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ok, i just made out with my boyfriend for about an hour and now i have a little bump on my lower lip...its not red, but it hurts a little because my teeth are right by it... is because of us kissing for so long...(he was sucking, biting softly etc.) or something else maybe? hes a virgin still, hes only fingered a girl once...will rate 5's thnx! (link)
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You appear to have and describe having a cold sore. It is a virus passed through kissing or coming in contact with the lips of an infected person. It can leave a sore in the mouth or on the lips. It will fade but you can get an outbreak of them now and again. It is a non sexually transmitted nor STD kind of herpes.
It is a lower grade virus but unfortunately one you now have and can pass when an outbreak is present or it looks to be coming on. Hope this helps you.
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Ok i never did this but if you masturbate can your vagina tear?? (link)
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Regular masturbation should not tear your vagaina even if really going at it with fingers. Unless using a knife or something sharp or jagged there should be no way at all to tear the walls of the vagina. Make sure any toys are clean, not jagged etc and nails obviously cut and not sharp and you should be fine. It is a normal activity as you know and not many people find the walls of their vagina torn afterwards unless using something sharp or that cuts.
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well im like 16teen and when i was younger like about maybe 5-7 years old i experimented with somebody who was only like 2 yrs older i mean he didnt even go through pubity yet and i didnt feel anything so does that make me still tight like a virgin (link)
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It was childhood sex play which believe it or not is normal development as long as an older child does not force or abuse a younger one. Experimenting is okay I take you meant tried to have sex. If nothing entered your vagina than you are still a virgin. Even if it did this ought not count with you not having a clue of what it is or was.
Just remember all this stuff from childhood even if bad or awful needs to be viewed as the past guilt free. As long as you learned--hey that wasn't right or good to happen you will be okay. As far as I am concerned still a virgin. Even if you were not it does mean you are a bad person for something tried all those years ago. Anyways, sounds like you are fine.
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i am 13, and my boyfriend is 14. we are both goth-like, and we love each other. we do have sex, but all my friends say i should go to the counselor and tell her about it. but i have nothing to tell. can anyone think of why i should or should not go the counselor? (link)
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I have no idea why you would need a counsellor. You are not being raped, forced to do this, or in trouble. If you use condoms every single time you are fine. Getting on the pill would be the best thing to do. As for counselling as you said there's not much to discuss. When you have sex does come down to your decision. Maybe your friends think you rushed into it (which I think may be the case either way). Just protect yourself above all else.
Personally, they as well as I think sex is for adults and there is a lot of trouble such as STI and STDs and pregnancy to consider. Maybe they think you are not thinking clearly which may in fact be true and know that boys will promise the moon for sex.
They want you safe. If you do not feel a counsellor is needed fine. Be careful nobody can stop you from it but they can all tell you having sex is better as an adult. It may be something new and wonderful to you both but getting pregnant sure is not--especially when the boy always leaves.
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this has been a question of mine for the longest time...
what is cyber?
how do you do it?
will rate! (link)
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This question is on the borderline of being a how to sex question. How to's when it comes to sex on this Web page cab get the person asking and or answering in trouble or banned. Just be cautious here. Sometimes adults pose as kids asking this stuff too so if a question sounds icky report it.
The question what is cybering? is okay as long as you just simply say it's online dirty, sexual talk and explicit. Let your imagination pick up on what it is like from that. There are young people, educators and no doubt parents in here trying to figure out if this useful tool is right for their kids.
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my question is how can you tell that guy is a virgin or not girl you can tell pop cherry but what about guys do they have some sign taht they are virgin? thx (link)
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The answer is you cannot tell just by looking at a guy or a girl how much sex they had, are having, or never had period. You cannot sniff out a virgin. It is plain and simple you will not know such personal things about someone unless they tell you. As far as girls go it is the same thing. A stretched hymen means nothing these days about virginity. These days masturbation and tampon use stretches it so you cannot tell either from male or female genitals if someone had sex--unless a gynaecologist.
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Okay so I have my period but the blood is like black is this normal or should I get checked out...I dont have a sex life..but I dint know where to put this..THANKS...I give 5's!!! (link)
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The flow could be heavy and yes it can look dark or lumpy to some or coffee grain color. If this however, looks black like sludge or totally gross I would tell your mother. She would have a good idea as a woman of what is not supposed to come out of a vagina from menstrual blood to discharge. If both of you wind up concerned you might as well see a gyanecologist and get used to going to be sure your reproductive system is healthy and also later on in life needing one when it comes to pregnancy. This doctor will tell you what is wrong with your reproductive system, vagina etc and what is good and bad discharge or colors.
