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School is starting REALLY soon and I'm soooooo freaked out. Everyone considers me the "shyest girl" at school and I don't have many friends because people think I have nothing to say. I want to be more open with people and be myself and not care what they think!! I ALWAYS CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK. That's what always gets in the way of everything, and that's what makes me shy. I'm soo scared of school because I'm not very popular and people tend to pick on me because of my weak voice, and "shy qualities". It's not easy to make friends. One of my biggest problems is also that people tend to think I'm STUPID because of my shyness quality - which I'm NOT - I get honor roll!! How can I make people think I'm smart, that I have something to say, and that there's more to me than what they think...MUCH MORE.

well.. for one... think about who you want to be friends with before you go and try, because some people aren't even worth your time. Also.. try coming back with a new you. A new style, personality, habits etc. On the first day just smile and say hi. I know it will be hard...but you will have to practice coming out and saying Hi to people you don't know. Or if you recognize someone from a class you had last year then just say hey weren't you in my chem. class last year? or sumthing like that. that should strike up a conv. and get things going.. then maybe they can introduce you to ppl etc. Also if you want people to see your smart a good thing to do is raising your hand in class to loosen up. That way your only talking to the teacher and classmates can your smart and maybe someone can ask for your help. Another way of opening up is at lunch. Sit down with some kids that you maybe recognize or a new group and just say hi. Ask how there days been as a good conv. starter or you can talk about the horrible lunch food! lol..that always works.. I say just loosen up a bit and when people make fun of you don't take it...Let them know just who you are and where you stand!...Also flirt with anotherr quiet guy lol.. that way you don't feel any pressure or anything lol...;)


-goodluck-


i hope i helped


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hey my names casey and my username is angelxforever. i just wanted to sayy hi..i saw your column, and i like a lot of the same bands as you. you also must give good advice, cuz for answering like 120 questions and getting a straight rating of 5, thats pretty good. i have like a 4.5 or something. weLL..tALk tO yOu LaTeR! :)

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casey
[[ angelxforever ]]

awww thanx! thats so funny! one of my old sns used to be AngelForeva.. and it had some numbers! lol.. how cool!!

Yes! I love my music.. it kicks major butt! lol!

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im not sure if this is the rite category but im a 14 year old male and i wanna run away. i dont like tthe way im being treated at home my parents r taking away my comps cuz they saw somethin on this site that they didnt like and they think i had somthin 2do w/ it. my mom is always yelling 4 no reason she thinx im always doin somthin rong my dad gives me no privacy and tries 2 read my messages. i hate having my life consumed by them. i want a life of my own.so should i stay or should i go?

Well.. first off... don't run away.. because you will be stuck with nothing.. money,food clothes shelter..etc. and 2nd once they find you.. your parents will be upset that you did that and probably won't trust you at all. I think you should talk to your parents...tell them your 14 years old and you want some privacy... assure them that if you ever had a problem that you couldn't handle that you would tell them about it.. and tell them that you have never given them a reason not to trust you. Tell them exactly what there doing that you don't like and give them reasons.... Tell them for ex. " You are always looking at my messages on the computer ... and i don't like that because.." (your reason) maybe you could say because its between me and my friends and when you look you make me feel like a little kid and that you can't trust me. And about them taking away your computers about the site...Take them to the computer and SHOW them this site.. and say yes.. some people put bad stuff on here.. but mostly its for normal day advice.... and other people help you.. make sure you tell them its not a chat service and your not talking to anyone you don't know.. your just taking there advice or your giving your own :)...If worst comes to worst and there still not easing up.. then try to spend as much time as possible away from your house... go to a freinds house.. go for walks..gets any jobs that are possible.. to spend time away from them.. Maybe they will begin to notice and ask you why your gone so much.. then if you tell them again it may be more clear ;)



-Hope I helped-


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okay i have this friend and sometimes i cant stand her!!! me and my other 2 bestfriends have told her why we get mad at her all the time she said she would change but of course she didnt...i dont know why i cant tell her that i dont think we should be friends...but i think because if im not friends with her...her bestfriend kelly wont be friends with me

