^me^ .. hehe YES!!
*Name: Shannon Knack
*Age: 15
*Height: 5'7?
*Hair: brownish blonde
*Eyes: blue
*Location: MinnesOta!
*Stats: Single
I'm always here to listen to peoples problems, I want to help out .. I love making differences in peoples lives.. so, just ask a question and I'll be right on it! hehe!!
People won't always remember what you say and do ..
But they will always remember how you made them feel ..
I want to be remembered
Website: My Xanga .. Check it out!
E-mail: ShudaBeenBlond21@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Minnesota
Age: 16
AIM: ShudaBeenBlond21
Yahoo: ShudaBeenBlond21
Member Since: May 30, 2004
Answers: 140
Last Update: November 19, 2004
Visitors: 7958
Main Categories:
Love Life
Friendship
View All
Favorite Columnists
xXKiSsMeXx
RachiE07
Jess1George
|
| |
|
I'm at a new school where i dont know many people... i made this one friend, lets just call her anna. So anna and i have been hanging out on the weekends and stuff for the past 3 weeks and im starting to realize that she is really conceited. I don't want to have a friend like this, but i don't really have any other options because i don't want to be friendless. I don't know if you can help very much, just give me your thoughts on this, or maybe if you can relate we can talk about your experience. thanks. (link)
| |
Well, a good friend would just be straight up and tell her that you don't like it. If she gets mad then she does. But you don't want other people thinking that about her either.
|
|
ok, all of my friends got mad at me on friday at a birthday party. this is why: my one friend(let's call her mo)told me on thursday night that my other friend(let's call her go)was going to dump my other friend(lets call her jo)after go's party. trying to be a good friend and warn jo, i told her that go was planning on dumping her the day after the party. it turned out that mo was lying and then she got my other friend(lets call her so)mad at me. jo got mad at me for some odd reason that i dont know and now jo go and my other friend ko are all mad at me. mo and so made up with me after school today-and i hope it stays this way. anyways, how do i get jo ko and go to not be mad at me? i mean i didn't do anything to ko or jo and go should be mad at mo. plz help!!!i rate. thx, ~fused 1~ (link)
| |
tell them that you were just trying to protect a friend. And that one friend shouldn't lie to the other one about things like that. You were just being a nice friend and i understand where you're coming from. Good luck.
|
|
ok i have this friend lets call her cassy..shes like my bestfriend now..but when i met her i hated her cuz she always trien to steal my bestfriend at the time..and now that i hanged with her alot i think shes pretty cool..and we do alot together..well the other girl my old bestfriend (Hannah) always seems like to compete against me to get to her..and when ever me n cassy hang out she gets like jelous..i really just dont kno wut to do ne more..i mean i feel bad for cassy..wut do u guys and girls think i should do? thanks so much! (link)
| |
Well, first of all. Why can't you guys just all hang out together? You don't need to be with just one friend at a time. Maybe if you spent equal time with both of them, the other one wouldn't get jealous over the other friend. Just try hanging out together and do other things TOGETHER as a GROUP .. don't just leave someone singled out.
|
|
okay..i have a friend and she wont let me hang around any of the other friends i have made this year or she gets mad and thinks im ignoring her! i really like her and i dont like it when she is mad! but i also like the new friends i have made! i dont JUST want to hang around her! how do i get her to understand that i want to be her friend and the others friend too?! (link)
| |
Why don't u have them meet or something so then you guys can all hang out together. She's just jealous and thinks that you might stop hanging out with her so if u all hung out together, that'd be really coOl.
|
|
im really shy when im around people i dont know that well, its always been a problem for me, i always feel like im gonna make a fool of myself is there any way for me to get over this? (link)
| |
Just be yourself! and if they don't like it, then screw them!:-)
|
I know this isnt exactly a 'friendship' question but my friend is in real trouble. *
Hes 16, his dad is a drunk, hes got a step mom, and brothers and sisters. Hes my ex boyfriend. He doesnt live in the same state as me but his dad beats him. He pukes all the time from it. Its horrible. He cant do anything about it bc everytime he tells someone his dad denys it and says he plays all these sports and he skateboards so he could have gotten them from somewhere else. His dad only beats on him and none of his other brothers and sisters. i dont know what to do but i mean i really want to help him and i really need to help him. he needs to get out of there fast. ive tried havin him go to the cops but his dad uses the same story. nothings. working. someone please help me! i really want to help him out but i dont know how :// im scared for his life. (link)
| |
It's just like that book. A child called it. Have him go to the police again, or at least have someone else go to the cops for him. Get some evidence.. hide a camera or something somewhere .. and have it on tape ..then send it to the cops .. I hope he's alright.. but u gotta get him safe before his dad outrages .. majorly!:-(
|
|
ive been talking to this guy online for about 2 years and we've been talking about meeting...i know hes who he says he is and everything but i dont know how things would go if we met. it would just be really weird...do u think i should meet him or not? (link)
| |
I think that you should go with what you feel is right for you. If you do meet up with him, bring a friend that you can trust to help you along with meeting him! I hope all goes well :-)
|
Ok theres this grl that i dnt like at all we have gotten into soo many fights and she makes me feel like shit when we get into fights..((there over the stupidiest things too))No body really likes her caz of her bitchy attitude..:x i have alot of confidence so im sticking up fer myself i dnt need herr Sh*t! But she wants to be friends with me and again..should i become friends iwth her again or stand my groound? And if i stand my ground then how do i tell her to bak off and not call me ne more because if i dnt do it nice she will spread shit about me!! :`( Help me plss!!
