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ok me and my cusin and her friend and her friends little sister where about tew get jumped and you wouldnt want your little sister to get jumped so i ended up geting jumped for no reason but the good thing is i didnt have nothin wrong im just a little sore but then the girl with the little sister ran because she was tryna protect her little sister but my cusin ran and left me to get jumped and this is my second time bein with her and geting jumped so should i still be friends with her or ignore her please give me and answer and thank you those who do answer
Well I think if you dunno why you are being jumped you should try to reason with them and ask. But if not then I think you should tell your cousin that if she wants to hang out with you then she needs to help or tell you to run too because you can just fight by yourself but also if she runs then most likely you should go too. Work out a strategy.
My friend told me that she is gay and I do not want to be friends with her anymore. It's not that I don't like her as a person but I cannot grasp the fact that she has become a lesbian. Just months ago she was dating men and now she is claiming homosexuality. I don't like it and the entire thing makes me uncomfortable. I'm trying to avoid her now more than ever since she has confessed her sexuality to me and I feel that I need to just tell her to her face why I no longer have interest in our friendship. How should I tell her? What should I say? I don't want to come off as cruel by saying, "You're a homosexual and that makes me too uncomfortable to continue a friendship with you," but at the same time I think it sounds most appropriate because it is the truth.
I know it isn't fair of me to not tell her why I have been avoiding contact with her. I know I should tell her but I'm not sure how I should go about this. I was thinking a neutral setting would be most appropriate but I don't want to embarrass her if she gets upset in some form.
Does anyone have experience with this or any ideas of how I should handle this matter? Thank you.
I don't think that you should end your friendship because of that. I mean just tell her you don't want to have a relationship with her and you will never like her in that way. Make sure she doesn't come on to you. If you still don't want to be her friend then just tell her nicely but be truthful. I think you should continue to be her friend though. But it's what you want. I hope this helps.
I have a best friend who just admitted to me that she was bisexual. I don't really card if she's bi or not though it's just I told her I was curious and didn't know if I was or not. Well I think I kinda like her we talk on the phone everyday all day. I'm just kinda attracted to her i don't know if she feels or would ever consider me soo how do I tell her and how can I know if she might feel the same. She told some people that I was her girlfriend as a joke soo does this mean anything? HELP!!
First you could just ask her to hang out or something. Start a conversation then bring up the bi issue. Ask her about it then tell her that you want to try it out. There is nothing wrong with that. Then see if she's interested. She might even ask you out first. And the joke thing might mean something yes. Some people do that because they want that person to date them.I hope this helps.
Hey I'm 15 years old... my bff started to be like bff with my ex boyfriend...but that was normal and she talked with me about everything he did with her ex girlfriend (the one after me)... but lately she's been acting really weird... like texting with him (I know it's him cuz I saw once a message), and in her b.day they were acting like bf and gf!! I told her abour that and she said to me that he wasn't her type at all and that she would never date her bff ex boyfriend... but yesterday I found a conversation of them in my computer and they said to each other I love You too much for my likeness... and this week like two days she's been I don't know where because she doesn't want to tell anyone... and the other they she called ME to go to her house URGENTLY... and when I arrived there with another friend he was with her in her house totally alone...I didn't like it at all... and today she ditched us because she was somewhere she didn't tell us (my friends and I and a friend that came from England who is friens with her since preschool!!) all of us are soo pissed with her... but I don't know if I'm more pissed with her because of her dating him even when she told me she would never date her best friend's (me) boyfriend or because she hadn't tell me and it's hiding it from me... :S I'm so confused...xoxo Claire
Well I mean he is your ex boyfriend right? Do you still have feelings for him? If so this may be hard but if not then why does it matter? I mean I'd be mad that she lied but if you don't like him then it's not that big of a deal. You should tell her that you're fine with it (if you are) but you don't like the fact that she lied to you. Tell her that lying isn't right and you rather her just come out and say it. If she still says she isn't then maybe she isn't. She may be flirting with him but not dating him. I hope this helps.
