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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
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ok so 17/f. i've heard that when girls orgasm its supposed to be really intense and that you'll know when you have one. with that being said... i don't know. like when a guy is going down on me i'll feel tension building up and then my legs get all shaky and then they get unshaky and he stops and like smiles and says dont make too big of a mess or something like that and then he thinks i've orgasmed so i'm not sure... could i just have lame orgasms? oh and i play with myself all the time but i can never orgasm from that... i love sex and everything and it feels good but theres not like an intense orgasm or anything...
You know you've had an orgasm when you get kind of sensitive down there. When a guy is touching you, and you feel really good, and shaky like how you say-- there should be kind of a wave of pleasure. After that's over, your clitoris will get really sensitive. That's probably the easiest way to tell if it happened.
okay im 13 and i will be 14 in 2 months and im thinking about having sex w/ my boyfrien tell me what i should do
Well, nobody on this website can make a decision for you. The point of this site is for people looking for advice, and guidence. It's difficult for one person to suggest to you whether or not you should lose your virginity.
My advice.. is to really think about it. For yourself, not for anybody else. That includes him to. I'm 21, and I still haven't had sex. Not because I haven't been given oppertunities.. I just want to make sure that when I do it, I'm ready. Physcially, emotional, and responsibly.
If you believe that you are ready to have sex, think of ways you can protect yourself. It may sound ridiculous to you, but considering the pill, wouldn't be a bad idea. Condoms, and trips to the gyno would be in your best interest, too.
There are other things to do besides sex.. and definitely ways to show that you really care for him. So if in doubt-- you could always try those, and decide from there if you're ready-- if you have't decided yet.
Good luck. And for the record-- when people learn that I'm a virgin... whether that's a guy interested, a new friend, or anyone really.. they always seem to say the same thing, and it does make me thankful that I never gave it up so easily. That they wish they had waited until they knew they were ready.
Keep that in mind.. =)
hey i was searching columnists and i found yours and decided to ask you...sry this is a little long...i just really need help...
a little more than a week ago i was messing around with my boyfriend and doing a little dry humping and he took his penis out and kinda thrusted it in and out for a few seconds but not all the way in...just sorta a tease cause we were both virgins and just really horny and wanted to see how it would feel
i cant fully remember but im pretty sure i gave him a blow job a little before this all happened and he came in my mouth and i swallowed it and then he put his penis away and we just started making out and messing around again then that happened and im scared that i could be pregnant
he swears that he checked and there was nothing on his penis like precum or anything but im just really paranoid and scared
n then a couple days after that we had sex but i had given him a blow job a little before that and same thing...he came in my mouth and i swallowed and then we started making out and stuff again and got horny and decided to have sex and he put a condom on and all and we had sex for a bit but he didnt go in very far becuase it was my first time and it hurt a bit (though my cherry didnt pop and i dont know why...? he was in far but not ALL the way) then he pulled out and came in the condom
and about twice in the pool we were grinding each other but he was just in boxers (boxer breifs) and like nike basketball shorts and i was in a bathing suit and we were grinding against each other and he moved his penis upwards in his shorts so that it was poking at my vagina and was grinding and took his penis out and put it against my vagina and was grinding it on mine (i was in my bathing suit still) so im scared...really really scared
and its making me think things over even more like what if ive given him blowjobs and gotten cum on my hands then started rubbing my vagina or he got it on his fingers then a lil while later fingered me
im so paranoid and nervous now
im 16 and hes 17 and i last got my period on memorial day weekend...about may 24th im almost positive so if your periods supposed to come every 28 days i should be getting it this friday and now im getting all paranoid cause i feel like other times ive gotten my period i start getting slight cramp waves around now like the few days before i get my period and now im not
please help!
You have no idea how much I used to BE you. My boyfriend and I wouldn't have sex, but I'd do him a favor, he'd cum, and I'd be sitting there freaking out about whether or not the sperm could have possibly made it's way to my vagina. You're question was very long, but I read it all, and my answer is going to be just as long.
The first experience you mentioned, when you were just doing a little grind, and he slipped it, is the other scenario you have to worry about. Even though it's the only one you SHOULD worry about, it's still not very probable that you're pregnant.
I'm glad that you used a condom the second time with him. They're about 89% effective against pregnancy.
As for the pool? No. After I kept freaking out thinking that my boyfriend's came touched my hand, then I peed, got it on my vagina when I wiped blah blah blah-- I finally just sat down and researched it.
In order for a girl to get pregnant, a penis needs to be inside the vagina. Once sperm hits the air, it dies. Therefore, unless his penis was inside your vagina at the moment he was penetrating you, your pregnancy chances are from slim to absolutely nothing.
