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k i have a few questions about precum.
1. does it always contain sperm?
2. how often do people actually get pregnant from it? yes i know it's possible, but does anyone actually know of anyone who has?
i've had sex without protection but he did not cum in me. we pull out before he's even close. (i know, its stupid. i wont do it again) but i just want to know my chances of being pregnant from precum.
thanks!

1. Actually studies have shown that it in fact does not contain sperm. THe only reason it would contain sperm is if he has recently ejaculated before hand and the sperm is still in his shaft. If you look at it, pre-cum is clear where as cum is white.
2.There are people who get pregnant from it but that is because of the failure to be careful about previous ejalulations. There is still a chance but it isn't very high at all.
Use protection anyways. ALWAYS good to be protected.

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alright i gave my bf head yesterday for the first time. we did it multiple times actually. but, i thought when he'd cum, i'd be able to feel/taste it..but i didn't. he said he cummed at least a couple times. is there a reason why i had no idea he did?

He probably didn't cum... He must not know what an orgasm feels like. You would feel it because it's really warm because it just came from inside the body pretty much. And its kinda alot sometimes. Pre-cum is not so much and its clear. Also cum sometimes has a taste and its usually salty but depending on the guys diet.

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Is sex when a girl is on her period a complete no?

how bad is it, how bloody does it get? is it really grotesque? does it keep flowing?

Actually its not really gross at all. You can do alot of things to prevent a mess though. Take a shower to begin with and clean up. You can actually do it IN the shower. Another thing is during the sex, I believe the flow slows down or stops. Pluses with sex during cycle: No more cramps and IF you get off during the sex, its known to stop or greatly slow down your period. In other words you can end your period early. It works, I've tried it. It's not so much a big deal. I suggest though, that you wait til about the 3rd day when the heaviest of the period is done with.

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okay so my sex life is good except one thing
when I'm with my boyfriend having sex i feel so insecure about my body, when he tries to take off my shirt i usually start doing something else so he wont like i feel really fat when im naked im 5'3 and 120 and hes never said anything about my weight but i just feel fat and i never let him take off my shirt and i want to let him to and stuff but i cant get over it.. how do i get over it and just let him?

This problem is easily overcome. You don't have to rush it. You aren't fat though. I weigh 137 and I'm 5'6". I had that SAME problem. My bf tells me im gorgeous all the time and never says anything about it so eventually I just say ok if he says so. You can gradually get used to it though. Start out by being completely naked but it being completely dark so he cant see you. That makes things ALOT easier and when you get used to that you can move on to other things. Trust me, it works. Best of luck to you! Hope I helped :)

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okay so if i started my period on the 10th of march, and ended on the 16th, what days will i be ovulating?
sorry i just can't figure this out by myself.
pleeease help!

WEll from my understanding of the whole cycle, you ovulate on around the 14th day. Cycles are about 28 days depending on the person. Your first day of the cycle was the 10th so just count about 14 days after and it will be about the time you ovulate. Sorry if I'm wrong, but I'm pretty positive that's how it goes.

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hi, ok well i was just wondering... i was just talking to my bf and im 14 and hes 16 and we have been best friends for like 2 years and everything and he and i makeout a lot whenever we see each other (like once a week) and i was asking him how far we would go right now in our relationship (3 months) he said 2nd (touching a girl's breast) and we have gotten close he has touched me through my bra once and my shirt one other time but im very protective of that one of the two times he did without asking and he said he was very sorry and promised not to again. anyway im moving in June so i asked what about when i leave how far? our relationship would be about 5 months. he said a hj. i was very surprised because ya hes horny like very other guy but he tries really hard to be good. he has set limits and wont put himself in a position like being home alone with me because he doesnt trust himself. hes very responcible. but hes also a 16 yr old guy. well he would be-hes turning 16 in May. yay he turns 16 and gets a hj lol

so first off if i wanted to give him a hj is that normal (i kno everyone says do what your comfortable with but would u say most 16 yr old guys have gotten a hj) the thing is im only 14 tho. a freshman. hes also a freshman but hes much older im younger and hes older. he and i are deeply in love tho so it wont be like i do that with every guy or w/e.

it would both of our firsts. he said yes because it would be somthing to remember each other by.

also dont worry cause i know i wont because im not comfortable with that. my bf doesnt know that i wont but i do. i just had some questions about if i did want to.

