Hi everyone I'm Sean. im 14, very athletic and all of my friends come to me for advice so it gave me the idea of coming here to help everyone I can out. if you need me outside of advicenators you can look up my facebook: sean hoel or send me an AIM...but only if u neeed it cuz i dont want any spam lol.
Gender: Male
Location: St. Louis MO
Occupation: student attending school
Age: 14
AIM: metrostika26
Member Since: December 26, 2005
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ok. so i'm 14/f. and i really feel like i have no friends. like, people are nice to me, but i don't feel like i have someone who i can really talk to. and i don't want to talk to my parents about stuff that i would talk to my friends with of course. i have a half-sister that is really easy to talk to, but she works like ALL of the time, and she lives like, 3 hours away. i feel like everytime i get a friend, i loose them. and i feel like if i was in a group of girls and a different group of girls had to be picked out to hang out with, i would be last picked. or, sometimes i feel like i'm a last resort. what i mean is, one time, one of my really good friends called me and asked if i wanted to go shopping, and i was like "sure!!" and we went to the mall and were shopping and stuff, and i said, "we should have seen if so and so could have come too" and my friend said "yeah, i called her first, but she wasn't there" and i was like "oh". ya know what i mean??? so my question is, do you really have to have friends to get through life? i'm going to be going into high school this coming year, so will i make friends who i can actually keep around???? i need help!!!! thanks. (link)
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hmm...well friends do help you get through life and the only way to make them is to meet people. i would suggest getting yourself out there, maybe do something big that people will talk about. youll get your name out and gradually talk to people. nothing too big of course, just something that gets you into peoples minds. then you can just hang around with some of the people you talk to and build a friendship off of that. and if you ever need somethin ill be your friend lol, you can find me on AIM and facebook(info on my column) unless you dont want to of course. good luck, hope it works out
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Hello!
There is this ex-boyfriend from five years ago that I've allowed to keep in touch with me. It helped a lot when I moved out of the country when he couldn't call me anymore, and he would occasionally e-mail me and after I was in a new relationship, I decided to completely cut him out of my life. I didn't answer his pleas to know how I was doing, or how much he says I'll always be a part of my life even if we never speak and I'll always have a place in his heart and of course, that he loves me.
It's like some sort of therapy for him. I don't feel comfortable with having any kind of relationship because it doesn't feel real to me to be 'friends.'
He found me on myspace today and I'm not sure why he insists on keeping in touch? What's his MO, for doing this? According to his myspace page he's involved, and I'm the only ex-girlfriend that he's like this with, the other's they don't keep in touch.
I can be really straight forward about things so what is a humanitarian way of saying: "Thanks for taking the time to say hello. Great. Not necessary to do that anymore. Thank you!"
Signed,
Two Feathers
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hes sounding like a true ex. he still wants you but you have moved on. i would send him an email saying "my BF is not comfortable with us talking, thank you for being their for me but if you really love me you will understand" or something of that nature, and if he keeps talking to you then you can cut him down saying "well i guess you really dont love me then because you wont respect my wishes" good luck with this
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theres these two boys. Both of them are my good friends. One is always on my mind, and i really like him. But when the other one looks at me and talks to me, he makes me feel happy. When he smiles at me, i get, allrite this will sound lame, he gives me butterflies in my stomach. But i dont think of him as much as i think of the other one. I used to have a crush on the one that makes me feel happy, and i never knew why. Now i know, but i dont want to like him again, cause i cant see myself with him, but i can see myself with the other one. Im so confused about them. (link)
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this one is hard to answer because of so many possible outcomes...but ill try my best. myabe you could try to hook up with the one that you can see yourself with. many things can happen
1.he takes your mind off liking the other guy and u and the other guy can just be good friends.
2.you still are attracted to the other guy even tho you have a BF and problems come up.
