Well, I'm a serious sometimes funny type of person and usually my problem evolves in my love life :) ain't as lucky as you are.lol. I'm 16 and somewhat emotional. They say one of my assets is being sensitive to the feelings of others and one of my bad habits is playing with my hands while looking for words.
E-mail: phinyf@lycos.com
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Age: 16
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Ive always had a small group of friends that all got along. Well in the past 3 days it all fell apart. One friend got mad at me for something totally retarded, and then all of a sudden the other friend had a problem with me too. Now come to find out they've been talking behind my back about it. Im not saying they're totally at fault for whats going on because I know I am partly responsible for it, but I dont see why they couldnt come to me and say whatever it is they had to say instead of ganging up on me and then talking behind my back. I just dont know what to do. Ive tried talking to them about it and that didnt make anything better they just acted as if I was full of it and ignored what I said. So should I just give up on 2 people who were my bestfriends and get over it, or keep trying no matter how bad things already are? Please help. And if anyone wouldn't mind it would be easier to give off the whole situation over aim to give a better view point. Thanks again everyone. (link)
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Okay when you approach them, make it sure that you're not really angry at them because it'll really show. If you want your friendship to be back just apologize and tell them that you admit having a mistake on some parts but talking behind your back is such a cowardly way so ask them what is the reason why they're doing this? What's wrong with me? You say that one and I'm sure they'll respond. After all, you had a friendship.
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well i have a best friend you can call her marie. we went walking one day and she is young but,her x saw her and walked with us they started flirting i dont mind that but then he told us he was going to show us his old hang out it was a old shed he started telling her to give him a lap dance and she did well then i walked off because i got scared she would go to far i did not know what to do .so i went back 2 the shed and they were laying by an old boat with her shirt off.i had a cell phone with me so did she i tryed to call her and tell her i was going to leave her but he took her phone out of her pocket.the only good thing was he brought protection.
also she almost did it with her boy friend to night.please tell me something i can tell her or,should i tell an adult?? (link)
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Tell her, if she's ready for the consequences of what she's doing then that's the only time she can go on. What if she'll get pregnant accidentally because of passion, they forgot to use protection? tell her these consequences and if she'll not listen to you then it's past your hands. As a friend, you have done your responsibility.
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OmG! There's this girl that goes to my school, she's one of my best friends. But it seems that she wants to be exactly like me. She bought the same exact digital camera I had, the same battery charger, she has the SAME necklace I have, and the same exact purse. I usually don't get mad over this stuff. But now she's asking for the same cellphone I have. Am I over exagerating? (link)
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I think she idolizes you that much. Don't get angry to her. Maybe she really finds you pretty cool than the others that's why she's following whatever you'll wear or the things you buy for that matter. When she will ask you next time as to where you bought your things then maybe that's the time you can ask her why she always like have the same things you have. Then tell her it's better to be unique than duplicating others.
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I have this friend (( we will call her Lihn )) well she hasreally been geting on my nerves latly and I dont wana be mean and tell her buzz off because I am geting fed up with you so " GO AWAY " i dont wana say that cuz i still wana be her friend but like not hang out every day like we used to. And also if I tell her, her boy friend is like my best guy friend and I dont want him to get mad at me for telling her that or what ever! Plz help me I dont know what to do (link)
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There's another way that you can leave you for awhile yet she'll not get angry at you and that is to tell the truth. Tell her in the best way possible that you need space or if you really can't tell it to her directly then find excuses. Like if she'll ask you to go out with her then tell her you have some things to do or you'll go somewhere. If the time comes that she isn't getting to your nerves then that's the time that you can go back to her. It's a matter of deciding. For me option #1 is better but if you're afraid to hurt her then choose #2.
