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I am 27, I am an introvert and I also suffer from depression.
I have no friends, I have not had real friends in about 3 years now. Each time I think of the idea I seem to shoot it down. I even had oppertunites to hang out with a few people and I find myself with very little interest in proceeding what seems to be no more then hi and bye. I ask myself " Why aren't. I interested in friends?" I can't seem to find a real valid reason other then they are drama and always hang out. I am young and should have friends but don't really want them?.
I know the feeling I'm on the same boat but then you get lonely and wish you could go out with friends at times too. I know this might be a dumb question but are you afraid to be with people cause some are and that's why they isolate themselves from others that aren't family I mean. People who don't like to be with others suffer from depression and if you go years like that you will eventually have suicidal thoughts and it would just go down hill from there. You don't have to make a big change just start a little at a time.Even though you are probably happy to be alone you will like to have some friends eventually some people you can go to when you need to get away from family if you got problems and want to share them among others your age. Also your friends could help you find that special guy too when you would like to find him can't really depend on the internet cause people can lie. I hope I helped you some good luck.
what are some good things to do with myself(15/ f) and my bf, and my friend and his friend.
we have no money either. lol
thx
Why don't you guys play a sport at a park or school, get together and go to the beach just hangout, see if someone is having a get together and join in, or you guys can all get together and maybe watch a movie at one of their houses. I hope I helped you.
im in 4-H, and its a really neat thing to do. But my best friend in 4-H, me, and two other guys and my sister want to hangout as a group. theres ages of 16,15,14,12(almost 13) 3 girls, and a guy, maybe two guys going. And we want to hangout...but we dont know what to do! We get kinda bored of bowling and movies...laser quest might be too expensive, any ideas? And my one friend cant ice or roller skate..so think of some FUN stuff for us to do! We're all pretty close, so...we need something fun to do! (and not too expensive please) thanks =D
What about ordering a couple pizzas and having a pool party, go to the beach play a sport then someone can buy some dinner and you can have a bon fire perfect time to talk, hangout at the mall, you can have a BBQ at someones house and then rent a movie w/popcorn, go to a school and play a sport or something, having a picnic in a park, what about just taking a drive if someone has a license, go to a Arcade, and what about Mini Golf. I hope that I helped please let me know if I helped but if not please stop by my advice column.
My friend is turning 16 next week and she just found out that shes pregnant.. her boy friend isnt tlaking to her right now and she thinks hes an asshole now. Her mom kinda has a feeling that she is btu doesnt exactly know. Shes coming over in a couple hours and i have no clue what to do how do i comfort her what do i do? please help...
When she comes over just be there for her. Talk about her options. Then talk about how she will tell her mom. When she does you should be there so that way you see what her moms reaction is. If it's bad just take your friend out of the house for a while so that her mom can came down. Then have your friend call her mom to see if she has calmed down yet and if she is willing to talk to her about it without getting upset. I hope that I helped but you never know what will happen in situations like that. You can visit me at my column.
I'm having a few of my close friends over tomorrow, about ten or so of them. They will be staying all day, but the thing is, I don't have any ideas whatsoever on what to do. It will be raining all day so we can't really walk anywhere and no one is really bringing money to go to the movies. I have a lot of movies in the house, but they are all horror movies, which my friends aren't into. Suggestions on what to do will be appreciated. If it helps, I am seventeen (although the people who are coming aren't all the same age) and both guys and girls will attend.
How about you rent a couple of movies the ones that you know your friends will like. When you get back you can make pop corn. Give each other a make over if you want, a manacure, and a panicure. That way it gives you guys something to do. After if you can't think of anything else to do why don't you make some pranks calls. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
ok, well theres this guy and i just met him at the beginning of the school year. we are really good friends and he has a girl friend. he's always flirting with me and i know we are just play flirting but would these kind of be REAL flirting too? today in social studies we were watching a movie (he sits behind me) and he was playing w/my hair... then my hands were cold so he "held my hand" b/c his were warm... he wanted me to move my seat in Math so i could sit next to him... but other times it seems like he's ignoring me completely... (not when his g/f around but he does when she is too) like regular times...