Well.. I knida understand your situation.. I have plenty of friends that get on my nerves ALL the time.. but i always just remember why im there friend and how cool they are when i don't want to rip there heads off ;).. Anyways.. If Kelly if your friend then she should continue to be your friend even if you stop being her best friends friend. Although that can be a weird position for Kelly. Considering her best-friend can get mad at her for continuing her friendship w/you. So you should definitely realize that if kelly decides to space herself from you for maybe a little while (not forever) that its for the best. But I say.. don't give up on your friend just yet... Talk to her ((again)) and this time be mroe straight foward.. tell her that shes really starting to bug you to the point where your friendship is going to be a hard one to keep if this continues.. but dont tell her to change. Shes her own person. If she changes then she might not be the same person at all and all of her good qualties can go down the drain w/her bad ones 2. Just simply tell her exactly what annoys you and your friends. And ask that when shes around you to maybe keep those things to a minimum or not do them at all. She has to respect your feelings about things if its YOUR friendship.. [(It takes 2 to tango... and it takes 2 ppl to make a friendship.. and both have to put in an equal share)]. Hopefully she'll take this the right way and maybe just take what your saying into consideration.. if you let her know your friendships on the line



-hope i helped-


xoxo..


if u need anymore advice u know where to find me ;)

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My friend Cecely smell`z reallyy bad ---ยป realllyyyyyyyy bad - and i want to tell her to take a shower so badly.. but i feel if i tell her .. she will get mad. please help! PLEASE

Okay.. well think about it.. If you dont tell her then she will go on smelling and when she meets new people they will prob. not stick around.. So I say tell her in the nicest way possible... try saying "We've been friends for a while and I think our friendships strong enough for me to tell you this without you taking it the wrong way.. but sometimes when were together.. theres a bad smell coming off of you.. I don't want this to effect our friendship but you needed to know"... Don't necessarily tell her to shower cuz you don't know if thats the problem.. so just tell her that her smell is offensive and you were just saving her from further embarassment... in then end. she might get mad at you.. but i gurantee you she will smell better and hopefully realize everything you said was out of friendship...


-Hope I helped-

if you need anymore advice leave one in my inbox or im me ;)


P.S- it wouldn't hurt to give her some nice perfumes when you tell her ;)

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hello okay umm i need a huge list of ideas what i could do if i threw apartie in the summer...im only 14

Wow .. theres tons of stuff you could do..

Do a Hawain Theme and put tikki light up and you could

Swim(If you have a pool.. sprinklers are fun 2...:-P )
Dance
VolleyBall
Basketball
Watch Movies
Play truth or Dare
Play Spin the Bottle
Make a fire and roast marshmellows (at night)
If you have a trampoline then use that (you can rent one)
You can have a DJ that can do Karioke

^^thats some things to do....

Some food things are
A Barbeque(hot dogs hamburgers/cheesburgers grilled chicken veggie burgers etc.)
Pizza
Cakes/cookies/cupcakes ..sweets etc.
Ice Cream
Chips(Doritios Fritos Tostitos (the itos family lol) Potatoe Chips Pretzels etc)
Pasta (Spaghetti,ravioli,ziti)
Salads(Pasta Salads,Potatoe Salads,Macaroni Salads, Chefs Salads etc.)

Those are some food ideas

Some drinks you could do are

Sodas
*orange
*grape
*Rootbeer
*Pepsi AND coke
*Mt.Dew
*Sprite etc.
Iced Tea
Lemonade
Water
Ice Cream Floats (with all different kinds of soda) etc.

Thoseare some drink ideas.. It really all depends on how many people will be there to decide wether you should buy alot of food.. order 1 pizza or 20... hire a DJ or use a stero.. or rent a place to have the party or use your own backyard ;)

Hope I helped..


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xoxo

Good luck with your party I hope its a hit! :)

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One of my friends is mad at me because she thinks i called her a slut and i didn't. I've said sorry but she wont except it. What should i do? I dont want to lose her friendship forever. We told each other everything and did a lot of things together. How can something so great be ruined by one little misunderstanding?

