is the Walgreens brand called "Answer". If it turns out that you are pregnant, you need to research all of your options very carefully before doing anything drastic.
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i had sex with my best guy friend, and he has std's do i have it?!!!!?! help pleasee!!!! (link)
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It's possible that you might have the STD, but you won't know for sure until you get tested. You need to do this right away because if curable STD's are caught early, you can get rid of them with no problem at all. If the disease is allowed to progress, the health hazards to you will increase also. You can go to your regular doctor, the gynecologist, or your local Planned Parenthood (or similar such place) for testing. There might be a small fee and a cost for the medicine as well.
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about 3 weeks ago, i became sexually active for the first time. i haven't gotton my period yet. I've been stressed, but my breasts hurt, i feel sick to my stomach no matter what, and my back hurts. It could be the weather (with my back) but I think i could be prego. I took the home test and it was negative, but i still don't have my period. I know having sex can cause irregular periods, but should i see a doctor? or something? i don't want my parents to know...but any answers would be appreciated. (link)
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If you are more than two weeks late having your period, you should take another at home test. If that comes back negative, then you need to see the doctor about it. You could always go to your local Planned Parenthood for a pregnancy test to find out for sure. Everything there is confidential, and they won't tell your parents if you don't want them to. If Planned Parenthood isn't in your town, there are ususally other places that offer the same types of services.
It's possible that you're pregnant, but if you use protection, the chances are greatly decreased.
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i'm a virgin, i'm 18 years old, i've been with my boyfriend for 8 months, and i've done everything but have sex, and lately when i'm in the middle of doing 'things' with my boyfriend i've had an extreme urge to have sex. i never let myself do it though, cause.. i dont know. how do i know if i should let myself do it or not? (link)
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If you feel that it's the right time to have sex, you should do it. If there's anything that's holding you back, don't do it. If you only do it to make your boyfriend happy, or for any other reason than a real desire to do it.. you will regret the decision for the rest of your life. If you do choose to do it, make sure you use protection.
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This is kind of random but do you think that when someone losses thier virginity they should tell thier parents? (link)
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Honestly, I don't think it's the place of a friend to tell the parents about that issue. If someone wants their parents to know, they should be the ones that tell them. It's a very personal issue and some people don't want anyone else knowing. If someone were to get pregnant or show signs of STD's, I would say that that's a different story and that it would be okay to tell in that situation.
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Okay..,
My friend told me that she is pregnant ......
2 days ago she told me that they had unprotected sex and that he came in her for the first time.
can you really see on a pregnancy test after 2 days that you are really pregnant?
thx (link)
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You can't tell two days after the unprotected sex is had. In order for an at-home pregnancy test to be effective, you need to wait about a week after your missed period. Follow the directions that come with the box, and it should give you an accurate result.
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well you see i am soooooo guilty of what i have done i well... looked at porn all different kinds and i feel so guilty should i like bow down to my parents and like tell tem or shoul i live with it? I'm going on a trip in like a couple weeks and i dont think its going to be any fun being guilty. but i realized if i tell them i might not get to go on the trip!!!! HELP ME PLEASE!!! (link)
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There's nothing really wrong with looking at porn as long as it's not becoming an addiction for you. Everyone looks at it from time to time just out of curiosity, and I mean EVERYONE. Anyone who claims to never have seen it before is either your great-great-great-great grandma or a liar. I wouldn't reccomend telling your parents about this because they will probably be upset with you for looking at it and probably won't let you go on your trip. Just concider this one of those adolecent learning experiences that everyone goes through... no big deal.
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Okay so last night at this dance party I was dancing(more like grinding) with a whole bunch of different guys. Then i noticed that this one guy had a hard on so i really rode into it. Later on that night I danced with my crush and he didnt get a boner, should I feel wierd because I wasnt doing a good job or what? Any Input? (link)
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There's nothing wrong with your crush not getting a boner from dancing with you, and it has nothing to do with you doing a bad job or anything like that. Some guys get excited by things like dirty dancing and others don't.
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okay im a f/16 and i shave down there. is that weird if im not having sex at all and dont plan on it any time soon? does anyone else? (link)
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No, there's nothing wierd about that at all. It's more of a comfort issue than a sexual issue. You don't need to shave down there to have sex, obviously, and just because you do shave there doesn't mean that you need to plan on not being a virgin.
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Ohkay, this is very embarassing for me to ask. But how is a boner noticable to the boy getting it and anyone around him? It just doesn't make sense to me. Please no stupid answers =) (link)
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Well, I'm not a guy, so I can't really tell you how he would notice when he's getting one... But as for the people around the "excited" young lad, you can see a.. how should i put this.. "buldge" maybe? It's kinda hard to explain without having a visual model, but you can definatly tell. Sometimes there are wet spots on whatever pants he's wearing as well.
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If a boy friend wants to know about your past sexuall eperiances would you tell him the truth, if he is not your first, or just say you do not wish to discuss the subject.I only had 2 guys in the past but fell he will not belive me. i am 17 years old and did not have sex with my new boy frind yet. (link)
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Okay.. here's what I'd do. If you're serious about the guy and he asks you, you should tell him the truth about what he asks about. If he's just some guy who wants to mess around, you don't have to tell him anything you don't want to. If he just wants to know if you're a virgin or not... a simple yes or no answer should suffice. You shouldn't feel pressured into discussing anything you don't want to.
