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Hi,
Im 15/f,
When Im in school I have a good few friends but when it comes to the summer hols or weekends I never hear from them and often meet them up town and feel kinda put out they never asked me. I have three groups of friends and a few from other different groups. I dont know if its my paranoia or at school they kinda have to hang around with me. I asked a friend could I go out with her and her friends one night and she said she would text me and she seemed uncomfortable.
Do they actually want to be my friends or is it my really bad paranoia??
Plz help
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It kind of sucks whenever you do feel put out because you don't understand their insiders or sometimes even the way they react to things. Please don't feel bad, this happens to everyone. If you're getting this vibe from them maybe they do want to be your friends but possibly aren't the best people. Maybe they don't feel comfortable with new people with their friends because they don't really know you that well. Keep the effort up and work with your friends to become a better one with them. Invite them places instead of going along with them. If things don't work out don't be afraid to form your own group, with people you are friends with from different groups. Try not to have paranoia, be confident.
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ok well i'm pretty good at keeping friends (when i'm in school) but anyways i don't know how to keep them interested,you know? people get bored of me fast,i hate it ! i just stop my energy for some reason after a cirtain point. how can i keep my energy up? i'm not sick of them, its nothing to do with them,its me. i just loose energy and stop being so talkative,its weird because i'm usually so much more talkative. any help? this is probably confusing.sorry. (link)
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Don't lose confidence! If people see you losing confidence in yourslef it might cause them to venture away from you. Don't think you make them bored, this might be whats causing you to be less energetic. Prevent this from happening, since you are a talkative person don't be afraid to use your gift! Have movie parties.. you know things to motivate you to keep your friends, it should improve your energy
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alright. i have this friend and i kind of love him. he's the totaly opposite of me and i've done some things he doesn't agree with. most of them, he knows about, a few he doesn't. this kid knows me better than i know myself and by not telling him, i've felt kinda guilty. so. question basically is, should i tell him, have him be disappointed, or just kind of let it go and not worry about it?
thankss. (link)
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confide in your best friend. he's practically your other half.
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i met all of my best friend's homegirls n homeboys, and they were pretty cool. the homegirls kept telling me i was quiet, n the guys said that too. usually, with my friends, i'm really talkative, but for some reason, with them im really shy. what are some things i can talk about with them? like what can i say to them? how do i start a conversation n keep one going? its so weird cos i feel so awkward with them. (link)
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it's completely understandable to be shy the first time meeting new people. And in time they will become good friends with you and your talkative side will most come out.. They need to be patient until you're comfortable. Try to relax and keep things cool. I understand akwardness just as every one else. And you definitely have one thing in common.. which is your best friend so you could talk about memories with her and ask her friends what they enjoy doing the most. Movies of course which is always good schools and football teams if you're in to sports. Once any sport is mentioned my friends go crazy and have tons of things to talk about. So maybe that would work for you. plan things out next time that might help. To keep one going pick a topic you thing you are most comfortable with and can talk about for a while.
:] I honestly know you will become more comfortable with them. good luck with the conversations. be confident.
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Hey! I have this really close friend of mine but lately we have started to drift apart from each other. We were especially close--from calls every day to zero calls now. Um, this all started when our council had this summer camp thing at my school and it taught us a lot about ourselves and friendships and it like, totally opened my eyes. I now saw how much she took advantage of me, even when I was a completely loyal friend. Now, I feel because we're not talking to each other anymore, she is trying to make the rest of our council and the rest of my friends turn against me. What shall I do??
signed,
lost
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At a time like this you just need to stand up tall and be strong. You have to teach yourself to ignore people like that, and meet other people even if they arent the most popular social people. as long as they treat you like the loyal friend like you treated your old bestfriend. I think you should just start on a new blank page without her and make another good friend or "posse" whatever makes you happy just dont get too caught up in their comments ok? Well I hope you meet new people you like and become happy! 'kisses' PrettyLady16
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I feel really left out of everyhting lately. I feel like noone likes me. Any advice?
~Lonely Girl~ (link)
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Just talk to all of us! We all seem to be pretty awesome. Hang out with your family and try to do fun stuff alone that you enjoy... you dont need anyone else but yourself and god.
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my best friend is depressed. and it makes me so sad! she says shes fat when shes NOT she says shes ugly when shes NOT and this one guy was like do you have a myspace so she gave him the link and said ew your ugly and signed off.. so she is really sad about that.. i keep telling her that if she thinks shes fat she should just go on a diet and i would go on it with her. she doesnt need to make herself prettier cause shes pretty enough! what can i do to make her feel better? (link)
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Just make sure you take her out to do stuff and comfort her through out this stage that is all that you can really do at a time like this. Try to show her how pretty she really is, and encourage her to work out and eat right tell her it will pay off and she could be comforatable with herself. All you can really do is encourage her A LOT and try to have fun. Good luck with her. 'kiss' PrettyLady16
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I KNOW THIS IS LONG.. BUT I REALLY NEED HELP AND ILL RATE 5'S FOR EVERYONE NO MATTER WHAT.. I PROMISE!!
