Hi my name is Chelsey and I've been through a lot in my life. I live in Branford Connecticut, and I'm 13 years old. Even though I'm young that doesn't mean that I haven't been through a lot. Everyday is a struggle, and i like to feel that i'm not alone and I wish that someone was there to help me get through the tough times and confort me. Thats why I like to help. Also ever since i was little I was usually the advice giver to my friends and I always gave them good advice so I hope to help more people in the world. When i grow up I hope to be a councelor for teens because teens usually go through the most dramatic things. Also just to let you know I used to cut for you cutters out there and I've done a lot of other things. I know that these days a lot of teens think self harm is normal and theres nothing wring with it but it is TOTALLY wrong and that why I'm here to try to help some of you people stop. I've helped a lot of people in the past. Also I've been through a lot of family roblems since I was little. Including my dad and other family member's making me feel like nothing. I've also been through a lot of unwanted sexual contact. So for you boys and girls out there that have been raped or moulested I'm here for you. As most teens know a lot of depression problems are caused by relationship problems and I've been through more of them than I can count, I know how hard they are and how much you cry and cry you can't bring them back. Or you just don't know what to do when theres a problem. Also my mom she has a disease that makes her not feel good at all, all the time,and there is NO cure for it. So i kind of know how it feels not to have a mom because she's not like normal mom's. So if you need advice i'm happy to give you some to the best ability that I can.
~*Thank you*~
Gender: Female
Location: branford,CT
Age: 13
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So, I'm in 8th grade (im a girl) and recently I geuss I have begun to be really good friends with a 5th grader (boy) (i go to a SMALL Catholic school in the middle of no where). Now I like him much more than a friend, but i dont know if it's wrong to like him more, or what i can do about it?. (link)
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I think you sould go for it it's fine! I think if you really care about him you should tell him because you never know he might feel the same way about you or might start feeling the same way about you! Just think about it when your older people go out even get married and there many years apart i don't think a couple of grades would hurt. So go for it and see what happens. GOODLUCK!!!!
xoxChellyxox
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*female* i had major cramps today i felt like i was gonna puke and i had several cases of *ahem* diarrhea *embaressed* is there anything i can do to get rid of this PAIN the next time it occurs? thank you so much please don't make fun of me i'm sure this happened to you atleast once in your life. if it hasn't, consider yourself the luckiest person on this site. (link)
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Before you know your going to have cramps or you know that you might get them take IB Profen, or Tylenol, Advil, any basic pain killers. It works for me!Well i hope i helped!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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I just found out that a girl at school, I knew already that we werent the best of friends called me Rude, annoying, and bitchy while talking to one of my closest friends.
History of us,
we were never friends but we never were mean 2 eachother. Last year I had mono and was on medications, I had a short temper and she or someone else sai somthing thing that mad me mad or annoyed me. She said "you have changed alot since you were sick. nit for the best either. You are mean." I said stuff back 'this is the real me i didnt change. get used 2 it." i fell bad now but i didnt know what i was saying. now i think she hates me and I want to apologize but I dont want to seem like a goody goody who wants everyone to like them.
what do i do. please help me!
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I really think you should appologize to her because even if she doesn't accept atleast you did the right thing. But i really think thats she'll be friend with you agian if you just explain that your different now, all the other things that you said wasn't really you speaking it was the medication. Well i hope everything works out ok!!!!!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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I NEED SERIOUS HELPPPPPPPP!
My friend and I recently had a huge fight.
She started to spread rumors about me.
HALF OF THE PEOPLE at school want to murder me.
