I really like one of my guy friends. A LOT LOT LOT LOT. Today, I was talking with him on the phone and I told him I liked him and it turns out he likes me to. Well, then he asked me like on a scale of 1-10 how much so I told him and he said he only liked me like a 7. Then he said he liked my bestfriend also, but only like a 3 since they just met a few days ago. I was a little sad to hear this but I shrugged it off because he said he liked me more. I was all happy and then he had to go eat dinner so I called my best friend to tell her the exciting news. She was like "oh that's great i'm so happy for you too! I'm glad you're finally moving on from so and so!".((I had a recent nasty breakup that left me crushed for a while)). Anyway, then this guy calls me back and so I join us all so it's on multiparty. They kept talking. Then he told her he liked her. She's the type of girl that falls in love with any guy that says something nice about her or likes her. So they started flirting while I sat there, not even having to talk. They both just forgot I was there. Later, I went onto Myspace and they were on. I message my guy friend and he read it but didn't reply. So then my friend messaged me and asked me to switch something around on her profile, since we have each other's password and stuff. She told me not to go into her inbox. Naturally, I did, and I regret that very much. She had been talking to my crush after they both hung up and he told her that he lied and he actually liked her much more then what he told me. I kept reading these messages and apparently she has a secret bf she doesn't tell me about. Then he asks her if he asked her out what would she say and she says "yes". I am really crushed and balling my eyes out right now. She only met him a few days ago and i've known him since forever. He was like "what's wrong" and I can't tell either of them because I snooped and I shouldn't have been in the first place! I feel like an idiot for believing either of them, and I really don't trust them right now. I know i'm probably just being dramatic, but I don't know how to deal. Please help, what should I do?
goodness, i've been in this situation before! i am so sorry for you.
i think the best thing to do is to tell her you read her messages, and if you want you can tell him you did too.
this is not ALL your fault, whats done is done, you can't erase the fact that you looked and now that you know they both lied to you.
let her know how you feel, and don't let her throw it back on you because you snooped. she did worse. make sure she knows how much you liked him and that its horrible she lied to you, and was planning on going out with him after she knew how much you liked him.
and then talk to him. tell him you really like him, and he should of just been honest with you from the beginning about his feelings for your friend and that it was wrong for him to lead you on like that.
if you need anything else, i'm here. (:
good luck :D
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My best friend has been going through a lot of trouble involving her family. the problem is even though i know she is going through lot she keeps saying she will talk to me about it but doesn't. we are really close and i don't know how to help her. recenlty she has started flaking out on classes. how can i help her out?
give her some time and let her come to you when she feels its best.
but if you sense something is VERY wrong, you confront her about it. let her know you care and that you just want to help.
if the time thing doesn't work, write her a note explaining to her that you love her and you're always going to be there to help her and that you just want her to open up so that you can. let her know you are worried about her flaking out on classes and that you know shes better than that. just make sure she knows that you truly care and that you arnt trying to be pushy or anything.
good luck :D
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ive had my best friend since kindergarden and weve always been really close but now that were in high school its kinda change and i know that friend change but some of the things that have happened are kinda ridiculous!
1.one of her ex's was cheating on her and i told her and at first she believed me and then she started believeing him and the other girl and turned it into that i was jealous and was just tryin to break them up and she told everyone this and that i was such a bad friend and then when she finally found out that i was really telling her the truth they broke up but she still told everyone that it was all my fault.
2.like two years ago she dated this guy on adn off for about 3 months and last summer he said he liked me but i didnt know if it would make her mad so i just never said anything to him until SHE told me that i should date him and stuff and he turned out to be really cool and stuff and he was my first love. we dated for like 7 months and then we broke up and a week later she started dating him and got mad at me when i told her that it bothered me.
3. we were at a sports thing and infront of everyone she and my ex were making out and just all over each other infront of everyone and my new bf and i were just talking about stuff and her mom heard that people were all over each other she asked my friend about it and she told her mom that me and my bf were the ones doin it and that it was really embarrassing for her bc she would never do that infront of people.
4.we went bowling and she was talking to these random guys that she didnt know and stuff and wanted to stay later then we had planned and told her mom and when we got home late she told her mom it was my fault because i was talking to a bunch of guys
everytime we do something she always has to turn me into the bad guy and make it seem like im a slut and i do all this bad sutff and i dont like people thinking im like that and stuff bc im really not. i dont know what to say to her and how to make her realize that shes doing this bc it just really makes me uncomfortbale.
also my ex would always so these things to me and play certain songs and stuff and most of the time she was there and i always told her what he said and stuff and now everything that he used to tell me and the way he used to look at me and just certain things we did has now all converted over to things he does to her and says and she always tells me these things and stuff and when im with them(already really uncomfortable) he says these things to her and looks at me with that evil grin. i dont know what to do!
