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Q: 16/f
I have this really good friend.She and I go way back and have understood each other always.But since last year she changed completely.She always talks,never shuts up for a minute.Also what annoys me-I am not mean here but truth is she isn't pretty at all,her body is ok but her face is really ugly and she goes on and on and on about how boys swoon over her and how where ever she goes someone asks her to be with them and that everyone looks at her.All I've seen is that boys look at her with sort of disgust or that they don't look at her at all.Again,I'm not immodest or full of myself but I'm much prettier than her,and she's had so many boyfriends while I haven't had one for ages.But that could be because I won't be with just anyone who asks me out like she does.Her appearance doesn't bother me,I love her for who she is,she is so good and honest and everything but when she starts talking and talking about what I just said it makes me go mad and smack her in the face just so she can shut up.She really doesn't know when to stop.And when some cute guy looks at me instead of her she says omg did you see how he just looked at me when it's clear he was looking at me.She lives in an illusion.I don't want to hurt her,but how do I tell her to get a grip and gt her own life,not try to live mine?
Well Sound like a Teenage Stage.. Maybe try talking to her and joke you read to much magaznes or what going on tv. i notice now and days that teens shows are kinda getting worst. maybe just try be there and be her freind and don't try shut her out. just ask her if she let you talk and let you know how you feel and ask her not to be mad and if she a true freind she would truly listen to you. hope i help. if i didn't sorry least i tr

Q: 13/f
i have this one guy in four of my classes and hes so sweet and funny but i think he likes me and i just wanna be friends cuz i like this other guy...so i dont want to send him the wrong message but how do i let him know i wanna be just friends?
Sorry But guys do hate the friend word. Just keep treating him like a freind. maybe kinda bring up other guy and maybe it make him relize you like other guys and not all the time and say that sometimes you want to enjoy being freind with somone and getting to know them and yet being young and want focus on school and other things what you want todo before having a boyfreind. frist thing is I do know that guys do hate word I just like to be friends and he never talk to you again. depend on a guy. don't be to freindly and don't just please him all the time. just be your seslf and he ever ask you out or be his gf just say your not ready for Realiship.

Q: How do you know to trust somebody? Im seemingly losing all trust in people. My best friend seems to be hiding things from me, people around me are cheating, lying to one another, scheming. I just dont know who or what to people? Why are people so private yet so seemingly open. Or why are they two faced? And how do we know who to trust with our own secrets? I seem to be losing all control over my trust, its just not there in so many cases I don't really know what to do. So many people are telling me not to always be so naive? But what kind of relationship can you have with someone if you don't trust them? Please some one help me with this... What is trust and when should it be given if at all? Who can we truly trust?
All you have to do is Trust God.. You can't Rely on your family and freinds. I been there and You know something sometimes a freind maybe dont want hurt your feelings or they think it not that important to tell you. or be something they don't want hear again or bring it up. if you think your friend being un truth ful then you dont' want be around that person. only person we can do is trust god and if that freind not being your friend must not know god. or sometimeees you need stay postive and don't let devil mess with your head. i know how you feel in some way. but keep your chin up and wait untill you find the truth or if you find out and then you know that truth. don't question or don't do anything till they get busted then you know.
remeber Trust god and maybe have a bibile study with your freinds and talk to them about how god knows what they are doing and sometimes there alot in bible talk about trust and hiding stuff. hope i help
amanda

Q: hi i'm 16 female. i have this friend who this year became more involved in my life. the beginning of the school year was great we were getting along. starting around november she began acting differently. she's been giving me HUGE attitude and treating me like crap. i didn't do anything wrong that i know of and if i did do something wrong that i didn't realize i did it definitely wasn't anything terrible enough to be talked to like this. it's like that vibe you get when you know someone doesn't like you and has been talking about you behind your back. some days we talk nicely and civilly and then the next day she's really mean. i don't get it. she's not like this to everyone, just me and maybe a few others. she will tell secrets in front of me and if i ask what they're talking about she'll just say nothing and giggle. i swear she acts like she's in middle school. i'm a high school junior and never before in my high school career have i come across someone so immature. i haven't been reacting to it because i've been just blowing it off and acting civil and polite. so my question is, what can i do to end this treatment once and for all? i'm a human being and she is not superior to me and i need to be treated fairly and nicely. i will not put up with this any longer. by the way she is not confrontational at all she will do anything to avoid talking about it, like if i ask what's wrong she'll say nothing with an attitude but it's obvious there is. she will do anything to avoid confrontation. please help.
Maybe there people messing with her head. I once maybe little like that. I had a reallly good freind and we ewre close and sometimes other friends we had din't like our freindship and sometiems i think they try to temp me belive things that kinda got carry way in my mind or sometimes maybe just try someothing different. ask if she like to see a movie or something. try carry on converstion and talk to her litte more and ask her if she hase anything she like to say and promise her you will not get upset and that you want be her friend and help and that tell her if she hoding a grudge or holding something in her chest is not healthy. Just keeping being nice and tell her she need treat you like she wants to be treated. frist thing ask her hey let me ask you something. what if i was treating you way your treating me would you like that somone being mistreated. we sould treat people how we want be treatd. hope I help. don't blow up in her face or anything i know you say your try be polite. maybe she don't know how open up but if she odn't then tell her that friendship not work if we don't talk.

