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I'm a stay-at-home mom who likes to go to the park with my daughter and baby. I met a man last year who is a great-grandfather who takes his two great-granddaughters to the park every day (well almost). I thought he was really nice and friendly and my daughter likes playing with the girls. I've known him since last year, and we always make pleasant conversation and he offers my daughter and I treats. There is nothing going on between us, I am married and he is just a casual friend. The other day he snapped at me for no reason and I still can't figure it out. What's worse, he did it right in front of one of the kids. My daughter was talking to her friend about another friend from school who called her a "cry-baby" because my daughter said she was going to tell on her about something. I said " Why would she call you that? That means you cry a lot." Sam, (my friend) said "No it doesn't, it means you tattle on people." I said "I never heard it used that way." Anyways, this is a silly conversation, right? He suddenly got really angry and said "I've been around a lot longer than you and have heard what kids say in the schoolyard. You talk a lot, but you don't know shit!" Now, was that necessary, just because we had a difference of opinion about something stupid? I looked at him, totally shocked, and said. "I never said I knew everything." He said "You think you do." I just looked at him again, like I couldn't believe his attitude, and I said "This is a silly thing to get so uptight about." I don't know if he heard me. He just got up and started to play with the kids. He wouldn't talk to me after that, and I didn't talk to him. I know I should've said. "We are both adults. There is no reason for you to be so rude. We both have a right to our opinions, and this is a trivial thing. You are setting a bad example in front of the kids." I know I should've said something like this, but I was so shocked, I couldn't think of anything. I think that maybe he was mad at me about something else, and was just using this stupid disagreement as an excuse to vent. Or just having a bad day. What do you think? I don't want tension between us because my daughter and the girls are really good friends. Any advice? (link)
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Well if this continue to happen then try to talk to him about it. But don't ask him straight out about it. He might have had a bad day or someting else could have been bothering him. Don't hold a grudge just forgive and forget life's too short to live it worrying, cheer up! You don't want your kids to start getting into it now do you...so just think of it as nothing.
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my closest guy friend asked me out a few weeks ago and i said no. the reasons i gave him were 1 - we go to different colleges that are 100 miles apart (even though he visits me about every week), and 2 - i plan to leave the u.s. in a couple of years, so i don't want to be involved in anything that might lead to a serious relationship because then it might cause too much pain. but the thing is, even though those reasons are true, i also didn't really want to go out with him because i wasn't sure if i was attracted to him. now i think i'm beginning to have some feelings for him and i don't know what to do. we're both going to be in our hometown over the winter break and we're going to hang out a lot, but i don't know if i should tell him that i want to date him. i don't want to cause him any pain, but i'm fraid that if we went out, it might end up very painfully - either our friendship will be ruined, or it will be very painful to say good-bye when i leave. should i try going out with him or should i keep my feelings to myself? maybe it'll be easier if i try stop hanging out with him as much? (link)
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Tell him your reasons if he's a good friend he'll unserstand. Alwayz remain friends and who knows maybe one day you two might be togather but friends are always a good thing. You can't hurt his feelings if you tell him the truth...even if the truth itself hurts, it's better to tell the truth then lie or say something besides the point.
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My Best friend in the whole entire world might be moving. I mean FAR away. Like I live in Ky and she might be moving back to Michagan. I don't have any other friends. And it really hurts me cause I am afraid that she will move and I will never see her again. The same thing happend with my old friend Allison. She moved and I haven't herd from her in a year. I don't know what I am going to do. I have no friends but her. Please guys help me. Cause I am so hurt... 13/F (link)
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Hey don't worry about it you'll alwayz make new friends. It's not your friend's fault she's moving sometimes things just happen. I'm sure you'll find someone new, you met her after your first friend move didn't you? Think of all the fun times you have. Schedule to call every weekend, write letters, IM technolgy makes it so easy to communicate to people weather it's around the corner or across the country.
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So my bestfriend is turning 17 Dec. 17th and I was planning on throwing him a suprise party. I already have everything all planned out and I already invited everyone! So everything is basically ready.
Well, last night his mom called me and told me that she didn't want me to throw him a party because she didn't want to pay for it. His parents are buying him a new car for his birthday since he had to get his older brothers car when he had first got his license. Since they were gettign the car, they don't want to speand any more money.