and i know i dont have to i mean he didnt even ask i said how far would you let us go.

thanks :)

You guys are taking it slow. A HJ is really not a big deal at all. Just do it when you feel comfortable. He may want it but it doesn't mean you HAVE to and he knows this. He is respectful which is really good. This is really your decision. Giving HJs is normal. It's one of the first steps of getting comfortable with each other, sexually. Which in the end leads to getting closer to each other mentally. You guys take it slow so I don't see how it is a problem. Just remember to still take it slow after that step. And stay careful. Your age is kinda young to start getting sexually active, but it's not anyones decision but yours. It wouldn't matter age if you are really comfortable with doing that with him. Hopefully this helps. If you need to know anything else just lemme know.

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so, ive been having this problem lately .... ive been smelling of body odor. i wear deoderant every day. before sports, before school, before gym, anytime i need it i use it. and ive tried 2 different kinds of deoderant. whats going on?! what can i do?! whats wrong with me?!

Maybe its your clothes or your shoes. Try showering and washing your clothes and shoes more. You can also try body spray along with your deoderant. Hope I helped!

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is it true that like when you give a hand job, his penis goes from like small to big to bigger?

Yeah. It is true. Sometimes he already has a boner to begin with. Giving him a handjob just causes him to be even more aroused. Its not a bad thing, it's just how the erection process works.

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i was wondering if most guys who are experienced with sex usually have an orgasmif they're having sex with a virgin...? all answers will be appreciated i'll rate : )

Actually, guys would love to have sex with a virgin compaired to girls who aren't virgins.
Virgins have tighter vaginas, therefore more pleasure.

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my friend the other day was saying that her and her boyfriend were having sex in the butt...and the he cummed in her butt. now shes scared she could get pregnant from that. i told her it wasn't true but she keeps worrying and saying that it probably is true.

sooo...heres my question

can you get pregnant if a guy cums when hes inside your butt?

Oh boy.. Anal sex.. I find it very un-natural. >.<
Well, it all depends. If the cum made contact with her vagina, its possible. Protection, even when doing anal, is greatly nessecary. If its been more than 72 hours after sex, the best thing she can do is wait to see if she gets her period. If it hasn't been 72 hours yet, she has the option of using the Plan B pill. It greatly increases the chances she isnt pregnant. You have to be 18 to buy it though. If you or she knows someone who would buy it for you, thats great!
Hope everything goes well for her. Hope I helped. :)

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I know because Im Fourteen Im not saposed to have sex, and I dont Im still 100% virgin but everyone seems to be doing it, and its weird because I stayed back and there all younger then me and not virgins.. when is the average of losing it and Ive been offered.. a couple times with some VERY hot guys but I said no which Im very proud of but because i keep saying now am I not interested in guys?

That is something to be proud of! I suggest you keep it up :) You shouldnt have sex just because everyone else is doing it. I think you should wait until YOU are ready. Be sure to pick someone you love though. Don't be like everyone else. You will probably regret it later.
If you have sex with someone and later on you get in a serious relationship with someone you really love and they are a virgin, you will probably feel bad.
Just because you pass up a few hot guys, it doesnt meant there wont be any later.
Save it for when you really mean it!

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Well i was suppost to start around the 12th or so , because Last month thats when i did . Me and my boyfriend had sex like a couple of days before i was suppost to start but i havent had my period yet , the condom didnt bust or anything . Could it just be a late period ?

The chances of you being pregnant are really low. Most likely you arent. If it was your first time having sex then it could be because it was a major change and because its new. It could probably be a late period. If you still dont get it after a few more days maybe you should take a test and see a doctor, just in case. :)

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I had sex with my boyfriend yesterday and now I'm in alot of pain and I won't stop bleeding, it was my first time. My stomach hurts and a can barly walk. I don't wanna tell my parents cuz they will know I had sex. Please help, I will love you forever! Also I'm f/15

Well If you really dont want to tell your parents just wait it out. Its pretty much just after effects. Your probably bleeding because he popped your cherry. Another reason could be you started your period. You are kinda young to be having sex so it could possibly be that he overexerted your vagina. It should just go away though. I'm sure you have nothing to worry about.

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15/f

alright so me and my boyfriend have decided to have sex and well i'm a virgin and he's had sex with two other people and has had sex numerous times(he's a few years older then me). well, basically i'm really nervous and i have a few questions so if anyone can answer any of these i would appreciate it and yeah i'll rate:

1. is it normal to smell alittle down there? like a musty smell?