Ask her why she thinks you would say such a thing. Basically explain to her everything you just told me. Tell her you don't want to ruin her friendship and although she doesn't believe you right now.. to please try and understand.. your really good friends and shes really important to you.. (((make sure she knows that))) I have a similar story.. one of my friends got mad at me because they thought I was saying stuff about them that wasn't true... but I explained to her that I was her friend and I would never do that to her and her friendship was important and she ended up forgetting about the whole thing. In the end getting through all this with your friend will just make your friendship stronger.. but if shes really upset.. then give her a few days to cool off.. she'll come around ;)


Hope i helped..

if you need anymore advice im me or leave one in my inbox :)


xoxo

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hey - my best friend has this boyfriend .. and like i KNOW shes to good for him and whenever the THREE of us chill something goes down and she gets mad at me .. because i "flirt" with him .. like i try not to and shes such a bitch sometimes i just cant take it and then .. she goes and chooses him over me .. how can i tell her hes no good without hurting her .. and this is something that totally bugs me .. you have NOO CLUE .. and maybe if it was 2 guys and 2 girls i wouldnt get into a fite with her .. and you know what i cant help that i like her boyfriend a lil cause he is really really HOT .. help me please !!

You confuse me... hes too good for her... you want to tell her hes no good .. but you like him a little...????

Okay I will try though...

Well for one..you can tell your friend if shes going to cause a fight between you 2 everytime the 3 of you chill then she can hang out with both of you seperately..You can also apologize to her for her thinking that you flirt(even if you don't,apologize.. becuz its hurting your friends feelings and im sure you don't want that) then tell her the only reason it may seem like your flirting is because you try talking to him alot cuz you don't want to feel like a 3rd wheel. She should understand. About you liking him a little.. I suppose thats normal.. chances are you are flirting with him... its normal for girls to flirt self-consciously when they see a hott guy...And as far as telling her shes too good for him.. i would hold off on that... especially since she thinks your flirting..wait a while.. becuz she might take that offensively.. just let her learn from her own mistakes.. eventually she'll get hurt by him.. but at least your shoulder will be there to help her when she needs it ;)

If you ever need anymore advice leave one in my inbox or im me

Good luck

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well it all started when i was helping out @ a summercamp, and every1 came over 2 my house 2 swim. and this 1 hottt guy was upstairs with me signing on as his sn. and so when he left his buddy list was on so i looked @ it (i know i shouldnt have) and so i noticed my sn on there but i am blocked, and i thought we were friends. should i ask him y he blockd me? what do i do?
madison

I think you should back off a little bit and see if he notices is... Like don't talk to him first let him talk to you... (etc.) If he approaches you and you talk.. end a conv. short and be like I'll finish this with you on Aim 2night.. be on at 6 then walk away... see if he unblocks you...Or get a new sn and im him and be like i was just on my other sn and it said you weren't on... did you block me? Or ask him if you 2 are good friends... and if he asks why.. say because when you were over i over looked on your buddy list and i was blocked...


-I hope i helped-

If you need anymore advice leave one in my inbox or im me :)


xoxo

Good Luck

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hey i have a friend who is sooooooo obsessed with her boyfriend and she is on the phone with him all the time and it gets sooo annoying but i love her too much to tell her that! and like what should i say to her and plus he is pretty ugly!! ick he is gross!
signed-
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Well you don't have to tell her its annoying or anything but... you could maybe tell her that Since they have been dating you feel sort of left out like she isn't making time for you anymore and when you call you can never get through because shes always on the phone w/him... If she takes it offensively and gets mad at you then just let her be.. becuse when this guy turns around and breaks her heart.. your the shoulder she'll be lookin to cry on..

Hope I helped...


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i have this friend who has really bad breath all the time and she talks really really close to ur face. i wanna tell her but she is the type that would take it way too seriously .. she wouldnt get mad but she would be very paranoid and upset.