I told her that it wasn't a problem because I was going to pay for everything and she didn't have to worry about it. I was never even planning on asking then to pay for it.
Food isn't a problem because my mom already agreed to buy the food for us. Neither is alcohol becuase everyone always chips in to pay for that. And we already have decorations and stuff left over from past parites. And itisn't liek we have to pay for music.
I told her all of this and she still said she didn't want me to throw one becuase she'd fell like she was supposed to pay for it. How can I convince her that she doesn't and to let me throw him a party?? (link)
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Just tell her why and how much it would mean to you. MAke her feel a bit guilty you know.
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For the past few weeks my best friend has been acting a lot different towards me. It seems like she doesn't want to be my friend anymore. We used to hang out all the time, now when I ask her to come over she ignores me or tells me her mom doesn't feel good. She once told me her mom was putting up Christmas decorations. I went there two days later since we were going to church and her mom was putting up decorations then & didn't seem to care I was there. At school if I'm talking to her and our friend Dan (changed the name) says something, she tunes me out and starts listening to him. Last night we went to the beauty pagent thing our school was doing, and she told me "you know, maybe we shouldn't go places together anymore." That gave me the notion that apparently she doesn't want to hang out with me anymore. One other thing is the other day she told me I couldn't come over because her mom was mad at her for something. I have a friend who's friends with her brother and he told me that her little brother had a friend spending the night. So what do you guys think is going on? Oh, and I've talked to her about her ignoring me when she talks to Dan but she just continues to do it. Any ideas or suggestions on what else I should say to her? Thanks. (link)
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Sometimes friends just grow a part...even the best of friends. Give her some space, look back and see if you did anything that offended her, but chances are you proabably havrn't done anything. If she keeps doign this then just try to ignore her and find some new friends. OR maybe its just for a little while but don't give up hope on her.
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uhm..i met this girl over the summer, and now we go to different schools. we have a lot in common & during summer we became really close. everything was good back then. we talked everyday online, and we had late night talks on the phone. then school started, and we went from talking everyday, to talking once a week. then about a little over a month ago, we got back our friendship we lost cause of school. know what i'm talking about? we started becoming close again. we talked everyday online after school, and then we would sometimes talk on the phone. but now, everything seems bad. we've been talking to each other everyday. then she met another guy. i know this guy. and know its like she ignores me for him. so then on one random day i asked her to be my girlfriend. she said no, but i was okay with it, because i think we might be better off this way? i don't know. but after that, everything seemed good. we still talked on the phone like every night, and online after school. but now, she seems to be talking to the other guy, and i'm afraid that she will just end up forgetting about me, because this happened to me before. i don't know what to do. she said that we should take a break from talking to each other, because she needs time for herself, but i know that she's talking to the other guy, and i guess she doesn't want to talk to me. i'm confused and don't know what to do. please help me. (link)
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If you really like this girl you should tell straight out don't be a wuss and be like...o wel if we went out or if you were my girlfriend that stuff totally tiks girls off cause it gets us all wondering and crap. If she didn't want to go out with you maybe she had a reason. If she said lets take a break that means its kinda over...what ever you guys had basically is slipping away...girls never 'just take a break' its like an excuse. If she's into other guys now you should forget her and look for someone else. It's gonna be hard cause you'll think about her alot. But what's more important...falling for someone who doesn't like you back or looking for the right one that could be out there. Anyway hope this helped, if you need anymore advice write back.
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this will be very long. so please just read it and help me ok? good?
