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well i havn't used this site in FOREVER!!! but i use to give people advice every single day i love it and i hate it when i can't help the people.

well i'm 14 years old i'm short lol 5ft 1in. i have brown hair and brownish goldish eyes. i have some freckles but they fade out in the winter.

on the weekends i like to hang out with as many people as possible. i usually go to the movies bowling the mall or anywhere else that is fun. but of course if i'm there its gunna be fun!!!


well i don't no what i am i dont' like to label myself but i would have to say i'm out going crazy hyper loud. i dress preppy and skaterish depends on my mood.

my fave color is pink it deff. describes who i am.

well thats all i can think of right now so i'll talk to yawl lata

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i think my best friend is either bulemic or anorexic. she weighs about 119 pounds, wears a size 0 jeans and she constantly goes on about how shes fat. SHE IS NOT AT ALL. she graphs her weight on a chart (i saw it) and it's REALLY starting to scare me. what should i do? talk to somebody about it, talk to her...? please help!!

hmmm well you never no because some people can be weird about there weight but not be bulemic or anorexic. if she starts to loose more weight then i would start to worry keep an eye on her. hope i helped

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hey,
I have this problem with a guy named Matthew. We have been best friends for over 4 years. Recently we both fell in love with each other. I least I love him. He always wants to mess around and he says it means something. To me it really does. He claims he wants to loose his virginity to me and claims that that would bring us together. Would that actually bring u apart? Help!

yes i think it would because i learned in sex ed class (i no stupid) that all guys want right now is ur body.

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Okay well I used to have this really good friend, and he was really nice to me until one day I decided to call him and this is what I said,
me:hey!
him:hey.
me:whats up?
him:nothing really you?
me:nothing...
him:okay..
Me:So are you still going out with lauren or whatever her name is?
Him:yea
Me:cool...
him:Why r you acting like such a bitch?
me:What? im not?
him:yeah you kind of are
me:um...no not really
him:ok whatever.
---hangs up---

Then after that day he totally ignored me! He doesn't really go to school cuz he's home schooled so I never see him, but we used to be bestfriends...well to me he was. I was able tell him anything, and now he's being so rude to me. Oh, that's not all that happened. About 2 weeks ago I finally IMed him and was like..
Me:why do u hate me so much?
Him:cause...i do
Me:um ok? well, I didn't do anything to you.
Him:okay...

Then after he ignored me again!
I finally IMed one of my friends and told her wut was going on, and she IMed him and asked him why hes ignoreing me and all that stuff, and after he apologized. Now he's being mean to me again! Just now I IMed him and said hey! And he's like why are you talking to me? and i'm like why not? and he never responded. What the hell's going on, why does he hate me? I did nothing to him so what's he getting all mad about!?! Help I rate high.

{Oh, and yes I tried talking to him so don't say, "try talking to him" cause it doesn't work...just so yall know.}

hmmm well this sounds similer to what someone did to me. i was going out with this guy and we broke up but then started to talk again. then all of a sudden i IMed him and he was like why are you talking to me. i was kinda confused. i stoped talking to him for awhile but then one night i got on and he was on and i didn't talk to him but he IMed me and was like hey and acted like nothing was wrong. so i went along with it. about a month passed and he did it again. it was like everytime he got a g/f he wouldn't talk to me. so maybe thats it. and well he is a guy and guys are weird. just give him space and time he will come around trust me.

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hey i can't for the love of me figure why we have so many different social relationships. i don't even understand why goths r considered scary i mean i have friends who r goths and they r awsome...help me out!! thnx :)

i don't know why either. its they way we dress i think.
preps- wear north face and stuff from aero, american eagle and abercrombie.
punks- wear skateboarding stuff like pacsun hot topic buckle and other places.
goths-wear lots of black and weird stuff.
nerd/geek-wear starch cloths that are way to small for them.
dorks-where whatever they like.
poor kids- wear what they can aford.

people judge to much on the money and clothes. the preps think they rule everyone and everything. its not true. they dont get 2 no us first. me i'm a little bit of everything. i dont judge people.

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i just told one of my best friends kelly im bi and now she is acting weird around me. I imed her and shes like ummm hi and im like whats wrong and then she says well idk how to act around u anymore, and im really hurt, she treats me like im not wanted, not intentional, but it still hurts, what do i do be honest

maybe she thinks you like her since ur bi. say this to her: if you think i have a crush on you i don't so you don't need to act diferent around me i'm still the same person.