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ok me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month and 1 week he wants to have sex im 14 hes 15 have we been going out long enough (link)
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It is not about how long people have been dating. It always about being responsible, knowing how to protect yourself and doing it because you want to. Boys at this age will promise you anything to the first person into your pants. If he is applying pressure on you to do this then DON'T. Knowing someone for only a month means you do not really know them. Odds are he's the get sex and dump her type. You can also get pregnant here. If you are asking question such as do I know him long enough? Odds are you know the answer is no and it is not time to form a sexual relationship. Why give it up to someone so easily that you knew for a month and have no idea how sincere? THINK!
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okay what i do to masturbate i dont figure myself i just put my finger at the top of down there and wiggle it back and forth really fast. what are other ways i can masturabate to feel really good? im not really comfortable with putting anything inside of me but anything to make my breasts feel good or my vagina? i will rate 5s!!! (link)
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Okay here we go again folks. Do not be naive. This person is likely an adult maybe for all we know a man or a pedophile. Do not ask for how to sex tips in here as it gets you banned. The same goes double for giving how to answers or links that describe all this off site. There are young people in here, parents and unfortunately idiots who wish to louse it up and cause trouble or get sick kicks. Think about it must teens are not looking to know how to masturbate or tips or share that info. They know it is private and half are embarassed to admit anywhere let alone a public forum they do. GET WISE AND REPORT THIS WHEN SEEN. I AM FLAGGING IT NOW.
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Is there such a thing as to many orgasms? Can it harm u if u do have one to much? (link)
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If it were truly physically harmful nobody would masturbate and or have sex silly. As it is not harmful and the entire world engages in it or almost if you believe stats. you are fine. The only way this is not okay is if you would rather spend all day doing it than socializing or living. That is harmful. Also harmful is a child who chronically does it or teen etc who uses it as comfort or too hide feelings or abuse or one that was taught through abuse. That is harmful. Otherwise be as you were and enjoy yourself.
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my boy friend wants to finger me and im gonna let him because im ready and i love him but what if something goes wrong .. like is it possible for his finger not to go up? (link)
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It sounds as though you are not ready for this kind of experience yet. If you are fearful and asking too many questions such as will this hurt? Will something go wrong? etc you are not ready. You need to read more about this and masturbation from books on sexuality and reliable sources first. If the idea grabs you as something that may hurt or be afraid of doing wait. After all you need to feel comfortable in these situations or the whole point is lost. We cannot give how to info on the right or wrong ways of doing this activity. Just know there is no right nor wrong way each girl's response to it is different.
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If your vagina isn't used to a lot of things wouldn't it be common sense if it got irrated, like from toooooooooo much perfume, soap and things like that? (link)
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Bubble Bath two words and do not use it. My cousin when little was forever back and forth from the doctor for creams. Her mother could not figure out the bubble bath caused her infections. Once they figured it out all was fine. If you want infections use it if not do not. They thought it was her getting red from doing too much self-exploration at first. She got scolded for that a lot when it was bubble bath.
Soaps with perfume are out for sure and use only IVORY or DOVE. You should be fine but yes, I know from health classes as well as personal experience that you never use perfume soap etc if you are a woman or with female children. Infections will start for sure.
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im gay and i want to tell my perants that im gay i know my dad would accept it but my mom would beat my @SS so what can i do to get my mom to accept me?? (link)
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You unfortunately cannot make anyone accept you or behave how you want. If they will not accept you it is their problem. You are their son and in the end that matters and will bring them around. Understand that yes, this is a lifestyle most people feel strongly about and some against. It takes time for them to adjust. You may hear a ton of hurtful things but in the end the bond between parents and yourself ought not nor ever break.
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ok im a virgin and i am 18 and my boyfreind / fiance is 22 and he has had 4 partners prior to me. also he has told me he is pretty big down there (normal sized condoms wont fit him) i havent actually seen it yet, but i am a virgin. i havent had any kind of contact in a sexual way at all and i want to have sex with him because we are so in love and getting married soon and all, but im afraid he will be too big and it will hurt alot. is there anything that the two of us can do to make our first time togheter (and my first time ever) more pleasurable and less painful for us? (link)
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Back the bus up missy. You obviously do not know a bullshiter when you see one. This guy has you wrapped around his finger so you will do anything for and with him. You might be in love but I am not so sure about him.