HELP!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Wow that really sucks!!!! There should be communication yeah i know you really feel like freaking out but try to stay calm and just talk to her and see whats going on. You never know it might help!!! Well thats all i have!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~ & ~*lEx*~
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WILL RATE HIGH my ex boyfriend is really worrying me. i broke up with him because he started to make me think that all he wanted from me was sex. im 14 hes 15. he was asking me if was a virgin (which i am), if i would leave him a sexy message on his messge maching, and he wasnt actualy talkin to me on the fone, it was all thr txt msgs.when i tried to talk to him he wouldnt pic up. and i cant stand relatiotships where there is no communication and he knew that was important to me. i went out with him once before and he broke up with me "because he thought i didnt like him" which didnt make much sense because i always made the first moves, he seemes like a whole different person now. anyway, i knew he drank occasionally and what i thoguht used to do some drugs. but i dont know, he says he has an anger problem and that he's going to get homeschooled. i think that would be worse for him. i know he has problems at home, but his parents are still marrried. he hurts himself, like he beats himself up and i dont understand. i dont think its anger problems i think he nees counsoling. i still care about him and i dont want him to do this to himself. i dont know what i should do...i dont want him to hurt himself (link)
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I really think that you should tell his parents about what he's doin to himself because thats definately not anger problems that more like mental problesm....sorry but i really think he should get some help for that there is no need to hurt yourself. Or just talk to him and ask him why he does that to him self if you need to talk you can e-mail me at silver6@usadatanet.net ! Hope i helped a little!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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Ok, i have a crush on this guy in highschool, hes a freshman...im in 7th grade. For our town, its not a big deal to do that(just letting you know.) I only met him once and it was at a show. I'll be seeing him friday, cuz theres another show. But the problem is that he doesn't know me. Like he might, but I doubt it. I want him to notice me this friday, so how do I do it?
PLEASE HELP!!! thank you to who ever does help
P.s. My best guy freind is running the show and everything. Like he is in charge of it all (link)
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ask your guy friend thats running the show to hang out with you or meet you and your friends(bring friends). Tell your guy friend thats running the show to tell the guy that you have a crush on that you have to do a report on something that intrest you nd you want to hear it from the actors and you friends thats running the show thought he was a good choice.HOPE I HELPED!!!
luv,
~*chelly*~
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well theres guy that i like like and were friends and yeah he flirts but then again he has a lot of friends that are gurls and well he flirts with them to but how do i find out if he likes me but what i was thinking since he's gradurating this year should i tell him at the end of the year that i like him but i think if i do than he'll just think that i was just another one added on to the list but what i fear most is that he's going to leave with my heart and i didnt do anything about it but then again i act like i do and he can pretty much see it in my eyes i think (link)
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I don't think that you should straight out tel him that you like him. Have a friend or even you could ask what would he say or think if you like him. And if he answers a good question tell him if not put tellin him on hold for a little while and then wait for the time is right to tell him.
HOPE I HELPED!!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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I have a "friend" that is sort of mean to my other friends. She excludes them and is very posesive of me. She gets angry when me and my 2 other friends do things together, without her. My other friends basically hate her, but i don't want to break the friendship off because i don't want to make an enemy. I hat being stuck in the middle!!!
~Stuck (link)
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I say you talk to that friend and tell her to be so aggressive torwards your other friends. It's not a big deal that you do things with your other friends. It's not like there going to replace you or something. But if she really doesn't listen be serious and tell her you guys need some tme apart.Good luck!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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My bestfriend(15) , this guy(15), and I(14) all go to that same church. Now my bestfriend and this guy are going out and their parents dont know about itand are completely against them being friends. There hole relation ship is based on rebelion and she realizes it but says she doesnt care at least not right now. He has hurt her a couple of times and she still refuses to see it. She won't listen to any of her friends including me. What the heck am i supposed to do, just sit back and watch??? (link)
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I say tel someone about it her parents your parents, ANYONE RESPONSIBLE! Or talk to him and ask him if he relizes that he hurts her, cuase he might notice that it's wrong to do. But i really think that you should talk to your parents about this first and then see what they sa about it and do what they say.
GOODLUCK!!!!!!
luv,
~*chelly*~
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I like this girl and we used to go out.
we had something really special before but some shit happened and the relationship went sour.
She had a b/f when we were dating. She doesn't have the some feeling for me anymore but i still like her. I think she borke up with her b/f now and going out with other guy.
I really like her but i don't think i should still thinking about her.
Anyone knows how can i forget about a girl who i like a lot??? (link)
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Well sometimes you can't forget about someone. But if you really want to try to start hanging out with another girl you might end up liking her and forget all about your ex. Well thats all i got but i hope i helped!
luv,
~*chelly*~
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Ok, I've been seeing this guy for almost 4 years (I know, quite a long time!) I met him at uni and now I am in my final year at uni and he is working miles away. We have never been apart like this before as we were always together at uni.
I have mixed feelings about how much longer I want the relationship to go on for. Whenever we speak on the phone he says something stupid or puts me in a bad mood and makes me unhappy.
I feel I want some time to be young free and single especially as I have been witht the same guy for such a long time. Surely these signs mean it won't last??