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OK see
Like I watch tv and I see all these ppl
having sex ! I mean I really want to !( I don wanna do it just because everyone else is doing it but I just really want to !) I really want to but I am scared
because I am a virgin ! I am really scared it will hurt like F****** Crazy ! \
I really want to have sex but .. not only do
I not have a bf but I am scared and..
I won be on Birth control until like later in next month ! ( I wanna be 100 percent protected ..
so I wanna use a condom and Birthcontrol!) Someone please help ! (link)
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The whole.. virginity... issue can be a tricky one to deal with. I can see why you're apprehensive about it, but you shouldn't do it if you're scared. You should wait until it feels 100% right to you. Getting on birth control and using a condom is the best way of protection if you are going to have sex. Abstinance is the only 100% effective method of birth control, mind you, but if you are on birth control and use a condom, your chances of an unwanted pregnancy are smaller. You shouldn't commit yourself to such a life altering event until you're certain you can make a responsible choice about it. It didn't hurt me at all my first time, but some people say the exact opposite. Each person has a unique body, and therefore everyone's body is just a little different.
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ok well its been like to weeks sense ive had ex an we didnt use a condum an im afraid that im pregnnet im not going to get a pregnecie test because i have reasons why, but i know the syptoms but , could you not know your pregnat for like 3 weeks i mean when i go to the bath room i have white stuff on my underware an idk my friend told me thats because im pregnat an idk i just need help .. i know i shouldnt have had sex im a really goodi girl so dont judge my parents are into polotics , an if they found out that i was they would shio me off to bording school or somthing even worse so please help me?? (link)
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You need to just stop being ridiculous and take a pregnancy test. If you've missed your period by more than a week, you really need to do this. Your parents WILL NOT ship you off somewhere if they found out you were pregnant. If you're not old enough to realize this, you're not old enough to be having sex in the first place. Your parents love you and would want to do everything they could to help you out if you were pregnant. Take a home pregnancy test and find out if you are or not. You need to see a doctor immediatly if you find out that you are. It's important to start prenatal care asap if you decide to continue with the pregnancy.
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My cousin (I AM NOT MAKING THIS UP I SWEAR!) is always wanting to make out. She is only 12 and has never made out but is always having the urge to do it. How can she stop? (link)
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Her urge won't totally go away until she actually does kiss someone for the first time. Every girl gets those kind of feelings about her first kiss, it's not abnormal. She shouldn't have to stop feeling the way she does about it just because someone else thinks it's wierd or disgusting. Once she figures out it's not any big thing, she'll stop wanting to do it so badly.
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ok... I'm 18 yrs old... So for my question... like the beginning of this month I had a gyno appt and she told me that everything was ok... Well now.... my period is suppose to start either today... or tomorrow.... well... it kinda started today.. but its not like my regular period... I mean.. I'm hardly even bleeding at all... not like my normal one where its heavy... I was put on a Antibiotic and the doctor never told me that it could affect my birthcontrol and i never new that... and me and my boyfriend have been having unprotected sex for like 6 months now.. but ive always always gotten my period on time... and the usual everything... now i'm scared because i'm not sure.... Could I be pregnant???? ;/
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You could be pregnant because certain antiboitics do interfere with the effectiveness of birth control medicines. The light bleeding could be a sign of pregnancy because many women who are pregnant get some very light bleeding around the time when they would normally have had their period. This is commonly known as "spotting". Although you could have just started your period really lightly this month. If it doesn't become heavier within a couple of days, you should take a home pregnancy test to see if you're pregnant or not.
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My boyfriend fingered me a couple days ago and now, 5 days after my period has ended I am bleeding very slightly (I can only notice when I wipe) and when I pee it stings a little. What does this mean? (link)
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Don't get stressed about this, it's nothing serious. From what you've said, it sounds like he cut you with his fingernail when he was "doing his thing". It's happened to me before, and the only thing you can really do is wait it out. The stinging should stop after a couple of days. If the bleeding and stinging last more than a week, you should go see a doctor.
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Hey. Im 17 years old, and my boyfriend is 21 years old. We live together and everything, but one night, when we were having sex, we didnt even notice the condom slip off. Well, he came inside of me, and then we looked frantically for a condom we though was still on. The next day it came out of me, but there was no cum in it or anything. it was as clear as it was when it first came on. Also, im not on birth control. It has been 2 weeks since, and I was just wondering if there is any chance of getting pregnant. Also, it was only 2 or 3 days after my period. So, can i? (link)
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It's possible that you might be pregnant, but the chances of you getting pregnant are greater in between your cycles. Any time there's unprotected sex, accidental or not, you run the risk of getting pregnant. If you miss your period the next time you're supposed to get it, make sure you take a home pregnancy test just to make sure.
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is porn a bad thing to do? (link)
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If you mean watching porn, no it's not a bad thing to do. Almost everyone has seen one at some point or another. It's not really shameful or anything. If you mean making porn, that's a whole other story. If you're under 18, it's probably not a good idea to go around making porno videos. You're likely to get caught at it, and it's illegal to be in one unless you're over 18. And if you are over 18, go ahead and make one if you want to, but just be sure that you're morally okay with the whole of the world seeing you naked on their computer screen.
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