Also, as long as someone is wearing underwear, in your case a bathing suit, then there's no possible way it could happen, either.
When I was going through this faze, my boyfriend told me that people have sex all the time.. without condoms. Only 50% of them get pregnant. So if their chances are only half when they have actual sex, then getting pregnant without having sex is completely impossible.
Like I said, because if the time you actually did have sex, there may still be a chance from that. But really, relax.
Your period feeds off of different things. Food, exercise, sleep, and stress. Stress can actually slow down the arrival of your period. When I though I was pregnant, my period was a week late. And what sucked the most? I was inventing the pregnancy symptoms in my head. So I was actually making myself nauseous, hungry and tired.
So relaxxxxx. There's nothing you can do about it now. But now that you and your boyfriend may be getting more into sex, try birth control. That's 99% effective and way easier to manage with.
Take care!
okay so i really want to be fingered im old enough and i have a boy friend but i have some questions ive been felt up givin him a handjob and of couse made out
do i need to shave right my vagina before so its smooth?
do i take my pants off or do they just go down?
and what do i do like while hes fingering me??
please answer me quick!!
There's no right or wrong way to do any of the stuff you mentioned. But first of all, relax. He's probably just as nervous as you are.
First of all, different guys have different preferences on the "shaved" deal. Some guys like it smooth, and others feel like they're touching a child if it's bald. Therefore, there's no right or wrong way to go. I'd shave it, and see how he reacts. If he's grossed out, then go ahead and get natural with it. =) If you've been dating this guy long enough to be fingered, you could probably just ask him straight up.
As far as the pants?.. That should come naturally. But, it may be easier for him to access if the jeans are down.
While he's fingering you... relax. Just chill out, tell him what you like, moan if you really like it. Chill out, play with the things closest to you. His hair, his neck. Kiss him everywhere. It'll make things more exciting.
Good luck!
your clit?
i know its near your vagina but where exactly?
The tippity top.
http://www.riversideonline.com/source/images/image_popup/ans7_vulva.jpg
There ya go!
Is there a certain way to shave down there?
Other than like you shave down and not up....
The easiest way is to shave against the direction of the hair growth.
On the right, angle it to the right, and shave from the bottom to the top. The middle, is straight back, and the left is the same as the right, own from the bottom left to the top.
There's no right way, but this is what I know to be the easiest, and the most effective. If it doesn't work out, just experiment with yourself, and see what may work best for you.
Take care.
kay so whats a mototrboat?
not like a boat with a motor
but i think its like a sex position or techinique
but i heard it over the weekend and..
i want to know what it is
help mee out?
please.
Motorboat is a sick term that people use that basically means having someone stick their face between a women's breast and shaking their head really fast.
Pretty sick, huh?
okay so when me and my boyfriend just make out and its gets....boring. lol. so is there anything that i could do to spice things up a bit?
Be more aggressive. Throw up on the couch, pin him against a wall. You can be sexy without having sex. Try new things when you're ready, but until then, experiment different ways to get excited.
Sit on him differently, grab his hair, and rub his back. It'll help spice it up, but give it passion, too.
Good luck.
what can i do if i get really bad discharge? some days its like, a puddle in my pants. but thats an exageration.
Discharge can mean a number of things-- some more serious than others. If it's discharge, and nothing more.. then start eating more dairy products.
If others symptoms like itchy, painful urination, or bad odor start to develop, then you should see a doctor.
btw im a female
i shaved down there and there is still little stubs of hair and they wont go away no matter how much i shave
am i doing it wrong?
or is it just because i shaved the wrong way or just because i shaved?
Make sure that you're shaving against the way your hair is growing. Also, try new razors-- Venus is wonderful.
I know that's not much, but it could really make a difference.
I hope I helped you!
is there anything i can do to get my boobs bigger
Natural breast enhancements[GNC] and exercise.
when losing your virginity theres like a little feeling kinda of cramp when he goes in far or whatever....
well like, the day after is it normal to have little cramps?
It's very normal to be sore. I would only worry about it if it continues to happen a few weeks during or after frequent sex.
Let me know if you need anything else,
Take care
is it ok for a boy to nut in you if your on birth control
It's okay-- so long as you know that birth control doesn't protect you or him against STD's, if that's even the case.
Birth Control is 99% effective towards pregnancy- so you shouldn't have to worry about that really.
