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Thaaaattt's me! The anonymous advice giver from the other keyboard! mwuaha! Actually, I'm a 13 year old give from Southern Cali here to give you some helpful hints on getting through sticky situations without any trouble at all. Send me all your questions on friendships, crushes, and school blues and I'll be sure to get back to you!

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I have this friend in the 8th grade im in 7th and shes an only child and she thinks shes soo hot but shes dont wanna be rude but really ugly....she has this crush who has a boyfriend now and she thinks he likes her but he doesnt and shes just ugly im sorry but i cant help it I need help and shes always braging about her looks and clothes and voice and stuff.


friend dinial

Just be honest with her. Tell her that it's not nice for her to brag because it hurts her feelings. Make sure you don't tell her about her looks though because people can take that very personally. Just politely ask her not to brag and talk to her about how you feel.

xOx Emmz

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my friend hates my crush and my crush and i are friends! but my friend thinks that my crush is runty and that i deserve better! what can i do to change my friend's mind? i rate!

I know how you feel! It's hard when a friend doesn't approve of a crush because you can't just stop liking someone just because a friend doesn't like them. My advice to you is to explain to your friend that you can't do this. Talk to your friend about your feelings and explain how you feel about your crush. Promise your friend though that this will not change your friendship with them. Make it clear how much you value them as a friend and that you don't want to throw it away because of a crush. Also keep in mind though that you want friends that will accept your desicians so tell your friend how much this means to you. Good luck hun!

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dear x0x Emmz,

My best friend moved away and ive made new ones but i miss her alot and no matter what i wish she was back she was like a soul sista :D but she finnaly comes to visit me and she doesnt even call and when i invite her to sleep over she cant and she doesnt even car when i drove 6 hours to see her for 7 hours go to church with her and spend time with her and then drive back i feel really hurt what should I do should I forget her? should I move on or should i appoligize i dont know HELP ME PLEEZ IM LOST....i dont kno what to do.. she leaves tomorrow and when i call her she never answers AHHHHHHHH HELP I WANT HER BACK I MISS HER SOOOOOO MUCH!

friend dinial :'(

Dear Friend Dinial :'(,
I know exactly how you feel. Friendship is a hard thing especially as a kid. Alot of adults don't understand what we go through because times are changing and alot of the problems we face are different from what they know. My advice to you is to make some new friends. Friends come and go but the best will always stay. She's probobly adjusting to her new surroundings. I promise she hasn't forgotten you but since she's in a new place she's probobly trying to make some new friends. You two may be the best of friends but still, you're not there with her right now and you can't help that. This is probobly having the same affect on her and she might even be afraid to not have you around. In turn, she is probobly trying to make some new friends. It may hurt because at first, it will feel like she's moving on but she's not because I'm sure your friend feels just the same way you do.

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i feel like none of my friends like me b/c no1 ever wants to hang out with me and im gettin rlly upset about it

Throw a party or invite them over. No need to make them like you just reinforce that you are a great friend. Get to know them even better. I'm sure you're probobly a wonderful person and they just need to realize that. Hang tight and everything will work out find. Best of luck to you, hun!

xOx Emmz

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im in 8th grade (13 / female) and well in my gym class this year i have like no one to talk to.. there's the popular girls that somehow have the same class together .. the unpopulars, the geeks, the preps, and some of the jocks, and then there's me .. i dont really fit in to any of those categories (i guess i`m just average) .. well heres the real problem i actually do have a friend in my class, lets call her Monica but she doesnt even look at me, I guess shes embarassed to be seen with me or something cuz the whole class long she hangs out with this girl lets call her Jessica. And well when they hang out together their like all BFF and they really kinda arent .. anyways should i tell Monica or not ( like she knows i want to switch classes but i never told her why) . .what should i do ?

p.s. sorry its so long and kind of confusing

If Monica is your true friend then she will undersand how you feel. Be honest with her and tell her you are effected by this. Tell her you need to talk to her and explain everything. If she blows it off and pretends it never came up then she isn't a good friend. I'm sure you are very nice and will find another good friend.

xOx Emmz

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Hi, i have a friend who has bad b/o. I'm not that kind of person who can say "Would u mind putting on some deoderent?" I could never do that to a friend. I was wondering if anyone could tell me how to tell her without hurting her feelings. Please my b-day party is coming up and shes coming, i dont want to afend my other friends. Please, I really need some help.