Q: So I'm pretty much in tears right now. When you here it, it'll probably sound retareded but if you were actually "there" it would have felt horrible. Friday, I was suppose to meet my 2 best friends at the mall. I told one of them they had to be there by 6, my parents had plans. So i got there at 6:30, and they were both still at there house, so my parents were like were not leaving you there, were goin to drop you off at the game. So they ended up callin and i was like sorry my parents made me go to the game. The next day, i went to my friends house and i was going to invite one of the friends from the other night but she was like "oh i don't wanna go with her" So i texted her and was like whats ur problem? my parents said i couldnt go blah blah blah. Then she just started cursing at me, saying how i am nobody and how my mom "buys me love" and all this stuff that eventually made me just break down crying. Then on Monday the other girl who wasnt involved but also was one of my "best friends" from that night just texted me saying i have no right to tell this girl stuff i said (which i don't know what was bad) and how i was nothing and needed a reality check. My mom eventually saw all of this and texted them both back saying to please stop. Then the girls mom got involved and called my mom, where my mom started to yell at her because she already had problems before (we took the girl on a trip, and her parents pretty much didn't even thank them and yelled at them after) so now im stuck. I just lost my 2 best friends, my moms pissed, and I'm just alone. Help?
Sometimes in life you will find out your Freinds are not your true freinds. I know how you feel. I been there and knowsomething. at your age everybody is growing up and sometimes freinds grow apart. but what you need todo is just ingore them and forget them. goes for the ones that want too be your friends. don't get in to the drama. Trust me.. Just be your own freind then you relize what kind of freinds are ment to be your freinds. Hope I help. and yet find a new freind hang out with. find someone sitting alone at lunc and sit with them. :o)

Q: how can i be better friends with a new friend that i made recently?
be there for them,
be carring and don't repeat to anyone when she/he tell you. just try think of stuff you guys have in comman you can do together and talk about. be friendly and Postive person.

Q: im a secretive person, and i dont like telling how i feel or basically open up/secrets so i keep stuff to myself. People blabbed my secrets in the past so im really paranoid about it till now. i dont really trust anyone, but i would like to believe some people can be trusted but how can i open up if they cant keep secrets? i keep getting those impressions from other people that they might not be able to keep secrets. But i wanna have a close friendship with my new friends what should i do?
well if they don't share alot with you about other people that be meaning they don't repeat anything.. maybe when you tell them jsut say please don't repeact this anyone.. maybe thing of sone ting you can say see if anyone repeat it. if noat that mean they wouldn't repeat it.. sometimes people can't help it when people repeat it becouse they didn't ask not to or yet sometimes people think it not important to not repeat things. try explain your Reason why you don't like it everyone knows everything and such andsuch.. hope I helP!

Q: There are these 4 girls in one of my classes and we're friends and stuff for the whole year so far. since the first day. I was friends with 1 of them since 7th grade though actually and two others I "kinda" knew. but they go and hang out after school but don't invite me. I mean they've been friends before I knew them, and like 3 of them went to band camp together so they always talk about memories from there and stuff. They're just really good people and are fun to hang out with but I dont get why I'm not like invited to go out and stuff with them. Like they talk about going to see a movie, and like Im there and its like they're talking about going to see it.. even though I said I wanted to see it too they don't ask me to go with them or something. Or like one of them repainted her room and like some of them talk about how it looked like before and stuff. or talk about hanging out later.

