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Q: Friends change...How do you kno who is your real friend. I mean people can be soooo sarcastic. How do u kno if they are playing or mean it...
Take them as real friends.Once a friend,always a friend.That is unless you ran over them in a car or something.If the were once your friends they still are unless you had a fight or something.If they made a habit of being rude and mean and NEVER talk to you politely,they aren't your friends.When people say something that is a light hearted joke,the expect you to take it light heartedly.

Q: *kind of a lot of intro into my question, sorry*

my birthday is in the summer, and so is my best friends birthday. my other friends is coming up soon.

my half birthday was just a few days ago, and my friends half and my other friends real is coming up soon.

so we have been saying for a few years now that at school we would celebrate each others half birthdays (and real one for the other girl) since we dont get to celebrate with each other during the summer.

last year my friends did nothing for me, but i got them something, by no means was it anything big but it was still fun and cute and all

this year we have been talking about it for weeks. they have been saying that we need to do this and that for each other and really celebrate this year. when my day came up, nothing. nothing at all, just like the years before.

at the end of the day i subtly reminded them of what today was, just in case they had been planning stuff but forgot(which would have sucked anyways) but the next day i went into school and still nothing.

so it sucks that they did nothing for me again ok? right!?!? YES!

but then that same day they start talking about what im going to do for them, they're like you need to do this for 'so and so' and ill get her this.

and then 'so and so' is like, you should do that for 'missy miss' and i'll do this.

they are like saying that i should wrap their lockers and buy them balloons and presents and all this shit.

but they never did anything for me! NOT ONE SINGLE THING! NOT ONE SINGLE YEAR!

i mean, it terrible what they are trying to do to me but i dont want to be mean or rude to them...(even though they deserve it...)

--Should I just suck it up and be nice to them even though they really hurt my feelings?

--Or should I just do what they have been doing to me, ignore it?

--Oooor, Revenge! haha, just kidding.....sort of...
It is always better to have a friend than an enimie.If you make them feel like you like them and make them feel important they will be true friends.You don't want to loose them.You want to make them better friends.Showing them that you care about them and are interested in them and that you like them is the only way you can get them to do something for your half birthday.Try to have fun on her birthday.You can have fun on their half birthdays too.Hace fun decorating their locker and stuff.If they are tellng you what they want you to do on their birthday,they expect you to do the same.The only way to recieve is to give.Remind them about your birthday and maybe you can ask them to celebrate your birthday in advance after you celebrate theirs.The only way to have a true friend is to be one.

Q: I'll assume some people know how to play secret santa here, so I'm going to get straight to the question. I have to buy a gift for somebody I barely know. Shes short and asian, shes smart and that's all I know. What could I get her that's beetween 10-15 dollars? Thank you
I'm not sure about how much this stuff will cost because I'm not sure how much things cost in america but anyway...
You can get her clothes...
get her something biege,pink,black or white.She will probably like those colors.Get her a CD or a movie that is old or that she probably has not seen.Get her a candle or soap making kit.Get her some jewelry.You can also get her something christmassy like christmas candles or a snow globe.It helps if you know exactly which country she is from because if she's Chinese you can get her a wind chime.You must never give chinese people certain gifts because of cantones phrases
Giving a book sounds like askin them to accept defeat or something like that.Giving a clock sounds like your time is up and giving an umbrella sounds like your family will be deminished.

Q: My "friend" always talked about me behind my back and i got sick of it so i told her that i was. She acted like she didnt care becouse we are totally different ppl and she was with the friends i don tlike. what do i do?
Just act like nothing ever happened and you don't know her.If she ever comes to bug you just agree with her and go back to doing whatever you were doing

Q: Hey i'm a 16/f and tomorrow's my last day of school. Soo i was wondering what are some things my friends and I can go out and do over the summer? Any advice is greatly appreciated! And thANKS!
Go swimming or a pool party.
hope i helped.
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