3.you put too much time into yur BF and the other guy just kind of fades out of you\
4.hook up with none of them and try to just be friends
5.let the other guy kno that he is one of your closest friends so he doesnt get any hard feelings about it.
those are all i can pull off the top of my head. sry if its not that clear but i hope it helps
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Okay, so my 'friends' were the best of friends a girl could ever have, in the beginning of the school year (long ass time ago) Then in the middle of the year things started to change. I didn't feel the love that friends are supposed to have for eachother (in a friend way). And they are constantly labeling me goth. And I am always the one that is made fun of. But then a girl named Haley started hanging out with us. At first it was all the same for me. But then they all started talking behind her back. I would NEVER join in on those conversations, I would defend her. Then one day me and Haley were still eating lunch, and they left. So when we are done we go find them. And they start bitching on how Haley should just leave, so she leaves and I go with her. And that is the start of our great friendship. I mean, it's like we are sisters. We constantly hang out. (of course it isn't just us isolating (sp?) ourselves, we hang out with MANY more people, but we are always together, no matter who we hang out with) And we always have something to talk about, anyways I haven't hung out with my other 'friends' for awhile. Then a few days ago, I hung out with them after school, and they kept saying 'Why are you hanging out with Haley, she is some goth freak, is that why you hang out with her? I hate Haley, just stop hanging out with her!' And I don't want to stop hanging out with her, but my 'friends' won't stop bugging me about it, I don't want to go back to the old ways with them making fun of me, and them being rude and labeling me. And I can't ditch Haley, what should I do?? (link)
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well i would explain to your "friends" that you two connected and your not gonna stop being friends with her just because the others dont like her. if your real "friends" think that is too complicated or dont like it, then they arent your real friends anyway. say wut u mean because the people that mind dont matter and the people that matter dont mind. they probobly talked about you behind your back if they did it to her too. sad to say but the cliques think they are too cool to be friends with someone if that person is friends with an "outcast". hope it helps
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so today my friend was supposed to kis sthe boy she likes right and lately he sbeen doing things that makes it seem like he like sher, but thiers a problme , today she didnt do it, and he was waiting outside the classroom and she was inside i went up to him and said listen i need to know. do you like her or what? he said only as a friend.!!!
now this girl is my bestfriend for life i tell her everything she tells me everything and so i told her what he said, but calmly and rationally i let her know he dosnt like her and she started crying,a nd now she is like really upset more upset then ive ever seen her, because she fell for this guy and hard but he was a jerk and lead her on. please help me in what i can do or say to her thank you (link)
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i think the best thing you can do is try to find her a nice guy that makes her feel better, my experience is guy friend can cheer girls up better than girl friends can cheer girls up, i dont really know why. so just ask one of her nice guy friends to talk to her and tell her bad stuff about the guy she liked. try to keep her mind off of him and think about how it could be a good thing that she doesnt like him. list off all of his bad things like if hes an asshole or if he has cheated on GFs or something like that. anything to make her feel good about not liking him anymore and just talk to her about her favorite things to try to cheer her up. Its an alternate way but i hope it works
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i am a 15 year old girl. I have liked this one guy for about like since 6th grade and now i am going to be a freshmen...so about 4 years. well we always flirt and like hold hands or are really close to each other. he was a girlfriend but he wants to do IT with me. We meet at his locker all the time during class to talk about it. So friday i went to his locker like he told me. I was nervous even though i realy would love to kiss him. he was saying how he thought i like him and i told him i do but what about your gf, he told me that she didnt have to know. We were standing there and i a thinking what if i made the first move? He didnt think i was enthusiastic this time, because this has happened before him asking me to hook up with him. should i make the first move? if so where, how should i tell him that i want to hook up. should i call him and ask him to meet me somewhere?