Idk.. I mean maybe Im not close and stuff with them enough but we're pretty good friends - we always hang out together in that class as a group of 5. except when we have to make groups and my teacher always makes groups of 4 so I usually exclude myself unless one of us is absent. Or should I start something? propose us to hangout somewhere? idk if it would be weird since i've never hung out with them outside of school.. should I ask them during class when we're not really doing anything, or like on facebook? i dont want them to be like "im not that close with her.." or something. or think its weird that im trying to join their group. ugh. im a freshman in high school btw. i just dont want to waste this good opportunity to have some close friends like that since im not really in a group.. im always just floating around friends from different cliques.. and only a few people im like REALLY close with that i'd go visit them at their homes or something and I'd really like to change that.

15/f

thanks soo much if you can help.
I say I know how you feel! and I think it really silly have group of freinds. I think A freind should be everybody friends. it sound like they only look for comman ground and plus people are like that. you still be nice to them but maybe adoivd them for awhile and see what they do and maybe if you just tell one freind you know more and see if she a true friend by telling her your little left out. it ok to amitd it. if she make big deal about you saying that then that not a real friend. then you find people like to get know you and wanna be your freind and will invited you and include you in. unless maybe next time they say hey let go to the movies they don't invited you and you can say hey i can't wait to go to the movies. but however remeber I know what it like and i am not in a group of friends becouse it seem wrong leave people out just becouse they don't have what they have. like i have friends bug me about not going collage and driving. they sound like they only be my freind if i go collage and drive. and there reason i don't but you know what. there alot fishes in the sea.. don't worry about them.. find your self another place that right for you. i know you seem to like them. try talking about what they like what you like to maybe that will help.

Q: Ok so my friend (A) has been my best friend since like 3rd grade but this year she made friends with this new girl (B) A doesn't know it but B has been talking about me behind my back and has been pulling me away from A. A thinks she is the best person ever and they hang out everyday. That used to be me. I miss hanging out with A and we used to have sleepovers and stay up late. We have wayy too many good memories to blow it now but today when we planned for her to come over I asked her about it and she said she was going to B's house. She was supposed to come away with me this weekend to a cheer competition and she said no because she was going to hang out with B. I was crying earlier. A lot of my friends have been doing that and I thought she was different. She is always the one who is nicest and cares the most. Can you help me with what I should do to try to get her to come over and stuff more often and how I should handle it??? Any advice is greatly appreciated.
I know how you feel! you know something you don't drama in your life. maybe try sometimes see if you ask A if she like invited b over sometimes try be b friend.. if that not work out. then if a blowing you off then she not real friend. but you souldn't let it upset you. there alot of poeople out there in your class or school love be your freind. don't relay on her to be there and if she not talking to you or anyhow she probly want to do new stuff with other freinds. maybe you can do same thing. if you meet a freind and see if a come back to you. if not then jsut move on and take care of your self and you better off having freinds that cares and freinds that would indunce u do there freinds. and stand up for you. how ever maybe you try make plans for the weekand and if she blow you off min becouse b then just ingore her for few days. becouse real freinds and true freinds come back.

Q: Okay...Im not creative...at all. So I was wondering if you guys could help me come up with some gift ideas for my friends. Due to the recession, something I could make, personal, would be best. I really appreaciate the help. Thank you!
can you and ur freinds drive? you make somethong out of a key chains or maybe make friendship bracklets? i just learn how to braid not to hard. i went youtube and out books for driction. or if you make earings like buy jewery wire and some charms. hope i help or you can find like charms and make necklaces or bracklets or yet key chains

Q: My very best friend is not the same...he became a person i dont know anymore...weve known eachother for 8 months weve become really close he became the bestest friend i have never had...only it feels he threw me away for another..yes it's a girl who i cannot stand we have never ever been friends and she totally wont give up and right now she has won i just can't seem to understand i have tryed to talk to him and spend more time with him...i dont wanna lose him but what more can i do...he'll leave me for her when were right in the middle of a convo and this makes me soo angry and upset and all my girlfriends say "dont let it bother you" or "make friends with another boy" it's not easy he is my best friend and i cant let this go so right now iam thinking should i be more like her?? or what??? i dont know i dont know i dont know PLEASE HELP!!!!! Thank you sooo much!!!
no don't try be like somone esle to please him.. he not doing be your friend with somone else around, you find somone who more worth it and worth being your friend. can't wait around for something happend. if he was really your best friend he not run off another friend out of your converstion with out saying hey wait i need go talk somone for sec or say hey can we talk later. or something like that. plus depend age he maybe just being immtures. that how some guys are. sometimes guys don't have that kind of a mind say hey i brb or i need talk somone you know. they are not sentivtes you think they are. your friends right don't let it bother you. trust me there somone there waiting for you be a friend. but don't pay him back or anything just be a friend in need. and just don't worry and everything be just fine. just be peaceful with your self and be happy. don't just be his friend becouse he make you happy,