You are 18-years-old get your head on straight here. He is 22. While a few years younger his world mentally and physically is different from yours. At 18-years-old I am sorry you do not know beans about being married. An 18-year-old girl cannot handle marraige or making a life long commitment. Pull yourself together. you may love him but the whole Oh I'll marry you, fix this and that, I'll help if you get pregnant is BS right now.
I hate to say this but he wants sex more than you do. If you have no idea how to engage in it or to feel comfortable even and have questions, fears of pain etc DO NOT DO IT. If he sticks around maybe down the road. I have a feeling here that he wants sex and would bail or would bail if you didn't. Do not do it just to hang on to a guy.
Put it to you this way when you look back on it you might go I wished I did this with someone else than him. Also, another thing if they promise to stay with you if you got knocked up etc. Tell that to my 17-year-old cousin who now has a baby and nobody helping here. Be wise to the lies all guys tell. Don't have sex to please him. YOU ARE NOT READY AND WE CAN TELL.
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ok i had sex on my period, couple of days after and that sunday it was the first time i go on the pill can i get a preganant? and if yes how can i b sure ? is my period going to come is thier any danger for the baby if i keep using the pill ? please help me i need all the info i can get it will realy help me with this agony i have... (link)
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If you used condoms then I would relax. If used right they will protect from pregnancy and everything else. If you did not, bad girl! the consequences can be pretty severe including pregnancy. I would not worry too much if condoms were used. If they were not and you are late then I would worry a lot and get a pregnancy test and think about your options. For now, do not worry until you notice a period is very late and never came.
Using the pill protects and does not harm you. I am not sure why you keep refering to a baby that may not even exist yet or in the future. Will it do something if there wasa pregnancy? That is a good question. I would think probably it would but to find out ask a medical professional.
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well im a fresman in high school and i still haven't gotten mi period! ( i no pretty sad huh?) well anyways im afraid ill get it in school and ill be wearing white pants... what can i do? i don't want any surprsies (link)
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Carry tampons and or pads with you at all times and you will be okay. The white pants thing is sort of a myth everyone plays on as females. It usually does not happen but can. The reason they tell the story is simple to make girls aware of using menstrual products carefully and how to recognize the onset of a period because leaks happen and can wreck clothes. Embarassment and all that are other reasons. Just don't get caught wearing light pants or anything that shows leakage. Good tip when you think about it. I would not be so concerned worrying about it.
Also, you not having a period yet does not mean anything if genetics determine women in your family get it late and blossom late. If very concerned tell your doctor and see if everything is alright.
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this is my fourth year of playing volleyball. this happens to be the WORST coach i've had to deal with yet.. we're gonna call her BA. she is my sophomore volleyball coach. she acts like we're playing the world championships, ya know? our team is really good.. we've won conference for three years consectively. BA makes us all feel like crap. if we make ONE little mistake.. like hit the ball out, she makes us do like 3 suicides. and i have really bad asthma so it's hard for me. when i mess up, she picks on me the most. everyone knows im really sensitive, plus i have a horrible attitude. today, i was having an off day and she kept putting the blame for EVERYTHING on me, when something wasn't even my fault. she made us run like 15 sprints because of me. i know all of the running is conditioning, but running doesn't help you in volleyball. it just makes you more tired, you know? the first 20 mins i was really off, but the rest of practice i was doing really good. i was blocking everything that came my way and my hitting was awesome. she didn't say "good job" or "way to go" at all to me.. not once. she really makes me feel like crap, like i don't deserve to be on this team. i come home and cry bc she really makes me feel bad. this has been going on since the summer, and i dont think i can take it anymore. i only play like half a game out of two games anyway.. she doesn't even use me. i really want to quit. i know it's the wrong thing to do, but i cannot stand my coach anymore. she never acknowledges me for everything. i need to talk to one of my parents about it, but they don't understand. they think im not trying hard enough, when i really am. when i can't breathe, i still bust my butt. so i have two questions for you
1) if i don't quit, how can i handle my fear against my coach, or how can i stop being so sensitive about what she says to me?