Also, I went for dinner with some friends of my flatmate and I met this guy who I found really attractive.
I would never ever cheat on my boyfriend but why am I thinking of this other guy all the time when I should be thinking about my boyfriend?
We all went out last night to a club and he was there. He walked me home. Nothing happened but it was so nice to have some attention from someone else and for some reason he made me feel more wanted than my boyfriend does.
Help!! I am so frustrated I don't know what to do! Even if anything did happen, this guy goes back to Australia at the end of May.
Thank you so much if u do reply - i really appreciate it and will give you all 5's! x (link)
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I really think that if your thinking of other guys and not your boyfriend i think you guys aren't meant to be and sometimes it is nice to be single, loves to serious. I really think you should breakup with your boyfriend and see how it goes with this other guy thats going back to Australia, but don't ask him out because then your going to be in the same situation that you are now. I just think you should make the best of time with him that you have now with him. i hope i helped!!!!!
luv,
~*chelly*~
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my friend and i where always good friends but lately when i started to seem to like a guy she starts to like them to. like a few days ago i started to like a guy but then asked her if she liked him she said yeah. i dont want to sound mean but if i get to like someone and he meets her she wont notice but shell steal him. and th other day shes says ill leave him 4 u but then a week later she said i think ill ask him out. what can i do to make myself happier and not end our friend ship. 13/f (link)
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I think you should really talk to her and tell her that it's not fair because you liked this guy first and it seems like a guy means more to her then your friendship. And if we both like him we can either share him or we both can't have him and move on, but if one of you guys move on and the other one doesn't i think it's ok for the other one to ask him out. But just see how it goes! Goodluck!!!!!
luv,
cHeLlY
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ok so i started shaving when i was in the 6th grade and my legs were fine then and all smooth but now i am getting ingrown hairs and shaving bumps && i use lotion and shaving cream so i dont kno what im doing wrong please help!! (link)
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The same thing has just happened to me and it's starting to go away what i did to make them soft and smooth again if aftrer you shave put baby oil on them not to much just a little and rub it in real good and it keeps your legs lookin great and real smooth!good luck!!!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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i have two HUGE hickies on my neck..does anyone know a way to make them go away faster..my mom CANT see them!
thanx =] (link)
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Well i don['t think i knw about anything to make them go away faster but you can always hide them with makeup like foundation it works.i hope i helped a little!!!good luck!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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I think I have sort of created some sort of irreversible obsession over my best friend. I'ts not that I cant live with out her. It just that I refuse to do the simplest thing without her consent or at least knowledge. In some sort of twisted way, I cant think without her.... Shes sort of that one thing that completes me in almost all aspects of my life. I'ts scares me day by day because i feel that such a good thing is always lost... Im paranoid about losing one of the only things that makes my life, worthwhile.... Praying for her everynight doesnt seem enough and even when I'm sleeping next to her...I sleep with the deep penetrating thought that She wont be there when i wake up.... My question to you is this.. Is this a friendship or some sort of ill obsession?????
Please help me?????
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I wouldn't call it an obsession, but i would calm down a little on the parnoia. I don't think you should be as worried as you are about her. Like yea it's great to pray for her and such but not be wondering if she'll be alive when you wake up next to her. But i think you guys are REALLY REALLY REALLY tight which is awesome i wish i had a friendnship like that. Well i hope i answered your question!