When you're with her say... hey! guess what! i found this deoderant and it may sound silly but it smells FABULOUS! Wanna try some? It's a nice way but also gives a hint that's not direct. You're friend won't be offended and she'll be smelling fresh! Just make sure you pick a scent she'll like!

xOx Emmz

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i have this friend and shes like real bossy!!!
i don't hate "her" but i hate the way she acts!!
i can't tell her because she says i don't care and shes going out with this guy and she like always comes up to me and says "oh this make to weeks that we been going out"!! everysingle day ...but he just broke up with her and now i am kind of feeling bad for her what should i do???
i rate high

I think your friend was wrong to be so bossy to you and should take all this on her own. She doesn't own you and she shouldn't act like it. Tell her you think she's a great friend but if she wants to still be your friend then she should learn to give you equal authority. Tell her if there is something about you that she doesn't like then you can try to change it. Good luck, hun!

xOx Emmz

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i'll rate anyone a 5 who reads this and helps thanx!!

me and my best friend have been great friends since 8th grade (were both in 12th now) so we've been friends for pretty much 5 years. i love her to death and i dont know what i would do without her. Were seriously inseperable. About a month ago she met this guy. All of a sudden its like she's dedicating her time to hang out with him EVERY day. I mean all three of us do hang out sometimes but i dont really like it bc i kinda feel like the 3rd wheel. Her ex boyfriend just told me that he likes me but i told him that i only like him as a friend. i told her that he said he liked me and all of a sudden she asumed that i liked him too and now she is mad at me. the reason they broke up was because she was lying to him and cheating on him with this guy she is with now. The guy she is with now wants to get an apartment. He said i could move in if i wanted but i dont want to because i cant afford it but i dont wanna loose my best friend to him because i lost her once before and i was miserable. Well today i left this guy a voicemail saying mean things and everything to him which i shouldnt but he is really rude to me. He calls me a slut and everything. i've told my friend this but she said well im falling in love with him and all that. I really dont wanna loose my best friend at all! i dont know wut to do and its killing me inside. I tryed to talk to her about it but she doesn't wanna listen to me at all. She told me a few weeks ago the only reason she is with this guy is because he gets her w/e she wants (he got her a diamond ring...a $500 stereo and lets her drive his new car and she doesn't have her permit or license) i dont know what to do!! someone please help!! since this is long ill rate u a 5!!! thanx!!!

For the mean time, give your friend some space. I know just how you feel because I have this one friend and I am very close with and when she dated someone I felt a little bit pushed aside. All you have to remember is that could be you, in her shoes: in love with a guy. Your friend should reconsider it because its hurting you and she should listen. But since I'm supplying you with advice I say you should leave her alone for now and pretty soon she will start missing you. Hope this helped!

xOx Emmz

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My best friend is dating this guy that my entire group of friends can't stand. This guy has NO personality. Plus, he's mean to people. Do we say something to her or let her figure it out? (they've been dating for almost a YEAR!)

I've been in that position to and I made a mistake that almost cost me my entire friendship. While being a concerned friend is good, sometimes it can make your friend feel like you are getting into her business. Even if you know this guy is wrong for her, do not pressure her about it. Let her keep dating him unless things get very bad. Know when the time is right.

xOx Emmz

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Okay my friend always is setting me up with people well last night she did that to my best guy friend but the thing is i do want to go out with him but i kept saying i didn't want to! But how can i tell him this? I feel kinda strange telling him I like him cuz I mean hez my best friend! so what should i do?

Since he is your best friend, don't feel worried about talking to him. Tell him you value his friendship so much that he's like a brother to you. Since you guys are close, he should understand. Hope this helps and good luck!

xOx Emmz

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Ok, wow. My friend knows this guy at our school and she likes him a lot, but he doesn't know it (He may, but I don't know.) And he's really sweet and no one thinks he's a jerk or mean or whatever. But, then he didn't talk to her for some reason and so now she's a little bit upset. Her other friends think that she annoyed him, but she doesn't know why. She says that she may of talked to him too much, but she said she did that so he'd like her as a friend more. And so she keeps asking me for advice on what to do, but I don't have a clue, so I was asking you for help. She doesn't want to ask him why he is/was (I don't know.) mad at her, because ofcourse that would make him even more angry or annoyed! Should she ask him or have another friend as him, or what?

Perhaps he is aware of her crush and is feeling a bit shy now that he knows. It can be an uncomfortable feeling knowing that someone likes you. Maybe, he likes her too and that is making him leary and nervous. Have someone who's a close friend to ask. Maybe even you...

xOx Emmz

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I just moved to arizona from texas.. my best friend cried wen i left, and said that i would always be her best friend.. but its a couple of months after i moved, and she doesnt seem to pay much attention anymore.. She never calls, writes letters, or emails... we talk to eachother on AIM sometimes, but wenever i talk to her im so happy! but i feel like she is forgetting about me even though she says im not.. i get so depressed about it, and i cry.i would do anything for her!! she is soo important to me! we tell eachother everything and anything.. wat can i do to get her to relize wats shes doing to me without hurting her feelings?

She's not gonna know unless you tell her but of course, you are probobly worried about her feelings being hurt. I think she will understand if you tell her in a polite manner. Just explain it to her: "I feel we've been growing apart but you are like a sister to me and I would do anything for you. I just want to make sure you know that". Being open with her will make her have even MORE trust in you and a friend like that is IMPOSSIBLE to forget.

xOx Emmz

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