Good luck!
everytime i have sex with my boyfriend, it feels good for him but not for me, why is that? it doesn't hurt or anything, i just don't get pleasure
All girls are different and get stimulated by different types of activity. Some girls enjoy it more to be touch on their clitoris instead of having sex.
Try more foreplay, an Just intercourse and different positions will not only help, but taking time. Another thing is expectations of amazing sex takes time. You're young.. and you'll have to learn to explore your own body.
Take time to chill out, too.. pleasure can definitely be effect by your nerves.
Hope I helped.
what are the signs of being pregnant, and whats the soonest you can find out if you are?
Some early signs of being pregnant are a missed period[obviously], morning sickness, tender breasts, fatigue, frequent urination, and food cravings. These are among many varied symptoms-- and sometimes, they are the same symptoms of your period.
First Response is a newer pregnancy test which can tell you whether or not you're pregnant 5 days before your period.
Good luck and take care of yourself just in case.
i started my birth control pill a week ago. i had sex after i'd been on it for a week. it was the first time, so it was slow and short. he wore a condom and he didn't even cum at all.
is there anything i should be worried about? we were protected, i'm just worried incase i was still ovulating due to the fact the birth control hadn't totally kicked in yet.
help!
is this going to affect the birth control at all? and i'm supposed to have my period(according to the pills) in about two weeks-and sometimes i won't even have it at all(says the doctor) so i dont want to stress myself thinking "omg i didnt have a big period"
help help help!
Depending on your birth control, it can take up to one month for your pill to be effective towards pregnancy.
But it sound to me that you and your boyfriend took the proper precautions and were responsible for wearing a condom.
I've dealt with many friends who have been worried about being pregnant.. the best thing to do with now is not worry about the "what ifs and maybes".. and just wait for your period. Stress, over anything can make your period late or funny when it does arrive.
Until you've missed your next period completely, don't worry yourself. To me, it sounds like you did everything to protect yourself the best you could. Your doctor should have explained the pill to you a little more.
Don't worry yourself until you have reason to.
Take care!
my boyfriend and i have been going out for 7 months and we are so in love with each other we go out every 26th of every month as if it was anniversary wise.we have sex alot but for this past month we havent had sex cuz we barely see eachother. i have a attitude problem i get irritated quick and i get mad quick and i dont know why.. is it because i be stressed? or what
They say that many people take their anger out on the people the love most, just because their sure sub-conscientiously that they'll never rid them from their lives.
By you taking all this out on your boyfriend, it means that you love him enough to know that he's going to stick around.
After 6 months, many couples start to see true colors of one another.. which is why you two have hit this bump.
Work on your anger, which yes can be brought on by stress, as well as many other things.
Relax and enjoy life--explain to him why you've been so snappy on him.. if he loves ou, he'll understand.
Good luck! =)
okay so ever since i was little i would get cold sores, herpes simplex 1. i learned in class that 80% of people get them. But, i was just wondering, if i were to perform oral sex (when i did not have an outbreak) could i still give it to the guy on his genitals?
Yes, if there are open sores on your mouth it's possible to spread herpes to the person you are performing oral sex on-- and kissing.
Stay away from things that make your mouth hot--like spicy and acid foods/drinks.
Milk is a good home remedy that can also make the sores settle.
Hope I helped! =)
what are some symptoms of being pregnant ?
every pregnancy test i looked at at walmart says "you can tell 5 days before your missed period" so its too early for me to take one of those tests .
but every since me and my boyfriend had sex like my last day being on my period and he cummed in me a little bit - ive had this clearish white stuff come out on my panties everyday . my stomach randomly aches on and off . i have lost my appetite , like i dont eat as much as i normally do . i feel like im gonna throw up everytime after i eat but i never actualy throw up .
are any of those symptoms of being pregnant ?
i want to take a test but my period shouldnt be until around the 25th so the pregnanacy tests wont show up correct yet .
The early signs of pregnancy are morning sickness, tender breast, fatigue, tummy aches, headaches, constipation, and mood swings.
Keep an eye on those until you can grab a pregnancy test.
Good luck!
My bf and I just had sex for the first time a few days ago. I have not had my period for a couple of months now. Thinking its because i am slightly over weight. If we messed up on the protection some how without knowing, can i get pregnant?
A girl can become pregnant any time a penis is inside, or even near a vagina.
But, given your recent menstrual issue, it should be seen by a local doctor on what could be causing you to have months of no period. That's not normal.
A girl needs to have her period because it's your bodies way of cleansing out the system. A few things can change the way a period flows such as change in diet, excercise, and stress.
Have this checked out, not only will it help solve the no-period mystery, it'll calm your nerves about the aftermath of sex.
Take care!