well it all started back in well like april. i met my best friend's cousin and i had a crush on him. but the summer before that he was forced to move out of state to live with his dad. so i mean i liked him but i didnt see anything coming out of it. then that july he came back for the summer. and on my best friend's birthday me her and him went bowling. that was fun but to the bathroom and they set me up! when i came back he "got up to go get a drink" and she told me that he liked me and wanted to know if i liked him... so i was like heck yah i do! well since we were having so much fun we all spend the night at my friend's house (her, him and me) and she went to bed at like 2 AM and me and him stayed up late and well we started kissing and stuff and all we did was kiss but i really liked him and the next week he had to leave for his dads and the summer was over. we talked on the phone for a while back and forth but becuz he hates it down there he makes himself really busy so that he never has to be at the house. but before he left on the day he was leaving i took this rubber band of his hand and was popping him with it. when he was leaving i tried to give it back to him but he told me to keep it. so i did and then later when we talked on the phone we made a bet. that i could/couldnt keep up with it until he came back for christmas. and me being me said "i need a bf" and he siad "well if/when i get to move back there you'll have one" i was like yay! but the thing is i am not good with waiting. so i have a bf now and all that. and i love my bf and wouldnt dump him for her cousin. so when he comes back for christmas (in about 2 weeks) what do i do???? do i give him that rubber band back? (yes i still have it) can me and him be friends without the akwardness? i want to be friends do you think he will? i am in love with my bf but i still have a thing for this other guy. i will not let myself lose my bf. but well advice please! (link)
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yeah give him back his rubber band and of course you can be friends. if you feel ok with it but if you have feelings for him then break up with your current bf now so things dont get messed up n crap. If you truly love ur bf then tell him honestly whats going on and if hes ok with it. Don't assume your friends cousin still had a thing for you cause it might have been just a one time thing. Long distance relationship is hard to keep up since you never know whats going on in the other person life. this decision is up to you. I can't tell you who to choose or wat to do dats all up to you no one can tell you who to go for except for you. But make sure your friends cousin still likes you before you make your final decision.
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Ever since my friends birthday party she has been acting different aarounf me and not doing anything with me.. she like is being retarted!! idk what to do!! or say to her but i dont want to be her friend cuz its been going on for awhile!! (link)
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Talk it out with her. Maybe you two have grown apart. Lots of friends in life will weather good or best of friends. See whats up in her life that's making her act different.
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Okay well I have this friend..and she is a lot older than me and I know shes my friend and will always be there for me..but like my other friends who are my age dont like her at all. And they never gave her a chance which bothers me. Shes so down to earth and awesome..but like..my friends want me to stop hanging out with her and I really dont want to. I'm not sure what to do. What do I do? Pretend I dropped her and not talk about her around my friends...or just totally drop her or drop my friends who want me to drop her? (link)
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If your friends don't like your other friend then maybe there's a reason. But if they just hate her for no reaso nthen their not your friends. Because no one can tell you who to hang out with because thats just messed up. And if your friends can't accept your other friend then just forget them and hang out with who your real friend is.
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ok..well...my friend who i have known(he is a guy0 since before kindergarten is going out with this girl who every1 totally hates because she is like sluttish and whoreish. a lot of girls like him and he said no to all of them..except he was leading one girl on..and then he just suddenly goes out with the other girl..now everyone is mad at him bc of that..and he has been lying a lot recently. the girl who got lead on is so depressed. i dont know whether to agree with her or my guy friend. and im somehow in the middle of this. please help me sorry this is so long
torn in 2 (link)
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Dear Torn in 2, ok if people call a girl a slut or whore they might not like her for some reason. Your guy friend doesn't seem to be right and if you talk to him and get his side maybe there'a reason why. Break ups are always hard so if this girl is going through a depression don't stop her let her cry and spill her guts out. She'll gt over it eventually.
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I have a friend who is over weight and is always saying Im so fat!! Even though she kind of is I dont want to be mean so I say no your not.I dont want to keep lieing to her but I dont want to just say Yeah you are.How can I just make her stop saying she is fat and ugly without hurting her feeling.I rate high..PS If we say something mean to her she freaks out and says omg I cant belive you just said that. (link)
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Tell her how you feel because you can't get someone to know how you feel unless you let them know whats bothering you. And if she still does it or says your mean then she's not a godd friend. Tell her all this time you could have said so many things but you didn't because you care.
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I have a friend who has a pretty hard life.She lives with her dad,grandma and older brother.Today we were all at her house and she said f*** and her grandma walked in and started hitting her in the face.My friend tried to block her but her grandma pulled her arm away and smacked her dead on in the face.My friend got so mad that she threw her cd player and then she said "Im out of her" so of course we followed her and when she opened the door her grandma pull her by the arm and starting hitting her again.My friend pounched the wall and walked out and there was a hole in the wall.She was afraid that her dad was going to beat her when he found out and she was sooo scared.What should I do to help her out??Ill rate high for any answer!! (link)
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You should talk to your friend and be there for her. Well she shouldn't have said IT in the first place no matter what and she needs to learn how to control her temper. If her family hits her alot take her to your school counsolor and talk about it with them.
