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what should i do?
WILL RATE HIGH my ex boyfriend is really worrying me. i broke up with him because he started to make me think that all he wanted from me was sex. im 14 hes 15. he was asking me if was a virgin (which i am), if i would leave him a sexy message on his messge maching, and he wasnt actualy talkin to me on the fone, it was all thr txt msgs.when i tried to talk to him he wouldnt pic up. and i cant stand relatiotships where there is no communication and he knew that was important to me. i went out with him once before and he broke up with me "because he thought i didnt like him" which didnt make much sense because i always made the first moves, he seemes like a whole different person now. anyway, i knew he drank occasionally and what i thoguht used to do some drugs. but i dont know, he says he has an anger problem and that he's going to get homeschooled. i think that would be worse for him. i know he has problems at home, but his parents are still marrried. he hurts himself, like he beats himself up and i dont understand. i dont think its anger problems i think he nees counsoling. i still care about him and i dont want him to do this to himself. i dont know what i should do...i dont want him to hurt himself
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Tell someone - an adult. It doesn't seem like his parents would be much help, so you could tell your parents or a counselor or something. Hope I helped.
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i think that if i were you i would tell an adult about it. i mean you do care about him and i know that going to an adult doesnt look really popular, but sometimes what is right isnt always popular and that is what i would do.
good luck!
lisa
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just try talking to him and things might be better and be there when he needs you and if he is pressuring you to have sex and that if you dont want to then it means hes not the man for you wwell i hope everything will go good hope i helped
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I really think that you should tell his parents about what he's doin to himself because thats definately not anger problems that more like mental problesm....sorry but i really think he should get some help for that there is no need to hurt yourself. Or just talk to him and ask him why he does that to him self if you need to talk you can e-mail me at silver6@usadatanet.net ! Hope i helped a little!
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obviously he needs counseling because we both know what he does to himself is not normal. Have you tryed talking to him about the problem in person? because that could help you get to know him better. i think that you made a wise choice to break up with him because it seems from what you said "he only wants the booty".
hope i helped
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Okay well your talking to the main self abuser ive done Anorexia and cutting and i know the reasons for doing it. He is insecure i think. It shows by him teling you he thought you didnt like him and the fact that he beats himself up that just shows that right now hes not happy with himself. The whole virginity thing well he probably just feels that your very attractive and that you having sex with him would make him feel sexy because a girl finds him attractive. All this is just his deeper need to feel needed make sure hes feeling supportive by you. Just be sweet and show him that you love him. tell him taht although you love him doesnt mean having sex it means making him know you love him.
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If you boyfriend's parents are jerks, (and they sound like it) they have had 15 years to ruin this kid's life, and turn him into an angry young man. Boys (AND GIRLS) are not born that way, they are made that way by the most important persons in their lives, when they are growing up. They parents. Seems like he got a raw deal with the parents he ended up with. Honey, you don't have the time and patience and experience to help him. They have had 15 years, you have only had few months. He may agree with you, but he can't help what he feels. I agree with you, he needs counseling. He does seem different to you know, because at his age, his anger at his parents is growing very fast. When he was young he didn't understand, now he is beginning to. He can't be kind to you and thoughful and sweet, because he did not experience that at home. He can't feel what was never demonstrated to him. You can try and change him, GOOD LUCK. you will need it, and a lot of patience.
Michele
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Girl, if he said that, he's definetely not worth you! If all he wants is sex, he should just go find a whore... ohhh drinking is SO not cool!!! Maybe he should try to quit...? Ehh don't let him hurt himself, but don't get him into thinking you want him
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Ask yourself. Are you willing to do your best to save your ex? Then if you say yes then talk to him and make him understand, if he doesn't listen then maybe you can talk to the one he's close with or an elder/ guidance counselor. Ask him also what's the problem. Then if you can help without harming yourself then do it. But if you'll be harmed in the process then ask yourself do you prefer to save yourself or him?
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Baby girl the guy is a LOSER. Hopefully you didn't have sex with him. All he is doing is playing games. Drop his ass like a bad habit and keep on stepping. There is a good guy out there for you. Plus your still young. Date around, have fun. Your too young to committ yourself because your still finding out who you are. Play his ass like he's playing you. He's probably asking you to leave him sexy messages on his machine so he can play them for his loser friends. Leave him alone and don't look back. Take Care!!!
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