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okay this might sound a little stupid...but i ahve a best friend and i love her with allll my heart but lately she;s been getting like tons of BF's and crap and this might sound a little stupid buutt i was feeling kind of jelous because she kind of "stole" the guy taht i REALLY like... and she knows i like him but she flirts with him ne ways... i've tried speaking to her about it but she just got into a fight about it (and i HATE fighting over boys!)the one thing that REALLY bothers me is taht she goes through guys like they dont even matter to her, and i know this might sound stupid but i think she;s trying to get with the guy i liek to amke me jelous....what should i do?!?! i;ve already tried talking to her but no matter what she doesnt give a damn!!..lol please help =(
thnx . xoxo Ariella*

you get the guy before she does. flirt with him. behind her back not infront of her. she not a very good friend if she does that kind of stuff. she shouldn't use guys like that.

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ok, i am a 17 yr old female, and my best friend, Ashley, is,or should i say WAS, in this relationship with this guy to where everytime we had plans, he would mess them up. like make plans or say thigns like "well, i gotta work the rest of the week" so she will hang with him. we have tried hanging out as a group, the three of us, but he gets so...controlling...of ashley and i dont even get to spend tiem with her!!! well, they split up about 2-3 weeks ago, BUT, she still sumtimes ditches me like we have plans and she juss doesnt show, so i call her house and she is with her friends (used to be hte guy) and then hse claims she "forgot". what can i do to get this to stop

tell her that your getting sick of it. you feel like you don't excist anymore to her. tell her how you feel. if she gets all b****y then shes not worth the dissapointment over.

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I've been best friends with a girl named Kaitlin for over 11 years now and we're both 16 (I'm a girl too btw). Lately she's been so consumed with her social status that she doesn't even talk to me or even look at me anymore because I'm not "cool enough". We both play on the volleyball team and she really isn't a very good player, but she gets really jealous because I always play all the time and I got moved up to varsity this year while she didn't. I get the feeling that she talks behind my back because now the whole volleyball team hates me and I'm naturally a very quiet person so I don't know why they'd have any reason to dislike me. I don't have very many other friends. It's really hard for me to talk to other people, and I don't want to be friends with Kaitlin anymore. What do I do? And should I try to get revenge? (she also purposely ditches me at dances and stole my bf just to get me angry...)

ok wow she doesn't sound like a very nice friend. you obviously can't be friends with her anymore, but if you tell her that its just going to make her madder at you and start lots of rumors. you can't get revenge thats not the right thing to do, but if you don't do the right thing then sure get revenge get lots of revenge. you should try and talk to new people even if you are shy just try. thats my moto "just try" or "take a chance" hope i helped
*airhead*

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Every time someone says I wanna go to Mardi Gras, I'm always like "ME TOO!" but the truth is, I don't know exactly what its for and what you do there. I've only seen clips of people partying on the street... I think it would be fun, but what is it your doing and is it some type of celebration of some sort? It looks fun, but what is it?

well i don't really know what your celebrating all i know is to get beeds you have to flash everyone. it is lots of fun my sister goes every year. i can't wait till i'm old enough to go.

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i have a friend that copies everything i do and I HATE IT!!! but somtimes we have fun and somtimes we absoultly hate eachother!
what should i do
sgined jealous?

tell her that she needs to get her own identity and not be just like you but she can do sumthings like you tell her how u feel

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(15/f)
how can i like.. "come out of the closet" to 4 of my best friends.. i tell them EVERYTHING and i just hate hiding from them. they know i'm in a relationship, they just don't know its with another chick. please help.

well wow well they should understand and still be your best friends, but you just don't know if they can keep a secret. i don't know what you should do. do what you think you should do. you know them really well and should know if they tell stuff like this. and what they think about girl and girl relationships.

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My friend and I used to be really close and walk together to class. Now everytime I try to meet her she isn't there because shes with her new friend. What sould I do?

well obviously she is trying a new kind of life. she doesn't mean anything by it. she is just trying new things. she may come back to her old self. then she may not. you can never really know what your friends are going to do. you always have to be ready for change even though you may not like it.

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ok im 12 and my best friend and i have been friends for 2 yrs.lately though shes been hangin out w/ one of my other friends and wont include me in anything even if i hint her i want to go.should i tell her how i feel or should i stop being her friend? wat would u do?

i would tell her how u feel and maybe she will include you.

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Me My friend and my other friend were at my house and so i go down stairs and i hear all this yelling i run up stairs and i see my 2 best friends yelling and screaming at each other over nothing. I was like stop and now we are all in a fight. i dont want to be in a fight and i didnt do anything and we are all mad and i dont want to say sorry cause i didnt do anything.

well just go up to one of them and be like this is silly we were fighting over nothing. they should understand. if not then just say sorry its not going to hurt you and if you want to be friends with them u have to take the first move.

