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i am a horrible friend.
17/f
i feel like i'm a horrible friend to my best friend. we have a long distance friendship since i live in new york and she lives in california. whenever we talk on the phone, i always end up saying negative things to her like, "oh i'm not really your best friend," or "you don't really miss me"...stuff like that..most of the time i don't mean it and i know it's not true, but i dont know why i keep saying stupid things like that. i feel like it's because i'm jealous of her other friend who lives in cali with her. i feel like they're much closer now and that her other friend is her best friend and not me. i also think it’s because sometimes she says things that hurt me also, but she doesn’t realize it or thinks im being too sensitive about it, so i feel like i have to get even by trying to hurt her also. i also feel like i always need reassurance that we'll always be friends from her because i feel like one day i might lose her. sometimes i tell her how i feel and why i act that way because she always asks "what's wrong with you?" when i do act that way. and i try to explain, but it seems like she doesn't really care or try to understand how i feel. i just feel so horrible that i always say those things, and i do apologize to her all the time and she always says it's okay and stuff. but i still feel so terrible about it and i can't seem to just stop myself from saying things like that. it didn’t used to be like this before. i don’t know why things just changed all of a sudden. i think it’s because of me though. is there anything else i can try to do?
please help, thanks so much in advance.
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I know how you feel. My very best friend lives in massachusetts and i live in pennsylvania. Sometimes it gets really hard because you can't be there with them doing things that best friends do together. It gets even harder when you hear stories about them doing things with their other friends who live near them. Maybe you say these things because in your mind you don't want her to worry about you because of the distance, that you're a burden. You should write her a letter or email because sometimes reading what someone has to say can hit you more than telling someone. You should tell her that you don't mean those things in that letter and anything else you're feeling. I wrote my best friend a letter, and it really hit home. So, try it out, It may help. :)
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I know how you feel sometimes. I have a freind away from collage and she have her own things doing on, own friends and other stuff. but we all do that. I mean we all do new things. and maybe you tak to her have converstion what doing on what she bene up to what are things she been doing. and you let her know how thigns doing with you and ask she seem any good movies you talk about movie you both like to see or book both like to read. maybe you can maybe ask her if you are old enough ask your mom maybe save your money next summer you can fly over and see her. maybe you let her know she being miss and that you will want fly over see her. and go beach for fun. or else keep your head up you make new freinds to and have your own life to. we all do and can't expect things that are not coming our way. she is your freind. I am sure she never do anything in the world to hurt you. and you don't want hurt her right? so you need to show you never hurt her as she wouldn't hurt you.
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Im sure she cares but maybe she doesnt know how to express her emotions alot of people have that you know but you shouldnt say it too much cuz that way you might lose her because she might get tired of you always tellin her that she doesnt miss you and that you arent her best friend and stuff like that so the next time you talk to her just dont say any of those stuff jus start a normal conversation like hows it over there? are you having fun? cool friends ?
just dont bring any of that up so she doesnt get bothered :)
& im sure your stil her best friend xD
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