Since you don't want to be rude or hurt your friends feelings.. just simply offer her some mint gum or a breath mint. And if its really bad and that doesn't work.. just tell her in the nicest way possible.. Be like " You know, we have been friends for a while and i don't mean for you to take this offensively but, your breath has been smelling lately" and if thats still 2 mean.. then one day while playin around be like GUURL ur breaths kickin!

hope i helped

if u need anymore advice leave one in the inbox or im me ;)


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my bestest friend iz like OBSESSED wid my step-bro n she talks about him ALL the time wat should i do???????


~ AnNoYeD ~

Tell her how you feel. Tell her you understand that she likes your step-brother but you two are friends and you would really appreciate it , if you could talk about other things sometimes. If she doesn't understand then when she talks about him change the subject or don't hang around her as much, she'll get the message eventually.

hope i helped

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okay there is this guy and we are really good friends! He comes over and stuff and we just hang out and have the BEST times! We can talk to each other about anything! We have such a good friendship! I was thinking about him the other day...i might like him! I think it might be wierd though, and he hasnt given me any signs about him feeling that way... i don't think so at least. But i don't know if i should give him hints as to taking it to a higher level, and if i should then how should i do it?? HELP ME PLEASE!

If your really into this guy.. chances are hes into you too. But remember thats not always how it happens. If your as good of friends as you say you are then you should be able to tell him you like him.. and if he doesn't feel the same way then it shouldn't make the frienship awkward at all. If he ends up liking you back then thats awesome!!! You could always start with hints before actually telling him ... and see how he reacts to these hints. If your going to tell a guy you like him i think its best to just come out and say it and not to play games. Just one day while your hanging out maybe after you watch a movie or sumthing you could just go for a walk and just start off by sayin i need to tell you something. (((hint don't say " i need to tell you something but its kind of weird and i don't know how to say it " ))That makes guys think your not really sure or that your not confident.. (and to guys confidence is sexy) Anways, Just say i need to tell you something andhe'll most likely say okay sure.. then you should just be like.. " i am pretty sure i like you as more then a friend and i wanted to know if you like me the same way" ... DO NOT pressure him to answer. it may be a shock to him since your such good friends. Give him a few days .. and if he doesn't answer then just forget for now don't keep asking.. maybe eventually in time it would work out! :)

If you need anymore advice you know where to find me... just leave one in my inbox or im me..:)

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im going to a camp in another state and my cousin is going to the same camp. (its a church camp) and i dont think my cousin likes me very much. i just move to this church so i dont know anyone but my cousin. i dont want to hang out with her cause she'll get mad! i dont know what to do.

You say you don't think your cousin likes you..? Maybe you should try talking to her about it. Or if you don't think its important enough to make a big deal out of it or if your scared she might take it the wrong way then just simply ask her if you can hang out while your at camp. if she says Sure in a non-mean way then relax and have a good time. But if shes mean about it then you'll definitely find some new friends. Camp is about making friends so i gurantee you that ;) Good luck...

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Well my really good friend doesnt like my new friends what should i do? she always talks bad about them.

Maybe your friend is jealous. Or maybe she doesn't like them for a reason. I know u have heard ehr reasons but have you actually ever HEARD her out. Really payed attention to why she doesn't like them. If shes your good friend you should trust her opinion more. And if its out of jealousy try spending a little more time with her. Just because you have new friends doesn't mean you should stop being friends (or drift away) with the old friends. I hope I helped..



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well my frend.. she likes my boii frend.. but she got uss toghether.. and now she wants to breakuss up!! and even tho my boiifrend sed that hell love me 4 ever and that he wont cut me cuz of her.. im still afraid what shood i do/?? 4give my frend.. or hate her for ever
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Xoo.HEL:P ME!!

Let me ask you something. Does your friend know how much you care for him? If she does then shes prob. not the greatest friend to have around. And if he says he cares about you then ::TRUST:: him. If he proves you wrong. Then hes not a guy that you want anyways. Friends are supposed to come before boyfriends.. Your friend needs to learn that! And if it all comes down to it where she makes you choose or trys accusing you of being a bad friend by not giving her what she wants so shes happy. Dump her. Shes not that great of a friend after all

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