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Q: I'm 13/m in jr high and I was wondering, how old is an appropriate age for sex? I've heard of people my age that have had sex, but I don't think 13 is an appropriate age, so..... how old should you be to have sex?

♥ I think maybe 14 or 15 is appropriate..but not the MOST but 13 is definitely inappropriate because you like are in the first year of being a teenager..I first had sex like early this past october..but i havent had sex since..im 14..but i turn 15 in january..but most people start having sex at a young age now..but most people start having sex at 16..but i think you should start younger..like im not saying do it now or turn into a slut..but i heard it hurts alot more when you wait..because the hymen (cherry) tightens up or sumthn..and yes it REALLY hurts REALLY bad..even if you decide to do it now..but imagine it hurting 50 times worse when you wait forever..sorry if i wasnt much help

xOxO--Janee`

Q: Is it wrong to have sex with someone,thats older than you by 3 years.
And another question,people that have taken meth.....did it make you more sexual? or anything?

♥ yes unless ya'll have been together for a long time, you know each other, and if yall really really love each other.
x3-Janee'

Q: i am 14 years old and i have a boyfriend. we have been going out for over 3 months now and we have hooked up many of times and he wants to go down my pants. i want him to aswell but i am scared, because i am not sure whether i should have hair down there or just to shave or get it waxed. please help me i am confussed!?

♥ It doesnt matter if you have hair... most guys like for hair to be down there but they dont have a problem w/ shaved so just incase he doesnt like hair...everyone likes hairless shave dont wax... it hurts like hell..the hair will grow bak fast if you shave it so shave it the night before he does it....I personally think all oral sex is gross.. lips werent meant to be down there....If i were u I would wait till I have been with him for atleast 5 months or 6 months( a half year) to have sex.....fingerin and kissing and jackin off is ok...
x3-Janee'

Q: Ohkay, please no stupid answers. But one of my guy friends said that "there is nothing better than to hear a girl moan when ya finger her". does it come natural to moan or do you jus do it to make the guy happy?

♥ It comes naturally if you fake it that means he sux at fingerin lol:)

-HOPE I HELPED:)
x3 Janee

Q: i know everyone has a different variation, but can you send you version of the bases? ex. first base-making out, 2nd base-up the shirt, etc.

Well,
I think 1st Base....Making out 2nd Base...Hickeys 3rd base....Fingering Home is obviously haveing sex.
-HOPE I HELPED:)
x3-Janee'

Q: first time you have sex is it better to have it with a virgin or a already experienced guy?

Well,
I'm a virgin but I would think with a experienced because virgins dont know what they're doing...
-HOPE I HELPED
x3-Janee

Q: So ok i had sex um like two weeks ago....Down there is kinda like all red and it looks like someone like burnt the first layer of my skin off. See after i had sex it got real ichy(i thought maybe he cut me with his finger nails down there does that make you ichy?) But today after my shower i seen that there was like a lump but its like a pimp but its not one its just a blister looking type thing. I herd from people he had STD's and he does fuck and isnt safe...Are thease signs of a STD?

If you heard he had STD's whyd you even fuck him in the first place

Q: My boyfriend and i been together for 11months, this month.we been having sex for about 7 months and i enjoy it and everything but... my boyfriend cant get me to have an orgasem. Don't get me wrong my boyfriend knows what hes doing and i enjoy it and everything. Is there something wrong with me? Should i go to the doctor?
im a 15 female.

Hunni,
It's not your fault...its probably his he's probably not workin it right and theres nothing wrong with not having an orgasm...not evryone has an orgasm.
-HOPE I HELPED:)
x3-Janee'

Q: last weekend i had sex with my boyfriend and now im worried im pregnet cause we didnt use a rubber but he did pull out

Hunn,
Just do the obvious and go to walgreens or your local pharmacy and buy a pregnancy test.
-HOPE I HELPED:)
x3-Janee

Q: Okay, I'm on birthcontrol. But, when you're on bc do you have to use a condom? And can he cum inside you and you still be safe? I"LL RATE 5's!!!

Sweetie

LISTEN CAREFULLY!

Birth control is only 99.9% effect you'd prolly figure oh yeah thats close to 100% so whatever But the boys cum CAN be that .1 percent to get you pregnant so use a condomn plus bc doesnt protect against STD's so again use a condom.

-HOPE I HELPED!
x3-Janee'

Q: about 2 weeks ago i was fooling around with my bf and some sexual things happend. we didnt have sex but he came, and it might be possible that it got "down there " sort of. My period has been 2 weeks last but it was late when i was fooling arounf with my bf. do you think its possible thtat i am pregnent without even having sex because some way some how like if it was on his fingers or something that i could be pregent? or is my period just really late. I havent had any signs of hurting boobs or anything like that.. so im just wondering. because ive been worried. thank you. =]

Sweetie,
ARE YOU DILLUSIONAL???? Everyone knows that when you're pregnant that you dont get your period AT ALL for the whole nine months. Thats why when the baby come out its all bloody n stuff...the blood on the baby is from you NOT having your period for 9 months

-HOPE I HELPED!
x3-Janee'

Q: my friend gave head to a guy over spring break which was in april and the day after she got a cold sore and then the next month she got a couple of cold sores, now she doesnt have any cold sores so my questions are. 1. does she have any herpes? 2. how long does it take to get herpes? 3. whenever a cold sore goes away, how long does it take to come bck when u have herpes

Honestly,
I think she has herpes cold sores are for WINTER TIME! It takes a half a second to get an std(herpes,aids,etc.)You can have herpes and not even know it....u can have herpes wiythout a single symptom so if u and ur friend experiment with each other....DO NOT... I REPEAT.....DO NOT KISS HER!!!!!!!!!