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ok.. i have this best friend.. he means like the world to me.. i love him soo much.. but as a friend.. not as a stocker obsessed way.. and i always talk to him.. and my friend.. like LOVES him.. like she wants to go out with him.. and whenever im with him.. she always gets mad.. so what do i do.. shes my best friend.. do i leave him alone.. or do i stay friends with him.. just never talk to him?? do i stay friends with him.. and risk loosing my best friend?
signed congused GIRL (link)
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I think you should clarify to your friend that you just like your guy friend only as a friend and not exceeding that and you don't have any plans to take him away from her. That way maybe you can stay friends/bestfriend between the two. You can also help her get closer to him so that she'll really realize that you treat him as a friend only.
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ok well, theres this girl that like hates me and i didnt do anything to her! can anyone think of a reason why she hates me so much? shes really annoying, like shes pissed off at me because my best friend((whos a guy)) like loves me and he calls her a bitch all the time. Also another reason why i think she hates me is because me and her best friend have become really close, and shes mad. what can i do so i dont KILL her?
and also, i feel really bad because the best friend i was talking about earlier, he is sooooo good to me, he always sticks up for me and no matter how mad i think im making him he never gets mad at me, and when i told him i liked him a little while ago he still wanted to be around me. how can i get over it? (link)
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I think she's angry at you coz she's envious because you have a guy bestfriend who really cares for you. Trust me your bestfriend really cares for you. It's up to you if you'll do something about it. You're lucky to have a bestfriend that sticks to you no matter what. What you'll do to the person who's envious at you? Choose between the two. Ignore her or ask her directly what's wrong with her? and tell her what you're feelings are.
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school is full of bitches, i know....this one girl who is my 'freind' walkes around wispering to people. she yells about how she and her bf are on 3rd base. then she critisizes you. she should not be talking...(this is gonna sound soo mean) she is so fat that she takes up 2 bus seats. no boy will go near at her in our school. i think she makes it up. she is acting really bitchy to people w/out boyfreinds, (or people like me who keep them secret) when she found out about my bf. she started being nice to me. she wants me to walk around and.....u kno. i want to get rid of her, but she followes me around. she also asks deatails about my bfs kisses. i really hate her. how do i rid myself?
ps: i am 13, and she is almost 14.. (link)
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Maybe you shouldn't resolve to lying but if it's for the best and it's the only way then maybe it can help. There are many options to choose from 1.) lying to her that you broke up with your bf just to let her away from you 2.) telling her directly that you don't want to talk your personal affairs and tell her to get your own boyfriend so you would know all about kisses. I think you should choose the latter. Tell her gently but firmly these things and maybe just maybe she'll understand what you feel.
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Okay, so there's this guy that's been my really good friend for a long time. Last October, I got a crush on him. Then in December, he had a girlfriend, but he told me that he'd liked me since October too, and a week later, he broke up with his girlfriend. But he didn't ask me out until a month later, because he 'didn't want people to think he liked me when he liked his other girlfriend'. So we were 'sort of' going out for about a month, but we never actually went on a date. He asked me out to a carnival, but then he ditched me. Then...worst of all...the school dance. He danced with me once, and then went back to his ex girlfriend and was dancing with HER for the rest of the time. I talked to him and he told me he didn't like me anymore, but we decided to stay friends anyways.
Now, about 3 months later...I think I still like him, but I'm not sure. We're still very good friends. I want him to be happy with whatever girl he goes out with, but I'm jealous at the same time. My heart jumps when I had to kiss him on the cheek for this school performance..and when I fell asleep on his shoulder in the movie theater (with other friends there)...and I feel crap when I see the girl he likes sleeping on his other shoulder, or sitting super close to him. What should I do? How do I get over him? Please help! (link)
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I think the guy you have a crush with is having confused feelings also. One moment he likes you the other he does not and I think he still likes his ex-girlfriend. Maybe the best thing you should do is to just remain friends and try to let go of him. I've suffered in a somewhat the same situation but not really that exactly the same. The guy I liked is also confused and therefore I gave him the time to think. Maybe you should give him space also. To let him think the situation over or to let him choose. If he still goes on with his ex-gf then there are ways to get over the guy
1) start dating other guys
2)concentrate on other more important things than love life
3) Do things that you like best to do and forget him.
