Hello my name is Sarah and my friends always tell me i give good advice so i figured i would give this a try. i hope i can help some people but if you dont like my advice i am sorry but i will try to help the best i can. =]
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My friends birthday is tomarrow and i have no idea what to get her! shes not into makeup or anything like that...shes more of a tomboy....i have no idea what to get for her...shes 15....we dont really hang out alot so i wouldnt know stuff that she likes!! could somebody please help me? thanks (link)
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Hmmm lets see...ask a mutual friend and i dont know how much you wanna spend but most people like:
-movies
-music
-money
-gift cards
-scrapbook with pictures
-candy
-clothes (like a shirt)
-key chains
does she have any hobbies? like does she play a sport? if so you could get her something sport related...
i hope i helped!
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My friends and I are trying to get this one boy from my classical music class to start to appreciate rock music and rap music, pop music etc. He isn't responding to most of it and is giving answers to rap music like, "You don't know what he's saying!!" Is there an easy way to introduce him to this type of music? (link)
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umm i dont think you are going to like this but you cant make someone like a type of music. its like trying to make someone like a type of food they hate. i hate rap and i dont think anyone can change that. and cant you try to understand WHY he doesnt appriciate it? they can't play instruments AND they don't sing. classical music (although i dont like it) seems like it should appreciated more than rap because it takes more talent
sorry if thats not the answer you looking for but yeah
Rememberxforever
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Let me start off by saying that I am a cutter. I have a lot of other issues too. Like self-esteem issues, people issues, trust issues. Those are just the few I have. You know who I am. I just felt like leaving one on your site. :)
Well, a couple of my friends are getting frustrated with me and my cutting and other issues. Some of them don't understand that I really can't control it. One of my friends used to cut, but now he is so full of himself. He never likes to talk about it, but I noticed his scars. He is the one that is getting so mad at me. He thinks that one day I can just wake up and be like "I don't feel depressed anymore." I don't understand why he is being like this. I try to talk to him about it, but he just gets aggrivated with me, and he starts telling me I am weak because I cut. And he tells me that the only person who can change me is me. And I know that. I'm trying my best to stop. But when the feelings come back, he just doesn't seem to understand. It's like he is mocking me.
For example, I wouldn't let him read a note that my friend Briana, and I were writing to each other. And he assumed that it was about my urge to cut. So he said "Why? Is it because you oh-so want to cut?!" And he said it in a voice like he was truely annoyed at me. Like when you are immitating something stupid someone said. That is how he said that to me. I just kind of blew it off. But I am thinking about it right now. I'm not sure what I can do to make him realize that it is not easy for me. He doesn't know how difficult it is for me to be like him, to have confidence. I asked him how he did it, and he said he didn't know.
I know I need to let go of things. But what else is there I can do? And what could I do about him to make it so that he understands that I can't just wake up one day and be perfect?
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Well if he is rude (personally) i would be rude back. if he said something i would be like "look i am your friend but if you dont want to help me with this i would appriciated it you didnt!"
some people just dont understand cutting. but you say he has cut before. i think you should ask him about it. dont attack him if you are in a fight but calmly ask him sometime. because if he cut, i would think he would be a little nicer.
if he is constantly rude he can't be that good of a friend.
cutting is a serious problem and i wish you the best of luck!
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Hi, let me start by saying I'm young. 13f and my best friend died. Her brother was hurt really bad and i feel like it was my fault, cuz they were on their way to pic me up when a drunk driver ran into them. My friend died instantly and her brother is expected to die in the next seven-twelve days. I want to say something to him, but I don't know what and if I don't hurry, it might be too late. You can e-mail me at prettymoonbug@hotmail.com (link)
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i am very sorry about your best friend. but it is NOT your fault. i would say you should defiantely talk to her brother and tell him how you feel and tell him how much you loved her and how much you will miss her and just let him know you care. if you and he are religious you could tell him he will see his sister and heaven and tell him to say something to her for you. if you are not religious just tell him anything you need to get off your chest.
once again i am sorry for your loss but if it means anything to you i know what its like to lose someone close to you. my mom died in a car accident when i was 3. and i know its not the same because its ALWAYS different but i just want you to know you are not alone. if you are grieving alot i would recommend counseling. i went to counseling and other people do to.
i hope things in your life get better but remember it wasn't your fault. feel free to IM me
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wow, I don't really know what category to put this under, so I guess it works under friendship.. kinda. Anyway, I started cutting, I don't know why but I did. I don't want to, but it's really addicting.. 0.o so it's hard for me to stop. Only on of my friends knows and I just met him and I like him alot.. he cuts to, so I feel conferdable talking to him about this.. he doesn't do it so much anymore but I wonder if he is worried about me, I know my step brother is.. he knows to. Well he doesn't really know he just thinks I do it and he knows that I have a BiG possibatly of doing it.
When I look at my scares.. I cry, and I think 'is this really who I am?? is this really me??' cause I don't seem like this kinda girl who would do this.. I am real caring and nice and funny.. so I don't get it.. how do I stop.. do you have anything to tell me about what I wrote? just anything, please.. I wana stop.
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i dont personally cut but i have a friend who does. she said it is an addiction just like smoking. to stop you just to have a lot of self control. remember cutting doesnt take away the pain it just transfers it from emotional pain to physical pain. i think you should talk to an adult that you are comfortable with (i.e: your mom,dad,aunt,cousins,grandparents,etc.)
if you continue cutting you may need therapy. which isn't a bad thing. i know plenty of people who have gone to therapy.
always remember you are never alone and by cutting yourself you are not only hurting yourself but also the people who care about you (that sounds really corny but it is true)
i hope that helps. feel free to IM me.