oh my goodness. she is a sucky friend. i'm sorry but it pissed me off to read that! i use to have a friend that did all that, and we are no longer friends. i realized, we once had a lot of fun moments, but you can't save people unless they want to be saved. and apparently she doesn't, she just wants you to take the fall for everything. don't do it anymore, tell her she is a horrible friend and just uses you to bail her out of her troubles and that you are not going to do it anymore because you don't deserve it. and truly you do not deserve it, don't let stupid people and their stupid drama ruin how you feel about your life. sorry if this was rude =/
good luck :D
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my best friend is liking this one guy; lets call himm steve. And lets call her Macy.
tell her flat out that you don't like how she has changed. tell her that you hate how she keeps lying to you and ditching you for some guy. and if you have to, tell her that you don't think the friendship is going to last if she keeps putting it in the backseat for some guy. tell her you understand she likes him alot, but that it is completely unfair to keep ignoring you like that. just tell her how you feel. (:
good luck :D
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so my problem is that i can't make friends is it becuase i wear a scarf or something? I don't know what's the problem but i just can't make friends.
Help please!
the person below was kinda harsh =/ people are going to judge you no matter what. if you want to wear a scarf, you should. if you want to dress like everyone else, go ahead. its your life. if people are going to judge you just because you wear a scarf, then those are not people you should be hanging out with anyways. try to be more out going if you arnt. join a club or a sport. be social. people are drawn to people with the same desires or likes as them, so be open.
good luck :D
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Ok, I have this best friend, I'll call her Sierra. Now, Sierra is great and everything, but she's a little... well, to be honost, she's a complete poser. But instead of posing as a certain stereotype [skater, prep, emo, etc.] She copies me! She ALWAYS does what I do! Don't get me wrong, I am flattered, but it's annoying, especially when people actally believe her about things she says she does. Like art, for example. I've had a huge passion for drawing since Pre-K. My dad's side of the family were artists, so I kind of grew up around the environment. I have a sketchbook that I take to school, to doodle when I get bored in class. Ok, a few weeks ago, I had my sketchbook out in study hall and was doodling, when she comes up and asks me what i'm doing. I answered and then she goes off about how she "loves to draw too!" and "what a coincidance!". I have never, I mean NEVER, heard or saw any of this sudden artistic surge before, from her. She went on and on about how she was a "deep thinker artisticly inclined" [her exact words] person, and said she would bring her sketchbook so we could "study each other's artistic skills". Well, she goes out that night and buys her self one of those little kid's diaries, with lined, pink pages, and about the size of a regular chapter book. It was brand new, and I knew this for a fact, because it had a price tag on it.
That's just one example. Another;
My dad and I absolutely LOVE the Beatles. My dad has almost all of their cd's and some records and I've got most downloaded on my ipod. I've loved them for a while, and all my friends knew it, but until Sierra came along, no one really cared. She came along and decided she suddenly "loved the beatles" also. She only knows one song by them, but she acts like she knows all about them.
There are many other circumstances too. It has gotten to the point where she has even begun to dress like me! She wears the same shirt I do every day in gym. Don't get me wrong, it's flattering, but it's gotten to the point where it's a little infuriting. However, we happen to be best friends. I don't know how that worked out though, but we are best friends, since I DO like her as a person. It's just annoying as hell for someone to copy every move you make or thing you say. How do I let her know how much it annoys me, without actually saying it to her face? She's a tad Bipolar and gets set off very easily. I just don't want to ruin our friendship. Thanks.
well the way i see it you have three options..
1. ignore the fact that shes doing this.
2. stop being friends with her.
or 3. confront her about the situation and explain your feelings about it.
all three are hard and i think only number 3 is the best.
you don't have to say anything to her about it, but if you do you could say something along the lines of "lately i've noticed you've become a lot alike me, don't get me wrong you're my best friend, but i think it'd be better if we were more individual ya know? had as many differences as similarities. i like who you truly are not who you try to be. i'm not being harsh, i just want you to start being more yourself."
good luck :D
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I don't want this to be long or panic-y, but I need some advice. My friend and I are 13. There is a 17-year old across the street who is 17 and a juvi. My parents think he is 18, but really isn't. We played basketball with let's call him C, and we got his number. We hung out with him and we lied about out ages and we said we were 15 and 16. We lied about where we go to school and everything, and now we're hanging out with him. I've been lying to my parents about where we going and everything, but here is the main problem. I'm going into 8th grade this fall, and getting on the bus (right in front of my house!) in the morning is no big, but when the bus drops us off, it's 3:50pm. Big problem, because C smokes, and has to go outside and smokes. What if he sees us? I really hate to lie to everyone around me, and the lies keep getting bigger. Should I be honest with C? My friend and I have been flirting big time with him, and that will ruin out friendship. And, the other problem, even though C is moving is September, I'll have started school, and his brothers go to my new school! What should I do as an overall result? Thanks so much!
You should tell him the truth...that may seem really hard but if you think about it he will find out sooner or later and it would be better if you told him and he didnt see you get caught in the lie.
i hope this helps
KiSSES DREWSiE
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