17/f, my best friend is kind of a slut. like last year, she was all prude & stuff, and if i ever mentioned what i did, she would be like.. "That's so bad, you're going to burn in hell!" & i'd just kind of laugh, and it was whatever. well anyway, all of a sudden this year, she just turned kind of slutty. like.. her & this boy have been on and off dating since last year. they are really close, and he is the sweetest boy ever. well, anyway, she went and she cheated on him & fooled around with this other random guy, who she didn't really know, & they ended up dating, and she dated the really nice sweet boy too. well, i told her how she really shouldn't do that, and all her friends were pissed too, because they are good friends with him as well, well, finally one girl told the boy about it. & he forgave her.. well, she went on vacation, and she cheated on him with like these 25-30 year old guys. & she did all this stuff with them. & wherever i go with her, she has to flirt with every guy we come in contact with. it's not fair to the boy she has been serious with. i try to say little things to her like.. "well, what about james, don't you like him? why do you keep doing this stuff?" & she'll be like "i don't know" & she gets jealous when he hangs out with other girls, and hes only hanging out with them, because he wants help buying her stuff! & i want to try to like tell her to stop, because it is wrong. but i don't want to be like "you're a slut, stop it." & it just gets really annoying, because she always tell me how i'm bad because i smoke & drink! but at least i don't do what she does. what can i say to her? like shes a good friend of mine, and i don't want her to get herpes or something.. :/
Well obviously telling her to stop is not working. I agree.. you should tell her boyfriend what's been going on. It doesn't seem like she cares about him at all if she is treating him like that. He doesn't deserve that. Maybe after he breaks up with her she'll change.. but it seems like she won't. Maybe you just do need to come out and tell her that she is being too loose. She needs to understand that she is hurting people and that I bet people are also hurting her. If she really was a good girl before this year it's probably emotionally hurting her. I hope this helps.
15/F .
Well there's this guy named Joe, and one of my friends had sort of like a "physical relationship " they were like sex buddies but without the sex . She claims she fell in love with him. Anywho, i dated him 6 months after they stopped talking because he left to the airforce. When we started talking, we hit it off, and after that we went out for 5 months. Me and him broke up because the distance was too painful and i didnt want to go through with him getting drafted off to a far away place, so we remain really good friends. But now my friend constantly calls him, texts him, and she's always talking to him on webcam. I know me and him arent together, but that still makes me kinda mad becuase he IS my ex and she should respect that. On thanksgiving when he came down, he came to my house and while he was here, she didnt know and she told him to sneak into her house. And i know what her intentions were. So i think she does it to make me jealous because whenever we ask stupid questions like "if you could have anybody in the world who would you pick? " she would say him . stupid things like that . How do i tell her that it makes me mad? because ive already told her and she responds me "well you went out with him knowing how i felt about him " like wtf they hadnt talked in 6 months. Well please Help! Thanks
She probably is just lying to make you jealous. If she wanted him in a physical way before then that's probably all she is wanting know. I doubt she really loves him. You have a right to be mad. Maybe you shouldn't just talk to her about it. Talk to the boy also. Tell him how it makes you feel and if he cares he will listen. She should do the same. She isn't really a friend if she goes around and does that to you. I hope this helps you out some. =]
My best friend keeps trying to steal my bf and she keeps yelling at me and bringing my other bff in to this and i want to know what to do before i beat her @$$ and kill her....
HELP ME!