That's a tough question. He is probably doing it to try and make his girlfriends jealous since he doesn't mind doing those things when she is around. I hope that I helped you can visit me at my column.
i really want to go because i haven't gone before but i have no date and no guys wanna dance with me so i'm a loner..i can't ask anyone to go with me..i'd probably be rejected..if i do go, i will feel sad during the slow dances and shy with the fast dances..all my friends go there to dance and hang out..i can't just hang out..everyone has a date except for me..i'm sad and im confused..i don't know what to do..:( people make fun of me..esp. the guys
You really need to ask yourself if you really want to go and if you do you should go with you friends that way you have some people to talk to,you won't be alone, and you won't be the only one that doesn't have a date. As far as people making fun of you you would think that your friends would do something to stand up for you so you wouldn't have to take it don't you think. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
So some new neighbors just moved in a couple months ago. I am almost positive that he beats his wife. They have two young daughters. I have no actual evidence.
Is there anyone I could anonymously call to look into it?
I think that the first thing you should do is see if his children look like they have been hit. Sometimes abusers hit their kids too. If they don't act like they have been hurt then you could worry about the mother. If you want you can try to become friends with the two girls and that way you can see for yourself you go in the house what is going on. If you see him beating the mom up and leaving evidence on her that can prove he is abusive then you can call the police and tell them what you saw. That way not only are you telling them about the abuse but you can also tell them that there is evidence so they would have to take him away. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
ok i want to have a halloween party so about how much do you think it will all cost and what are some things to do like games and about how long should it last i rate high
Probably be around 40 dollars 20 for food and 20 decorations. Have good food and play alot of music. If you want you can have the custom contest or the dance contest and you can do the mummy game too. It also depends on when you are going to start the party that way you can figure out what you can plan. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
i want to do something really special for a friend of mine who is going to be getting back from active duty pretty soon. he is a great guy hes been in new orleans for the last month and may have to stay longer, but when he gets home i would like to maybe have a little get together or something, any ideas?????
Have some of his family and closest friends get togethet and plan a welcome home party that way is really going to be happy to be home from New Orleans. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
my friend goes on the bus with me and i told her i like this boy on the bus...boy was that a wrong thing to do. now everytime he leave the bus she says o mister boyfriend..but not that loud and i try to cover her mouth she is really pissing me off. how do i make her stop to save me from embarrasment ? p/s i tried to tell her to stop like i said "stop it" but i dont think it works and now its the weekend and i dont know if she will try to do it again on monday
Tell her how you feel when she does that and if that doesn't work then try to start talking to the guy that way she won't embarass you anymore.
I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
Before I start I'm a sixteen year old girl.
Well I have my first boyfriend now but that's not what this is about. Well you see my friend is feeling left out because both me and our other friend now have boyfriends and she doesn't. She has liked this same boy for three years now but nothing is happening between them. He hardly even looks at her anymore. She doesn't want to give up on him because she knows she won't like any other guy. I keep telling her to go up and talk to him but she is the shy "wait for him to come to me" kind of girl. I feel bad for her but I don't want to break up with my boyfirned just because she is feeling left out. She has met and gets along really well with both my boyfriend and our other friend's boyfriend but she never wants to go anywhere with any of us. I would never put my boyfriend above my friends and my boyfriend understands that. We ask her to come to football games or movies with us all the time but she thinks she'd be getting in the way. What should I do?
You should have a girls night out more often like at least once a week or something that way she won't feel left out. Also the three of you could have a talk about the boy she likes and how they can become more then friends. I hope that I helped but if not please visit me at my column.
Ok, i have these three friends who treat me like conmplete shit! I mean i do everything for them, yet its not good enough. I dont know what to do anymore, i dont wana stop being there friend, but i cant deal with it. What should i do??
I don't think that you should continue to be their friend because what kind of a friend would do that to another. But if it really bothers you that much how they treat you then do something about it and ask one of them so you can find out what's going on. If you feel like you can't do that then just go ahead and forget about them because those kind of people are not worth being friends with. I hope that I helped you but if not please visit me at my column.
My friend i kinda like and i went to his house yesterday and he came ut without a shirt on just a towel around his neck.... we talk and talked about how our friends see a guy and a girl talking and they thought they liked eachother but didnt and them i heard tweo more of my girl friends coming down the rode...He said" o ill be right back i have to go get a shirt on' .. y was he okay having no shirt on with me but not his other two good girl friends????? does he like me or does he just feel more comfortable about me
I think that he likes you because he only feels comfortable when you are around. I hope that I helped but if not please visit me at my column.
well i got into a fight with a friend of mine, something she did really hurt me, but it isnt something so horrible that i want to end the friendship over it, basically this would all be solved with an appology but im not sure how to go about this. its been two days and i havent talked to her since then, so should i need help on what to do, should i wait until she IMs/calls me and appoligizes or should i do something else? 18/m if that matters at all
Why don't you try to call her and see if she will listen to you. Once you have done that tell her your side of the story and that you don't want what ever happened between the two of you to stop you from being friends. I hope that I helped you but if not you can visit me at my advice column.