2. how bad does it really hurt the first time?

3. is it normal for me to have a gooey clear discharge down there and sometimes a creamy white one?

4. well i shave down there and i was wondering if anyone had tips fir getting the cleanest smoothest cut i guess?

thanks in advance : )

1. Its normal to an extent. You should keep it clean and it shouldnt be a problem if you shower before you guys do it. I personally think its gross, but I was told before that guys are kinda attracted to the smell ina way. Same with the taste. :\ Weird but okay! Whatever works for them right?

2. It didnt hurt for me the first time. It was different and there was little pain. It really depends on the girl. You could be tight or you could have been stretched by tampons or being fingered. I didnt bleed the first time I had sex but it really all depends. Just tell him to go slow at first until you are more comfortable with the whole situation.

3. Its normal. Its one of those woman things. :( We seem to have it bad compared to guys! We get this gross discharge, periods, pregnancy! Sheesh! lol My advice about the discharge is to just try your best to stay clean.

4. Shaving isn't absolutely nessecary. I shave but I think that it is more attractive and another plus to it, its sooooo much nicer when it comes to personal hygene. Using a shaver isnt bad, just be careful.

Hope I helped! Wear protection PLEASE. :)

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Ok this question isnt supposed to be offensive to anybody, im just wondering opinions. Today kids are having sex younger and younger, some kids are like 13 years old. I was wondering what you all think of that. Personally i cant believe this is happening to the world haha. I was just wondering if anybody out there agrees with me or if you dont agree with me, why? This is just out of curiosity. Also, if this is how things are now, imagine in 10 years, whats gonna happen!! haha, ok thanks!

It's pretty ridiculous. Its not just you. People abuse sex and its just discusting to see this in the world. :(
Sex is supposed to be special and its supposed to be with someone you really deeply love and want to be with.
This world is so corrupt. Very disappointing.

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hey i just wanna know if iam not a virgin will my husband know on the wedding night??? is there a way for him not to know?

no he will not know but i believe that if you love him then you would not have or will not lie about being a virgin thats one of the worse things you can do is lie about something iportant or special like that but no he cant really tell bc there are many ways that could have made you loose like tampons and masterbating it doesnt always mean youve had sex before the only way anyone would know is if you told them

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do guys prefer for a girl to fake an orgasm if they don't get one during sex?

im pretty sure they would want you to not fake it...it makes them try harder next time to give you one or if you fake it they wont ever be able to completely give you one if thats where they believe is how long it takes you and so on its best for you to not fake it

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I am always "wet" down there, even when Im not turned on. I always feel like I should wad a lil bit of tiolet paper in my underwear so that it doesnt get all over my underwear and harden. What can be causing this? Its really gross and unatractive.

i would suggest to get it checked out you have one big problem and the thing is you may not feel turned on but you body is its wanting stuff go have sex or something and getthat sexual energy out haha jkjk but anyways its just discharge and its normal every girl gets it and i agree it is gross but use panty liners or something itll help laters

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ok here goes right well me and my bf have been going out for 2 months and next time i see him we would be togthere for 3 months because hes going away on holiday anyway...we have decided that we want to have sex and hes coming to my house soon and that when we are gonna do it!but..im really really scared of pregnancy, we r gonna use a condom but im still scared im 14 and hes 17 and i love him but i cant say anything to my mum for the pill and my periods arent regular so i wouldnt know if i was pregnant so..what do i do i really wanna do it with him i know its right but what can i do about pregnancy and all that stuff help!!!!!!!! ill rate high xxx

ok first off you are fourteen years old for two you are not in love for three you couldnt be in love and for four youve only been together for 2 to 3 months thats not long enough to be together to do it if you waited about a year then thats about the time but you are stupid to do that now and you would regret it and i would suggest not doing it and im sure its all pleasureful and if you do i hope your happy that you ruined your life and btw your relationship is illegal

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My boyfriend was fingering me last night for the first time, and today i feel quite sore down there, it all feels quite irritated and sensitive. Is this normal? What does it mean? Am i gonna feel uncomfortable afterwards like this every time?

well it could be bc it ws your first time and your body isnt used to it or because it took you a while to orgasm if you did dont worry there's nothing wrong with you youll be all better again soon

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