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hey i need help because my birthday is coming up im turning 14 and i dont no what t ype of party i should have?? i dont want to invite people over my h ouse for a sleepover so any ideas for birthday parties??? ill rate 5s (link)
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It depends as long as you enjoy what you'll be doing. For example, you and your friends can camp near the beach and stay there and have a night swimming. But if you don't want them to be with you all through out or some of them can't come because they're restricted by their parents then maybe you should have a party with a costume theme with lots of fun and games. It really depends on you and your family. Just talk to them about your plan if ever you have one now and don't forget to be happy always on your birthday. And also, Advance happy birthday!
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17/f
I'm not going to prom b/c i have an AP physics final test two days later and i don't want to get distracted. But, my friends are mad at me b/c they are seniors and its our last year to go to a dance as a big group-their being mean "subtley"-like they'll slip in some mean things-wat do i do? and how do i not feel so miserable? (link)
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Ask yourself. Which do you prefer? Going to the prom or having good grades in the test? But if you have already studied and you're sure that you understood most of it already then why not go there? But if you have not yet understood much then maybe you shouldn't go if the time is lacking for you to study.
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Okay i have a friend 2 friends i will call them K and C. Me and C have known each other for a long time but so have me and K. And K gets mad at me like every week because i am hanging out with C. Also K gets mad at me becuase i call her friend "Sarah" A loser who wants to be come popular and mean stuff like that. But K is also calling C meaner stuff that i will not say on here for certain reasons. And i told C some of the things that K said about her so K is mad at me AGAIN and it is getting really anoying. And yesterday she said sorry to me and i said that i can not forgive her for a while because she does that every week and she says she doesn't but she does so i am just hanging out with C. I am doing the right thing for just letting k have me as a friend for a little while. P.S. I RATE HIGH!
Please answer i really need the help. And if it helps i am 13 and a female. so are my friends. (link)
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Maybe K is saying something bad to C because you also called her friend a loser. If it isn't then maybe you should distance yourself from K because your fight might worsen and you'll be enemies. Just don't say anything first to C because it'll worsen the situation. Hope I helped!
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WILL RATE HIGH my ex boyfriend is really worrying me. i broke up with him because he started to make me think that all he wanted from me was sex. im 14 hes 15. he was asking me if was a virgin (which i am), if i would leave him a sexy message on his messge maching, and he wasnt actualy talkin to me on the fone, it was all thr txt msgs.when i tried to talk to him he wouldnt pic up. and i cant stand relatiotships where there is no communication and he knew that was important to me. i went out with him once before and he broke up with me "because he thought i didnt like him" which didnt make much sense because i always made the first moves, he seemes like a whole different person now. anyway, i knew he drank occasionally and what i thoguht used to do some drugs. but i dont know, he says he has an anger problem and that he's going to get homeschooled. i think that would be worse for him. i know he has problems at home, but his parents are still marrried. he hurts himself, like he beats himself up and i dont understand. i dont think its anger problems i think he nees counsoling. i still care about him and i dont want him to do this to himself. i dont know what i should do...i dont want him to hurt himself (link)
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Ask yourself. Are you willing to do your best to save your ex? Then if you say yes then talk to him and make him understand, if he doesn't listen then maybe you can talk to the one he's close with or an elder/ guidance counselor. Ask him also what's the problem. Then if you can help without harming yourself then do it. But if you'll be harmed in the process then ask yourself do you prefer to save yourself or him?