luv,
~cHeLlY*~
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Hello everyone, how can you know if it is really love or not. There's this guy who I have a crush on for four years plus already and I still can't forget him. Whenever I see him last time and he goes near me, my mind can't think anything. It's like my mind is saying say something say something but I can't think of anything to say. Now, I'm worried about him and I don't know if this is really love. If it is, could it be possible that love exist at my age? I'm 16. And could it be possible that you love someone you don't know really that much? (link)
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I think it is able to fall in love at any age i'm only 13 and i'm in love. it's possible. I've been in kinda the same situation that you are in and still am. It's hard because you feel that you should really get over them and move on with your life because you know or are thinking that they don't love you as much as you love them and never will so whats the sense in telling them if nothing will ever happen. But you still don't know if he'll fall in love with you because from what i understand you don't really talk to him. I think you should try to talk to him or join somthing that he's in. Or just get his screename!People are way easier to flirt to online. thats how all me and my boyfriends got tight. Well i hope i helped!!!!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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I hate myself and want to die. There is no way out. There is no definite answer to anything so how can you ever be right? Why do my friends always want to know what i am thinking when they dont care, they dont listen so why ask. Counsellors get PAID to listen to you. no one will remember me a year from my death. Anti depressants leave you numb and emotionless. Doctors dont issue sleeping pills coz I am a depressant but I cant SLEEP all i do is stare into senseless nothing seeing nothing but black shadows. The only releif is a razor blade and salt. Nothing will ever get better i will have this hopeless feeling of nothingness and desperation for somekind of peace of mind which i wont get. Things will always be the same and then ill die anyway. Im a selfish ugly fat bitch and the only way out is death. nothing can help me. im searching for a solution to get past my pathetic problems asides from counsellors, therapy, rehab, cutting, not cutting, anti depressants the only thing i can think of to a solution is death. no will will ever be able to stop this drowning feeling (link)
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death is NOT the answer. I've been down that road before and it just made thigs worse. i know it feels like there nothing you can do and it's never going to end but it does it just takes a little patience and time. just get some friends to listen to you that you can REALLY trust. i just have one best friend that i tell everything to and she helped me get through all the shit i was going through. and PLEASE DON'T cut it's just gonnan make things worse because if ppl see them they'll strat rumors about it and that will just make you feel worse about yourself. And don't think such negitive of yourself you are a beautiful brave young lady that it trying to seek help and get over her problems in life!!!!! And if people call you a fat ugly bitch, don't listen to them it'll just bring you down just remeber thins you know it's not true and just think of the good traits of yourself everyone has good traits! And remember this depression just lasts a little while but death it lasts forever. and it's just a waste of time suicide when you could have gotten better and you didn't have to die. It's just a really weak thing to do and just REALLY dumb!!! don't do it just try to write poetry it helped me or write in a journal. Whenever i have something i can't get off my mind i write about it on a peice of paper and it helps me forget about it and helps me move on! Or listen to happier music because if you listen to depressing stuff then i dout it will really help you....u know what i mean? But if you can't find somebody to listen to you or you just want to talk to me I'M HERE and would be HAPPT\y to listen. oh and also one more thing councelors do care if they didn't why would they want to do it as a living i dout they would want to listen to peoples problems just for money if they totally hated it the hole point in haveing a career is loving it and enjoying doing it everyday. So think twice about concelors! they DO care!!!!
i hope i helped!!
MUCH LOVE!!!xoxoxox
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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Well i put some blonde streaks in my hair and ive got like one side which is quite gingery and the other is really blonde! lol i dont know what to do i cant go out like this it looks such a mess please help xxxx lush me xx (link)
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GO ask one of your friends to get another box of die and die your hair one of the colors you like better in your hair and find a die that matches it and die your head that and then get a litter color and put streaks in. hope i helped.
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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I'm not sure how many of you will remember but I am the girl who talks to her boyfriend on the phone, and I was afraid that I was caught because we were talking dirty on the phone. The link is [ http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=300878 ], incase anybody else wants to answer, but anyway, I am thinking that my mom may not know because she said that nobody thinks I am doing anything, and tonight, I was just talking to him, and she came up in my room, and said, "I came to ask if the conversations up here are clean" And I said yes and asked her why, and she said, "your sister told me to come and ask because I asked her." Ok, that makes me think that only my little sister may know, but I need other opinions on it, because I just need help here, could somebody please just lay out their opinion?
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Yeah i just think it was your sister that overheard the convo and i really don't think that you should worry about if your mom heard it or not. i think if she heard it she would of said somthing about it by now because i know my mom would and my friends mom would do the same. But i really think you have nothing to worry about. just be careful what you talk about now!!
good luck! hope i helped.
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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ok well theres this kid whos graduating supposeably this year and well i reaally like him like love him and well im not aloud to date him because well lets say the my dad is presidist and well the worat part is that hes a ladys man and he flirts but i dont know if he likes me so what should i do because im thise people who are afraid to get hurt but no matter how hard i deny im afrisd that hell have my heart when he leaves and it kills me so go against my family or what plus my brother are the same way and they both go to the same school helppppppppppppppppppppppp (link)
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i really believe that you should follow your heart. but before you do that i really think you should talk to him and ask him if he likes you. Because you don't want to go through all this drama with your family and then find out that he doesn't even know that you exist you know what i mean? well i wish you the best of luck!!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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