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ok i have this friend. we used to be the CLOSEST BEST FRIENDS EVER! everyone in our school new that we were best friends. we were always together and we hardly ever got in fights. we were in every class together (except 2)
then in 8th grade, we kind of slipped away because we werent in ANY classes together...
so near the end of 8th grade, she started calling me a slut and not calling me or hanging out with me and she just ignored me...
we havent seen each other all summer.
and her mom also hates me...i have no idea why...but her mom doesnt like my friend hanging out w/me...i have no clue why! kuz im nice to her mom, and polite and everything...i just dont get it!!!!
i tried pot once...
she made a bet w/her friend...and she won the bet
so i got mad kuz she mad a bet...she got mad kuz i did pot (thats what the bet was about)
she sent me THE MEANEST E-MAIL EVER! i cried for like 2 hours that night! just because i love her and i really wanted to be friends with her.
we talk and i guess you could call us friends again but i KNO she still thinks im a slut and a pothead
ok..i tried pot ONCE and i decided im not gonna do it again.
and she thinks im a slut kuz i make out w/guys that arnt my b/fs...which i've only done like 3 times...but it wasnt like...IM GONNA MAKE OUT W/A TOTAL STRANGER! and then the next day IM GONNA MAKE OUT W/HIM!
it wasnt like that...i make out w/guys if i LIKE them...and obviously my b/fs
so i was jw what to do about her...or how i could "change" for her...
she said she liked me better in 7th grade and i changed A LOT...i didnt even realize i changed...so i just dont know what to do kuz shes my best friend and she helps me out so much! i just dont know what i would do without her
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Friends grow apart from each other even bestfriends. Time has changed and maybe you and your friend should meet new people and start hanging out with a different crowd. You can't change a person physically or mentally so just be nice and if things aren't going out so well forget her. There are tons of people and I'm sure you can find someone else.
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Ok I have this friend who has to be exact all the time and when I say something and it isnt exact she always corrects me.I know its not a big deal and its probably really mean for me to say this but it just bugs the crap out of me!! Please help!! (link)
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Perfectionist...yeah they're a pain sometime try to talk to her and how it makes you feel and if she continues to do it say I won't talk to you unless you stop.
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hey...
..There's this guy I really like. I'm 14 years old and he's 17. We used to just be " buddies " and he used to talk to me about the girls that he liked but I knew that he would never in a million years talk about me that way. Boy, was I wrong.
..I've liked him for about two years now, and he's finally noticed me now since I " grew up " if you know what I mean. We've been talking about hooking up for a while now, but the problem is is that he's my brother's friend and if my brother found out that I was hooking up with his friend he would kill me and his friend. So... we really don't know what to do. At first we decided to just be friends with benefits lol :) but that didn't work...We just keep on talking about how it would be soooooo great if we were actually bf and gf. I really don't know what to do about this because I don't want to mess up my brother's friendship with the guy and I don't want to lose someone that I like very much. Please help in any way that ya'll can. Thanks.
- Melisa (link)
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Dear Melisa,
Well keep being friends with this guy if you really like him but just tell your brother that you think he's cute but you don't gotta tell him everything. Sneaking around won't help you'll just get caught sooner or later. If you guys really like each other why not double date with your bro and one of his girl friends. Good Luck.
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I have another week left of summer before I go on holiday and I have nothing planned. I fell out with my best friend 2 weeks ago. We are in the same group of friends, but I haven't heard from any of them, and if I see them I see her. I don't mind putting up with her for a bit, but if I arranged anything she would have to come along.
I have another friend I have been seeing quite a lot of, but I think we are getting a bit sick of each other. I was meant to be going to a music festival today with her, and some of her friends, but I couldn't go because my mum didn't want me to travel on the train by myself. I've just been sitting around all day with nothing to do, like I probably will the rest of the week. Please give me some advice, I'll rate ya high. (link)
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Sometimes friends grow aart from each other try making new friends hang out with other people join a club or sport or camp...good luck.