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well i went to my school dance with my friends they guy i like (kinda my best friend) couldn't go i was kinda sad he came up to me and said sorry but i can't go tonight and he huged me but i still went then when a slow song came on i danced with someone else i use to like and to danced to every slow song then he started holdin my hand next think i know i'm so outside making out with him omg ! what should i do ??? hes older than me and i like my other friend to alot errr so now when i go back to school things are gonna be werid

hmmmmm well if you like this other friend then why did you make out with that other guy. yes it will be weird but if you like the guy that didn't go to the dance then just pretend that the making out thing didn't happen. if you like the guy that u made out with then tell him. hope i helped.

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My best friend is moveing to new york and she said she would call me when she gets there it has been 2 weeks and i have heard no phone call ... i dont know if she is there or not or she just forgot. i dont want our friendship to end. please help me.

maybe she forgot ur fone number or well one time my bestest friend in the whole world moved and she said we will always be friends well she lied she never called me or anything. so i found out what her number was and called her and she said her mom said i was a bad influence when it was really my friend saying that. yeah i know you still want to be friends with her, but there is really no point i'm really sorry just telling the trutch

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i've been living with my best friend for about a month (on and off), my parents are getting a divorce and they've been fighting a lot so we desided that i should stay with my best friend. (we've been friends for 4 years), lately me and her have been fighting a lot, but over nothing. i dont' what to do cause i don't wanna go home but i dont' know if i should stay at her house... i'm a 15 year old female... please help...
- friend in need.

your just getting tired of her and you miss your own space just ask her if u can have some space for awhile but still stay at her house and stuff just invite other people over or whatever and on the weekend u should go over to other friends houses

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I have this friend and when she is mad she talks behind my back. But she isn't mad seh is like really nice caring and so forth. Well so then recently on sunday seh told another one of her friends that she liked this guy James. Well seh told me she didn't and seh swore to god. And then she told that friend that seh was her best friend but seh told me seh was my best friend. I am soo confused and i am beinning to think that she doesn't trust me. Help!!

well this is called life it's confusing this so called friend of yours doesn't really like you sorry but you asked for help. you get revenge and get all of her secrets out of her and tell everyone. don't tell her anything not one thing if you have too make sumthing up. and sweeti you can have more than one best friend.

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hey everyone. i usually give advice, but now i need it. i've been friends with this one girl, Sara, for like ever! and the thing is, she's awesome. she's been there for me in many times, she always helps me with my homework, hair & make-up, guys ... we've only been best friends for about a year, but we've known each other since 3rd grade. now we're freshmen. but the thing is, i can't handle it. my other friends, that i was best friends with before for longer periods of time, and i never fought, me and sara fight alll the time. over the dumbest things we argue. she has a problem with everything. she's a prep, lets put it this way, and i'm just plain casual. she always wantsme dressing up, doing my make up really nice, going over her house whenever she wants (but the thing is, i can't cause i have really strict parents), and she gets pissed off when she doesn't have it her way. ive lost practically all my other friends, i have no other friends besides her, and this is because of her. i thought she was soo nice when i first met her and all and i started ditching some of my old friends for her, and this is where i am. like in the morning, she always wants me to come over her house so we can do our hair and make-up and bitches at me for everything. for being shy, i can't help it. for not dressing really nice, i don't feel comfortable. she says i've changed and i don't care about myself at all. which is so not true, because she made me that way. she is really pretty, but she always likes to make fun of me and put me down for no apparent reason. and its usually while we're with people, afterwards she apologizes. and i forgive. i told her all this before but we ended up making up and we've fought like 16 + times before and i can't leave her cause i'll be a loner. she is very spoiled and always gets what she wants, she also hates the fact that i don't go after older guys, like she does. i stick to my age guys. the thing is she always helps me on test and on homework, so that'd be really hard cause i suck with school. another thing, it seems she only uses me. i mean when her other friends call to go to the movies, she goes and makes plans, but whenever i ask her for something, she doesn't always come thru, ya know? like atparties, she totally ditches me and goes with her other friends, so its really hard to pur up with. i guess what i'm trying to say is, i need advice on what to do to try to make things better. she really hurts me sometimes and i don't want to lose her, shecan beeally awesome but she hates the fact that i'm not like her ... what can i do about all of this?

well i use to have a friend her name was amanda. we became friends b/c i liked her brother and we only were friends for about half a year. i couldn't handle it anymore b/c she was always bugging me and crap just like this friend of urs. she always wants me to go to her house and crap. but i have strict parents too just like urs and they don't let me and she gets all mad and starts talkin about my parents and crap. well one day her mom told me that i was a bad influance. i never talked to amanda since. i don't really know what you should do i'm glad i'm not friends with amanda anymore i've gotten nicer and cooler friends and have gotten closer to my old ones and i'm having the best time of my life with them. i hope this helps

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