I have had this same problem. Except it was my own sister! This is what I'd do. First tell her that if she's a real friend she'd want you to be happy. If that doesn't get through to her then she really isn't to great of a friend. Also make sure the guy is important to you and not going to dump you for her. If he is he's not worth it either. She needs to face the fact that you're his girl. When she figures that out she will have no choice but to get over it. I hope this helps you. =]
Hi everyone! Well, I'm fourteen, and to pathetically sum it up, I've never dated, and/or gone on a date before. Alright, so I know the subject for my question (My Immature freind is bugging the CRAP outta me!!!!!) was really immature as well, but Any way, I have a freind named "Z". (Who's a boy by the way, this info is important later on in the story.) We really aren't all THAT close as me and some of my BFF's, but he's pretty high in rank. Well, I'm a christian, and I go to a youth group meeting every Thursday night and he goes too. A lot of the times, he brings one of my close friends "A" there with him as well, as they are friends too. Well, I had found out a few weeks ago that Z likes me from one of my best friends. Well, I will show up for youth group and of course, he minorly "flirts" with me. Like, laughing at jokes he normally wouldn't laugh at, making funny faces at me across the room, like the kind of kid flirting. That part I don't mind at all. Really, it's "A" that really gets me ticked off. She mostly comes to youth group because I'm there, so she folows me around all night. So, she's there when Z "flirts" with me. She does the "Awwwwww!" Or the kind of kindergarden taunting thing, "Z loves Rachel! Z loves Rachel!" It embarasses Z really badly, but he never denies it, or sometimes goes "So...?", or ignores her/ pretends not to hear. But the point is, I don't get why she can't just SHUT UP about it ya know? But, I always keep my negitive feelings hidden from friends, so I just go "A shut up!" jokingly. I don't get why she can't just leave me and him alone. It bugs me SOOO much I just wanna scream when shes near! It seems i've developed some sort of a twitch from that. xDDD But thats not all, she does. She teases me, literally, TEASES me and him about it. In front of the youth group too! This whole thing between me and Z is kind of new to us so we kind of want it on the down low. But A wont take a hint. I may be over reacting or something, but I want her o CUT IT OUT!! Please help! Thanks! :)
It sounds to me like she may be jealous that you're getting this kind of attention from a guy. I think you should talk to her about it. Tell her that it really bothers you when she does this, even though she isn't meaning to hurt you. I hope this helps. =]
Well, I'll start with the basics:
My best friend and I have been best friends for a couple years now. She has MAJOR codependency problems and flirts with/dates almost every single guy she meets. She is EXTREMELY clingy, and always just HAS to be with me every second of every day, which isn't fair to my other friends. A lot of people chose to dislike her for these reasons, but I thought our friendship was strong because I could ignore these little things. She's pretty much trying to be me. She started to draw just because she found out I liked to doodle, she claimed to know how to play the guitar, just because I was learning. It's like she has no opinion of her own, she always agrees with what i'm saying! Example:
Her: Oh I'm SO going for McCain! He's the best!
Me: I like Obama...
Her: Oh yeah, me too. I hope Obama wins!
(An actual conversation we had)
You see what I mean? Not to mention she's really bipolar. So, another of my friends and I went up to her about a week or 2 ago and confronted all of her "issues". We said, "You don't have to change for us, but it would make everything a lot easier". We stayed calm so she wouldn't be offended, and explained everything perfectly. Well, apparently our friendship wasn't strong enough for her to want to fix the bad things. She continued doing all of these things and it was quite obvious that she did not even attempt to change at all.
Well, last Friday, we were at a local football game. She completely ditched me to go hang out with some dude she'd just met (while she STILL had a boyfriend.) and flirted with him all night. I happened to run into a guy that broke both of our hearts and we both disliked him VERY much, so I called her to warn her. She said she was "not into that boy drama anymore" which is the MOST ridiculous things i've ever heard come from her mouth. She pretty much starts all the boy drama because she flirts with everyone, cheats on most of them, and then is shocked when she gets dumped by them. Well, just when she said that, something clicked, and I realized "wow, why am I friends with this girl? She lies, she steals my personality, she does everything we told her not to do and doesn't even try to change!"
After that night, I thought about it over the weekend and decided to just not be her friend. I know it sounds childish, but I put a lot of thought into it before I decided to end this 2 year friendship. I knew there was no way I was going to be able to go back once it was done, and i'm glad I did it because it's like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. So much drama has left along with her and i'm so much happier! Unfortunately, eve after I explained clearly, but not in a harsh way, why we couldn't be friends, she just couldn't comprehend why. She's been crying, talking to the people she thinks are her friends, talking about how she has no friends and her dad abuses her ( Which is a complete lie). Anything to make people feel sorry for her, which isn't working. Now, my question is, did I do the right thing? I gave her a chance after I talked to her the first time, and she blew it. Should I have given her another chance?
Thanks so much for taking the time to read all of this!
:)
I do think you made the right choice. I mean she had the chance to change her ways. You have been dealing with this for two years now. I mean enough is enough! I would probably do the same thing. Just make sure she doesn't turn people against you. If she is doing that then talk to either her, or somebody else about it. I hope this helps you. =]
Yep, again the same girl I'm always talking about. I just adore the girl, and whenever I get into scenarios beyond my control, I ask the people who are experienced with this type of stuff.
Anyhow, we've been good friends for about 6 1/2 months now. We started out talking about casual stuff, harmless subjects, ect. Which grew into a bit more of a stronger friendship, and she's told me she's comfortable with me, I'm one of the few people she trusts. Anyhow, we tried the dating thing for about two weeks, and she was worried that one of us would be hurt in the relationship, incase we found someone else, or just ended up hurting each other, so we broke it off.