**RR**
rate fives to who ever helps mee! (link)
| |
tell her you need some time away from her because you're sick of fighting and arguing with her. Then later on when your ready .. go back to talkin with her and hangin out!
|
|
I have this friend that only asks if she can come over or if i can come over if one of my other friends isnt home or has somebody else over. It really makes me feel like a rebound girl. I told my friend about it but she said that she doesnt do that. What do you think I should do about this? (link)
| |
If you really feel like a rebound girl, then just tell her that you can't do anything .. or say you have other plans ! just don't do anything with her because you don't want her using you. a friend should wann ahang out because you are friends .. not because someone else cant.!
|
|
arite..well when i was about 5 or 6 or maybe even younger ihad a best friend and he was a boy..he lived around the block frum me but directly behind my house!! i juss used to hop the wall and go walk in his house...our parents wer good friends too....i went EVERYWHERE with them and we wer best friends...we did karate together, we juss went eveywhre...swimming lessons, soccer, erything...we wer best friends...and i had a lil brother who we never really liked to play with wed hide frum him, lock him out, nvr invite him newhere etc....and then one day we wer about 7 or 8 i think idk...but my brother n *chris* the guy friend...got in a fight about POKEMON...how dumb...and it juss caused a big argument!! i wasnt allowed to see chris and r parents stopped talking...but now r parents talk alot over the wall and chris mom juss had a baby so id use that as an excuse to go see chris but we nvr really would talk...wed say hi...but nothin else.,..and he is shy around gurls so hes nvr really had a gf...and i was his best gurl friend!!!!! and he was my best guy friend it wuld b s0o0o awesum if it was like that now...and hes s0o0 hott now and im not bad lookin either...and his mom always says she wants us to b friends agen n stuff bc we nvr really got in a fight but it messed ery thing up...it wuld b s00o awesum to hav a best friend thats a guy...who i could talk to...who lives s0o0 close wat shuld i do?...im goin over ther to see the baby tonite i think....wat shuld i say?? hes really shy...and hott...but wat shuld i do?/ plzz help!!!! i miss him!!! it wuld b awesum!! omg plz help me on sumthing i shuld say to him (link)
|
Tell him how you really feel about everything .. and tell him how you miss being his friend. Even if he's shy, Im sure he feels the same way about you!! Good luck and tell me how it all goes .. Shudabeenblond21
xOxO .. Shannon!!
|
okay, well, I think I want to break up with my "internet boyfriend". but I don't want to hurt his feelings, and I don't know how to end it :(
Lilly (link)
|
Just tell him that you would rather have a real relationship and that the whole online thing isn't what you're looking for. There's no way you can actually do it without hurting feelings, but it's only the internet!:-) .. good lUCk!
Love much, Shannon
|
|
hey - my best friend has this boyfriend .. and like i KNOW shes to good for him and whenever the THREE of us chill something goes down and she gets mad at me .. because i "flirt" with him .. like i try not to and shes such a bitch sometimes i just cant take it and then .. she goes and chooses him over me .. how can i tell her hes no good without hurting her .. and this is something that totally bugs me .. you have NOO CLUE .. and maybe if it was 2 guys and 2 girls i wouldnt get into a fite with her .. and you know what i cant help that i like her boyfriend a lil cause he is really really HOT .. help me please !! (link)
| |
Well, if he's too good for her, Don't you think he's too good for you too? It's your friend and you have to respect her choices over men. Maybe it'd be better if you weren't there when they hung out. You wouldn't end up flirting with him and she won't get mad at you. But you have to be there for her and you have to respect her decisions over guys. You can tell her that he's too good for her, but if she doesn't wanna listen, then its her choice and you really can't do anything about it. I know this from experience. But you just have to be there for her .. and it's kind of disappointing to hear that you like her boyfriend. You shouldn't, so try to get over him because, it's not good. And if she found out, There'd prolly be a WWF smack down or something! lol ..
|
Mkay. I have to questions, and it would be great if you could try to help..
- - Ok, first. My cousin and I were split up for about a year because of an action my sister did. My cousin's mom didn't approve of this action, and if I were her mom, I wouldn't have either. But anyway. So, it's been a little more than a year now, I believe, I've lost track of time, and everytime I'd like to get together to hang out and catch up, and we plan it, normally something else comes up, which I know my cousin wouldn't lie to me, She is my best friend in this world, I just kinda feel like maybe she doesn't want to hang around me, or doesn't like me anymore. And then there is the fact that we hardly see eachother on holidays cuz I'm stuck going to my other grandma's now cuz my mom's dad passed away in 2002 I believe. She'll be at my grandma's (dad's side, our dad's are brothers), and I'll be at my other grandma's. I'll go over there, and she'll have already left. How can I met up with my cousin, tell her what I'm feeling, and understand why we never hang out?