My friend's dad smokes. She is afraid he will die! She says that he has been coughing really bad latly. She says he is trying to stop smoking, but not really suceeding. She says that he is the one who brings all the money to the family, and shes just very afraid. She is afraid he will die from cancer or something. So basically, i need some advice in helping her through these hard times, and maybe if theres a good way to help her dad smoking. Thank you!
I think that first she should have a talk with her dad so that way he will know how his daughter feels about him smoking and while she is talking to him she should bring up that she really cares about him and doesn't want him to end up getting cancer or something like that cause she would like it if he was around for along time.
Alright my best friend and i used to fight a lot last year but we haven't fought in awhile. A few days ago, we went to a carnival and me and my other friend couldnt find her anywhere but finally we found the people she was with.I was all confused and asked them where she was and they started yelling at me for no reason telling me not to be mad! I wasn't mad at all and nothing was wrong but they were yelling at me for no reason and i tried to explain that to them but they just told me to shut up and kept yelling. I told my best friend what happened and she doesn't believe me! She says she doesnt trust me and shes positive that her other friends would never do that. I told her i would never ever lie to her, and i wouldn't, but she just said that i was making it up. I really really really dont wanna fight with her but we already are and if her other friends lie about what happened im afraid we'll never be friends again. I have a lot of other friends but she's my best friend and when shit like this happens it really really hurts. I have no idea what to do and please don't tell me to just wait till everything's forgotten, because i know thats not gonna work. Please help me..thank you so much and sorry it's so long.
The two of you are best friends that isn't right that she wouldn't want to believe you over her new friends. Her listening to them instead of you should tell you something that she isn't really a good friend after all. But it is sad that something like this could ruin a friendship. If you are lucky she might tell you that she is sorry for not believing you in the first place but if that doesn't happen think about what I told you. I hope that I helped you but if not stop by my column and I will try to help you once again.
15/f god sometimes i hate myself. im really outgoing when im around my best friends and the people i've known my whole life. but when i meet new people i act all weird. tonight we had a football game and my new friend invited me to hang out with her friends. so when i first met them i was all cool and outgoing, but then we sat on the bleachers and i didnt say a word and they talked. the whole night i just sat there. cause i had nothing to say except random stuf. and everytime i talked they were like shocked to hear me actually say something. i seriously wanted to run away and die. now im afraid theyre gonna think im boring. i dont know what to do.........
Don't worry some people are like you. Me for example I am the kind of person who is shy when it comes to meeting new people but then after I get to know them more then I start to more open. For you all you have to do is the next time you are around those girls think of some things that you might have in common with them. If you don't think that you might have some things in common then just start asking them what they like just so you can get to know them better and that way you can also see what your friend saw in them.
my friend is still inlove with her ex who now has a new girlfriend and we all in job corp so we see eachother all day. She follows them around tries like hell to get them in-trouble and everything. How do i get her to stop. I have talk to her so many times and it NEVER works. But i need her because she is my friend and i'm pergnant now and i just need her with me, but i think she's going nuts. i'm always there for her it's just she's never there for me anymore.
You should talk to her again and tell her that you really need her right now because you need her to be there for you like you have always been there for her. As for her obsession with her ex boyfriend you should also tell her that if she continues to do what she is doing her ex might find out then he will no longer be her friend and she probably doens't want that to happen. I hope that I help you. If things don't work out you can tell me what happened in my inbox and I will try to help you again.
I have no lessons at all with my boyfriend and only one lesson with my two best friends. The only times I can see them all is at breaktime (20 minutes) and lunch (1 hour) My boyfriend and his friends (who are my friends too) don't hang out with my best friends, how can I divide up my time during school so that I can spend time with all of them?
You should introduce your friends to your boyfriends and see if they get along. If they don't I think that you should spend some time with your boyfriend and his friends and then spend some time with your friends too so that way everyone is happy.