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I have been through a lot, a lot more than you'd think. I will answer any question you give me. You can take my advice, or just leave it alone, but DO NOT tell me it's bad advice. kay?

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So lets say Bob is in my chemistry class. me and bob sit next to each other, he is a year younger than i am. he has gone to school with me for a while, but we never really talked. So bob will like kick me, hit me with his id string, hit me when im trying to take notes, he will try and knock my stuff (books and papers) off my desk onto the floor, he always takes my papers but gives them back after, and he was going on about how many things he has (like a boat and a car), and sometimes hes not that annoying. Today he kept stabbing me with a pen, and he asked me for my number and was like yeah we can text each other all the time. and he wrote his name on my notebook. like the front. so would you say that bob likes me? or is just friendly/annoying?
thnx in advance.

I would say there is a great possibilty that he does like you. But by the sounds of it, he's really immature.

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i tried out for cheerleading and i actually made it (yaay!). none of my good friends tried out, which means that most of the other cheerleaders are girls i didnt really know before. some of them are really nice, and now that ive met them, ive made some new friends. but this puts me in an awkward situation. every weekend i have to choose between hanging out with my new friends or my old friends. i try to balance it out, but whatever i do, im screwed. if i turn down an invitation from a new friend, she might think i don't like her and not invite me again. but if i dont hang out with my old friends, they think im ditching them for the "popular" people. im really not like that... i dont care about being popular, i just actually like some of the cheerleaders, and besides, i have to cheer with them all year, so i might as well get to know them. but i really dont want to lose my old friends, because, well, they're my friends! im afraid that if i dont handle this right, im gonna go from having too many friends to having none at all!

I had this same problem. If you already have plans with your new or old friends, and the opposite ask to hang out, just simply say you already have plans. The team will definitly understand because you are already spending so much time with them at practice and everything. Maybe even have the two groups of friends meet, have a get together at your house or something. Who knows what might happen. Hope i helped! =]

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So, my friend confessed she has been making herself throw up because she cares a lot about what other people think and it makes her feel better. I know a lot about it, I told her it's damaging. she says she's gonna try to stop, but I doubt she will. I just don't really know what to do. I know I can't really tell anyone- her parents would not understand, neither would mind. and I can't really tell any adult, cause I know she wont seek help or anything. What can I do for her personally?

well i have this similar problem, my boyfriend just confessed to bulimia also. Just completement her a lot, and show her that she doesn't need to throw up to be beautiful. Tell her the vomiting isn't attractive. Just show her that you will love her no matter what, and her doing that to herself just hurts you to know that she is hurting herself. Basically, she just needs comforting. And maybe you guys can start doing things together to lose weight, the healthy way. Just be there for her, and help her through it.

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and they got mad at me because i was joking around wih them lets just say they're name is "bobby",. so anyways i called bobby happy hunky heartbreaker and he hit me on the face and is mad at me what should i do?

well, that is probably one of the dumbest things you can do. Because that name is disgusting. They were probably offended by what you said, mainly because it was so awkward. They probably weren't in the mood to deal with it either because they were in a really good mood with their boyfriend, and then you saying that probably just made them feel really gross and not in a good mood. They aren't mad at you, they just think you have a crush on them, not in a friend way, and it makes them feel weird when you call them "Names".

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ha, this may sound weird, but the guy i like is completly untouchable? he, i dont know if thats the word, but like hes not perverted or whatever like the rest of the guys at my school. He's so adorable and innocent lol its really cute, but like no one can seem to "turn him on" haha. hes definetly NOT gay if your thinking that!. Hes just different? is there anyway to like turn him on. hm, i dont know if there is, but i thought id ask anyway.

some guys are like that, they're just not interested in things like that. My move would be to, get to know him better and hint here and there. The line i always use is asking him if he masterbates. You never really know if he is until you ask. He may just not be open about it like all the other assholes out there. So basically talk to him about it, and flirt a lot and see if he does it back. Always have physcial contact. Ask him about past relationships and girls and stuff he has done also. Any questions just reply. Hope i helped!