2) how could i get to my parents to make them see what i have to deal with?
sorry this is sooo long.. but please.. i need any advice i can get. (link)
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The first thing that struck me about your question is your poor attitude. If you have an attitude problem towards teachers and ot anyone else you can be sure the coach will know. Maybe, this person is laying it on you because you are known to be a brat around authority figures. She may have it in for you. I do not know.
The problem here is basic common sense. If you cannot breathe properly it is a major concern and only you know (parents will not nor coach) that something is really wrong anytime you do something physical related to this. If this is that bad THEN GET OUT NOW. You do not need an asthmatic attack because of this or something tragic. If it agrivates your asthma then GET OUT NOW.
Health comes before anything else. You see a problem there so deal with and get a doctor's note getting you out of that program. In fact, you can see a doctor on your own without parents.
I think it is too risky for you to play. I also think quitting generally is wrong if we are being challenged to be something someone else sees in us. In this case quitting is perfectly and completely the right thing to do. Let's examine why PRINT ENTIRE E-MAIL FOR PARENTS AND THEY WILL GET IT!! TRUST ME.
1) Mental Health is foremost the most important thing to take care of. Being constantly exposed to people who make you feel worthless will kill your self-esteem completely and mentally effect you now and later too--words hurt and linger for a long time as does public humiliation in front of peers. The coach is a lousy one and no you do not have to take it. Nobody should or does.
2) PHYSICAL HEALTH IS PARAMOUNT. If you cannot even breathe easily when playing this game than that F--KING matters the most. Screw the game and forget if your parents think you are just a quitter. Look at all the newspaper reports of kids pushed too far by coaches to do ridiculous things if they might be sick. A lot of them have died as a result of being pushed too physically far with an illness like yours.
It should not take an ashtma attack to have to figure out this sport is bad news for your health. If they cannot see it they are way too dense to raise you even and need more information on the illness that could kill you from such activity.
As far as being sensitive goes you need a thick shell in live as people will try to break you down or wear you down. I think at your age though you do not need to be exposed to this kind of person because you have not got the skills to shrug it off or go on with life. Quit and use the lessons learned here to further prepare for difficult idiots later down the road.
3) KEEP YOUR EGO/ATTITUDE IN CHECK
If you are being a brat or have an attitude at school educators and principals will know all around the school that you or your parents are a pain the ass (perception) and you are sunk from there on in trying to deal with them. You have to watch your temper and learn how to zero in anger and get rid of it. This is your biggest problem and perhaps the reason for everything. And no it's not being too sensitive not to like abuse.
Bottom line: Quit. It's all about what makes you happy and comfortable and safe and sound. It is nobody else's decision but yours. If your parents agree this coach is too overboard have them write a letter to the schoolboard and not the principal. With the schoolboard they'll look into it as they get voted in (the chairpeople) with the school they always back their asshole employee no matter what they have done to a kid.
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okay i have few questions....
how old to you have to be to legally have sex?
even if you have a condom on can the guy ejaculate while still inside the girl and not get pregnant? also even if you withdrawl before ejaculation... can you still get pregnant even if you have a condom on?
i rate please answer (link)
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The law is different by State or Province or Country. What remains the same is an adult is someone 18 or older and cannot have sexual relations with those younger than 18. Most laws I have read do in fact have a legal age a person can engage in such activity so that someone older or more mature under 18 is not seen violating a trust. Typically, the laws I see say 14 is the age. Why? because a person younger can not make huge decisions like that and for safety.
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i started my period about 2 months ago. my vagina is changing..is that normal? if so what changes are normal???? (link)
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Your vagina is the same as it always was and is meant to be. The vagnal opening is the same, clitoris, labia all that should be the same too and always there. By changing you must mean periods and or discharge. That is the change as I cannot fathom the physical makeup of the reproductive system different than before.
Periods are normal and you will get used to them. White discharge means ovulation is taking place. Unless a discharge looks like cottage cheese and smells awful you are fine and do not have an infection. By saying your vagina has changed nobody knows what you mean beyond what I or others think you mean with the question.
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i wanna make out with people so bad but i dont know i can picture my self doing mad stuff with people but how do i know like where to put my hands and what if i miss his mouth or something idk just what do i do.. (link)
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What bothers me is your wanting to do this and that and not caring with whom just to get it done. That road is the wrong one to take because you will have forced this to happen and may have no positive memories of who you kissed and how it felt. Take your time, find the right person, actually enjoy it. This is not a competition or a I must do X before I turn X thing. It happens regardless of age because you waited and it was meant to be.
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