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my bestfriend lives across the street from me.. well she talks to this guy who is 16 on aim and we are both 13 well hes not a virgin... since shes been talking to him her personality has changed big time. hes smokes pot and drinks all the time and shes starting to act like him. heres the bad thing she sneaks out of her house at 2 a.m and doesnt get back until 5 a.m. well she has done this the last 2 nights and im worried that something bad will happen.. they almost got caught out by the police 2 times.. id this keeps up shes gonna end up getting raped or something by him.. how can i tell her to stop this or something might happen.. any advice will be helpful and most appreciated..
thanks
signed
worried friend (link)
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Dear worried friend,
Your friends really lucky to have you look after her like that. You need to sit down and have a long nice talk. Tell her how you feel. If she's a real friend she'll listen to you but maybe not right away it will take some time. Don't give up hope on her...hope this held.
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I KNOW THIS IS LONG.. BUT I REALLY NEED HELP AND ILL RATE 5'S FOR EVERYONE NO MATTER WHAT.. I PROMISE!!
Well i have these two friends... nd lets say their names are Bob and Rob.. well ive been good friends with bob longer than i have with Rob.. Both Rob and Bob are a lil chunky.. but they're not Fat.. So me Rob and Bob became a group this year.. and ive always felt like i fit in until one day rob was me and bob are fat.. nd we hate pool partys.. and we have something against skinny people cauz we're jealous of them.. so i was like you guys aren't fat.. nd since im like a twig,.. i got offended and i was like well now im gonna feel uncomfortable in the pool with you guys since we're gonna be in bathing suits.. and rob didn't answer.. so since bob is my best friend i decided to talk to her about it.. so i told her how i felt.. and im like its not like you guys excercise or try to loose weight.. so then we straightened it out... but rob and bob want to go shopping together and rob doesn't wanna invite me cauz im skinny.. i mean i understand how they feel but now i feel like rob feels more comfortable around bob and i feel like rob and bob are friends and im not part of the group anymore.. i mean i wouldn't consider rob my best friend... cauz she's not my type of person.. nd now bob is like turning into rob.. like they use the same font colors and fonts on AIM and bob started listening to rock just like rob.. and now whenever we're together and we talk about clothes.. bobs like Lisa your such a twig you can fit into abercrombie.. and the way she says it, it hurts my feelings.. so like rob has bob brain washed practically and i hate the way she's acting now like all punk and into rock or watever and like how she's saying .. i hate you, your so skinny.. its not my fault im skinny.. im a runner.. and ive been skinny all my life cauz its in my genes and ive been doing sports since i was like 2.. so i dunno wat to do.. please help (link)
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Talk to them friendship grows stronger by talking. And if they were your friends they'd listen and work things out. Ps/ nest time can u use names like bert and ernie i was so confused! haha good luck.
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so my friend is like super hott and i am not a lezbo and she doesnt think so but she tries to kill herself and i have tried to like help her out but i am running out of ideas and i dont know what to do but telll her i am there for her and her friends are too but she wont belive me and i am kinda going through some of the same things like her away message is like i am going to draw a picture on my wrists i will do it with a razor and after all of my problems will go away i used to do the same thing after my dads accident but i dont any more nd i think she will do something she willl regret........................HELP (link)
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From what you've written I believe that you and your friends are around middle- highschool years right? In those teen years, are when one goes through an identity lost, they don't know who they are and is in self-denial. The best thing for you to do it talk to her and spend time with her. Also see a doctor or a psycatrist because they're not just for crazy people, they're train to help those in needs and who has problems. Both of you can go through sessions together but don't give up hope on her. Good Luck.
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does anyone know like how to make a layout for an xanga or buddy4us or something like that or like how you make the pictures in the back and stuff and get the fonts and how you get the music box with the songs you want and where to get the codes?
thnx so much!!!
will rate 5s (link)
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Um go to my xanga....sugahighgurl and under my subscribers a 'run around with scisssors' she has great backgrounds. music- go to urbanmusic.net codes- http://members.migente.com/Cyndys_Codes4u#15
good luck.
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