-HOPE I HELPED
x3-Janee'

Q: ok well i have stared my period once and that was 3 months a go i have not had sex soo i am not pregnet! it worries me! i havent told my mom that i haent started in 3 months! because she know i have origanly started! is my body going haywire or somthing? and i gett alot of discharge still!

Haywired Body??

Dont Worry,

When you first start you dont have a regular schedule or anything it just comes the way it comes and another thing when your period stabilizes and develops a schedule taht means you're done growing as in you wont get any taller...mines did the same thing...I started when I was 12 and Im 14 now and it still isnt stable so dont worry...and you're not haywired

-HOPE I HELPED
x3-Janee

Q: how long is a good amount of time to give a guy a blow job for? i've given them before but i dont know when to stop .. so i wanted to know like how many minutes or just until he cums?

Honestly,

I'd say until he cums so then u kno you did a good job...

-HOPE I HELPED!
x3-Janee'

Q: okay so my friend is on birth control (actually my friend) last month about two weeks before she got her period she had some bleeding. i heard once that you can get pregnant on birth control but the pills will kill it. is that posibly what her bleeding was? im very interested because im planning on getting on birth control pills and i want to know about them

Listen,
Birth control doesnt kill the baby it kills sperm cells that are inside the womans body(before it reaches the eggs of course) and its possible to get pregnant on birth control(unless u use a condom too) but the chances of getting pregnant ar SLIIIIIM because birth control is 98% effective...the bleeding is pre menstrual like an indicator of her period or it could be a side effect of "vaginal bleeding" from the birth control pills,or shot

-HOPE I HELPED!
x3-Janee'

Q: Is it uncommon for the inner lips to hang out and be all floppy, because its really long and the inner lips are really...hanging out all the time. i dont know what to do, its just so big, long, and floppy. Also its kind of wrinkly.. Is this normal, is there any creams i can use to make it go smaller and more normal??? Ive never been sexually active if that helps; and i want to be sexually active but im embarased!!! Any advice please!?

something is wrong wit your shit, you got that old lady pussy.I bet its dry too

Q: OK so my BFF's little brother is completely discusting!!! He acts very preverted even to me! It's sooo gross. He does things that are well REALLY inapropriate! Oh man when ever my friend and I try to tell him to stop, he will just ignore us and tell me I am sexy. Ya it's that weird for peet sakes hes only nine! How do I get him to stop?!

You need to lay down the line and say Look bitch(or kid) I dont appreciate you touching me ur a little boy and i have a b/f so fuck off!!!it doesnt really work unless you be mean.

-HOPE I HELPED!

Q: hey!well this might be long but here it goes...Ive liked this guy for a year and a couple of months now...but ive never liked someone so much and im quite sure its love. i didnt really talk to him before but now we are good friends..and during thanksgiving 04...i kinda told him i liked him...over aim..i didnt want it to happen that way.. and its a long story but my friend kind of made me. anyhow..i thought i was gonna die..i was so sadd so weak so upset.. i couldnt stop crying.i evn thought of suicide at times..but not anymore. then ive noticed after that we have become even closer and i like that..but we have never talked about the whole thing about me liking him and whenever im about to mention it..i get scared. i dont know wat to do anymore though..because im always thining about him.. and i really do love him. hes usually very sweet to me but there are some days when he just kind of ignores me or he feels upset.i dont kno what to do..its like evrytime im near him theres this feeling i get..and i fall for him over and over. sometimes i even think he likes me but im not sure and i really need help.

Well try going out with him.If you feel the same and yall relationship is good than you are in love.If your feelings sink and you don't feel the same then it wasa probably just a phase.

-HOPE I HELPED!!!:)

Q: is it wrong to lose your virginity at 14? whats so wrong about it and will it hurt? im scared to do it cuz i think it will hurt but i really really want to...so will it hurt for my first time??

Well I cant help you on the part about it hurting from personal experience cuz I'm a virgin myself and I'm 14.But i heard that it hurts like hell on your first couple of times and sometimes it(your vagina) bleeds.But I think that you should wait unless you think the boy that you're planning on losing it with is the one.Cuz I used to think that I had the one but then my mind changed and I wisened up. All I'm saying is dont do anything that you'll regret later.OH! make sure u use protection and it will be even better if you get on birth control.

-HOPE I HELPED:)

Q: Well, my boyfriend and I are going to have sex for the first time on Tuesday.

I was just wondering if I should, like, shave you-know-where. I've tried shaving that hair before, but it didn't really go over so well... It was still stubbly and I couldn't get rid of that, and it was really just wierd.

I was wondering if the hair would gross him out or something... Would it?

Im not a boy or anything but my boyfriend he has seen my "you know where" and he thinks that hair down there is a sexy thing and alot of my guy friends think its sexy too don't worry about it cuz the main thing you should be worrying about is the sex not the hair.DONT SHAVE IT!!!!! I shaved mine once and it itched like hell!!
GOOD LUCK!!!