~~~~~BINDY~~~~~
♥
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yea im not a fan of cheating at all. i think you should tell him "I'd love to but i wont do anything until you break up with your girlfriend" and if says no, that means he could just be using you for extra action, if he says yes, he cares about you enough to ditch his gf, then you guys arent breakin any trust or anthing like that. its fair and square. i had a bad experience with cheating once so i cant stand it =/
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Yet, I still find myself caring.
I used to go to language school early last year with this guy I met there and we spoke a bit then I left and we spoke sometimes on MSN. Well tonight we were talking and he basically joked "What's a hot sexy girl like you doing alone" and I asked if he really meant that, and he said then I wasn't hot and sexy at all, and I would be if I wore a bit more makeup. I felt very upset by this comment and got mad at him and called him a whole lot of names, and said I was only nice to him because I felt sorry for him, blah blah blah. I didn't mean a word I said.
Well he just emailed me, not apologizing or anything, but saying he was upset by what I said, and that its true i wasn't the most attractive girl there, everyone else was prettier but he doesn't try and sugarcoat things. Then he went on to say he feels horrible he wasted effort and breath on me when i was only being nice to him because i felt sorry. He said this cut him pretty badly because he thought we could've been friends.
Should I apologize to him? I have absolutely zero interest in him, but I feel guilty now. He did hurt me pretty badly though. I don't take comments about my appearance too well. Then again two wrongs don't make a right. I did insult him pretty badly. So what do I do? Sorry this is so long. (link)
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i would apologize to him and tell him that the way he said wut he did just hurt you and you dont like hearing that and just explain the situation. then after that i would lightly talk to him as an extended friend but nothin close and then hell eventually drift off and u wont hafta worry about him.
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I really like this girl at school but she is my best friend. I'm scared that if I tell her and she says yes, I know we'll break up. Everyone knows that if you break up with someone you basically aren't friends anymore. Does anyone know what I should do? HELP ME!!! (link)
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actually, after you break up you usually always remain friends if the reason for the break up was you two lost it. its hard but its got to happen eventually. go for it and if it doesnt work at least you tried. if the girl wouldnt want to remain friends after that then shes not worth your time. hope it helps.
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ok my friend and i been best friends for 4 years and i dont wanna ruin our friendship but now in middle school shes waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay popular and im not....and i feel like her secertary because people treat me like it eeryday "oh where is ____" or "hows _____?" never a how r u to me and she hardly spends time with me shes always with her popular friends and i feel left out i hav other friends but shes my BEST i feel like im jealouse.. plz help!!! (link)
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a girl whose two faced and wont talk to you around her popular friends just so she can keep her image isnt worth your time. maybe not the answer you want to hear but i think you shoulf forget her. hope it helps.
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y friend has a new bf and they have only been togther for three days and they have already kissed and well when she hangs around him she pretty much ignores us and well when she is older and she meets a guy then i dono she is 12/f and i am 13/f when she is older i hope she makes the rite decisions with a guy cause if she goes this fast when she is this old then well think about when she is older i just need some advice the guy is 13 and is a grade older than her and he is going to break up with her and she never got broken up with before i need advice on whether if ui should warn her or what (link)
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dont interfere. it may not be the answer your expecting but she has to learn what having a bf really means. its supposed to be someone that you feel good around and like and have fun with not someone to just say o i did this with him. if hes gonna break up with her just tell her to be prepared for it. time will tell all but it will happen sooner or later anyway. hope it helps.
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i dont know whats up with me but lately i have been really sad i dont know why i want it to stop but everytime i think back on stuff i get really sad and the school year is coming to a end and none of my friends are goin to be together and also i get a attitude for w.e my mom or dad tells me to i hate being sad for no reason how can i stop being sad (link)
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talk to your friends about it. they really help. think about happy times with your bf/gf which ever. drink some soda that also helps. hope it helps.