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I moved to a new state last summer and i havent made that many friends at my new school. There was this girl who was also new who didnt know anyone and she was really down to earth, so we became friends. Over the school year shes become very stuck up, materialistic, and rude to people who try to be nice and talk to her. So im her only friend, and for a while she was my only friend. Ive made some friends with some very nice guys which have invited us (me and my friend) to sit with them during lunch. She never wants to because she thinks shes too good for them. I really dont see anything wrong with them, they are just trying to be friends with her. So i told her to stop being mean and to come sit with them sometime. She always refuses, which means im stuck with her and i dont get to sit with them. Then they get upset (not mad at me) when we dont sit with them. Each day she becomes even more and more rude and i dont really want to be friends with her anymore. Sometimes i feel like she doesnt like sitting with me either. Today during lunch she was on her phone for 45 min out of 50 min. She just kept me sitting there, and when i said i wanted to go sit with the guys she said no. I got really mad and just got up and left to go sit with them because i didnt want to just sit there and listen to her conversation. It was rude for her to be on the phone the ENTIRE lunch period (which is the only time i see her). Anyways, do you think i had the right to do what i did? I know it wasnt very nice, but shes been so mean to people and i thought she deserved it. What would you do in my position? (link)
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Yes you had the right. i think I would do the same thing if I were in your position. You don't deserve to have a friend that's rude to you and your friends.
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I NEED SERIOUS HELPPPPPPPP!
My friend and I recently had a huge fight.
She started to spread rumors about me.
HALF OF THE PEOPLE at school want to murder me.
HELP!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Confront your friend right away and ask her why she is doing this. tell her it isn't right to spread rumors just because you are not anymore friends with her. Talk to her sincerely and as much as possible try to avoid fighting her again. Be gentle and maybe you'll be friends again and the rumors will stop. Maybe she'll come to her senses and ask forgiveness from you too.
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(13/f)
I was talking to this girl from my class on the phone today and I realized that she is pretty cool and I want to be friends with her. The thing is that she is not very popular and I'm afraid that if I start hanging out with her, my other friends won't want to hang with me and might diss me. Am I being shallow or stupid? And what should I do? (link)
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Try testing your other friends. Like for ex. you talked about her with your friends. If they express disgust then just keep quiet about it. Weigh the situation and be true to yourself. Who do you prefer? But if they don't express disgust then do it. Make friends with her.
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I have a "friend" that is sort of mean to my other friends. She excludes them and is very posesive of me. She gets angry when me and my 2 other friends do things together, without her. My other friends basically hate her, but i don't want to break the friendship off because i don't want to make an enemy. I hat being stuck in the middle!!!
~Stuck (link)
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I haven't experience that but my sister was in the same situation last time. I told her that you should talk to your possessive friend that you are not hers so she shouldn't act like that. Try saying that to your friend and let her understand that you don't want to have enemies but she is too possessive.
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Ok so I have a good amount of friends and everything... but I am a bit shy. I just know I'd have WAY more friends if I was more outgoing. It's just really hard for me. Can I have advice on how to become more outgoing... and what I should do? Thanks.
-Hopeful (link)
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Last time, I have the same case like you. I'm not that outgoing with others but as time pass by, I realized I became more outgoing. Just ask your friends for feedbacks about you and why they became your friends since they know you more than we know you. Then apply their advices. Ok.?
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I have this one friend...we've been friends for 2 years. Well, this past year we've gotten closer, but now I think we're getting TOO close. She says I'm HER best friend, but I already have a best friend. And she always makes me hang out with her in the morning at school, and gets mad at me if I want to go with MY best friend even though we just sit in her crushes homeroom. She always tries to make plans with me on the weekend even though I always do things with my best friend. She makes me do her science homework for her, and she borrow my science book every day even though I don't WANT too! It's getting out of control and I'm starting to be very extremely annoyed of her. I miss hanging out with my best friend!! It's like she thinks WE'RE best friends, even though its clear we aren't. I don't know what to do anymore, and I'm afraid if I just keep letting things go on like this I'll end up really despising her. What should I do? (link)
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I think you should try to notice her. Maybe the girl lacks attention and she really really wants to be your bestfriend. If you don't want to be her bestfriend, be at least her friend and tell her that you already have a bestfriend. Let her understand your feelings and maybe she'll give you time to be with your bestfriend.
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