After taking a break for a couple days from talking, we resumed talking, but it was weird. We're back to just casual/harmless stuff, and now it's grown into more of a "personnal" conversation. She even she told me she loved me, which she hasn't told me in a couple of months.
So my question is, do you guys think she may be interested in me again, or am I just getting hopeful?
Sounds to me like she never stopped liking you. I mean the only reason you guys broke up was because you didn't want to hurt each other, right? Well I think you should talk to her about it, if she's the one you wanna be with. Tell her you'd never hurt her. Just be sure of what you want. Hope this helps you. =]
Alrighttt, heres the problem.
me and my best friend for four years are fadeing BAD, because her "boyfriend" who play's her messes with other girls LET ME ADD SHE KNOWS HE DOES IT and she still is all "him him him" i love her to death but I can not stand him and i don't like being around him or when hes around meaning we HAVE no time to hangout. she always says we wont come over & then he does and i end up leaveing I'm tired of it, I'm about to just drop our friendship because of it. correct me if I'm wrong please. I just don't like him and him playing her & she wont listen to me either-
Oh my. One of my best friend's boyfriend is JUST LIKE THAT! I totally hate it too. But I know she is head over heels for this guy. You must know that too by now huh? Well to be honest I don't think she will break up with him even if he is a jerk. I mean I can understand with her being in love with him and everything. Talk to her about how you feel though. Tell her you have no friend time anymore. Hopefully she will make time to spend with both of you seperately since you don't like him. She should at least do that for you since you have to put up with him. Good luck. =]
Me having a lot of friend problems these days. . .
I hope you can help! :D
The story is:
I have a two friends and I LOvE them both dearly. One friend, she like my sister and the the other friend I love to talk with her and like play around with her.
You see the friend i see as a sister hates her because she think she's annoying or something.
The other friend doesn't know that.
By the way, the other friend has a friend named C and she my friend too.
C told me that she doesn't like the other friend because of something but I forgotted xD but but like she don't like something about her but she can't say no to her cause she a really NICE person so yeah.
When my sister friend heard of this she told me not to hang around with her even though I don't hate her but she told me too. But if she is with C friend then I can but I have to act like I'm hanging around with the C friend.
So the point of this whole thing is my sister friend won't let me hang around with the other friend because she hates her. Even though she hates her I don't. But if I hang around her I think my sister friend will get mad at me and not talk to me because she a sensitive/bipolar friend. Meaning she changes mood.
So, what should I do?
F/14
This is so tough. Okay. So, I have a problem similar to this. Look if the sister friend is really a friend to you she should understand. It's not fair to your other friend that you won't be her friend because your other friend won't let you. I think in time she should get over that if she's really a good friend. It's really your choice though. Good luck. =]
WHAT ARE SOMETHINGS TO TALK ABOUT WITH A MALE FRIEND ON THE phone???...really dont know...cuz i kno he likes me...just what should we talk about???...thanx alot!!!!
xoxoxox
There are many topics to talk about. I'd start with something basic like school or something like that. Then I'd probably just say a few random things. If you find he is getting very bored then change the subject or let him change it. Also something interesting to do is this little thing where you take turns asking questions and then you have to answer honestly. I hope this helps you.
my best friend and i just had a really big fight. and the fight was about how i frustrate her because i have low self esteem. ='[
i don't know what to do. i've been crying for an hour now and i feel so helpless and lost. most of my friends get annoyed with me i think. because i'm stupid and dumb.
see? low self esteem. i can't help it. it's not a problem that i can just make up my mind to fix. it doesn't work like that. i don't know what to do and i feel sick and lost. the person i'd call to talk to about this would be her, but she's the one that hurt me. she's basically all i have left. the other two people i want to talk to just to talk to someone won't answer their phones and i'm just so sick right now.
i don't know how to fix this. i just don't know. i feel lost. =[
~15/f
Well I have low self esteem aswell. It makes my boyfriend mad when I talk so badly about myself. You have to learn to get over it though. I am lucky that I have him to help me through it. What you can do I'd suggest is say something good about yourself each day. If yuo don't get over it still...at least don't say bad things about yourself while you are talking to, or with other people. Goodl uck! Tell me how it goes.