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name: Andrew
ht: 6'0
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15 F
I have a question about dating/love.
I mean, whats the point? You date, you "fall in love", you break up, your heart is broken. I don't believe that love exists among teens. They all go around saying I love you to the first person they meet without ever actaully knowing what it feels like. I've done it, I admit and when I said "I love you" I knew I didn't mean it. I only said so because he said it first. I always told myself that I would never say those 3 words unless I really thought I was "In Love". I broke the promise that I had with myself and i'm starting to think that love is just a word that everyone throws around. I mean IS there really true love? Everyone is so wrapped up in having a boy/girl friend do they ever see the pattern they make? All the tears and confusion. Is it worth it when your only 15? Why can't all the hormones be turned off until were considered a adult? Seriously.
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Feedback is all I desire but do try to sound just bit intelligent in your answers. Don't make me wonder if the schooling system is failing too.
AG
I've had a girlfriend for a little over a week and a half, not long I know, but I don't plan on those three words appearing in our relationship for a long long time... if ever. I always tell her how much I like her because I KNOW true love is not incorporated in high school relationships. True love in my eyes, is a relationship where you feel totally open, honest, and respectful of each other. Along with many other things. Sometimes married couples are not truly in love. They have this false sense in them thinking they are, but it all falls apart. Now that I think about it, I don't think true love is really alive in society today. "Friends with benefits" and "hook-ups" make acts like sex among things, not a timeless bond between two people. I am sure as heck not a religious person by all means, but I do feel losing your virginity under the age of 22 is morally wrong. With all the alcohol and parties in high school and college, love just cannot exist. Once you and your partner actually live with each other and experience life outside of a school campus, most couples will find themselves at each other's throats. The level at which sexual activity and "relationship hopping" (as I call it) exist in teenagers and America's youth in general, I believe true love cannot evolve between two people.
Ok, this past week, I went to Disneyworld to march in the parade with the band. (yes, I'm a bandgeek...) Well, my really good friend, Nicole, was sitting with me on the busride to Floriday (24 hours, yuck!) and the way there and the 1st few days of Disney were fine, but then she started getting on my nerves. At the time, I didn't think she was a lesbian at all. She was just NOT giving me my space and was hanging around me A LOT. She basically wouldn't leave me alone. And from then on, she started acting really weird. I'm gonna tell you the things that she did, but they're not gonna be in order lol. Well, for one, we were at Epcot and playing in the fountain like 4-year-olds, but hey it was fun lol. She kept picking me up and trying to get on top of me. And then, long after we dried off, she had wet spots on her boobs. So disgusting. On the bus ride home, I'm like, trying to sleep, and every time I look, she's watching me. Then later, I woke up later that night and her butt was pressed against mine and if I'm not mistaken, it was moving up and down. Then on the monorail, she has all this room, but is like, on top of me. So I move over, and she moves closer, and that kept happening. Just a lot of that kind of stuff. So me and my new friends Kelly and Molly and my other friend Amber ditched her at Magic Kingdom, and yeah, we're not talking (not that I care). But now, I'm just really freaked out. I told my friends, and we thought about it for awhile, and a lot of stuff she told us before was all starting to make sense and we really think she's bi or a lesbian. So what should I do? I don't really want to be her friend anymore, and I'm just really freaked out. I could probably say more, but I don't want this to be too long, so if you want more details, IM me on x HappyBunni16 x. Sorry so long, but I'm really scared.
P.S. I have nothing against lesbians, just when they hit on me and my friends.
No offense, but you are definately jumping to conclusions. If I was sitting next to you right now, I would bet you all the money in my wallet currently, (eh 150ish?) that she's not a lesbian. But I'm not, so I say like I say everytime basically... confront her about it.
im a 16 year old female.
im losing my best friend she goes to the other highschool and she has a new best friend bethany. it gets me so sad because i cant make a new best friend, i still want ashley to be my best friend. ash invites bethany everywhere like on family vacations to arizona, and stuff like that. i used to always go to arizona with them,. no i wont make a new best friend so dont say that. how can i fix all this i want my bffld back!
