my best friend and i just had a really big fight. and the fight was about how i frustrate her because i have low self esteem. ='[
i don't know what to do. i've been crying for an hour now and i feel so helpless and lost. most of my friends get annoyed with me i think. because i'm stupid and dumb.
see? low self esteem. i can't help it. it's not a problem that i can just make up my mind to fix. it doesn't work like that. i don't know what to do and i feel sick and lost. the person i'd call to talk to about this would be her, but she's the one that hurt me. she's basically all i have left. the other two people i want to talk to just to talk to someone won't answer their phones and i'm just so sick right now.
i don't know how to fix this. i just don't know. i feel lost. =[
~15/f
Jackieee answered Tuesday September 30 2008, 10:30 pm: Well I think you can easily fix your low self esteem issue. Whatever the cause is, and for you i'd think it was a confidence issue, I think you should talk to your parents or an older sibling you can trust about this, especially if you feel like you have no one else to talk to.
I think you should take some deep breaths and relax a little bit. I also think you should write a list of all the good traits about yourself and read it everyday until you feel good about yourself and think your self esteem has increased greatly.
You can work on your self esteem by you and others trying to raise it. And if you don't have anyone else but your best friend and 2 others to talk to, I think you should try and make even more friends so they, too, can help you in times of need.
And if your friend isn't willing to help you bring up your self esteem, then she's really no friend to you at all, because friends help other friends no matter what. And even if she may be frustrated that she sees good in you and you don't, she should still help you through this.
If all you see is negative about yourself, then there's never going to be a light at the end of the tunnel and there will never be a "bright side". Be positive about yourself and things will pick up and life will be much better.
Don't feel lost or sick, these are just some things teenagers go through and it will get better, but you have to try and make things better because YOU are the main factor in YOUR life getting brighter, no one else.
Sarahreid answered Tuesday September 30 2008, 10:08 pm: Sometimes I feel down in the dumps like you.
I'm sorry I know it hurts deep down.
And I know there's no good way to mend a broken heart.
I have felt like this... Before.
Stand strong and try to get through this try to talk to your friends and tell them what you go through they might understand more then you think.
Goodluck,
-Sarah [ Sarahreid's advice column | Ask Sarahreid A Question ]
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