Q: lets say you made this new friend whos new to the school 4 months ago you guys talk during before and after 2nd period class because you guys got a class but cant really talk to eachother because of the teacher and sits far away from eachother. When you guys talk and walking to class with eachohter everything is fine but when her other friend named alexa sees my friend jennifer the alexa starts talking to jennifer OR when jenniger sees alexa, she leaves me and start talking to alexa and we couldnt finish our conversation this happens a lot of times, but im thinking they talk more than we do but is this rude? and what do you think about it?
Don't take it to serouly.. if she walking away with out tell you bye or let you know she need talk to jen. ask her let you know becouse let her know it hurt your feelings that she walk off with out saying bye or I talk to you later need to talk to alex. if she not like answer then she not being real friend. but other hand she probly not relize it rude. she talk to you and see somone else walk away. maybe she thought you wouldn't care becouse you didn't say anything. like hey i was try talk to you or you know. if your are in jr high just ingore it and dont' take it serouly becouse it part of jr high i never forget. if your in high school then forget her be her friend but not take her friendship serouly if she like that. she little immture people do change. but it up to you. if you need take it off your chest just let her know that hurt your feelings that she walk away talking somone else with out telling you see you later or something like that. plus don't worry about she talk other girl more you guys do becouse that silly and childest. i mean alot people have different converstion about things. so find another friend and have fun and remember your not only one I am sure. i know that becouse think stuff like that never ends. wish it would.

Q: 11th grade girl

i talk to a lot of people. im friendly. im even on the vball and lacrosse teams. but i dont know how to make myself a permanent part of their "group".

i dont hang out with any particular group. i never hang out with the closest thing to a group i have - recently they went to applebees and didn't invite me. they said it wasnt on purpose though.

it's like when people have parties and get togethers, they forget to invite me. or when people list their top friends on myspace or facebook, im not on it. i guess it's bc i never hang out with them?

it sucks, esp. since it's 11th gr and it feels like i dont have a sturdy group of friends. i never went to homecoming bc i didnt know who to go with. i didnt want to go alone. this year i want to go but it feels like i wont have any groups to go with.

im not desparate to make friends. im not a wannabe. and i'm not depressed over this - just a little sad. it's like, i dont let other people determine how happy i will be, but it hurts to feel like you have no bffs, you know?

i had a couple of bffs when i was younger, in 2nd-6th and in 7th grade. but now, for some reason, i am no longer able to become close enough to a person or people to call them my best friends. and the girls who were my best friends before, for some reason it has become awkward for me to talk to them. and now we dont talk at all; they have their own groups.

so mostly, im just confused.

i wish i could hang out with people more and i wish i could get into a group.
but how do i start?

im sorry if some parts of this dont make sense. i typed this up in stream-of-consciousness style
I know how you feel.. thing is that in life we only have 3 or 4 friends don't have to be in same group. that what i Have. I have couple friends I am not in a group. I think that a good thing becouse if you go that group all the time you wront know what your missing. if you want to be part of it. join them. try make something talk about whta they like to talk about. or you can let them know that your free hang out anytime that you want get out of the house sometimes lol. likey you can go around meet other people and just be your self. it ok have younger friends. kids be your freinds to becouse you know what becouse they be more fun and not worry and talk about problems all the time lol. i mean I have few freinds are in group but now we all grown up and can't do everything together. let them know more about your self. and freinds don't talk to you becouse they in differnt group are not your true friend. hey in 11 grade is harder year. i been there. all my freinds going to graduate and i have few freinds younger then me and i didn't now what to expect. but thing is just stick around people your in class with or lunch. find somone who sititng by there self and be there freinds. they are shy one maybe but they are the one like have least one friend. hope i help

Q: Okay, i've known this girl christie for so long that i can call her my sister. I've known her since 6th grade, and since then we've hung out basically every weekend and every day during the summer. I'm apart of her family.

then this girl casey comes along [i introduced them, i was friends with casey first before christie] and she ruins our friendship/sisterhood.

well, im best friends with christie again, but not with casey. christie is having her sweet16 in december. shes putting casey on her candles BEFORE ME. that really pissed me off and i just wanted to LEAVE her house. casey is candle 7, im number 8. I told her that it pissed me off and she said suck it up. I told my sister and she said its not a big deal, but deep inside it hurts me to death that she thinks about casey before me. and her and casey havent been hanging out as much. casey is going into 9th grade, and christie and i are going into 10th. Don't you find that annoying? Imagine if your best friend dedicated a candle to someone you introduced to them first.