You can have more than one best friend you know. Anyway just try to make firends with Bethany too and everything will work out.
Hey Ya'll,
First off Im male and 15. I've kinda got a problem... There is this girl that is pretty much one of my best friends I guess you'd say. But we hang out alot or atleast when we can. And for the last few(2) months I started liking her as more than a friend. But the problem is that I don't know if she likes me as more than a BFF. I mean some days she really seems to like me as more than a friend in my opinion and some days it just seems like were just like best friends. I really don't know what to do cause i dont want to hurt our friendship if she doesnt feel that way... Because I love hangn with this girl shes so awsome!
I was thinking of asking her to prom (my schools screwed up and small so I can go to prom if I pay) because I know she'll make it a fun time even if she doesnt like me that way because she just makes me have a great time hangn with her... Should I ask her?
I say you ask her, even if she doesn't like you you'll have a good time.
I don't know why it matters to me so much, but I can't get everyone in this clique at school to like me, or even acknowledge my prescence. I have been able to make friends with a couple of people in this clique, but I guess a couple is not enough to be accepted into 'their world'. Mostly our friendship only extends to talk at school in class and in the hallway, hanging out during break, passing notes during class, and then a few phonecalls during the week. But I would love more then anything to be invited to hang out with them on the weekends and to be included more in their after school activities. How do I try to become their friend without really trying too hard?
Thank you so much, and I will rate every question highly that gives me good suggestions.
Invite them all over to your house and just hang out. Watch a movie, play games and just socialize. Just try to involve yourself or make it so that you are involved (ex: having people to your hosue). Inside school just keep up what you have been doing and things will work out. This clique will begin to accept you more once they feel comfortable with you, so just get to know them all.
I went to a private school until this year and everyone was pretty religious and conservative.
Now I go to public school and I have a LOT of more socially liberal friends that I get along with better in a lot of ways. At private school, I was the "weird one." Now I'm not. At all.
Sometimes I can hang out with my old buddies and it's fun, but then a topic like homosexuality comes up and I'm surrounded by people who disagree with me.
I just feel like I'm being pulled in different directions by people who want different things from me.
I miss my old friends, I love them, I grew up with them, but I feel like I'm just too different to really be that close now. I don't know how I can balance my new and old friends, not really time-wise, but in my own mind.
Please help. People who do not write in complete sentences need not answer. If all you have to say is "balance your time," forget it. If you had read, you'd have realized it wasnt about that at all.
Thank you.
I suggest you invite your new friends to hang out iwht your old friends and just try theat. You never know, your old friends will probably be drawn to your new friends just like you were.
Im so sick of this. I have a friend and one weekend we were suppost to go to the mall together, Well I kinda ditched her.. but anyway the thing is one my birthday she ditched me!! Well today my other friend basically ditched me.. its not like I havent felt it before and I told her about it. She said "It sucks right?" So I said "Well duh.. but wouldnt it suck more if it was on your fricking birthday?!?" and I walked away... I feel bad.. but then I dont want to talk to her. What do I do?
I have two sayings for you:
What goes around comes around.
Treat others like you wish to be treated.
i can talk to guys fine in person i just sound so stupid on the phone i need some pointers on how to like start in depht conversations oh im 13 female
just talk about the basics, dont spit off random questions though. you have to make conversation flow... (example: you hear his pet bird/dog in the background, ask about it how old it is, whats its name, so on) also, if you dont have anything to call him about but you just wanna talk, call and talk about school (i dont like 'teacher's name' how bout you? or ask about a certain homework assignment, and the best if you really wanna get close... ask for tutoring!)
one group of my friends drink a lot and i dont really care that much about it. im not against it or anything. my only concern is that i know sometime i will be involved in a situation where i will be asked if i want a drink... the thing is, i have never drank before, i don't want to say no, but i don't want to get the reputation that i always do that stuff. whats your advice?
oooOOhhH PeeER PreSSuuure... lol
ive never encountered peer pressure of that kind, but i would have to say always turn alcohol down. it can only lead to bad things and if your friends are being dumb with it, oyu shouldnt be involved. plus, once you start driving (if your not already) things can be a lot more serious