Well i have these two friends... nd lets say their names are Bob and Rob.. well ive been good friends with bob longer than i have with Rob.. Both Rob and Bob are a lil chunky.. but they're not Fat.. So me Rob and Bob became a group this year.. and ive always felt like i fit in until one day rob was me and bob are fat.. nd we hate pool partys.. and we have something against skinny people cauz we're jealous of them.. so i was like you guys aren't fat.. nd since im like a twig,.. i got offended and i was like well now im gonna feel uncomfortable in the pool with you guys since we're gonna be in bathing suits.. and rob didn't answer.. so since bob is my best friend i decided to talk to her about it.. so i told her how i felt.. and im like its not like you guys excercise or try to loose weight.. so then we straightened it out... but rob and bob want to go shopping together and rob doesn't wanna invite me cauz im skinny.. i mean i understand how they feel but now i feel like rob feels more comfortable around bob and i feel like rob and bob are friends and im not part of the group anymore.. i mean i wouldn't consider rob my best friend... cauz she's not my type of person.. nd now bob is like turning into rob.. like they use the same font colors and fonts on AIM and bob started listening to rock just like rob.. and now whenever we're together and we talk about clothes.. bobs like Lisa your such a twig you can fit into abercrombie.. and the way she says it, it hurts my feelings.. so like rob has bob brain washed practically and i hate the way she's acting now like all punk and into rock or watever and like how she's saying .. i hate you, your so skinny.. its not my fault im skinny.. im a runner.. and ive been skinny all my life cauz its in my genes and ive been doing sports since i was like 2.. so i dunno wat to do.. please help (link)
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To me it seems just like you and your friends are slowly moving apart. People can get annoying with comments like that so try to ignore them but make sure to confront your friends tell them that you arent comforatable with them talking about your weight and that if they are dieng to be so thin to work out themselves, try to encourage them not ridicule. And as for the two of them moving apart from you, if worse comes to worse i think that you should trying to start hanging out with more people that arent like punky and have some of the same interests. People that are like you are always fun. Well I hope this problem resolves and you get your friends back "kiss" PrettyLady16
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my best friend said shes gunna run away tomorrow. i said i'd always be there for her and i will. im planning on keeping her at my house and she said she wants to go to her boyfriends house some of the days. and thats fine with me. should i let her for a little while? or should i just say no u cannot come to my house. well...i kinda believe her but she kinda doesnt do what she says shes gunna do. soo what do I do?!
will rate 5's (link)
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if the situation that your friend is in at home is really bad, like her parents abusing her, then find help for her. don't encourage her to deal with it of course. if she is just mad at her parents because they made her clean her room or whatever, then call up her parents and let them know that she is safe with you. parents get really worried about their kids. you don't want to have the police searching for her for no reason. just think things through and maybe talk to your parents if you confide in them. i hope all turns out well.
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hey my name is ashley and im looking for some cool new things 2 add 2 my profile like quotes or daily tips. I went 2 google and everything and i cant find anything so would someone please give me some quotes or anything i can put on my profile! thx i appreciate it.
O u can Im me on AIM its modeltownerfan (link)
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i always like to put lyrics from my favorite songs. also you can put inside jokes that you have with your friends or something. a lot of people put links to their favorite websites or band sites. hope your profile turns out good!
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Ok, I apoligize in advance if this is really long.
But, i have this friend. We've been really close since elementary school. I really enjoy spending time with her. But when the topic about money comes up, it just makes me ache inside. I don't show it. Okay, so my family doesn't have the kind of money like her family does. Most of the time she just shoves it in my face, i don't really know if she does it on purpose or it just comes naturally.. but it's really starting to make me extremley upset. For example, we're supposed to hang out, and then shes going shopping. I sort of had the option to go with her, but i don't have any money to buy anything. And truth be told, i don't want to watch her shop, that makes it worse. I just want her to realize that theres more things to do than shop & spend money. She has everything i've always wanted. I don't know how to explain this to her, nor i don't even know what to say to her. Any advice on what i should say? Or what i should do?
Thanks Much.
Sincerley, Unhappy. (link)
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Just sit her down and tell her how you are feeling and just suggest going somewhere else instead of shopping. Tell her that you find it hard to take when she brags about money and just simply ask her to lay off of it. Just be as honest as you possibly can be. If she is really your TRUE friend then she should totally understand and agree with you and if not.. then if you are willing to fight for yall's friendship try your hardest to deal with it or if you cant stand it any longer then try to let her go. I really hope that i am making since... hope i helped you
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Well okay see I have this friend, and like she finds something that's wrong to start a fight with me..i mean i like her as a friend but sometimes she gets me really mad, and i just can't take it anymore, we've been thru thousands of fights.. and she talks about me.But i dont care when ppl talk about me..but she sooo muchh..and some of the stuff she finds out i say isnt true, but she'll never believe me..she always brags about herself..and she called me last night and said someone said you said something about me and i was like who? but i dont talk about her...so i know its not true and she told me his name and i said i didnt say anything and she didnt believe me..idk what to do, sorry its long..help ? (link)
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Get a new friend. Drop her and find someone better. She is always just trying to raise problems and make yall's relationship worse and bring attention upon herself. If you like revenge then start soemthing else up yourself, if not get new friends. Good Luck with that. :)
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im sitting her bawling. heres the story, ok well my friend (matt) was talking to my friend (susie) and they were both talking to me too, ok well susie ims me and shes like matt just said im pretty lol. then i say to matt you think susies pretty and it was all like a joke and everything but susie got mad b.c i told him and all this stuff, so i apoligize 43 times (literally) and she dosnet even talk to me i know it might seem like it is my fault but u have to kno my friend, she stabs me in the back alot and this one little thing didnt even matter i think she just wanted to get mad or something so im like begging for her 4giveness and ive never even like been mad at her or showed me being mad b.c i value my "friends" and i dont like confrontantions...well eventually she forgave me but acted like it was a privilagge or something but now i just feel so small and used like i should have stood up for myslelf, i dont really have a ? i guess i just need some guidance or soemthing
thank you (link)
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you seem to be a really good friend if you begged for forgiveness over something she shouldn't have taken so seriously. And dont be so hard on yourself about something so meaningless. I can't imagine how much she would wig out on a bigger issue so i think you drop her she seems undeserving.
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