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i am like a total break-down right now. my friends and i have this "group" that we hang out in, there's 7 of us. one of them thinks she is so popular and funny, when she is really just plain ANNOYING! i'm not jealous or anything like that. when she makes a comment, and then laughs, then everyone laughs. it's like she's the center of attention. my friends like ignore me now, and it's not fair, what should i do? i've already tried talking to them, and that made it worse. my best friend is in that group of friends, and she loves her as well! should i hang out in another group?

Not really a whole other group but maybe like invite someone else to hang out with you guys sometimes, or try to chill with others in the group and just steer clear of her so she doesn't get in your way. But don't be mean to her or anything, also try to get more outspoken in the group too, you might beable to take her spotlite once in a while and she'll find that she can't always be the center of attention.

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I have this one friend, we'll call her Shell, who is really clingy. It usually doesn't bother me that my friends wanna hang out and stuff, but Shell wants to talk to me all the time! I mean, I have friends that don't go to my school, and she does. Well, she wants to talk to me all the time, and when I tell her I need to talk to my other friends, she gets mad and starts saying I don't want to talk to her because she just talks about her problems. That is kind of true, but it isn't that. It's that she is really clingy, and a lot of the stuff she says happens or is happening sounds way to far fetched to be true. She sounds genuine when she talks about it, but it sound a little to out there. Anyway, my question is how do I get her not to be so cling all the time?

ask her more about the far fetched stuff and see if she can elaborate (sp?) more and if she can't just keep drilling her on it until she gets sick of it and she'll stop streching the truth like that. And you should start hanging out in groups with her in them and try to get her to have new friends and such. hope i helped!

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say you like this boy and you tell all your best friends and then your friend tells you she likes the boys cousin and she wants to go out with him.the boy your friend likes gets a girlfriend(its not your friend) so she gets mad and says i dont like him anymore. then on the phone your friend says she likes the boy you like and he likes her(even thou she told you she would never go with him he is like a brother 2 her months before that)wouldnt you be mad?? i am. what would you do?

This has happened so many times to me before just not with the boys cousin, but anyways, just like make sure your friends knows you still like him and would like upset if she went out with him. and tell him you like him, maybe the only reason he doesnt like you or isnt trying to get with you is because he thinks you dont like him? you never know. HOPE I HELPED!

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Hey, my friend "L" is going out with "J". My other friend "K" liked J. I told J all these nice things about K. K got mad at me because he got pissed off at her and she blames it all on me. Now L, K, and J are all mad at me. I was only trying to do good. L isnt really my friend. K is really popular too. I am too, but not as popular as her. So all of K's friends who were my friends all started to hate me. This is so imbaressing because everyone thinks im obsessed with K. Im not though! I don't know what to do because everyone is telling me to stop and I did! Please help =[

Just keep telling everyone all you were trying to do is hook up your friend with the guy she likes, and if these people are really your friends. They wouldnt hate you cause of that. They are just trying to follow the more popluar girl to get on her goodside blah blah blah! They are just trying to be cool since thats what she is doing, so for now just apoligize to L J and K. If they dont forgive you then thats their problom they don't deserve you anyways!

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My best friend's boyfriend really gets on my nerves. He calls me names and he is really immature. Last time when my best friend and I hung out all she did was talked to him on the phone but she later on apologized for it. When we are on the phone together all she does is talk about him. Its really annoying me to the point where I can't take it. What do I do to handle this problem? I know I must talk to her but what should I say?

Say:
look sweetie i love you and everything but your boyfriend is an asshole. I don't wanna hang out with you while your with him. or talking to him.

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my friends and i can never think of things to do on the weekends. seeing movies is alright, but once youve seen the one or two good ones its pointless to go again, and the same goes for shopping i mean you can only go so many times and not see the same things and run out of money. what are some things that a bunch of 14 and 15 year old girls can do?

Me and my friends have the same problem we are always bored!
you dont have to go somewhere and spend money you can just run around and act like total dorks and have funn. also you can just sit aroudn and talk ((no music and no Tv)) or just play a board game! those are always funn
Hope this helps!

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