- - Ok, Second. Sure, it is another thing to do with my cousin, but oo well!! Everyone is always telling me that my style is a little dull. And I know this already. My cousin is perfect! She has perfect hair, perfect face, perfect everything, and I get so jealous sumtimes. I love my cousin to death, and I believe the reason my self esteem is so low is because I compare myself to her. Something maybe I shouldn't be doing. But, all I've ever wanted was to be similar to my cousin, not exactly alike, but similar. She is just so cool, nice, fun to be around, and get's mostly all the guys to notice her. I don't want to be a mimik, I'd just like to be me, yet accepted by everyone (popular kids mainly), and right now I'm not. And for once, I'd just like to walk into my school, and be noticed, and liked, for me.. not for what I have (extra home entertainment shtuff). Can you help me?
- Signed
Confused and Fashion Deprived (link)
|
Rachel .. I wouldn't lie to you about anything .. I always wanna hang out with you and stuff .. but yuo know my mom .. and I'm not even sure if it's all about the beth thing anymore .. cuz I'm sure she got over it .. but things do come up that my rents make me do .. and I can't help that .. I know we can get together soon .. or at least .. I think .. :-/
Second .. It doesnt matter if ur accepted by everyone .. just be yourself and if they don't accept you for that .. then screw him .. the only people that you want really accepting you are your friends .. that's all that matters .. Having friends .. Who cares about the "popular people" .. you have your own group of friends .. and you're popular within them. And u get accepted by them as well .. I've told you this many times .. and you always listen .. so I'll say it again .. *SMILE AND BE YOURSELF* .. it's that simple .. If you do that, then everything will be fine. I love you rachel and hopefully we can get together SoOoOnO!
|
|
I am REALLY immature for my age and I dont know what to do about it! ALL my friends tell me that I am really immature and I take sides with a lot of different people and I want to stop talking to them but I dont know what to do... I mean my friends mean the world to me but I dont know what to do about the immaturity thing. I know that I want to have to choose my friends over something like taking sides help me please! (link)
| |
Just act like yourself. Usually when people are being immature .. it's not themselves, they just try to act like that to get noticed .. but if you act urself .. more people will notice you and stuff. You won't be so obnoxious! .. soo just try and be yourself .. that's what makes a person special.
|
|
I'm best friends with this one girl and me and her are so close! She has kinda been ignoring me and not talkin much to me lately! She's also not telling me her secrets or anything anyomre and i dont know why! I didnt do anythnig! She means the world to me and I would do anything for her... and i dont know if she feels the same about me! I feel like I cant talk to her anymore... and I never thought that I would ever happen but it is! What should i do? (link)
| |
Talk to her about it .. Ask her why she's been ignoring you. Maybe she's just busy with other things .. But just ask her about it all .. and tell her how you feel.. and tell her how much she means to you .. if you are best friends, i'm sure she has a reasonable excuse for not telling you things.
|
|
My friend,say her name is Sally, has been talking about my other friend, say Suzie. Sally is really nice and all but when Suzie isn't around she talks about her. And when Suzie is around she is nice and everything to her. How can i get Sally to be nice about Suzie behind her back without making Sally mad at me? (link)
| |
I don't really think theres a way besides talking to her about it. I would just tell her that you don't want to here about "suzie" like that and if you have nothing good to say about her .. then just don't talk to you about her.
|
|
I have been arguing with some of my really good friends and I feel like they dont want to talk to me no more and I dont know what to do because i want to talk to them still but i dont know how to approach the situation PLEASE HELP! (link)
| |
Just call them up. And if they don't want to listen to what you have to say, then they aren't true friends. Maybe they just need some time and they'll get over things. Girls and the drama .. It's what they are made for. They'll come around no matter what. If they are true friends, they'll stick by your side.
|
|
OK i just moved to my new house like a year ago, and my friend at my old house was my best friends and she never calls me, she called me like once for my b-day. but we have done some things like ive sleepover at her house and we have gone to valleyfair and i even took her on vacation with me but its like she to busy to even call me at all! What should i do? (link)
| |
Call her up and ask her what she's doing .. don't always wait for the other person to call you up. She's prolly not too busy for you .. soo yeah ..I'm sure she misses you.. so just call her up and ask her if she wants to do something .. i'm sure she will wanna hang! If she was your best friend, then I'm sure she will ..
|
|
i babysit this child whom is eleven. She is a very impresionable child, she goes on to the internet to meet boyfriends and cuts herself.what should i do? (link)
| |
talk to her parents about it. They need to know and if they don't do anything about it. Get her help yourself.
|
hi guys, this is a question to all the people who have lost a BFF. well this girl in my class is my bff. and she is going to a hole neew school and i really am going to miss her. WHAT SHOULD I DO.
singed POORSADTHANG:-..( (link)
| |
I know you're going to miss her but you just have to let it go. I'm sure you'll still stay in touch but you just have to understand that you're gunna lose people in your life. It's going to be hard, but I know you'll make it.
|
|