Is it okay that im feeling this way? jealous.. i think thats what i would call it. i told her that i should be before casey, but she just ignored me. and my friend bekki was also over and she said she doesnt know what christies deal was for that, and she found it bitchy too.

i need alot of help. i was thinking about leaving after the 6th candle goes up for the bathroom so i dont kill the girl. and come back intime for me to be called up for the 8th.

is it worth being mad for? I mean you dont want waste you life away being mad and jelouse. jelouse can runie your life. you can find better freinds out there and you can have more then one friend. don't think a best freind can alway be your best freind. why can't all get along. what if world ending 5 mins what you do? so don't worry about it.. you have old and new people in your life everyday. just let it go..

Q: 17/f

i feel like i'm a horrible friend to my best friend. we have a long distance friendship since i live in new york and she lives in california. whenever we talk on the phone, i always end up saying negative things to her like, "oh i'm not really your best friend," or "you don't really miss me"...stuff like that..most of the time i don't mean it and i know it's not true, but i dont know why i keep saying stupid things like that. i feel like it's because i'm jealous of her other friend who lives in cali with her. i feel like they're much closer now and that her other friend is her best friend and not me. i also think it’s because sometimes she says things that hurt me also, but she doesn’t realize it or thinks im being too sensitive about it, so i feel like i have to get even by trying to hurt her also. i also feel like i always need reassurance that we'll always be friends from her because i feel like one day i might lose her. sometimes i tell her how i feel and why i act that way because she always asks "what's wrong with you?" when i do act that way. and i try to explain, but it seems like she doesn't really care or try to understand how i feel. i just feel so horrible that i always say those things, and i do apologize to her all the time and she always says it's okay and stuff. but i still feel so terrible about it and i can't seem to just stop myself from saying things like that. it didn’t used to be like this before. i don’t know why things just changed all of a sudden. i think it’s because of me though. is there anything else i can try to do?
please help, thanks so much in advance.
I know how you feel sometimes. I have a freind away from collage and she have her own things doing on, own friends and other stuff. but we all do that. I mean we all do new things. and maybe you tak to her have converstion what doing on what she bene up to what are things she been doing. and you let her know how thigns doing with you and ask she seem any good movies you talk about movie you both like to see or book both like to read. maybe you can maybe ask her if you are old enough ask your mom maybe save your money next summer you can fly over and see her. maybe you let her know she being miss and that you will want fly over see her. and go beach for fun. or else keep your head up you make new freinds to and have your own life to. we all do and can't expect things that are not coming our way. she is your freind. I am sure she never do anything in the world to hurt you. and you don't want hurt her right? so you need to show you never hurt her as she wouldn't hurt you.

Q: Trying to make this short:
I used to have a short crush on Kevin and I don't like him like that anymore--he's more of a great friend now. The problem is he never got over me and I know he still likes me. Well, anyway, I have mixed feelings for him now--like I like him as a friend but I sort of want to go out with him yet I can't see us going out, etc, etc. The problem?

Well, I just got a reply back from him and he said that I would look cute/hot in glasses but then he called himself a jerk for saying that.

It's really not like him at all to say things that are "forward" (for the lack of a better word).

How should I reply--like I didn't see it, didn't care about it, ???? I don't want him to think that I like him because that's just mean of me to do to him again.

16/f
Let him know how you like be his best freind for a long time and if things didn't work out then you would miss out a great friendship, still like to do things together and see where thats goes. Just kinda lough it off be like oo glasses? i don't know maybe but I Think I see just fine with out them. or maybe just be like your kidding? i don't know how sentive he can be sorry bad spelling, that happend sometimes you have crush then nomore then he like you again. maybe let him know you like being good freind with other friends and see a movie or something. hope I help. if i didn't sorry. I thought I try help you

Q: hi. well there was this little thing w/ my frend & his cuzin, but that all settled now, but i asked my frend 4 advice about the situation. But, after it was all over she was @ my house and we were talkin 2 my frend. However, now she wants his screen name, and i do not want 2 give it 2 her because she IS a drama queen & he hates ppl like that. how do i tell her this w/o her thinking im a bitch?
help please.
Tell her she can ask him her self and see where that goes. or else if dont want get her feelings hurt. let her now if he say no he not worth it

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