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My friend and I are good friends and have good times and stuff like that! But she always takes advantage of me. Like she will always ask me for everything and get her things and sometimes i will do it and sometimes i wont! And when im around her friends, she just doesnt talk to me she ignores me. I mean she will talk to me but not like she does when its just me and her. Her friends and I are friends too. What should i do...she does treat me like a friend its just the taking advantage part i dont like!
I will rate and give feed back :) HeLp mE
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Well, i dont think a real friend would take advantage of you. I think you should straight out ask her about it and see what she says. your only 13 and quite a few friendships dont last at this age but some do! if she keeps taking advantage of you thats just not fair/right and you should start hanging around with your other friends more.
hope i helped!
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so im planning a sweet 16 and i made a guest list and came up with 66 people so far. This was without crossing off the "questionables." what i mean by that is those people who you dont really talk to..but you dont hate either..and the couple of people who had a sweet 1 in september but didnt invite you..and now it seems we are a little more friendly. Hope i didnt confuse you guys..any tips on what to base who you invite on? anyone ever been in my place before? how did you decide who to cross off? i dont usually talk to the "gangsta" group..but i figure inviting them would spice my party up..is this the wrong idea? i need help lol so dont be afraid to critisize
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well i dont know if you just have alot of close friends or are really social. personally i would invite pretty much only my close friends so it didnt get crazy but that might just be my personality....just make sure you dont invite people you dont like/dont trust! =]
i hope you have an awesome party!!
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Hi right well i went out with my two best friends today called k and m we went to a theme park! and some of the rides were two person seats! m always wanted to go with k she never seems to want to be with me on anything and im confused! my friends mean everything to me and i dont want to have a big argument! how do i sort this problem out becauses it kind of feels like she likes k more even though ive been best friend with them both same amount of time and i like them both the same!
please help rate high! sorry its a bit long (link)
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if she is one of your best friends she probably didnt realize it would hurt your feelings this much. if you are really worried try to be honest and say something like "maybe it's just me but i noticed when we were at the theme park you were always sitting with k more..." try to talk to her alone though so it wont be like "2 on 1".
i hope it works out.
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there are these girls..Paty and jessica. okay well paty and jessica ALWAYS get mad at me for no reason. Dude, and im on these girls basketball team and I fouled one time and i said.."oh i dont rlly care." you no just because it was my first one. and paty goes to me "WELL WHAT THE FREAK...YOU SHOULD CARE." and she wouldnt pass me the ball at all. But this one time at school, i didnt get such a good grade on my socical studies test...(if was a D) & the est was on the whole book *well the stuff we covered* and Jessica comes up to me and goes " (my name) wat did you get? & paty butts in and goes I got an A+ and Jessica goes Me to"...and then they ask me again and i said "no" and then when our teacher wasnt looking they grab my paper and started making fun of me. Please helped
SOrry its so long BUT PLEASE HELP ME *
Sincerly,
crushed/MAD
Ps: there is a ton of more stuff that they have done to make my life miserable (link)
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WHAT LOSERS!! they need to get a life.i bet they think they are very cool but really if they are so cool why do they spend so much time bugging you?? stay far away from them. tell your friends about them if you need to vent. if you dont have any good friends and you REALLY want someone to talk to you can IM me at: rem3mberXforev3r...
i hope these 2 idiots leave you alone. you dont deserve to be picked on.
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Okay, well I am in 6th grade. Me and my best friend have been soo close through elementary school and are families are so close and we even own a beach house togehter. Well, see Through out this month we have started to grow apart. She is trying to be like her older sister (preppiesh) and like that but before she started wanting to be like her older sister she hated the way preps were and that they were retarted and stuff. Well, now she has become a prep and is being someone she isn't. She used to hate this one prep and now she is like trying to be her closet friend. I hate the way she is being. I am hopeing it is just a phase but if it isn't I think we will be spilt up and stuff. I wish I could tell her this but since we are growing apart I don't know what to do. I used do everything to be her best friend because she wanted to end the friendship but now it's different I don't know if I would really care to not be her best friend. I have a boyfriend and since this one night I haven't told her really much about him. I don't know why I want to but then there is something stopping me. I need help. She thinks I don't trust her anymore but I don't know if that is true or not?? Please help! (link)
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okay first off i dont like labels like "prep, punk, goth, nerd" but i want to help you cause i went through something semi like this. friends grow apart. its a huge part of life. you dont have to decide right away if you want to still be her friend or not. but the way you put it, it sounds like she has changed and it is getting harder for you to get along. do you have any other close friends you can talk to about this?...if in the end you decide you will be friends thats great but if not try not to end it on a sour note. let her know that if she needs you you will be there for her. but ultimately this is your decision
i hope i helped and please rate. thank you
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On Friday, I had asked (in an msn message) my friend Christine if she and my friend Jenn were going to a concert that night, because I wanted to go with them. She replied with a big long msn message (summarized) saying she and Jenn are better friends with each other than with me, they just wanted to hang out with each other this weekend. Also, Christine said she feels like I don't listen when she talks to me and that I don't care, so it's hard to want to be around me. Basically, I've been dumped as a friend. She said she didn't mean to put this all out on msn, and I could call her if I want to talk about it. So my question is, should I call her? What do I say? Is it worth repairing the friendship? Should I bother? (note- I did email her Friday thanking her for being honest with me, instead of just ditching me w/o reason, which they've done before) (link)
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Okay this sitation all depends on one big thing: how good a friend do YOU think she is?
if she is a good friend call her and ask how you could be a better friend and ask if she would please hang out with you one day so you could just talk or do something fun. it sounds like she was trying to be honest with you which shows she cares about you enough to not lie.
if shes not a good friend you could still call her just to say you will always be there for her but you think you should both go your seperate ways...
i hope that helped =]
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