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Okay, I just turned 15 & want to have a cool party. I want at least 40 ppl. My original idea was to go bowling, which would be sooo fun, but it cost so much, so that idea's kinda striked out. Does anyone have any idea where I could have a party that's cheap, and 14/15 year olds will enjoy. My house isn't an option. Thanks. (link)
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hmm i got it you could have a paintball party.
prices very from as low as 5$ a person to 20 so it just depends were you go. hope it helped.
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My best friend Rachel and I are in this thing at school where we help new students. A new girl came and she was really cool her name was Ashley. She always hangs out with Rachel now and Rachel always avoids me and now they are best friends and always exclude me in activites. Should I talk to Rachel? Ehh (link)
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i think you should. If she used to be your friend then ask why you cant all three be friends and if she cant negotiate and be nice to people than thats her tuff loss. hope i helped.
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Alright, so I have this friend. Let's call her Diana. Whenever I tell Diana something that I am excited about she just brings me down. She'll tell me "Oh my god, no one cares" or "Does it really seem like I care?", stuff like that. Sometimes she will even hurt me physically also. She always flirts with all of the guys I used to like or even my boyfriend. Diana is very beautiful and she knows it. All of the guys adore here and such. Sometimes she can hurt my feelings so bad that I just want to cry. I really am not trying to be mean about this but how can I help get our friendship back on track? Sometimes when I tell her things I feel like she's jelous. Am I the one doing something wrong? Please help me, this is making me go through a lot of pain! Signed, Best Friend is hurting Me (link)
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well i can name a 5 letter word taht would describe her. but that wouldnt help. i would tell her what shes doing and the effect it has on you and tell yur bf to tell her to stop flirting with him cuz hes not single or somethin like that. hope i helped.
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14/f okay well i was invited to my friends for new years with 5 other girls (plus her/the host). then my boyfriend invited me to his house for new years. i said that i already have plans with my other friend. and they both refuse to have a party together. i havent spent a whole lot of time with him since school, ive only seen him twice and i really want to see him. but i already made plans with my other friend. hes gotten mad that i havent seen him in a while and says i wont see him again til school. i try to make plans with him but when hes free im not and when im free hes not. 2 of the 6 girls that were invited to my friends house are going to my boyfriends house and another girl might be going to a completly different party. so that leave the 4 of us again. ive been hanging out with the 3 girls alot lately and i always have fun with them. i really want to spend time with my boyfriend for the new year but i know that ill have more fun with the girls. he (and my parents) are kinda mad and dissapointed that im not going to his house. what do i do about the situation. (link)
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well depending on the times of the parties cant u make both of them for a lil bit?
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Ok, i recently posted a "get advice" thing because my sister hates me, and wanted to know what to do about it. So i started to talk to my friend, Mel who is REALLY good with advice, and i went on and on on how horrible my life was and she said:
her: NO
her: don't even start on that "my whole life" shit
her: okay!
her: You life has sucked i guess
her: I mean, duh, you've had a family, and money, and you get anything you want. You have both parents who love you
her: My dad died on christmas eve, my family has NO money, my mom is depressed
her: my older brother won't move out
her: don't even start saying that your whole life has sucked
her: because you have NO CLUE what a sucky life is like!
and then she signed off. Now her away messages says "Yeah, pretty pissed right now. Don't feel like talking. Be back on later." and i totally can relate, but i just REALLY hope i dont lose her friendship. Like, she's really the only person who understands me, and has been there for me. I really dont want to lose her. And i thought since we were such good friends i could just sorta cry on her shoulder, when it turns out she was the one who wanted to cry i guess. What do i do? i called her house, but her brother said she was sleeping, although i really dont think she was. What i want to know is, 1. how do i know she'll still be my friend, and 2. what do i do when i need to get this off my chest? cause i obviously need someone to talk to :(
Thanx,
-Daddy's Little Defect (link)
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i think you need to apologize for offending her and tell her that you understand and how you wish this wouldnt hurt your friendship and say you just had a bad day. If she doesnt except your apology then thats her loss of a good friend. sorry if i didnt help but i hope i did.
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